DjBigMoni:
So her mum now came around for Omugwo also and i have not been giving her face even despite she has apologised with my wife also and even her Dad. but I'm still finding it difficult to forgive her don't know why.

viyon02:
So her mum can come for omugo abi? If you don't want thunder fire you, don't allow her mum too to come for omugo period.

slimjohn2k5:
The best person to come for omugwo is from wife's family unless they are not available.

Moreover, do not take it against her as the person above me have told you she may be suffering from
postpartum depression.

Despite that please let her own people come first

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

slimjohn2k5:
The best person to come for omugwo is from wife's family unless they are not available.

Moreover, do not take it against her as the person above me have told you she may be suffering from
postpartum depression.

Despite that please let her own people come first

Vickyvice:
my brother forget this omugwo yeye philosophy wey poor people invent. My sisters are married and given birth, but my mum no go. She just arrange baby accessories,,, clothes, toys, and their soaps, powder, foods and fill their kitchen with assorted foods, by waybill them abroad,. What's omugwo? Na low mentality slang. Like say we be low grade family, na so my mum go dey urge to go abroad for omugwo.

Vickyvice:
my brother forget this omugwo yeye philosophy wey poor people invent. My sisters are married and given birth, but my mum no go. She just arrange baby accessories,,, clothes, toys, and their soaps, powder, foods and fill their kitchen with assorted foods, by waybill them abroad,. What's omugwo? Na low mentality slang. Like say we be low grade family, na so my mum go dey urge to go abroad for omugwo.

DjBigMoni:

Kobojunkie:
I don't understand understand the tradition at all but I do realize that some women need help of other women especially after her first birth or maybe in situation where depression or some other illness keeps her from being able to properly care for herself and her husband is unable to take time off to care for her..

Mariangeles:
To help her with herself and the baby, until she's strong enough to handle things herself.

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

Kobojunkie:
I don't understand understand the tradition at all but I do realize that some women need help of other women especially after her first birth or maybe in situation where depression or some other illness keeps her from being able to properly care for herself and her husband is unable to take time off to care for her..

DoggoneDogg:


Too many words for toxic character.

Vickyvice:
any woman can be of help, within the immediate environment. We in our family don't understand this omugwo nonsense. See the irony... Our family fill up the house of our brother when their wife birth baby and our sisters when they do same, with all supplies, both for baby and their kitchen supplies, when they give birth while our inlaw families visit for The enjoyment we ourselves provided without visiting, at their home.

Mariangeles:


No dey talk wetin you no know. If you no understand, ask!

Wetin you think say omugwo be for? Vacation?
You think say na about food, and toys, and echetara'm na echetara'm?

Omugwo for Igbo land na to help woman wey just born pikin.
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To help her with herself and the baby, until she's strong enough to handle things herself.

Mariangeles:
See? Kobo understands.

Kobojunkie:
I ofcourse understand only I don't believe it should be a tradition per say but on a case by case basis, this to allow husbands bond properly with their new child and wife after the birth. Most African men are 'spared' the reality of what it means to have a child, which i believe to be very wrong.

Mariangeles:


Behave or you go to Romance section!

Kobojunkie:
The idea is about providing help to an ailing woman, not supplies though. If she can barely get out of bed or bath herself, and her husband is not available to help, what then?

Mariangeles:
Have you considered the fact that your wife might be going or might've gone through postpartum depression, which might've led to that behaviour?

Were she and your mum having problems before your wife got pregnant and had a baby?

Vickyvice:
it's not necessary for her mum to do it. Any woman can. This is what am saying. Women now use this opportunity to boss over their son in-law and their daughter support this too. Like I said, our sisters gave birth, we arrange who would do the omugwo over there abroad. Cos we know how mother in law have abused this omugwo thing, while we make all the food and baby supplies. That's what am saying

EkehPraise:
Except there's any other reason you are not telling us, then I suggest you let your wife's mother go so that you and your wife and the new baby can have some time alone as a family. Before this whole thing I believe you must have been living peacefully with your wife therefore whatever happened between her and your mother shouldn't be a yardstick to coming online to for people to paint her as trash.

DjBigMoni:
No other reason, she even had to threaten my life again after my mum incident, wanted to pure me hot water in the presence of her mum all because I said I'll still deal with her after all the pleading. she still begged for forgiveness that night

Justkatty:
That wasn't nice of her her, irrespective of what could have happened, she wouldn't have resulted in carrying knife or having a physical fight with her mother inlaw.....She for get mind carry knife for her own mama?
Anyways since she has apologise, please forgive her but a Stern warning should be given.

God abeg give me mother inlaw wey go take me as her daughter and I promise to cherish her.
The way my mama born me naso she too born the person I call my crown.
Desist from violence it doesn't pay.