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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by FRANCISTOWN: 11:52am On Dec 15, 2023
ogawisdom:


She really has nothing to apologize for. I think you should watch your over sized ego before you destroy your marriage.

She should be free to express herself Biko. How can a woman be well educated and not allow to express an opinion in 2023.

I'm talking about my wife, not your wife.
Your wife can say whatever she likes to you, or your relatives. That's your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with me.
What I know is, ain't no wife of mine gon' speak to my relative disrespectfully. That's not my world.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by azidomedogo: 1:27pm On Dec 15, 2023
What some of us married men face daily. Some wife’s no dey apologize at all

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by 4ward4: 2:30pm On Dec 15, 2023
Don’t make apologizing a common affair in marriage , rebuke her and move on like nothing happened. Making apology mandatory is setting your marriage on an official level, which isn’t health for a marriage as you know you can’t err without apologizing .
Married here and only on serious offenses are sorry used in my house, the rest like what your wife said is rebuked and we are good like nothing happened.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by ogawisdom(m): 2:41pm On Dec 15, 2023
FRANCISTOWN:

I'm talking about my wife, not your wife.
Your wife can say whatever she likes to you, or your relatives. That's your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with me.
What I know is, ain't no wife of mine gon' speak to my relative disrespectfully. That's not my world.

Lol Boss man grin grin grin

It's well but if you already know what to do what is the point in bringing the matter to a public forum since you cant tolerate a different perspective.

It seems you are newly married certainly below 1 year and the initial gra gra must happen before you calm down to reality.

The less empowered esp financially the more likely she may give you 100% submission to your wishes.

Money is power, is she 100% dependent on you? He who pays the Piper .............

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by omoredia: 3:10pm On Dec 15, 2023
Oga u no get work?

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by drerocker: 3:12pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Bros your cup Don full
Men do wrong most times but find it hard to apologise because of pride Bros pride kill faster.so better settle your home n stop embarrassing your self by coming her to post this rubbish ok
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by bigpicture001: 3:14pm On Dec 15, 2023
1TrippleCee:
When one marries a strong minded woman, marriage becomes a drill. That's why many men turn to wood internally after a while. The woman thinks her husband is her competition she can rubbish anyhow

my ex gf is like dat..always trying to outdo u...and never apologises...sh chases fter high professional guyz who sh equally flaunts her own success and is fast to mk them realise sh will not b a liability...yet, doctors, bankers , oil workers and FG staffs sh has all orchestrated systematically and dated, have dumped her...

most citing nothing..just dt thry cant matry her..babe is now 32 nd was the first at shiloh last month..dou time still dey to amend...

marriage is simply live and sacrifice no b about money or achievement....

ladies just wont learn

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by madridguy(m): 3:15pm On Dec 15, 2023
My heart aches reading stories like this and I begin to ask myself who exactly is raising weak men like this?

Nigeria men are fast lossing their right as an Africa man and very soon, our women will be chasing men out of their house just like the whites.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Kokomaster69: 3:15pm On Dec 15, 2023
I am sorry to say , a responsible man doesn't bring his family issues to the public to solve for him.
Please go and fix your home responsibly.

SMH

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Akinpresident: 3:15pm On Dec 15, 2023
Emmanuel30a:
Wetin concerns me concerns ur wife...? Bring her to me and let me deals with her/disciplines her... I sense clout chasing... Are you a tout..., or you just finished drinking small stout...? I can't shout, so shut your mouth or keep your mouth shut... You are looking for actions, reactions, interactions&transactions... It may end up in/with sanctions...

Guy wetin be this 😂😂😂
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by bigpicture001: 3:15pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

sh has been like dat even at dating stage...u were blinded by her personal career achievement and went on to marry her...ok... welcome to the world of marrying a certificate...

enjoi it

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by santaclaws: 3:16pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Technically, she didn't insult your mom. It just happens that you think your wife shouldn't mention ur mom like that, but it happens, women have 'sharp mouths' and you need to find a way to just playfully caution her when she says such things.

Fighting your wife or keeping malice with her is a very childish thing. She doesn't need to apologize, you both should end it in the other room and move on.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by bigpicture001: 3:16pm On Dec 15, 2023
Kokomaster69:
I am sorry to say , a responsible man doesn't bring his family issues to the public to solve for him.
Please go and fix your home responsibly.

SMH

mumu spotted
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by 1TrippleCee: 3:16pm On Dec 15, 2023
bigpicture001:


my ex gf is like dat..always trying to outdo u...and never apologises...sh chases fter high professional guyz who sh equally flaunts her own success and is fast to mk them realise sh will not b a liability...yet, doctors, bankers , oil workers and FG staffs sh has all orchestrated systematically and dated, have dumped her...

most citing nothing..just dt thry cant matry her..babe is now 32 nd was the first at shiloh last month..dou time still dey to amend...

marriage is simply live and sacrifice no b about money or achievement....

ladies just wont learn



It takes old age to reset their brain.

For a man, once a woman starts to show competitiveness, it's time to run. Marriage is consolidation and collaboration not bring workplace competitiveness to the homefront

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by jimmyvic(m): 3:16pm On Dec 15, 2023
Sit with your wife and iron out issues and stop troubling us with your matrimonial problems. We are facing "Nigeria".




Signed
Nairaland Mgt.
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by lawalmovichhhh: 3:17pm On Dec 15, 2023
ORIRE TI BÛRÛ

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by femi4: 3:17pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?
Don't worry, she will apologise in so many ways especially in the other room. As a married person, you should get used to non verbal apology from your spouse. That's why marriage is all about forgiving and not whose right or wrong

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by bigman001(m): 3:18pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

She is too proud and full of herself. Her apologizing will not remove any hair string from her body, maybe you have said something annoying to her in the past and you didn't apologize, now she wants to take her revenge without bringing the past issue into it. Anyway just be patient in handling things with her.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by bigpicture001: 3:19pm On Dec 15, 2023
santaclaws:


Technically, she didn't insult your mom. It just happens that you think your wife shouldn't mention ur mom like that, but it happens, women have sharp mouth and you need to find a way to just playfully caution her when she says such things.

Fighting your wife or keeping malice with her is a very childish thing. She doesn't need to apologize, you both should end it in the other room and move on.

another mumu spoted...marriage is mot anout who is right or wrong...its supposed to b if ur patner is offended by ur actions...dont drag it..simply apologize, den if u want to vlear it out..later on her good happy day..u joking mke its clearer u were right afterall..

no b competition ooo

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Emmanuel30a: 3:19pm On Dec 15, 2023
[quote author=Akinpresident post=127498845]
Guy wetin be this
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by TheGift: 3:19pm On Dec 15, 2023
If you are offended , it is your fault and not that of your wife, especially if she did not say something to deliberately offend you. But you want her to take responsibility for something she did not do, which is to deliberately offend
Or insult you.

You need to ask yourself why you feel offended and take responsibility for your feelings as a Man, rather than blame how your feel on someone else. Especially a woman. Are you sure you are not feeling that way because she spoke an uncomfortable truth? Ego is not very good in relationships , you need to learn to put your ego aside.

If you and your wife are not communicating well it is because you are relating with her as an offender based on your feelings. You need to start relating with her as normal.

You need to snap out of it. Leave tantrums for
Kids.

If you
Must tell her anything, Just tell her that you felt offended that’s why you were not communicating normally with her but you have decided to take responsibility for how you feel rather than blame it on her. Then move on. Don’t let a small issue fester and become a big deal. Good luck .

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by israelmao(m): 3:19pm On Dec 15, 2023
It's unfortunate that many women do say things they don't think through or process well mentally or mean,sometimes they do some things to test out your reaction.That analogy she drew was really bad and you have to make her realise that you're really hurted and demand her unreserved apology.Four words that most people neglect but yet work magic:sorry,please,excuse and thanks.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by santaclaws: 3:20pm On Dec 15, 2023
bigpicture001:


another mumu spoted...marriage is mot anout who is right or wrong...its supposed to b if ur patner is offended by ur actions...dont drag it..simply apologize, den if u want to vlear it out..later on her good happy day..u joking mke its clearer u were right afterall..

no b competition ooo

It is well with you...

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by SayNo2SmallPrik: 3:20pm On Dec 15, 2023
Beremx:
don't mind him. He knows the wife was right and her still demanding apologies.
Nonsense
See rubbish wey you Dey type

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by id4sho(m): 3:20pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

Issues are treated immediately, she will still want to gas light you further.
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by Jackipapa: 3:21pm On Dec 15, 2023
My Brother, continue keeping your cool and maintain your home. Relate to her as if she has never offended you. Do this and thank me later.
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by grandstar(m): 3:21pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you

It will be best you ignore it.

Maya Angelou said, "If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change the way you look at it"

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by yemmit90: 3:21pm On Dec 15, 2023
FRANCISTOWN:

As long as I'm concerned. I feel like my relatives need to stay off my wife's mouth. They are not play things for wordplay.

She can possibly bring about her points without comparisons with my relatives.
It's even wrong for a wife to put herself on the same level with my mom. That's disrespectful.

My wife is my wife for as long as she wants to be my wife but my ma is my ma forever.No one compares sleep to death.

You take life too serious, which one be she must apologise.

Just warn her not to say that again and move on. My wife don't even know the relationship between me and my family because I hardly discuss anything about them with her. She don't know if I give anyone something or not, so stop discussing your family issue with your wife to avoid a situation like this.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by drehdinho(m): 3:23pm On Dec 15, 2023
People explaining didn’t hear from the other side of the story.

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Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by rickleye: 3:23pm On Dec 15, 2023
Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?


Means her love for you is similar to a cup half empty. Not half full. If a person is in love they take the high road - I’m sorry dear if I offended you ! But her stance shows her love is waning .
I have a terrible anger- I can be in the house and not talk to you for 3-7 days all depending on when my anger wanes off.
What I would advice is a sit down and discuss how to resolve issues. Either she is wrong or right , the other person ought to say I am sorry it was not my intention.
However, you should also prepare to expect bit to get your way all the time
Re: My Wife Decide Not To Apologize For Offending Me by FOODCOACH: 3:23pm On Dec 15, 2023
ogawisdom:


You are quite a sensitive man sha because this issue is a very light one to me. She is only saying that you love your mum more so no offense there BC it's normally true & she is probably jealous.

Why should she apologize for stating her observation?
I tire ooo

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