scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

Meaning if your condition changed for worse she will take off.

Use your brain bro before its late,I said what I said

MartinsD12:

Probably because you don't have a stable work yet , trading on crypto or forex is actually no work but more like a gamble try and luck so try and get something meaningful to do , I didn't say you should stop crypto or forex trading just have a physical work or business

When you follow who know road ull understand better that crypto or forex works like ur daily white collar jobs and it pays massively. I know traders that pay themselves every month through crypto trading. One problem we have in Nigeria is everyone wanna rush into crypto without having the knowledge. We need quick cash so with such mindset u forget the knowledge must come first before u can succeed in it.

Is this best you can say??

Yamiriflathead:
She's a good woman, Hussle hard and build a duplex so she can Marry you

scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

If you want to live long, have piece of mind and satisfaction, move on without delay.

Sound like someone I know living in uyo

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

This is a bad advice, and it's only a jobless lady that would agree to this.

This is actually the reason, why most women are still single, relationship shouldn't be about the financial
Capacity of what the guy could offer a lady he is willing to marry, marriage is about love, it's a union. Haba, why do most of you women think this way, this is a horrible orientation.

Most of these millionaires you see today do you think they were born millionaires, they started from somewhere, if a lady can't be you as a guy, in your hunble beginning, then she shouldn't be with you, when you are made.

Bros, if you're worth over 30m then you should love to a mini flat. I didn't say you should move because of her but on a norm you should live in a mini flat.

scholarshipbaze:



Lol, m worth over 30m in cash and assets, still skeptical about staying in the country or leaving thats why am still in a selfcon... She doesn't know

But i wana marry befor either leaving or settling, and am wondering if you can't now, where is the love??

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

but when the man gets his money, y'all don't want him to do his calculations abi? Just dey play.

Ordinarily I don't comment, but cos I know how critical marital choice is to a successful life.
I believe d right partner is one who in spite of all odds is willing to start wt you cos she loves and believe in ur future. This kind lady will look for options if network connection fail. Why force yourself to connect?
Just my view not an advice!

Blessedpalms:
for a woman to intend getting married she is supposed to have a job. If she has a job, she will be willing to support you the man
when the two of you combine funds, to get a 2 bed room flat will not be hard...

Most sensible comment bro I'm 24 I have been looking for a serious relationship for a while because I don't just like to dey Bleep around he no dey make person quick grow for life and I'm doing well for myself but I can never date a girl that doesn't have legitimate work and earn money for herself

Brotherly,

Move on its simple and logical a girl that can't standby you when you are occupying a self con will eventually leave you even if you are occupying 4 bedroom duplex she's not moved by apartment you occupy but by money she think you should have, know this and know peace.

KilimanjaroKING:
1: please wetin be the diff' btw selfcon & 1 bedroom??
2: what's your GF financial status??

you can combine funds for a better apartment, if she's not okay wit ur present resident.
if she noh gree, abeg tell her to calm down, marriage is about commitment and support abeg...

self con is just one room with personal toilet, bathroom and toilet.
1 bedroom you have your parlour and one bedroom with personal toilet batbroom and toilet

My brother, do not walk the path of marriage with a partner who does not fancy the idea of growing with you.

scholarshipbaze:



Lol, m worth over 30m in cash and assets, still skeptical about staying in the country or leaving thats why am still in a selfcon... She doesn't know

But i wana marry befor either leaving or settling, and am wondering if you can't now, where is the love??

Sharrap... If u r really worth #30m with a good money inflow, you should be able to afford a 2bedroom flat. I am sure you are into fraud and yahoo yahoo. Most of these yahoo boys hide under cryptocurrency to deceive girls.
I don't blame that your girl, she has seen that u don't have a stable income or a future, so if I were her, I won't think of gambling my life with you.
Stop yahoo yahoo,
Yahoo no be work

She dey mad...Na gold digger

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

Simply say Nigerian girls/ Broke African girls.

scholarshipbaze:



Lol, m worth over 30m in cash and assets, still skeptical about staying in the country or leaving thats why am still in a selfcon... She doesn't know

But i wana marry befor either leaving or settling, and am wondering if you can't now, where is the love??

shut up! It’s not nollywood

scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

Forget all the self contain and 2bedroom bullshit. She isn't thinking of marriage yet hence she gave you a flimsy excuse.

Imagin she can knack a guy in selfcon, collect money from a guy in selfcon, eat the food of a guy in selfcon, sleep in his bed, go out and flex with him, but she wouldn't want to marry him

She is not ready , simple!. If you really wanna get married find a lady who is ready.

scholarshipbaze:



Lol, m worth over 30m in cash and assets, still skeptical about staying in the country or leaving thats why am still in a selfcon... She doesn't know

But i wana marry befor either leaving or settling, and am wondering if you can't now, where is the love??

With this your writeup here it shows that you are fake

MrSmithy:


When you follow who know road ull understand better that crypto or forex works like ur daily white collar jobs and it pays massively. I know traders that pay themselves every month through crypto trading. One problem we have in Nigeria is everyone wanna rush into crypto without having the knowledge. We need quick cash so with such mindset u forget the knowledge must come first before u can succeed in it.

Ok I agree but op did not tell us the work he does and crypto is very volatile you know

Your still asking right, continue

Men behaving like sissy and princess, you are asking us the question you should have asked her...!!

DrAkpamudehe:


Sharrap... If u r really worth #30m with a good money inflow, you should be able to afford a 2bedroom flat. I am sure you are into fraud and yahoo yahoo. Most of these yahoo boys hide under cryptocurrency to deceive girls.
I don't blame that your girl, she has seen that u don't have a stable income or a future, so if I were her, I won't think of gambling my life with you.
Stop yahoo yahoo,
Yahoo no be work

. That's how most of you die as a poor man. Educated illiterates who will never believe there's something called freelancing.

Get a job or start a reliable and sustainable business. You are just a professional gambler at the moment. Even the rich don’t rely on those thing you mentioned. They only bet on them for long or short term.

Adakintroy:
Women rejecting you as a man is function. Its part of our drive to strive hard. If women accept you the way you are you wil be average. We need women to reject us so we can strive hard to be accept.

Rubbish ideology.

Guy, I will keep running to meet up with the will of a woman beside you. . You may not last more than 5 years from now.

Pray for a woman that is yours and that will give you rest.

O.P, there is a saying that if you want to know how far you have gone in life , bring forward a lady close to you.....

Now back to your topic.....

Is not a crime to marry and to marry at the age you want to marry....
You have to find a lady that is ready to key in into your condition now .....if actually you want to get married NOW!!!!! , With that, two of you can grow in anything both of you sees until you begin to pick more fruits and change your class ....

But if not, pls add more efforts , not to satisfy the thoughts of your current girl friend but to be more financially secured before pursuing this race that comes with so many responsibilities ....

Only you can define how your marriage can start and you need to put your woman into that thought , if she can't stay, pls allow her go...

You will be surprised another lady will come into your self contain and be so happy with you, BUT will be advicing you on ways to prosper more...( That's the woman you need pls)

Remember .....there are guys that DNT have self contain to live in , but they are planning their marriage with their supposed spouse....lols

Life is what one makes it to be for him or her....

Hmmm, please let her go immediately she is managing you to get a better/richer man, stop spending on her for anything. If she asks you for anything just tell her you are saving to pay for a flat or ask her for financial assistance.

Please what is her worth, is she working or what is her people's worth.

Puss360:
Yes na... She's right... But she can collect gbola in the same self-contained...
Dunno why, I just believe that guys dat stays in self-contained, can knack well than those in mansion 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈

Oya bring your pant.. mo fe bo pata ee

She actually gave you a reason why you shouldn't marry her

In as much as you should have no business with that girl who sees no future with you because you live in a self con, you self should have no business with marriage for now until you have built up yourself to some extent.
Baba how can you be discussing marriage while still living in a self con and without any tangible means of livelihood. Wtf!! Is i trade crypto and forex. Do you have a side business?, other investments?, Have you started making plans to get a better apartment?,
These are the things you should consider before you can start thinking marriage with person daughter.
The girl for you will not outrightly deny marrying you because you live in a self con. Rather, she will make you understand why now is not the best time for you to be thinking marriage.
Most of the times, women tend not to see the bigger picture. They are often impressed by now.
Sometime in 2020, I met one girl and by then, I was sharing a self con apartment with two other friends since we just finished school 2019 and were all trying to start life. Somehow, we started dating, but this girl never took me so serious because she felt I was just a fresh graduate with not so much to offer, but she failed to see the bigger picture, the possiblity that we will all eventually grow.
Fast forward, 2021, we broke up and moved on. Fast forward again, 2023, I currently live in a three bedroom apartment, fully furnished, with one or two investments to my name. intentionally, I got chatting with that girl again and eventually invited her to come visiting just three weeks ago and guess what?, She hasn't still been able to get that ready made man she's been dreaming of since we broke up and indirectly, since it is now obvious that I am financially balanced to some extent, she is now giving me those let's get back together vibes and deep down, I say "fvck her".

Never look down on anybody today.

Yamiriflathead:
She's a good woman, Hussle hard and build a duplex so she can Marry you

terrible advice....

folake4u:


One room apartment sef is still manageable. Certainly not a self con.

No reasonable man (who loves and care for his blood) would allow his own sister to go into trenches.

If he really wants to marry her, just like you said, he should upgrade himself.

What is the difference between one room apartment and sefcon or are you making a mistake?