Good day family,please help me am tired of my marriage.my husband's life is being ruined by betting.He bet virtually every penny.
My husband started betting 5years ago.family,friends,pastor and myself had adviced him,he will look sober but at the end he will still go back to it.
He doesn't have a kobo in his account.He earn below 100k but I told him if we plan well with my own little salary we will achieve something good.we have 2kids.
He drop money for feeding whenever he like.He call different people begging for money to feed us after betting his salary away.I love my husband but I don't know how to help him.
I need your advice,please

Yo fish, betting is often like mastubation, as far as you live, you must be addited to smt. i was addited to my device and i spend a lot when it come to the terms of ladies. your husband ain't an addit, it self disorder once you are in it, it really hard to get out. let him try this logic 1day on 1day off, 1day on 2day off, 1day on 3days off. make it a daily circle and lastly you need to work on your attitude towards him.

Leave the kids with him pack your things and come to my house. We can plan our future together I earn more than 100k and I don't do any betting my servings is almost 1m and I live alone in a 2bedroom flat..

He is in the best position to help himself.

Hadeynike001:
He doesn't have a kobo in his account.He earn below 100k but I told him if we plan well with my own little salary we will achieve something good.we have 2kids.
He drop money for feeding whenever he like.He call different people begging for money to feed us after betting his salary away.I love my husband but I don't know how to help him.
I need your advice,please

Do you have work of your own? If not, please find some way of bringing in money to your marriage rather than continuing to depend 100% on your husband please.

If what your husband is struggling with is an addiction, I am afraid there isn't much you can do for him except maybe convince him to seek mental health therapy for treatment to what is mental illness. You can support him in his getting treatment with the love you have for him and maybe also make arrangements to see if he can drop feeding money before he bets the rest.

P.s. Do not bother engaging in the typical fasting and praying rituals on his behalf as those only add undue stress to your own life. Spend that energy instead on working to provide for your family.

Hadeynike001:
Good day family,please help me am tired of my marriage.my husband's life is being ruined by betting.He bet virtually every penny.
My husband started betting 5years ago.family,friends,pastor and myself had adviced him,he will look sober but at the end he will still go back to it.
He doesn't have a kobo in his account.He earn below 100k but I told him if we plan well with my own little salary we will achieve something good.we have 2kids.
He drop money for feeding whenever he like.He call different people begging for money to feed us after betting his salary away.I love my husband but I don't know how to help him.
I need your advice,please

Betting is an "addition", it takes grace of God to leave body.

Keep on praying for him sha.


Meanwhile, a reasonable husband will do every important things that house needed before commit his money to unnecessary

Feeding, school fees, house rent etc must come before, beer, girlfriends, betting etc.

That's how real men keep their marriages going......

Kobojunkie:
Do you have work of your own? If not, please find some way of bringing in money to your marriage rather than continuing to depend 100% on your husband please.

If what your husband is struggling with is an addiction, I am afraid there isn't much you can do for him except maybe convince him to seek mental health therapy for treatment to what is mental illness. You can support him in his getting treatment with the love you have for him and maybe also make arrangements to see if he can drop feeding money before he bets the rest.

P.s. Do not bother engaging in the typical fasting and praying rituals on his behalf as those only add undue stress to your own life. Spend that energy instead on working to provide for your family.

Thanks a lot,I will try this

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Fiscus105:



Betting is an "addition", it takes grace of God to leave body.

Keep on praying for him sha.


Meanwhile, a reasonable husband will do every important things that house needed before commit his money to unnecessary

Feeding, school fees, house rent etc must come before, beer, girlfriends, betting etc.

That's how real men keep their marriages going......

If it's the wife that has this kind of addiction, will you be asking him to keep on praying for his wife?

Unless that man hits rock bottom, he won't change.

If she can have an arrangement with the office so a percentage of his salary can be paid to her, it's an option. So at least, basic needs can be met in the house with the addition of her own earnings.


One time, one of my mum's tennant was owing her over a year's rent, she went to his office to report him, they put a direct debit on his salary account till my mum's money was complete.

Kobojunkie:
Do you have work of your own? If not, please find some way of bringing in money to your marriage rather than continuing to depend 100% on your husband please.

If what your husband is struggling with is an addiction, I am afraid there isn't much you can do for him except maybe convince him to seek mental health therapy for treatment to what is mental illness. You can support him in his getting treatment with the love you have for him and maybe also make arrangements to see if he can drop feeding money before he bets the rest.

P.s. Do not bother engaging in the typical fasting and praying rituals on his behalf as those only add undue stress to your own life. Spend that energy instead on working to provide for your family.

Thre isn't much she can do physical, going by ur words, yet u still adviced her not to engage in spiritual.

If prayers are not working for u, does that mean it's not working for others?

Married man who is still gambling.

What then is his long term goals?

Madam,your husband is irresponsible and there is little or nothin u can do to help him because as u said, it has been five years.

Wetin your pastor and family members no fit solve...na wetin u still dey think about.

My only advice for women whose husbands are chronic gamblers is to leave the man.

Let him not use his own to destroy the family. Gamblers are irresponsibly irredeemable as the more u try to advice them,the more closer they go into debt to gamble more.

If u don't leave him,u will only be doing yourself. After all the Bible reproaches a man who can't cater for his family.

Good luck to u.

Romanoff:


If it's the wife that has this kind of addiction, will you be asking him to keep on praying for his wife?

Unless that man hits rock bottom, he won't change.

If she can have an arrangement with the office so a percentage of his salary can be paid to her, it's an option. So at least,basic needs can be met on the house with the addition of her own earning.

So I will advise the man to cut his wife to pieces abi.


Ok o, let her start cursing her husband ooo


......that's why u ladies find it hard to have stable and lasting relationship...

Fiscus105:



So I will advise the man to cut his wife to pieces abi.


Ok o let her start cursing her husband ooo

It's easy to tell a woman to keep on praying for a yeye partner but when na the woman be yeye partner, na to drive her comot.

Fiscus105:
Thre isn't much she can do physical, as u said, yet u still adviced her not to engage in spiritual.

If prayers are not working for u, does that mean it's not working for others?

Engage what in spiritual?

This man is mentally ill and needs to develop mental discipline in order to overcome his own urges. He needs to get treatment. And the only one who can help him is himself.

Romanoff:


It's easy to tell a woman to keep on praying for a yeye partner but when na the woman be yeye partner, na to drive her comot.

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As we have toxic guys on the forum, same way we have opposite in female version.


Anyway people do advice base on ugly and toxic experiences of their upbringing.

Fiscus105:
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As we have toxic guys on the forum, same way we have opposite in female version.


Anyway people do advice base on ugly and toxic experiences of their upbringing.

Or their healthy and realistic experiences as well.

People just don't like truth. Na sugar coated lies them dey prefer.

there is not much you can do as this is a disease and sadly, you have allowed it to sneak and settle into your life for way TOO LONG. as you are tired of this marriage, i suggest you take all the necessary steps to get out of this marriage and be merry with your children, while this man sort out his life. this is a sikc man that doesnt want to receive help, and instead wants to take you down with him in his sickness!

This betting of a thing has become a menace to the Nigerian society o
There seems to be one story or the other every week, about the problems this betting has caused in families

Anything addiction is like a plague that keeps drawing its victims closer until there's nothing left of them
Only a few have managed to escape its claws

Romanoff:


If it's the wife that has this kind of addiction, will you be asking him to keep on praying for his wife?

Unless that man hits rock bottom, he won't change.

If she can have an arrangement with the office so a percentage of his salary can be paid to her, it's an option. So at least, basic needs can be met in the house with the addition of her own earnings.


One time, one of my mum's tennant was owing her over a year's rent, she went to his office to report him, they put a direct debit on his salary account till my mum's money was complete.

What kind of company does this? No court injunction, just someone coming to complain about a staff and ham, direct debit.

No reasonable company will remit the man's wage into his wife's account except he gives the order by updating his account information form.

GboyegaD:


What kind of company does this? No court injunction, just someone coming to complain about a staff and ham, direct debit.

No reasonable company will remit the man's wage into his wife's account except he gives the order by updating his account information form.

Well, I've seen it happen before. If the man still has any sense left, this is an option.

Persephone1:
This betting issue again?

Sigh

The new problem affecting marriages now adays.

Persephone1:
This betting issue again?

Sigh

I read exactly same here last year.

Hadeynike001:
Good day family,please help me am tired of my marriage.my husband's life is being ruined by betting.He bet virtually every penny.
My husband started betting 5years ago.family,friends,pastor and myself had adviced him,he will look sober but at the end he will still go back to it.
He doesn't have a kobo in his account.He earn below 100k but I told him if we plan well with my own little salary we will achieve something good.we have 2kids.
He drop money for feeding whenever he like.He call different people begging for money to feed us after betting his salary away.I love my husband but I don't know how to help him.
I need your advice,please

You can send his name to me. I am praying for men who have been caged by this demon of gambling. You can send his name to me via WhatsApp. I will be praying with him and he too can chat me up. 0901 663 3059

terrezo2002:

You can send his name to me. I am praying for men who have been caged by this demon of gambling. You can send his name to me via WhatsApp. I will be praying with him and he too can chat me up. 0901 663 3059

Demon? So you means drugs can cure demons possessions?

Ask since there is a drug that is known to cure addiction.

Romanoff:


Well, I've seen it happen before. If the man still has any sense left, this is an option.

He would be the one to make the move and not the wife.

Kobojunkie:
Demon? So you means drugs can cure demons possessions?

Ask since there is a drug that is known to cure addiction.

There is something they called, psychotherapy*.........not all additions that demon cause.


His problem/addition can easily be cured by psychotherapist, and for such therapy, he didn't need drugs.

Fiscus105:
There is something they called, psychotherapy*.........not all additions that demon cause.

His problem/addition can easily be cured by psychotherapist, and for such therapy, he didn't need drugs.

What addictions are verified as being caused by demons then?

Easily be cured by therapy? Then OK... suggest to his wife where he can get this wonderful therapy that can cure him.

GboyegaD:


He would be the one to make the move and not the wife.

Okay.

Kobojunkie:
What addictions are verified as being caused by demons then?

Easily be cured by therapy? Then OK... suggest to his wife where he can get this wonderful therapy that can cure him.

Let her go to government hospital near her, prefarebly federal hospital, she should ask for clinical psychologists thr

They will put her Tru.

The day your husband will bet and win millions ehn...
Anyway, get something doing so you don’t always depend on him. Leaving him because of betting might not be a good idea.
It is well with you