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Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 6:29pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:You don't believe a case like this can be caused by a demon? You also don't believe prayer can deliver the man? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 6:41pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Fiscus105:OP, you dey see this here? 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 6:41pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:I asked you a question. Can a drug cure demon possession? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 6:43pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:How will a drug cure a demon possessed person nah. I am not in the mood to argue. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 6:56pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:You claimed this man is demon possessed because he struggles with an addiction. There is a drug that is said to cure addictions. So I am asking again, how can a drug be a cure to a demon possession? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 7:07pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Well, I am not saying there might not be drugs that cure addiction. Demons can subject one too to a pattern. Drugs doesn't cure that. Whether it is demon induced or not, prayers can cure anyone of them. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 7:13pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:Addicts are known to possess patterns of behaviors that enable their addictions. So if taking a drug can correct this addiction to this pattern, does it then mean that a drug can cure a demon possession? Understand that Jesus Christ didn't go around labeling everything of demon possession. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 7:15pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Can demon bring about a wrong pattern in someone? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Rach310(f): 7:25pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
I believe the reason he bets is because he needs extra income to support the family if only you guys could devise an extra means of getting more money,I think it would help him |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 7:26pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:Sure they can but does that then mean we should conclude that all wrong patterns are born of demons? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by frozen70(f): 7:30pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Hadeynike001: If you think he is really sober about it and he wants to come about of it a D he is qjito cooperate You can discuss with him I will how Teo of you will agree that his salary will be paid into your account Then any time he needs money, you will screen him before giving his or you place him on certain amount weekly If he agrees then you guys can use that method to withdraw him from such wasteful spending But I'd he refuses the idea them he is not yet ready to come out of it |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 7:38pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:No. Not all patterns, but prayers can correct every pattern with proper counseling. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 7:56pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:If not every wrong pattern of behavior is associated with demonic possessions, why then did you insist that this one is?, If prayer has to come with what you call proper counseling, of what use is the prayer then? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Fiscus105(m): 8:24pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie: Just talk to my friend, a clinical psychologist, who works in FMC to confirm my submission, he said , it's part of their job, in fact, he said he is rehabilitating two persons currently, though, he confess that it's a long psychotherapy process o. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 9:01pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:I think you enjoy trolling. Are you jobless? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 9:21pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:So you can't answer my questions so you resort to throwing stones at my person , this rather than admit it is wrong to label anything demon possession without solid evidence? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 9:24pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Fiscus105: Fiscus105:Hadeynike001, the above is information that could potentially help your husband if he decides to get professional mental health treatment. 1 Like |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Rexymania(m): 10:02pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Na change wey remain for my hand I dey takse bet... And na over 1.5 I dey always find |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by obinna58(m): 10:12pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
People don't want bet responsibly, they want make career out of betting What's your job man? 'Professional gambler. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 10:25pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:You win |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 10:29pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:Does saying "I win" mean you will no longer go around spreading false teachings about Addictions and all other behavioral issues being related to demon possession? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 10:30pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:May God have mercy on you. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 10:31pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:God does not need you to remind Him so do that which He previously promised.. So Does saying "I win" mean you will no longer go around spreading false teachings about Addictions and all other behavioral issues being related to demon possession? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by terrezo2002(m): 10:33pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:Get thee behind me. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 10:34pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
terrezo2002:So Does saying "I win" mean you will no longer go around spreading false teachings about Addictions and all other behavioral issues being related to demon possession? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by modestatus: 10:41pm On Sep 10, 2022 |
Hadeynike001: Well done madam. You're trying your little best for your husband, but I'm not sure this is the avenue to go about it. Not on nairaland sha. I couldn't read all the responses and I don't know if my point hasn't been already mentioned. I'm also sure you have noticed the responses on this platform make jest of a serious issue like your marriage. Therefore, here's my little two-pence from a doctor's table. There's something called gambling addiction. It will take a lot of help from YOU, his friends, and his extended family to get him out. That's the essential social support group, even as everyone gets him to see a doctor get him to see what he's destroying... Not just his home, but the life of his wife and children. Perchance, he will see reason, otherwise, he might be medicated... Of course, you know that is another problem on its own. An addict doesn't care what's destroyed, because he/she has no insight into what's happening, how it's affecting his social life, his work life, not to mention his matrimonial home. I suggest you get as much help as you can on this challenge before you. Family and friends who have had your back in the past will have their loyalty tested now. I suggest you get your pastor on board Get your side of the family involved too. No one can do this, running alone Lastly, you women know when, and how to talk to your husbands to get what you want. This is not the time to stop, but the time to keep at it. PS: as long as he's not physically assaulting you, or that you're suffering any form of abuse, this is the period when your affection will be tested. He has to come out of this by seeing the problems he's obsessed with gambling is costing him. Loss of respect, loss of dignity, shame, and we're it not for the fact that he has a wife with him now, he would have been an outcast. I'm sure there are support groups for this kind of thing but they're very few and far to reach. I'll look for a phone number you can contact. I hope you're encouraged even if for a little bit. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Nobody: 1:09am On Sep 11, 2022 |
Hadeynike001: Madam i understand your pains. It pains me married men still play virtual games you just mentioned now. And as for gambling addiction he is suffering from, only you can help him out as no matter what he does he can't help himself. Trust me when i say he can't help himself. What you need to do, tell him to give you his phone., Get a small none browsing phone for him as this will help limit his access to internet. And again don't allow him to be alone, as it's the major cause of it. When a man who can't control his mind is alone, you see him accessing all sort of none sense in his phone, betting sites, booking games, watching porn and many other irrelevant stuffs. Also engage him with interesting and mind blowing conversation about the plans of your kids you have for him already. And also plead with him never ever to enter any betting shop whether on his way to work or from work. Talk sense enter he head. The betting thing has shown many people shagay.. i just wish federal govt in collaboration with internet providers like MTN, glo, Etisalat and co can block all betting site in Nigeria, that's the only way many will be free. Then as for those that will use VPN, it therefore means their life is gone totally gone. You win today, lose your winnings tomorrow plus your money join and you will be running at loss. Trying to recover, you are losing more and more. Worse now is this period that champions league and Europa have started. Talk to him oh.. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Hadeynike001: 6:01am On Sep 11, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:He doesn't want to change,instead anytime he loses he will just transfer the anger on me by shouting at me in front of my kids or beat me. |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 6:11am On Sep 11, 2022 |
Hadeynike001: He abuses you and you sit back and allow him to continue? And I am guessing he looses lot too. Why not separate from him? Or are you trying to become another Osinachi statistic or something? |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Hadeynike001: 6:12am On Sep 11, 2022 |
modestatus:I have been abused several times.just last night he threatened to hurt me in front of my kids.pastor,his family,my family and friends have tried talking him out of it.I have talked to him several times but still no changes.after what happened last night the next thing is for me to quietly leave to avoid untimely death.I need a new life |
Re: Am Tired Of My Marriage,please Help by Kobojunkie: 6:21am On Sep 11, 2022 |
Hadeynike001:Why are you still living under the same roof with your abuser? Why not separate from him, go stay with your parents, until maybe a time when he decides to get the mental health help he needs? Why do you allow your children to see their father abuse their mother? Don't you see you are raising them to think it is OK for abuse a spouse? And do you consider the emotional slam witnessing all that violence has on their psyche? |
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