PDPGuy:
■ But the risk of marrying down, as a man, is that her family and extended family may see you as their meal ticket, if care is not taken

Like you need to ask! The reason over 83% of Nigerians are stuck even today in poverty has to do with the practice that is hypogamy-- marrying down --- among Nigerian men. And na dem dey complain the most in marriage too.

seborrhic:
Why didn't he fix his marriage on his annual leave.
So he didn't even plan on a honeymoon?
You do marriage today,the next day you are back at your work,when you are not the president of Nigeria!

Even the President of Nigeria go for 'medical leave'.

Tayorshd87:



In d olden days ur parent might bring his daughter to my own son to marry and yet they will live till old age ..

So what's d big deal in just marrying anyhow??

The once that did court wedding and big party for d celebrations too no dey divorce 😲😳

My brother marriage no get actually formula like mathematics jare

bro I am in a situation like you...

Tho yet to tie the knot but hooked already..a no dey feel this girl at all but she's a good girl, just that I am not connected to her both emotionally and sexually despite her bn sexually attractive

tonicyril:
bro I am in a situation like you... Tho yet to tie the knot but hooked already..a no dey feel this girl at all but she's a good girl, just that I am not connected to her both emotionally and sexually despite her bn sexually attractive

What you described is more common than not and applies as far as both men and women alike. Why do you think mass Weddings are all the rage in the Northern parts of the country?

The funny thing about it all is that she may feel the same way about your person. Good luck!

See wetin ipob wan do to marriage

Kobojunkie:
What you described is more common than not and applies as far as both men and women alike. Why do you think mass Weddings are all the rage in the Northern parts of the country?

The funny thing about it all is that she may feel the same way about your person. Good luck!

This is the very first time I will be agreeing with you on a topic and coincidentally it happened to be mine...

At the emboldened, I think u re right 80% because of some of the attitudes she exhibit.

Imagine bn in a house with ur man and says u need to watch a porn to get ursef on. Lol
We may be in the house for up to a month without having any intercourse., it's as bad as that

But every other areas are perfect 101%

OP, I don't mean to be disrespectful but does the fiance of your brother's have a job?

Even if she have, then it's either she is inconsiderate or something fishy she wants to do with your brother to visit her village.

nairagenone:
A woman is threatening a man that she will cancel the marriage in 2023 and the man is begging ?
Definitely, your brother will wear the skirt through out the life of that marriage.

For the wife to be to threaten him shows she is not into the marriage and marrying him out of pity. He will suffer in that marriage just like the f.ools before him who have enterred into a marriage without exerting authority and respect.

The lady already sees him as a weak and spineless man, what pains me most is the lady may even have body counts in the double digits.

Men, learn from this story, if a woman cannot respect you just like Sarah did to Abraham, dont put yourself in such bondage.

Go to shiloh, countless single women looking fpr husbands, men learn this, you are the prize.

Stop making a fool of yourselves like the OPs brother.

Please, tell them ooo. Most of them cannot honor their parents but they will be fooling themselves because of a lady. Real men are very few. Tufiakwa!!!!

Zooposki:


Ok, XY(male) and XX(female) if that makes you feel better. The man is not needed for reproduction, the female can do that all by herself, so the world is not going to face any extinction, hence why the male aka XY is deemed useless by nature, and considered a throwaway.

I’m not even going to digress and go into why I think the XY is a genetic manipulation of the XX chromosome, hence unnatural and deemed as the only chromosome not necessary for life, hence why it’s dying off and the body could care less.

You must really suck at biology/anatomy because unless men all of a sudden start developing XX chromosomes, male gender is still needed for reproduction....That alone tells me you're a comedian

A SIMPle brother

abbey621:


You must really suck at biology/anatomy because unless men all of a sudden start developing XX chromosomes, male gender is still needed for reproduction....That alone tells me you're a comedian

The diagram below is one way it can be achieved. I can give you several more natural instances but I leave you to go do your research.

Heck, even a small electric current applied to her egg is enough to start the division of cells for new life to occur(artificial method)

Let me ask you a question, what purpose does the breast serve in a man and woman?

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

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Omo; if this is the reason why she is threatening to call off the wedding, then i must say, your brother is about to marry a useless, inconsiderate & selfish woman.

Trust me, she will ruin your brother's life.

Like my people will say; It is good to look for black goat during the day, because it will become harder, finding it at night.

Your brother probably needs to go to the village to perfect the wedding plans. Her request is not out of order. He can simply ask his company for time off for his marriage and he is entitled to that. If he dies today, the company will find someone else to open the vault. So his excuse is stupid.

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

Didn't they court?
How was she during that period?
So anytime he cannot fulfill or meet her desire na threat him go dey receive.
Na she wan marry am or na him wan marry her?
If he knows what is good for him let him postpone the wedding for like six months and see her character before going ahead or cancelling cos it seems they don't know each other that much.

Zooposki:


The diagram below is one way it can be achieved. I can give you several more natural instances but I leave you to go do your research.

Heck, even a small electric current applied to her egg is enough to start the division of cells for new life to occur(artificial method)

Let me ask you a question, what purpose does the breast serve in a man and woman?

Like I said earlier you should consider comedy....You're a perfect fit

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

A woman is threatening a guy that she wants to cancel a wedding and he is confused

He should just approve it naw

Till he gets a person that will understand that his work is where he will get paid to feed the house

Can't they just fix themselves up with a date that is convenient for him

tonicyril:
■ This is the very first time I will be agreeing with you on a topic and coincidentally it happened to be mine... At the emboldened, I think u re right 80% because of some of the attitudes she exhibit. Imagine bn in a house with ur man and says u need to watch a porn to get ursef on. Lol We may be in the house for up to a month without having any intercourse., it's as bad as that But every other areas are perfect 101%

Here's the thing though. Since you admit that your case is not that much different from that of Mr. Musa(and Ms. Bintu) up north who recently got married by way of a mass wedding ceremony in, say, Kaduna state, why do you come to Nairaland to inundate us with tales of how your case should be specially considered? Why pretend to be relationship gurus when your case is no better than that of over 83% of Nigerians out there in relationships and marriage?

Kobojunkie:
Stay out of it let them deal with their relationship issue as they feel is best!

Keep quiet, even the bible says "in the multitude if counsel, there is safety". You want his brother to go marry a witch while he watches idly by?

Belafonte:
■ Keep quiet, even the bible says "in the multitude if counsel, there is safety". You want his brother to go marry a witch while he watches idly by?

You mean sort of like the multitude of counsels given by your ancestors, grandparents, and fathers who have helped resolve marriage in Nigeria, abi? A picture resembling safety, right?

Is better the marriage is cancelled than his work.

Tayorshd87:


Am happy for u to get such a virtual lady because what social media has caused in this era is something that cannot be over emphasize with bunches of olosho and club girls 😢😭😭😢😭

Not that am not meeting my spec but date them that's when u Wil know why many of Dem are single 🤔..


But am still thinking of going for my true spec if I found one since have given birth already 🤔
Hope am not taking the wrong decision

Bro,it is oo! Why not focus on the woman in your life currently and the kids and let them be your priority.
Don't you know that demons appear in beautiful packages? You might take that step and live to regret it.
How sure are you that if you find the so called spec,she would bring peace to your life?
Well if you are really intent on polygamy, better be careful, because it's a very thorny path,not with the kind of olosho mentality girls that abound everywhere.

IbroMaka:


You think women care about character

I guarantee most women will marry a man earning 2M monthly and won't give a ratass about his character.

women does care about character. How some of you guys make general assumption baffles me. So in your mind now you believe all women and men are the same?

Oburu202:


Sorry to say this. My brother who is jobless got a wife. They have 4 kids now. My brother drinks, smokes and very lazy. My brother was messed up full time. But you need to see his wife. Young and smart. We don't play with her. Because we know she has changed my brother's history.

So I would like to know why a guy who is making over 1 million can't fins a wife!!!

his wife is not as quality, classic and educated like the girls this guy in question is dating. No reasonable woman will marry a man with no good source of income. It has nothing to do with being a good or bad girl. It is the norms expected of a man.

komzy589:

Is it in this life that we are living in or in an alternate world!
Lying to yourself will not make you feel good about being a woman.

not all men reason like you guy.

henrimoto:
Where is your brother's current location ?

Can't your brother make arrangements to hand-over the vault keys to the bank management. ?

The lady is already doubting the marriage. In her mind, she is like, "is this what I will face in this marriage?" No Attention!

she's mad.

If the guy gives her full attention, and without feeding her , she'll be the first to cry out.

ozo13:
character as how sir

he has anger issue. Everybody around him including his colleagues, friends and family complain alot about him

It's not the end of the world if she cancels the wedding. Her threat may be a prophecy of future uncompromising demands that will follow the marriage.

Better for him to quit now than marry a woman who will neither submit or be yielding to a compromise.

galileo180:
Your honest and sincere opinions are highly needed on this.

My brother is about to get married on Sunday and just today, the girlfriend has been threatening to call off the marriage over a little issue. The issue being my brothers' refusal to travel back to our village with her since he needs to be at work on Tuesday, his reason being that there is no movement on Mondays and he is a Banker and needs to be present to open Vault on Tuesday.

Please in your sincere opinion, is my brother wrong and is it a good reason for the girl to threaten him with calling off the event.

Mods please help a brother, please push to front-page as it needs urgent attention.

Is your brother not about to dodge a bullet so? A wife that can't consider his excuse of work... I fear for him. This is where he'd feed her from and if he allows her to get him to have issue at his work place, she'll be the first person to leave him.


Your brother is not in charge and that's obvious.

Tayorshd87:


YES U ARE 100% CORRECT I was also looking for a particular class until I have to choose below my class just to break d curse of my village people of not getting a wife at age 43 😂😆😂
My brother am now a father of two and am happy Abt that just that I didn't marry the kind of spec am willing to and it's giving me a technical issue till date 🙁☹️

Bro,it shouldn't be giving a technical issue.The most important thing is that she respects your authority, doesn't possess nasty behaviours and loves you.Not being contented with what one has,is one of the biggest life disorganisers people encounter.
Besides, things aren't always what they seem to be.Just overlook the spec thing and focus all your attention and love on the wife you have.

Villa12:
I know a man earning close to 2M monthly. He is 41 and still searching for a wife. Most girls only date him but doesn't want to marry him. The girl he sent to school (polytechnic) still dump him for a guy that earn less than him

Did you know Why? His character. If you doubt me, you can send me a DM and i will take you to meet the guy. This is someone that is doing pretty fine for himself but still struggling to get a wife. I only know about men struggling financially having issues getting a wife. I was surprised to see someone doing fine having same issue

Some guys uses their wealth to entice women, that will only bring you fake love n dishonest ladies.

A responsible guy/man wld nvr woo a potential fiancée with money, just so dat she may love him purely. He may surprise her about his financial status when things gets set.

His unrealistic tastes for women is serving him the long wait. Nobody trains a lady anymore, unless she's living your home to sch n with a personal driver n nanny following her n caterimg for her.

nairagenone:

Baba I dey feel you, I was almost at your stage but God just favoured me.
Na so I jam a sweet 27 year old virgin babe, with perfect shape and all.
I couldn't believe my luck, she con be SU join, just what I ever dreamt of.

As someone who has lived in multiple continents and dated all races, when you see my fiance you'd think she jazzed me cos the class difference and every other aspect is so wide.

But I love it like that, men are supposed to marry down so has to be able to earn respect from their wives naturally.
If you check this op brother, he either married his own level/class or a woman earning same as him or more.

When they tell you age long truths that as a man, you must marry down to have peace in your own home some of you will think they are talking rubbish.

I totally agree with this. A man should marry down.

So your brother couldn't take leave of 1 week for his wedding?
He wants to marry on Sunday, travel back on Sunday because there is ni movement on Monday and he has to be at work on Tuesday?


What sort of man is that?

God forbid he dies today, won't the bank assign another person to open bank vault for that day?

Abegi! He is getting married, he should have written a formal letter for days off for leave even if na casual leave of 3days, except he is getting married without his bank knowing.

Mschewww!

People should learn to do things right for peace to reign.