Fahvvy:
This is a very balanced write up ...

I personally don't want a woman to "build" with me ... Let her use that "building materials" to build herself instead ...

Lifeinlight:
My sis was a clear example. She got married as a virgin @24. There are people that still place so much value on their body. They may not be much though but they exist.

No too much cry of heart break or what have you

Iamzik:


You need to learn simple comprehension. It obvious that you just ruhed to reply. Go back and read my post again

Lifeinlight:
You claimed only foolish men get thrown out by their wives right? Then i said even in Nigeria, only foolish and daft wonen get thrown out by their husband

Outside that, if you no misbehave your wife no go throw you out abroad

Wisegeek01:
Heres why ladies refuse to build with guys
.. Experience ✨

and i cant blame them for that,
because this my gender, men!!
They can ghost ehh!
Today you are dating, tomorrow is saturday you see trad on their friends status😎🥂 ..

but thats not to say ladies don't ghost too oo, one of my guys they ghosted during university, fell sick for 1 month, i mean he said theres nothing he didnt do for her, even that he was repeating a year is because of her, they dated for the whole time frame in school, same set, and towards finals she was bringing invitation card, ma guy fainted, when i talked to him, he was like nwa nkwo na zu, ngbe mmiri na ezo, je ulo ogwu ( the lady i backed inside rain to the hospital ) but you see this gist, i wil gist another day.

So ladies do too, and they usually do it to someone they think is unserious about marriage, whether they love the person or not, ( i dont know if they are usually under pressure from family or peers - but this will be another topic for another day )

while the guys ghost a lady they feel dont have all the requirements, but both of them are sneaky and using the same formula, no closure, just ghosting, i will understand if theres no closure for a toxic relationship, but a relationship that had no flaws, you just wake up one morning and jump out of the molue ( i.e assuming your relationship is the bus)
Why ?
I mean thats what c0wards do

Now back to the real question, why dont ladies build with guys again ..

See let me tell you dating anyone is a 50/50 percent chance, anyone can wake up the next day and break up, or worse you wake up and find out they are getting married or married with 6 kids or any other reason (for the men), or they have a hidden child or children from different men or any other reason ( for the women )

So now for the guys,

what's to say the guy will continue to marriage stage when he has money, that he wont dump you for his dream girl, and you have to start from scratch again ..
So i never blame any lady that says they wont build with a guy, their reason is valid, but ..

For the ones who choose to build with the guy, kudos to them, but ..

While you are at that please build yourself too .. i cannot vouch for any human being or any man, build yourself in the relationship too, learn skills, get certifications, as he is growing you are growing,

If he refuses, your growth !!

omo i give you the permission to leave him, that is a very bad boy .. a narcss!st to say the least .. because if that guy eventually gets money and gets someone else, you have your years of achievements to console you, you wont be starting out again with nothing ..

Now if you decide not to build with a man, like i said, you have good reasons too, but ..

While you wait for your prince charming, please build yourself also, you cant just be dancing on social media and saying all sorts about wanting a big man or saying things like if your boyfriend is not given you 500k monthly dump him, or if his account bal is not up to 50m dump him .. what audacity for someone that has no skills, i mean they say empty barrels do what 😅

So you think a big man will just gallivant and coman carry you like that so you can be doing tiktok in his parlour .. they too know what they are looking for, and if they carry u best bet theres only one thing they need from you at that point in time ..

So build yourself while you wait for prince charming, a way of encouraging him, that ..
"see ma guy nothing loss" i gat you
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And for the guys that want to know what to be doing in relationships that they are building, maybe the lady is not supporting you or is achieving more than you -- i.e you want to know what to do, i will cover that in another post,

Now another topic that is coming is -- when to dump a guy or a lady in a relationship, i will cover these together
..
You guys just follow up, give me your feedback, negative or positive, i need it to get better, at this point i drop my pen,
..
my brain wan burst ..

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santaclaws:
Most Nigerian men nowadays aren't even looking for ladies to build with, they wanna make their money before settling down and that's why a lot of ladies in their 30s are complaining that men don't wanna get married.

At the end of the day, ladies are the ones being affected the most. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Iamzik:


You still didn't read. I said couples who have issues in Nigeria should not be surprised when one of them gets thrown out abroad. The problem you cannot resolve in Nigeria will worsen when you get abroad. I don't have time to argue biko

Lifeinlight:
some of you ignoramus men can't take half of what you dish out to women. I am a man like you so i know. If you have the mentality of throwing your wife out if she misbehave, why then do some of you cry wolf whenever same scenario happened abroad to men?


Why?

ogaontop:

Eye for an eye, except for infidelity and physical beating, no man or woman should throw each other out of the house in Nigeria, let alone abroad!
Nigerian men can send you packing for any slightest provocation, and when I read some of the reasons why some Nigerian women sack their husbands abroad, I discovered it's either selfishness or wickedness! It's rare to see white women sacking their Nigerian husbands, so what's the problem with our Naija women
Men of my "good-mannered" uncles that have stayed so long in the states are avoiding Nigerian women like plague!

Lifeinlight:
Yes, you're right. But we all know how some men throw out their wives in Nigeria after building with him for many years. If same scenario happened to Men abroad, some men will be crying on behalf of the man that got thrown out, and i begin to wonder if it's not same thing some of these men practice in Nigeria to women

Lifeinlight:
Yes, you're right. But we all know how some men throw out their wives in Nigeria after building with him for many years. If same scenario happened to Men abroad, some men will be crying on behalf of the man that got thrown out, and i begin to wonder if it's not same thing some of these men practice in Nigeria to women

Iamzik:


This is the trend. Men are no longer under pressure to marry again.

A man can get married at anytime really why tie yourself down with someone who doesn't believe in you? You can use that time to pursue your career or business and get well established. Younger women will always be available. Women who are your age will also pursue older rich men. That's how the story goes...

Wisegeek01:


Thanks i appreciate,

thats what i am learning how to do now,

balance my write ups,

and be as sincere as possible with my take, and try to mirror the two sides of the perspectives, and this is also based on actually talking to guys and ladies to get their opinions .. then i find the middle ground on how both sides can work together, if any side is wrong or right i say it as it is without bias.

GreatAchiever1:
The whole point of being in a relationship is to know the mentality, ideology and character of the opposite sex and see if it matches what you are looking for, and also be open about what you want. But it seems everyone these days is in a relationship for their selfish reason with their own sinister motive behind it.

Lifeinlight:
You claimed only foolish men get thrown out by their wives right? Then i said even in Nigeria, only foolish and daft wonen get thrown out by their husband

Outside that, if you no misbehave your wife no go throw you out abroad

Jeon:
Op you're right on this, but some people will still disagree 👎 with you.





As if he won't get it from someone else, or leave the moment she declined.
This can come as a surprise to see him choosing the one giving him regular sex over you building with him.



I learned from people's Relationship.This thing matter no concern me

Life is full of colorful fun for us to be deceiving ourselves.

Marvyx:
Women only love men for what they can provide. Simple.

Lifeinlight:
If you must build with a potential man, make sure no sexual intercourse between you guys

CorrectionFLuid:


I understand that your sex organ is your most valuable asset. But I'm curious, what do you mean when you say... A potential man?
LMAO

pacespot:
Most of the so called ladies building with guys are even hindering to the guys' potentials. Except you can fund his business project or sponsor him abroad, don't claim that you are building with him just because you are dating him when he is broke.

Wisegeek01:
Heres why ladies refuse to build with guys
.. Experience ✨

and i cant blame them for that,
because this my gender, men!!
They can ghost ehh!
Today you are dating, tomorrow is saturday you see trad on their friends status😎🥂 ..

but thats not to say ladies don't ghost too oo, one of my guys they ghosted during university, fell sick for 1 month, i mean he said theres nothing he didnt do for her, even that he was repeating a year is because of her, they dated for the whole time frame in school, same set, and towards finals she was bringing invitation card, ma guy fainted, when i talked to him, he was like nwa nkwo na zu, ngbe mmiri na ezo, je ulo ogwu ( the lady i backed inside rain to the hospital ) but you see this gist, i wil gist another day.

So ladies do too, and they usually do it to someone they think is unserious about marriage, whether they love the person or not, ( i dont know if they are usually under pressure from family or peers - but this will be another topic for another day )

while the guys ghost a lady they feel dont have all the requirements, but both of them are sneaky and using the same formula, no closure, just ghosting, i will understand if theres no closure for a toxic relationship, but a relationship that had no flaws, you just wake up one morning and jump out of the molue ( i.e assuming your relationship is the bus)
Why ?
I mean thats what c0wards do

Now back to the real question, why dont ladies build with guys again ..

See let me tell you dating anyone is a 50/50 percent chance, anyone can wake up the next day and break up, or worse you wake up and find out they are getting married or married with 6 kids or any other reason (for the men), or they have a hidden child or children from different men or any other reason ( for the women )

So now for the guys,

what's to say the guy will continue to marriage stage when he has money, that he wont dump you for his dream girl, and you have to start from scratch again ..
So i never blame any lady that says they wont build with a guy, their reason is valid, but ..

For the ones who choose to build with the guy, kudos to them, but ..

While you are at that please build yourself too .. i cannot vouch for any human being or any man, build yourself in the relationship too, learn skills, get certifications, as he is growing you are growing,

If he refuses, your growth !!

omo i give you the permission to leave him, that is a very bad boy .. a narcss!st to say the least .. because if that guy eventually gets money and gets someone else, you have your years of achievements to console you, you wont be starting out again with nothing ..

Now if you decide not to build with a man, like i said, you have good reasons too, but ..

While you wait for your prince charming, please build yourself also, you cant just be dancing on social media and saying all sorts about wanting a big man or saying things like if your boyfriend is not given you 500k monthly dump him, or if his account bal is not up to 50m dump him .. what audacity for someone that has no skills, i mean they say empty barrels do what 😅

So you think a big man will just gallivant and coman carry you like that so you can be doing tiktok in his parlour .. they too know what they are looking for, and if they carry u best bet theres only one thing they need from you at that point in time ..

So build yourself while you wait for prince charming, a way of encouraging him, that ..
"see ma guy nothing loss" i gat you
--------------------------------------


And for the guys that want to know what to be doing in relationships that they are building, maybe the lady is not supporting you or is achieving more than you -- i.e you want to know what to do, i will cover that in another post,

Now another topic that is coming is -- when to dump a guy or a lady in a relationship, i will cover these together
..
You guys just follow up, give me your feedback, negative or positive, i need it to get better, at this point i drop my pen,
..
my brain wan burst ..

----------------
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If you will like to learn this or any other Tech skill ( Transition to tech ) --- let me know
-----------------

I am Wisegeek
a Serious Tech Guy in real life😎
---
i give you my honest perspective on every topic or trend
i dont do gender stuff ( new topic alert )
i say it as it is no sugarcoating
And i am very sarcastic too 🙂
...