Gerrard59:

How come the ones already settled in the UK before this set didn't come become such? Maybe bad 'ol racism considering how Britain supported Apartheid etc.

Why do you say "this generation of Nigerians are a lost cause...?" Also, which generation in particular? About the progeny, I recall Ednut1 writing some became LGBTQ, others developed mental illness kini kon, some relocated to the US for greater opportunities and others were average. I also recall Areafada2 saying his children's contemporaries get to attend Imperial College, King's College, LSE and with the education are set for life. Then brother Sukkot says majority don turn knife stabbers.

So e get as e be.

I'm actually happy for this, but our people should learn to be realistic and focus on the economics and what took them there. They shouldn't expect the same cultural heritage. They should just focus on the koko. I'm actually glad I created that thread as it puts me on focus too. Lets me wetin carry me come here.

rickpat:
guy...I respect you and your hustle o...na small small...just focus...no let anything distract you...it's way better than naija joor

Tadadobe:
A tread opened by a Twitter user has Nigerians in the UK sharing their agonizing experience in the UK.



https://twitter.com/Dagbofather/status/1646482207408570369?t=sPEX4eAzz9PsMqkymz8D7g&s=19

Kobojunkie:
ROFLMAO!

zrocky:
like you said 23 years. In those year s there have been alot of meltdown and depressed moments before you became OG. for us where just enter here leave us to complain our complain . By the way your advice has is one way kept myself from going nut here

INDUSTRIALFAN:
I’m on a cleaning job. Na only 3hrs daily I see. Some people ego no wan let them do cleaning job. I just got into the UK in January. The cleaning job is not what we want but in the intervening period, na to do work wey de available till something better comes along as long as I can pay bills and clear debts.

Kobojunkie:
This amounts to a fking bullsheet summation of what is instead my existence. I came to the USA carrying depression in my head so my struggles with mental illness had nothing to do with any of my actual experiences here in the US but the fact that I had a severally depressed brain right from living in Nigeria. Fortunately, I eventually found treatment and worked on my mind and life. And just when it began to overwhelm me, I found the solution to it all and freedom from all mental delusions since then.

Please don't go around attempting to write everyone's life with the same pen that is yours. That is insulting!

Gerrard59:


You live with it or take the next available flight to Nigeria. Alternatively, you ensure things work well in Nigeria so that you enjoy your cultural heritage and live in prosperity.

Kobojunkie:
This amounts to a fking bullsheet summation of what is instead my existence. I came to the USA carrying depression in my head so my struggles with mental illness had nothing to do with any of my actual experiences here in the US but the fact that I had a severally depressed brain right from living in Nigeria. Fortunately, I eventually found treatment and worked on my mind and life. And just when it began to overwhelm me, I found the solution to it all and freedom from all mental delusions since then.

Please don't go around attempting to write everyone's life with the same pen that is yours. That is insulting!

zrocky:
As I said it been 23 years brother. So relax, those where come now are not in the same shoes as you. By the way UK is not UK of 23 years ago, same with the US you went to. Nobody is try to paint your life picture, everyman his own cup of tea so relax we are all here to learn from each other not Insult one another. For me I'm leaving my best life but I can't deny the fact that my first year abroad was loney and depressing. Las Las everybody go dey okay

Kobojunkie:
Again, the point here is that this issue of depression is behavioral and if you don't tackle it on an individual level, probably through changes in behavior and mindset, you will never be free of it.

Tadadobe:


Do not discredit depression in the west. It's a real thing bro. Just like people think postpartum depression is a scam. Even Americans are feeling lonely, unmotivated and tired of one thing or another. I noticed anyone that narrate their experience abroad is y'all enemies, except he or she is praising abroad or narrating how he was able to save $1M per year or how he Japa through Libia. If you could understand and willing to hear from the narrative of people that claim to earn $3M per year working at McDonalds, why not understand people whose experience are the opposite? This goes to show we're selective in what we want to hear as far as it does or doesn't appeal to our beliefs

zrocky:
na people like you go say person where dey depressed should suck it in instead of speaking out. Go and relax jare. Even oyibo dey complain about depression talkless of foreigner

Gerrard59:


I am not discounting anyone's experiences. I am only saying since they willingly relocated to the abroad, they should focus on the reason that made them do so. If they have attained what took them there, they can always move back to Nigeria. I find it ridiculous when Nigerians complain that abroad is too boring or bland or depressing because of the differences in cultural activities. What were they expecting? A Nigerian-like scenario over there?

Anyone who wants to enjoy his cultural activities should stay back in his/her country. No one was forced to relocate. This is the same way some Muslims move to European countries and start demanding Sharia laws. If you so much like Sharia laws, why didn't you move to where those laws are implemented?

Alternatively, you build your society to your taste and dictate how things should be done. That is how the Chinese have done in Mainland China, Hong Kong, Taiwan and Singapore. For instance, the Hong Kongers who were invited by the British government to live in the UK because of the new laws in Hong Kong, more than 40K returned after one year out of close to 160K applicants. More are still returning to Hong Kong. Why? They complain of the cost of living, poor weather, high taxes, different cultures etc. They willingly returned to Hong Kong, some to Singapore. It is that simple: if you don't like it, move to Africa!

You think when I have attained what I want and abroad tire me, I would stay put or whine as these folks do? No, I would not. They have built their societies to their tastes. It is either I fit in or move out. The last thing I would do is complain about how another man runs his house when I still reside there because mine isn't OK.



Oyibo can complain because it is his country. You as the immigrant complaining, have an option - move back to Nigeria. If you want your environment to be what you want culturally and prosperous simultaneously, ensure you vote for the right leaders.

Gerrard59:


Thank you.



I do agree with you here. It really brings out one's fighting/competitive spirit because you know home isn't good, and you have to better yourself. In other words, no room for complacency. Me sef don dey multi-task than I did in Nigeria. My mom is even surprised I can speak the language whereas I couldn't even speak her language even though I had knowledge of hers.

Developed countries are pressure valves, you're correct.



How come the ones already settled in the UK before this set didn't come become such? Maybe bad 'ol racism considering how Britain supported Apartheid etc.



Why do you say "this generation of Nigerians are a lost cause...?" Also, which generation in particular? About the progeny, I recall Ednut1 writing some became LGBTQ, others developed mental illness kini kon, some relocated to the US for greater opportunities and others were average. I also recall Areafada2 saying his children's contemporaries get to attend Imperial College, King's College, LSE and with the education are set for life. Then brother Sukkot says majority don turn knife stabbers.

So e get as e be.



I'm actually happy for this, but our people should learn to be realistic and focus on the economics and what took them there. They shouldn't expect the same cultural heritage. They should just focus on the koko. I'm actually glad I created that thread as it puts me on focus too. Lets me wetin carry me come here.

zrocky:
nice one brother for here big man no dey as long as you pay the bills. You will win more grace