If the value of the car is 5m and she has only 1.5m where does the 3.5m balance come from

advanceDNA:



What happened to a 3.5M car if he actually wants to buy a car for his sister?? Why must it be 5M naira car...... Either ur wife wants to run u marital street or the brother wants to run ur wife//you confirm street..

Wateva the case is ...u won't like the outcome after u drop the money

Or atleast send them the #3.5 let the man and his go to a car shop and make their choice...

If they wish they can add the #1.5m ...

To what end would you want your contribution to the purchase of the car noted?
Do you anticipate issues in the future that would warrant a refund to you or that you won't be given credit for the car eventually?
Is this ego induced?
My take is you want her to get a car, then go ahead. Whoever contributes doesn't matter to me, cos the whole point is that it is your wife's car. Or we go back to the questions.

wallarwallar:





Fear? Hahahhahahha even ladies on dis platform go dey laugh u so na fear go stop woman from cheating. If u @ a married man thou nt sure but if u @ 1 l'm so sorry for you 4 dis ur mentality u go cry u no go see water

Why will I cry because of a woman?

Do you even know what you are saying?

I marry you with my money and you will cheat on me? Just kiss your marriage bye.

And why will I cry if a woman leave me? There are more women and she has more to lose regardless of how you weigh it. In fact, I will give her no power over me having known what a woman is.

I am not married, but I am very used to women trying to take advantage of me. Infact, my current girl is a very free spirited girl that love her freedom and will even insult me if I try to control her.

I decided to ignore her. Guess what, she changed without me disturbing her to. Infact, I am surprised at how she suddenly changed since the beginning of this year.

But I am still not fooled. I will still keep her at bay and pay close attention to her even if I decided to marry her. If a woman is not planning to be faithful to me, she has no business with me. And I am never broken by a woman leaving me. She don even jazz me before, and I break it. So, wetin she wan use to make me cry?

I have another girl that is very scared of me. But she was not a virgin when I meet her (disqualified already) and she visited other guys because I don’t care about her, but she regarded me as her boyfriend. Till tomorrow, she will deny visiting other guys, but I don’t need to catch you red handed to know. The clues are all over and I don’t mind. That one is a public thing.

Freethought:
My wife loves the comfort that comes with a car(i mean, who wouldn't) , she talks about it everytime. Last year, i made some savings and decided to get a car buh unfortunately, with the help of a trusted mechanic, i made a bad buy which i sold at a loss shortly after i bought it.

This morning , my wife told me her younger brother wants to get her a car and she told him she has 1.5 million naira ready (she was asked dou). The guy promised to get the car for her this weekend as long as the 1.5 million is readily available.

Now my issue is, this 1.5 million she told her brother she has is the money i got from the sale of my bad purchased car. The boy did not know the source of the money and probably think his sister actually have 1.5m to add to what he has to get the car.

I really do not know what to do rn cos i know getting the car will make her very happy and i do not want to hinder that, but I'm not really comfortable with the whole arrangement. I really don't know what to do.

The car he wants to get, according to my wife is valued at 5m.

Bros no vex o.... After your bro in-law buys the car for your family, who btw u and ur wife get the motor gan gan...... e get why i dey ask

Freethought:


Calm down bro, I'm not that close to the boy and besides he's way younger than i am.

Bro, be careful about what you are about to enter into. Your wife will misbehave to you if she gets that car. She will forget that you own 1.5 million naira out of the money. She might even go about telling people that it was her brother that bought the car for her without telling them that 1.5 mil out of the money was from you. She will claim ownership of the car and be reluctant to allow you ride it.

Be careful how you place your wife's happiness above every other thing. Her happiness may cost you your happiness and break your marriage.

Before agreeing with her brother on this matter, she should have carried you along if the marriage means anything to her.

infotainment:

Bros no vex o.... After your bro in-law buys the car for your family, who btw u and ur wife get the motor gan gan...... e get why i dey ask

Thank you. Freethought needs to think about this.

Knowing women for who they are, she will start behaving as if the entire money came from her brother only.

Greenfaces:
c180 Mercedes classic is a very good car. Very low maintainance and fuel cost. Its not flashy but its a very good car to start with and it's less than 3.5m

nice one

Freethought:
My wife loves the comfort that comes with a car(i mean, who wouldn't) , she talks about it everytime. Last year, i made some savings and decided to get a car buh unfortunately, with the help of a trusted mechanic, i made a bad buy which i sold at a loss shortly after i bought it.

This morning , my wife told me her younger brother wants to get her a car and she told him she has 1.5 million naira ready (she was asked dou). The guy promised to get the car for her this weekend as long as the 1.5 million is readily available.

Now my issue is, this 1.5 million she told her brother she has is the money i got from the sale of my bad purchased car. The boy did not know the source of the money and probably think his sister actually have 1.5m to add to what he has to get the car.

I really do not know what to do rn cos i know getting the car will make her very happy and i do not want to hinder that, but I'm not really comfortable with the whole arrangement. I really don't know what to do.

The car he wants to get, according to my wife is valued at 5m.

It's okay for you to be worried. Women no de too think issue deeply which is why they fall victim of rubbish that can be avoided if well reasoned.

The guy may have good intentions. But you really can't tell. Neither should you risk it without thinking it through. It doesn't matter if it is your money or your wife's money.
Ensure to get a picture of what the guy intends to your wife. Do some other level of validations before sending the money to the guy. I repeat. The guy. Not your wife. So the guy will know it's from you. E get why.

DeLaRue:
Hmm...it's a little complicated.

Even after her brother offered to put in N3.5m, your wife could have told him, that's very nice of you. I will discuss it with my husband and get back to you since he's the one providing the N1.5m balance.

It's just a respect thing.

But that didn't happen so the next best thing is for your wife to ask his brother to call you and discuss the purchase.

Again, that'll be a subtle way for your wife to send a message to her brother that her husband's participation in the decision to buy the car is necessary.

You calling your brother in law is not the right thing to do.

Tell your wife to ask his brother to call you.

If he calls, thank and appreciate him, and inform him you will give your wife the N1.5m to add to the purchase price.

If he refuses to call, then clearly your wife should not continue with the purchase.

You need to assert authority in a sensible, and considerate manner.

You sound like a gentleman and I appreciate you want the best for your wife. But certain things must be done.

DO NOT CALL THE GUY. YOU WILL LOSE RESPECT.

the brother will not help if he knows its the husband that own the 1.5m

Do not drop the money. Period.

Instead of thinking how to save more and work towards financial freedom, this fool wants to buy a car for his family. Chai! I pity you and your poverty driven wife. This nonsense ll only make her happy for a week, after one week, both of you r back to your poverty.

As a leader, are you not suppose to lead your family in d right direction. Car should d least of your worry for now if you have got brains

Wallade:


Don't worry brother, tell her to get her brother's account details for you and transfer the 1.5million naira to her brother so he can get the 5 million naira car for your wife.

I understand your fears but it is fine. Never mind.

You have a point. Freethought should ask the brother to send the money to him so he and his wife can go make the purchase by themselves

Escobar7:
To what end would you want your contribution to the purchase of the car noted?
Do you anticipate issues in the future that would warrant a refund to you or that you won't be given credit for the car eventually?
Is this ego induced?
My take is you want her to get a car, then go ahead. Whoever contributes doesn't matter to me, cos the whole point is that it is your wife's car. Or we go back to the questions.

Well, this is it, the car i bought that was sold was for me, the 1.5 i got after selling is still for me to save more to buy a car for me(not for my wife), even dou I'm still gon tag it family car, we both using it.

Now if i drop the money. How long before i save again to actually get a car of my own, considering there are other responsibilities, also the he brother will think he got his sister the car, making him have some kinda say on how the car is used... You know humans can be funny.. I know my wife to some extent but the boy is just my in law, I don't know what he's capable of.

Freethought:
My wife loves the comfort that comes with a car(i mean, who wouldn't) , she talks about it everytime. Last year, i made some savings and decided to get a car buh unfortunately, with the help of a trusted mechanic, i made a bad buy which i sold at a loss shortly after i bought it.

This morning , my wife told me her younger brother wants to get her a car and she told him she has 1.5 million naira ready (she was asked dou). The guy promised to get the car for her this weekend as long as the 1.5 million is readily available.

Now my issue is, this 1.5 million she told her brother she has is the money i got from the sale of my bad purchased car. The boy did not know the source of the money and probably think his sister actually have 1.5m to add to what he has to get the car.

I really do not know what to do rn cos i know getting the car will make her very happy and i do not want to hinder that, but I'm not really comfortable with the whole arrangement. I really don't know what to do.

The car he wants to get, according to my wife is valued at 5m.

Bro, I understand your situation seriously. Your wife has already made it look as if she is paying the 1.5m from her own pocket and not that you are paying for it.

Oga, if you don't have your own personal car and she wants to buy the car at all cost from your money, then you are in a marriage with a manipulative woman who is interested in her own comfort and she doesn't care about your feelings.

infotainment:

Bros no vex o.... After your bro in-law buys the car for your family, who btw u and ur wife get the motor gan gan...... e get why i dey ask

This is one of the things I'm saying. The guy is buying the car for his sister.

I will speak for the future of this matter. I am married and I have seen things like this happen. Do not hinder the gift (car) coming to your wife through your brother in law. Release the money and face your front. If you don't, the brother will still buy the car (he already has 3.5m) without you and you will be the enemy. Not just to your in-laws, but to the woman living with you. That is a dangerous trend. Assuming if the brother fails to buy the car (after you refused to release the money), your wife will never forget that you blocked her gift from manifesting (her brother will never be guilty in her eyes). You don't want to be seen as a blessing-blocker. Apply wisdom here.

Freethought:
My wife loves the comfort that comes with a car(i mean, who wouldn't) , she talks about it everytime. Last year, i made some savings and decided to get a car buh unfortunately, with the help of a trusted mechanic, i made a bad buy which i sold at a loss shortly after i bought it.

This morning , my wife told me her younger brother wants to get her a car and she told him she has 1.5 million naira ready (she was asked dou). The guy promised to get the car for her this weekend as long as the 1.5 million is readily available.

Now my issue is, this 1.5 million she told her brother she has is the money i got from the sale of my bad purchased car. The boy did not know the source of the money and probably think his sister actually have 1.5m to add to what he has to get the car.

I really do not know what to do rn cos i know getting the car will make her very happy and i do not want to hinder that, but I'm not really comfortable with the whole arrangement. I really don't know what to do.

The car he wants to get, according to my wife is valued at 5m.

Let me tell you how you're going to table everything.....
Bro! My wife told me about the promises and arrangements you had. No doubt, you're a kind person. You know she's always passionate about car. I hope say she no go wound herself with joy.
As maybe she must have hinted you, I made a bad buy with the help of one yeye mechanic which I have to sell shortly afterwards resulting to recovered loss of 1.5m.
I will transfer the 1.5m to her account incase.
I know she would be very happy.
Women with wahala.. thank God for the men around her though..........
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All of this to be said in her present while you're laughing enthusiastically with the said brother on phone.

WhiteBlack:
Instead of thinking how to save more and work towards financial freedom, this fool wants to buy a car for his family. Chai! I pity you and your poverty driven wife. This nonsense ll only make her happy for a week, after one week, both of you r back to your poverty.

As a leader, are you not suppose to lead your family in d right direction. Car should d least of your worry for now if you have got brains

Can you define "financial freedom" here?
Its like you don't know how importance a car is to a budding family. People talking like their motivational teachers. Go outside and see reality

This thing you said your wife wants is not going to help your family. No matter what she likes every woman should be contented with what the husband has and grow together with him with full support. For God sake no woman that doesn't want a car, luxury home, and all.
But not at the detriment of your husband finances.
You just bought and sold a car at loss over this issues, all I see is another disadvantage if you give that 1.5 m.

Like others have said if the brother wants to get a car for her sister, he should do it solely. Your wife should maybe give him a little more time

advanceDNA:



What happened to a 3.5M car if he actually wants to buy a car for his sister?? Why must it be 5M naira car...... Either ur wife wants to run u marital street or the brother wants to run ur wife//you confirm street..

Wateva the case is ...u won't like the outcome after u drop the money

I agree. He should be very careful. Loyalty and Honesty na very difficult thing these days, even amongst people we call family.

DeLaRue:
Hmm...it's a little complicated.

Even after her brother offered to put in N3.5m, your wife could have told him, that's very nice of you. I will discuss it with my husband and get back to you since he's the one providing the N1.5m balance.

It's just a respect thing.

But that didn't happen so the next best thing is for your wife to ask his brother to call you and discuss the purchase.

Again, that'll be a subtle way for your wife to send a message to her brother that her husband's participation in the decision to buy the car is necessary.

You calling your brother in law is not the right thing to do.

Tell your wife to ask his brother to call you.

If he calls, thank and appreciate him, and inform him you will give your wife the N1.5m to add to the purchase price.

If he refuses to call, then clearly your wife should not continue with the purchase.

You need to assert authority in a sensible, and considerate manner.

You sound like a gentleman and I appreciate you want the best for your wife. But certain things must be done.

DO NOT CALL THE GUY. YOU WILL LOSE RESPECT.

Thank you.
My thought exactly.

Montaque:
I will speak for the future of this matter. I am married and I have seen things like this happen. Do not hinder the gift (car) coming to your wife through your brother in law. Release the money and face your front. If you don't, the brother will still buy the car (he already has 3.5m) without you and you will be the enemy. Not just to your in-laws, but to the woman living with you. That is a dangerous trend. Assuming if the brother fails to buy the car (after you refused to release the money), your wife will never forget that you blocked her gift from manifesting (her brother will never be guilty in her eyes). You don't want to be seen as a blessing-blocker. Apply wisdom here.

This is not wisdom at all. This is slavery.

Maintaining car nor he beans oh. Anyone who struggles to buy a car will find it difficult to maintain the same car.

Engine oil is over 15k now. Not even synthetic oil oh. Fuel daily and other unplanned expenses due to bad road.

AchrafHakimi:


Deputy Simp with zero contribution.
PS: All married men are simps.

Are you kidding me?

Pharaoh4rin:



Are you kidding me?

All married men are simps.

Freethought:



Well, this is it, the car i bought that was sold was for me, the 1.5 i got after selling is still for me to save more to buy a car for me(not for my wife), even dou I'm still gon tag it family car, we both using it.

Now if i drop the money. How long before i save again to actually get a car of my own, considering there are other responsibilities, also the he brother will think he got his sister the car, making him have some kinda say on how the car is used... You know humans can be funny.. I know my wife to some extent but the boy is just my in law, I don't know what he's capable of.

Don't drop Money for the car it's not wise. A wife who stake her husband money without proper prior discussion with the husband, has not done well

Why would ur wife who knows the source of the money lie about it to her brother? That's wrong to me.

I suggest u don't get involved because the brother is younger than u to avoid disrespect.

Tell ur wife, to tell him, that the money belongs to her husband. She can chip it in whenever they re having a conversation about the car.


Don't confront her bro yourself!

DeLaRue:
Hmm...it's a little complicated.

Even after her brother offered to put in N3.5m, your wife could have told him, that's very nice of you. I will discuss it with my husband and get back to you since he's the one providing the N1.5m balance.

It's just a respect thing.

But that didn't happen so the next best thing is for your wife to ask his brother to call you and discuss the purchase.

Again, that'll be a subtle way for your wife to send a message to her brother that her husband's participation in the decision to buy the car is necessary.

You calling your brother in law is not the right thing to do.

Tell your wife to ask his brother to call you.

If he calls, thank and appreciate him, and inform him you will give your wife the N1.5m to add to the purchase price.

If he refuses to call, then clearly your wife should not continue with the purchase.

You need to assert authority in a sensible, and considerate manner.

You sound like a gentleman and I appreciate you want the best for your wife. But certain things must be done.

DO NOT CALL THE GUY. YOU WILL LOSE RESPECT.

When you see real men you will know

Freethought:
My wife loves the comfort that comes with a car(i mean, who wouldn't) , she talks about it everytime. Last year, i made some savings and decided to get a car buh unfortunately, with the help of a trusted mechanic, i made a bad buy which i sold at a loss shortly after i bought it.

This morning , my wife told me her younger brother wants to get her a car and she told him she has 1.5 million naira ready (she was asked dou). The guy promised to get the car for her this weekend as long as the 1.5 million is readily available.

Now my issue is, this 1.5 million she told her brother she has is the money i got from the sale of my bad purchased car. The boy did not know the source of the money and probably think his sister actually have 1.5m to add to what he has to get the car.

I really do not know what to do rn cos i know getting the car will make her very happy and i do not want to hinder that, but I'm not really comfortable with the whole arrangement. I really don't know what to do.

The car he wants to get, according to my wife is valued at 5m.

My own is that your picture shows only two cars there. I wont talk more than that. if u know, you know

Freethought:


Thank you.

@poster
You are just looking for people who will encourage you to call your wife's younger brother..you are either scared of your wife or her family because from the way you sound some of them if not all of them are doing better than you, but you are the king of your jungle.

Dont ever call that brother of hers, tell her to correct her mistake by telling him YOU are the one gifting her the 1.5meter and if he cant call you to square things then forget the whole matter, you must learb to know rules to bend and when to stand your ground.

Your wife does not respect you enough, you are to weak.

THERE IS A VERY THIN LINE BETWEEN BEING A GENTLE MAN AND A SIMP. VERY VERY THIN LINE.