Smart woman. She realizes that “trading” forex and bitcoin is gambling and not a career path or business.

A person with real marketable skills will not waste time doing such.

It means she feels shes not in your class so dump her and find some one in your class and build with that person

If only she understood that good forex traders are hotcakes.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

if you have ever traded crypto or forex you will know that this young man is in money he doesn't want to live large, he actually earns more than 500 time your basic
Salary as a worker. My guy comot mind for that girl matter if matter rugged tomorrow she go waka

scholarshipbaze:
I work and trade crypto and forex, my girlfriend knows how much i earn, but because i have plans, i guy still live in a modern selfcon in an estate.

So tonight i asked my girlfriend whom i wish to marry, if she would be willing to marry me as i stay in this selfcon, even if i don't have money to rent 1bed room.

She said she can't, please what does this mean? Possibly not my class? Possibly might leave when things go bad?

Try and get investments or businesses with steady and predictable cash flow.


Income from crypto and forex trading are not steady and predictable.



If you must stick to crypto and forex trading, make sure you have enough emergency reserves that can take care of your expenses ie rent, feeding, transportation, utility and health care for a minimum of 2 years

Killermamba:
if you have ever traded crypto or forex you will know that this young man is in money he doesn't want to live large, he actually earns more than 500 time your basic
Salary as a worker. My guy comot mind for that girl matter if matter rugged tomorrow she go waka

He should then diversify the so called huge income he made from the speculative venture into something that generates a steady and predictable cash flow

ModCaller:
Tell her that any girl who can't marry you as you are now is not worth your time

I certainly will not advise my sister to marry a man still staying in a self con. It makes zero sense. At worst it should be one bedroom. You people should realise marriage is serious business.

scholarshipbaze:



Lol, m worth over 30m in cash and assets, still skeptical about staying in the country or leaving thats why am still in a selfcon... She doesn't know

But i wana marry befor either leaving or settling, and am wondering if you can't now, where is the love??

Guy, your girlfriend gave an honest answer. I'd personally not recommend my sister to marry a man staying in a self con. One bedroom minimum for a start. It's not even remotely elitist or gold digging. It's just basic for a couple. A lady can agree to your self con & still not be right. But she expects minimums from you you can also ensure she's employed or doing a business. Also have some standards.

Puss360:
Yes na... She's right... But she can collect gbola in the same self-contained...
Dunno why, I just believe that guys dat stays in self-contained, can knack well than those in mansion 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈

i feel like i know you in person.

scholarshipbaze:



Lol, m worth over 30m in cash and assets, still skeptical about staying in the country or leaving thats why am still in a selfcon... She doesn't know

But i wana marry befor either leaving or settling, and am wondering if you can't now, where is the love??

With a networth of N30 million, which I believe 75% are in income generating assets you should be able to comfortably afford and accommodation of N1 million per annum.


Your income generating assets should be able give you an annual passive N2.5 million per annum. At least these are steady and predictable cash flow.


Then the proceeds from your crypto and forex can be used for other expenses and also ploughed back in order to multiply your steady and predictable cash flow

TrueNigerian300:
Get a job or start a reliable and sustainable business. You are just a professional gambler at the moment. Even the rich don’t rely on those thing you mentioned. They only bet on them for long or short term.

Even If he wants to be a professional gambler, he should have an emergency reserve that is equivalent to a minimum of his living expenses for 2 years.

Since he is planning to get married he should include his future wife and children in the calculation of the 2 years living expenses

Sharonstone7719:
Marriage sounds very important to you. She sounds like she wants financial security to feel safe enough to get married. Love is not always enough.

She doesn't think you're ready to take care of her and a family .She has no confidence that if she finds herself pregnant with you that you can take care of her, a house and children.
If you love her, you need to meet these goals. I think they're reasonable goals of hers and should be your goals, too.

Women dey enjoy sha....who then takes care of the man?!

Everything is about taking care of the woman....

Go for a girl that is in sync with your life frequency.

Girls recently have to cash out from high expectations from guys, as if their mums also took those paths in respect to their fathers.

A realist opinion.


Move on guy.
Do not look back.

Afodot0022:
All this unserious ladies out there sha, what's bad in settling down in a sef contain for a start, he wants the guy to spend all this earnings on rent and if you find out now, that babe might be broke and don't have any financial strength to support the dude to get a better apartment or even in marriage.. guy marriage is all about responsibility and love is not enough, if that sefcon is what you can afford, pls dont strain yourself cos when the gbege happen, that woman no go look your side. she is not ready OP cos if she is, she wont mind marrying you in a kiosk let alone a sef contain. we have married family that live in a one room apartment and even have kids there and they are living happily which is the most important thing, You can live in mansion as a woman and never have peace of mind.

Go and find out the same lady has Zero financial Contribution to the guy in question.

blacksam01:
allot of ppl in relationship doeant know that theiir paat ers wont marry them
..

omoh e schock me wen my 3yr old relationship gf refuse to take the next step of marriage with me...reason is cuz i dont do white collar job...omo! i schock

all the love, togetherness, sacrifices for each other , understanding focus and plans together doesnt matter to her...just the class of job is the most important thing to her...

painfully, but reluctantly, i faded aay from her life and we all went our ways...

guyz once a while..ask ur gf of sh can go the lenght with u...its important......

I wish some guys understand the importance of this your message and the question you said they should ask once in a while.
It will save you from Impending problem and equally open your eyes.
Who no go, no go know.

Basicend:


Rubbish ideology.

Guy, I will keep running to meet up with the will of a woman beside you. . You may not last more than 5 years from now.

Pray for a woman that is yours and that will give you rest.

Its not ideology. Its a fact of life. Women naturally reject weak men at first later accepting same when they are strong. They not rejecting you perse they are rejecting " a nature" . ( weakness). So if you are not being accepted, ask your self are you a weakling. The aligning if this are negative/ positive. Hardly positive/ positive or negative/ negative. Strive to be strong or be positive

franchasofficia:
To me, she is not entirely wrong for many reasons. Unless she is a materialistic lady before now, only you can tell cos you are the one that knows her better than we do.


Over time, I have come to realize that women of our time are more focused on their life goals than men.


Most women don't marry anyhow again unless they are getting aged and just need a sperm donor for procreation purposes, that is when they can settle for just any man willing to marry them.


But on a normal situation today, most modern ladies don't want to marry just anybody in the name of marriage, and I personally applaud them for that. Women are calculative when making marriage decision unlike men who make marriage decision based on how their dick rises and how their dick makes them feel for a girl.


Love is not enough reason to marry anybody in our current world and time. Love cannot pay bills. Love cannot pay rent. Love cannot feed a family. Neither can love pay school fees.


Don't be deceived by makebelieve movies you watch on Nollywood, Hollywood, Bollywood, etc films, their storylines don't always reflect the reality of life.


Many Nigerians foolishly believe that you can marry as a broke person and after marriage, whatever luck will shine on you and boom you blow and become rich and your wife that married you as a poor or broke guy starts to enjoy wealth, just as they portray in Nollywood films, but little did they know that all those things are lies, just mere imagination of the movie script writer which hardly happens in real life. I don't think there are up to 5% of married people that married broke and later became rich or comfortable in Nigeria. The number is very small and negligible to make any reasonable person to take such risk today.

And if you go close to those that married broke and later became rich or comfortable in life, you will discover that they were prepared for success, how? Most had a job and just starting a career, so it is normal for them to grow in their career with time. Some of them had business they were doing and it is also normal for a small business to grow bigger if managed properly. Some had saleable skills they were honing or grooming, some studied lucrative courses or were studying and in the process got good jobs and grew from there, so luck didn't just shine on them from nowhere without preparations.



If its true that after a broke guy marries, marital luck will open doors for him and he will start to succeed financially and become financially buoyant or rich, then we wouldn't have more than 100 million married poor Nigerians today. If life happens that way, your parents ought to be rich, your poor friend's parents too ought to be rich since they also married poor.



To succeed financially in life, you must be smart in your thinking, you must be calculative in all your dealings in life, and you must be very wise and realistic in all your critical life decisions like marriage.



Please dear Nigerian guys, don't marry anyhow again oh, life has changed. Opportunities of survival are reducing daily due to oversaturation in almost all human endeavors due to global overpopulation oh.


Don't marry a jobless girl in the name of you love her, she loves you....don't marry any girl in the name of she is beautiful, she is young, she is fertile, she has sexy shape, because by the time poverty and financial pressure hit you in marriage, you will hate her without even remembering how beautiful or sexy she is.


Don't even marry any girl just because she knows how to cook or clean the house or greet people, those are outdated qualities to use as sole reason to marry any girl.


Marry wisely for your own future and for the better future of your unborn kids.


Marry ladies with saleable skills.

Marry ladies that have good career.

Marry ladies that are financially productive.

Marry only ladies that are pursuing a career or a sustainable business or trade.

Stop marrying broke, jobless, lazy girls no matter how rich you think you are.


How many rich guys do you see marrying broke, jobless girls?


Son of former IG of Police married Aliko Dangote's daughter.


Son of Oil Billionaire Indimi married President Buhari's daughter.


Tinubu's son married the daughter of a global shipping line MD.


British Royal Prince Harry married Meghan Merkle who is an American A-list Actress.


Former US President Donald Trump's daughter married the son of a business tycoon. Where do I start or stop?


Only boys from poor families rush to marry broke, jobless girls without tangible career or saleable skill once they mistakenly hit money via Yahoo or one off business deal that makes them feel arrived, and few years down the line they go back to their poverty and financial struggle trenches just because of their mistake in marrying foolishly in the name of romantic love and showoff.


Nigerian guys stop marrying anyhow. Put on your thinking cap, stop encouraging Nigerian girls to be lazy and unproductive. That small millions you think you have is nothing when economic difficulty hits you.


Stop looking at flimsy things when picking a wife, we are no longer in the 1970s or 1980s, so you cannot marry for the same reasons your father married your mom, time have changed, global economy have changed, life is becoming more and more difficult all over the world, so you need a lady that is ready to work and partner with you in building a prosperous family, not just popping out kids every 9 months.


Marry a lady that can sustain the family financially if anything happens to you and renders you financially or physically incapacitated for months or even years.


And if you must marry a jobless lady, make sure you have the financial means to set her up with a profitable business or career or skill, and make sure she is ready for this and not just being ready with mouth, be sure she is truly prepared and ambitious to chart her own financial course with little assistance at the beginning. Don't think opening a supermarket or clothing or hair salon for your wife means she now has a job, most of the time, they end up squandering the business capital without anything to show for it. Consider all these things before you marry any lady today.



It is better they call you gold digger than for you to end up marrying a financial liability that will destroy your future.


Back to your topic, the lady is not confident in what you are doing now. She doesn't see a future in those things you are doing and she is scared marrying you may land her into another poverty she has been into under her parents. Its either you sit her down and explain to her why you don't want to rent a bigger apartment and also tell her your future plans, what you want in life, your goals, your financial plans, and while doing this, also ask her her own financial goals and plans in marriage. How does she intend to contribute in building her marriage, supporting her husband in achieving a successful family? Hear her out and also consider what she is currently doing, the course she studied also matters, the skills she has and what she has been using them for currently and her utterances. Her friends; what are they doing, how far have they gone in life?



Consider her family background too, can you cope with their own financial baggage, if any? Is she from a family that can support you or her in growing financially? Will they mar your own growth with their numerous financial problems and requests?



Marry wisely oh if not, you and your unborn kids go hear am oh.

Your post is one of the wisest I've read on nairaland in a while....I learned a lot from it...

Tell her to take you to one of her parents' duplexes in Lekki or Banana Island after your wedding. *Nonsense upon ingredients*!

DrAkpamudehe:


I am wealthier than your next 5 generations put together. If you see me on the road, U will need a pass from my security to even get a handshake. I don't blame u, nairaland is a leveller where VIPs and urchins dine together. Enjoy your freedom

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Lol, how much is your worth? I will pay your monthly salary in order to bail you out of your ignorance. Ignorance is a diseases. Imagine in this age and time it's a shame for anyone to lack common knowledge about crypto and freelancing world and then tag it yahoo.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

Ask her what is she bringing to the table,get a plan b.

flexyrule:
Freelancing kill you there.

In this age and time it's shameful for any educated mind to label freelancing yahoo. You ought to request for tuition fee from the school you attended that's if at all you attended one.

JovialJune:


You will sit down in your 2 by 2 and type the figment of your imagination, where is the correlation between the bolded and this thread?

What is there if op yield to her feelings? People like you always think expressing ones heart desire is a bad thing, what is wrong in upgrading from selfcon? All these poverty mentality people sef, if Op doesn't like what she said, he should break up with her and move on, very simple.

Having a standard and high taste is good but if you personally does not have what it takes or atleast have antecedents of someone who can earn that, to get that your standard and high taste, you are nothing but a leech and Gold digger. The problem I have with most women who feel they have standards is that most of them have never earned enough in their life time to afford a hut in Ajegunle except the ones given to them by relatives and Boyfriends

Cutehector:
i feel like i know you in person.

🤣🤣No worry.. we go see for street 😜😜

Self con no worth am, try and rent one bedroom apartment

Jocdon:
What is the difference between one room apartment and sefcon or are you making a mistake?

Sleep dey eye when I write am. Ma binu.

Women marry pple in jail without any house , when a woman loves you she will not care about anything , it’s as simple as that my brother

Really, and how does is sound to you? 🤪

Would you encourage your sister to marry such a man? Please improve yourself. Expecting someone to enter into hardship because of love is not wise. In fact, I would see the person as foolish. This woman cares about her future and that of her children.

Any woman that can’t marry you now cause you live in a self-con should never be with you or even anywhere around you when you finally build a 100 room Mansion.

She is definitely not the one for you. Oga move and don’t even give her a second glance.

Zechariah 4:10 NLT
Do not despise these small beginnings…

Read the signs man, leave her alone.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Is crypto and forex enough to start planning marriage? What other investments do you have? Don’t be deceived sir, love is not enough in a marriage, a woman will always think ahead, the future of her unborn kids, the kind of environment she’ll want her kids to grow up and the rest. Women are love mathematician, you must calculate and get it right to some extent . So it means in her calculations she didn’t get you as the answer. It’s not that deep, these are some of the reasons why women shouldn’t date men in their age range, it mostly doesn’t t work out.

Everyone lady is not like ur sisters,some ladies marry a guy that is jobless