| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by aysnoopy(m): 9:27pm On Feb 09 |
folake4u:
Awww, sorry about that.
I hope things turn out well for you. I pray so. It's really hard But there is still hope for the living 2 Likes |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by folake4u(f): 11:21pm On Feb 09 |
Proserpina:
This op deserves the Vawulence . He is one of the redpill trolls I avoid because he will always want to have the last say. Even when you agree he is right, he will raise a point to disagree. When you leave his mention unanswered he will lurk around to wait for someone to oppose you then he will mention that person to gossip/ talk about you. Very annoying being..... Now I understand better.
Lol.... I stay awake to read those posts sometimes  It serves him right. It's actually very embarrassing when I see some really old monickers troll/ say nasty things about women all in the name of "Redpill". Now that he's joblesss, he can dedicate 24/7 trolling. Omoo! Stay awake ke? No oh. You people have turned me to early bird in this Lagos. I now sleep 9pm/10pm on weekdays  1 Like |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by kkins25(m): 2:30am On Feb 10 |
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| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by Tallesty1(m): 4:47pm On Feb 10 |
aysnoopy:
Let me share my story to you maybe u can blame me at the end or understand why such things happen to me
Back in February 2018, my mom met a woman, she's the zonal director of one of the federal government Agency that are into road repairs, since its base on civil engineering works, so she told me that I should come and work in her office as a casual staff, pending the time I'll be fully employed as a staff. She promised that whenever it's time for employment, she'll be of help
I work as a casual staff and got 20k monthly payment. I met some people there also waiting to be employed and since I'm the only civil engineering graduate there, I av an edge.
After 2 years, they increase it to 30k. She told me that they don't usually employ so fast like that but she assure me.
After 3 yrs, it's now time to employ people. To my surprise I wasn't employed
She told me she'll work on it. Took my credentials to Abuja but still doesn't work.
In year 2022, she retires from service, it was later I got into that she has slot since she's a director (level 17). She gave it to some other people, one of them even came to work in d office 2 years after me. But since she's one of the daughters of her friend, so she gave her and neglect me. And u can't believe I'm d one working closely with her. After her driver, I'm next.
So, that's what kept me working in that organisation. I was used and dumped and was left to my fate.
Where can I start from when all my mates have left me behind. Nobody left you behind; you came here alone. You will experience life differently, make decisions on your own, and eventually leave alone. You won't get any better if you continue comparing yourself with your mates. It has never helped anyone and will never help you. Many of my mates are dead, I know some who are mad, I have some that I drop something for whenever we meet because they think I am better, and there are some that won't even shake my hands because they feel I am way below them. Life is unfairly fair. I have read your story, and I still can't blame you. You did what you thought was right, and you had your reasons. You wouldn't be complaining if it had worked out as it should have. That is life for you. You have enough time for anything. This is the second month of the year. If you acquire a good skill, you will earn better next year. Take this from someone who has touched money and lost it all. You just have to learn to read the room and improve your decision-making skills. You have an advantage over some of us; you go school, I no go. You can get a better job; I don't have that hope. But what I did, knowing how disadvantaged I am, is to keep acquiring skills. I have been doing that since 2011, and I am still on it, and I tell you that this one won't be my last. If you see me talking about doing this type of work and that other type of work, you might think I am exaggerating, but it is all true. A jack of all trades may be a master of none, but he is often times better than a master of one. I get by. A couple of years back, I made some incredibly fvcked up decisions and was broke just when my rent was due. I saw my ears. Just when I was about to be thrown out, someone linked me up to a job in town. It didn't pay well, but it sorted my current need. What else could one ask for in a time like that? But that was possible because I knew how to do the work. Keep learning something. Someone was calling me for work the other day; I kept postponing because I was busy. At one point, she was like, "Uchenna, you don dey get pride." I replied, "Ma'am, it has always been there, you just didn't notice it quickly." She said, "Just know that nobody is indispensable." I said, "True, but some cannot truly be replaced." We laughed over it, and I promised to do it the next day. She waited because she knew I could do it to perfection. I learned that skill within a year. You can learn a better one in less than a year. No hope is lost chief. When a man wakes is his own morning. Take time to think things through, then decide on what you are sure you would be good at and learn it. Soon, you will be fine. As bad as Nigeria may get, you will get by if you offer some value to people; they will find you. The lady in the conversation above, if I tell you her office in ABJ here, you will think I am mad for talking to her that way, and you will be right. First time in her office, I showed up dressed the way I was, and naturally, I don't look like much, so imagine a guy like that dressed so casually you'd think he isn't serious showing in the office of all these Abuja women? She could have thrown me out if I wasn't recommended by someone. The way she talked to me and all was like I have a disease or something. Well, I gave my quotation, and she asked me why it was more expensive than the others. I gave her another one that was in the same price range as others, and a third one was just the first one without the prices, except for my workmanship. She, of course, wanted to know why, and I explained to her that the first one is the one I recommend because all the materials are of the best quality, the second is cheap because others will use just okay or good enough for some time materials, and the third is just my charge. She will get whatever materials she chooses, and I will use them to work for her. Something for everyone. She promised to get back; the next morning, she texted me the address to her house and told me to see her in the afternoon. I did. In her house, I searched for a chair that is "within or a little above my level," but she didn't have one, so I chose to stand. She kuku didn't offer me one. We went over the whole thing again. Finally, she chose option A but asked me to reduce my workmanship. I told her, " NO" and told her that my charge is not negotiable. When she asked why, I told her, " I don't use price to attract or keep customers; I rely on good work." I learned that as a phone/laptop repairer. Poorly charged work is usually the most difficult to execute. Customers will be like, "Please, help me," and if you mistakenly accept, you will end up spending the whole day on that particular work and may not finish it. If you charge low, you may get the deal and more deals but there is a problem, you will be working with nothing to show for it because the money usually finish before you even complete your work or you will abandon work because the money has finished or you will look for another work to use the mobilization fee to complete the current one or you will start giving excuses and avoiding the owner. It is a terrible endless loop from hell. Always remember that. Don't, no matter how much you need the money, accept a crappy deal because you hope to get another one from the client. It usually doesn't happen because they know that what they are giving you is crap money, so you accepting it gives them a poor opinion about you and puts a question mark on your ability to handle bigger jobs. The lady in my story can wait for me for a few days even though I will charge her more. Her husband said I used Nsukka charm. If you know your worth, then settle for it or more; settling for less makes you less. Good luck, bro. 12 Likes 8 Shares |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by unleashedcareer: 6:18pm On Feb 10 |
Ending it all can sometime feel like the only way out. I would recommend the following
- Remember all careers go through hard times. It’s made up of ups and downs - this is a down for you but without a down you can’t appreciate an up
- start getting active - do things to improve your mental health including exercise but also make refreshing your CV and applying for jobs -
- use refreshing your CV as an opportunity to remind yourself of how good you are and your achievements
I can go on but you the big thing is , this is not the end but just another chapter in your life. As long as you are alive, you have hope and can start another chapter in your life |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by aysnoopy(m): 8:28am On Feb 11 |
Tallesty1:
Nobody left you behind; you came here alone. You will experience life differently, make decisions on your own, and eventually leave alone.
You won't get any better if you continue comparing yourself with your mates. It has never helped anyone and will never help you.
Many of my mates are dead, I know some who are mad, I have some that I drop something for whenever we meet because they think I am better, and there are some that won't even shake my hands because they feel I am way below them. Life is unfairly fair.
I have read your story, and I still can't blame you. You did what you thought was right, and you had your reasons. You wouldn't be complaining if it had worked out as it should have. That is life for you.
You have enough time for anything. This is the second month of the year. If you acquire a good skill, you will earn better next year. Take this from someone who has touched money and lost it all.
You just have to learn to read the room and improve your decision-making skills. You have an advantage over some of us; you go school, I no go. You can get a better job; I don't have that hope. But what I did, knowing how disadvantaged I am, is to keep acquiring skills. I have been doing that since 2011, and I am still on it, and I tell you that this one won't be my last.
If you see me talking about doing this type of work and that other type of work, you might think I am exaggerating, but it is all true. A jack of all trades may be a master of none, but he is often times better than a master of one. I get by.
A couple of years back, I made some incredibly fvcked up decisions and was broke just when my rent was due. I saw my ears. Just when I was about to be thrown out, someone linked me up to a job in town. It didn't pay well, but it sorted my current need. What else could one ask for in a time like that? But that was possible because I knew how to do the work.
Keep learning something.
Someone was calling me for work the other day; I kept postponing because I was busy. At one point, she was like, "Uchenna, you don dey get pride." I replied, "Ma'am, it has always been there, you just didn't notice it quickly." She said, "Just know that nobody is indispensable." I said, "True, but some cannot truly be replaced." We laughed over it, and I promised to do it the next day. She waited because she knew I could do it to perfection.
I learned that skill within a year.
You can learn a better one in less than a year.
No hope is lost chief. When a man wakes is his own morning. Take time to think things through, then decide on what you are sure you would be good at and learn it. Soon, you will be fine.
As bad as Nigeria may get, you will get by if you offer some value to people; they will find you.
The lady in the conversation above, if I tell you her office in ABJ here, you will think I am mad for talking to her that way, and you will be right. First time in her office, I showed up dressed the way I was, and naturally, I don't look like much, so imagine a guy like that dressed so casually you'd think he isn't serious showing in the office of all these Abuja women?
She could have thrown me out if I wasn't recommended by someone. The way she talked to me and all was like I have a disease or something. Well, I gave my quotation, and she asked me why it was more expensive than the others. I gave her another one that was in the same price range as others, and a third one was just the first one without the prices, except for my workmanship.
She, of course, wanted to know why, and I explained to her that the first one is the one I recommend because all the materials are of the best quality, the second is cheap because others will use just okay or good enough for some time materials, and the third is just my charge. She will get whatever materials she chooses, and I will use them to work for her. Something for everyone.
She promised to get back; the next morning, she texted me the address to her house and told me to see her in the afternoon. I did. In her house, I searched for a chair that is "within or a little above my level," but she didn't have one, so I chose to stand. She kuku didn't offer me one.
We went over the whole thing again. Finally, she chose option A but asked me to reduce my workmanship. I told her, "NO" and told her that my charge is not negotiable. When she asked why, I told her, "I don't use price to attract or keep customers; I rely on good work."
I learned that as a phone/laptop repairer. Poorly charged work is usually the most difficult to execute. Customers will be like, "Please, help me," and if you mistakenly accept, you will end up spending the whole day on that particular work and may not finish it.
If you charge low, you may get the deal and more deals but there is a problem, you will be working with nothing to show for it because the money usually finish before you even complete your work or you will abandon work because the money has finished or you will look for another work to use the mobilization fee to complete the current one or you will start giving excuses and avoiding the owner. It is a terrible endless loop from hell.
Always remember that. Don't, no matter how much you need the money, accept a crappy deal because you hope to get another one from the client. It usually doesn't happen because they know that what they are giving you is crap money, so you accepting it gives them a poor opinion about you and puts a question mark on your ability to handle bigger jobs.
The lady in my story can wait for me for a few days even though I will charge her more. Her husband said I used Nsukka charm.
If you know your worth, then settle for it or more; settling for less makes you less.
Good luck, bro. I'm totally speechless. Thanks so much for your advice and words of encouragement. I appreciate I'll like to ask, like what kind of profitable skills on can learn within a year. I'll appreciate if u can provide me some few to choose from |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by tensazangetsu20(m): 1:02pm On Feb 11 |
Tallesty1:
Nobody left you behind; you came here alone. You will experience life differently, make decisions on your own, and eventually leave alone.
You won't get any better if you continue comparing yourself with your mates. It has never helped anyone and will never help you.
Many of my mates are dead, I know some who are mad, I have some that I drop something for whenever we meet because they think I am better, and there are some that won't even shake my hands because they feel I am way below them. Life is unfairly fair.
I have read your story, and I still can't blame you. You did what you thought was right, and you had your reasons. You wouldn't be complaining if it had worked out as it should have. That is life for you.
You have enough time for anything. This is the second month of the year. If you acquire a good skill, you will earn better next year. Take this from someone who has touched money and lost it all.
You just have to learn to read the room and improve your decision-making skills. You have an advantage over some of us; you go school, I no go. You can get a better job; I don't have that hope. But what I did, knowing how disadvantaged I am, is to keep acquiring skills. I have been doing that since 2011, and I am still on it, and I tell you that this one won't be my last.
If you see me talking about doing this type of work and that other type of work, you might think I am exaggerating, but it is all true. A jack of all trades may be a master of none, but he is often times better than a master of one. I get by.
A couple of years back, I made some incredibly fvcked up decisions and was broke just when my rent was due. I saw my ears. Just when I was about to be thrown out, someone linked me up to a job in town. It didn't pay well, but it sorted my current need. What else could one ask for in a time like that? But that was possible because I knew how to do the work.
Keep learning something.
Someone was calling me for work the other day; I kept postponing because I was busy. At one point, she was like, "Uchenna, you don dey get pride." I replied, "Ma'am, it has always been there, you just didn't notice it quickly." She said, "Just know that nobody is indispensable." I said, "True, but some cannot truly be replaced." We laughed over it, and I promised to do it the next day. She waited because she knew I could do it to perfection.
I learned that skill within a year.
You can learn a better one in less than a year.
No hope is lost chief. When a man wakes is his own morning. Take time to think things through, then decide on what you are sure you would be good at and learn it. Soon, you will be fine.
As bad as Nigeria may get, you will get by if you offer some value to people; they will find you.
The lady in the conversation above, if I tell you her office in ABJ here, you will think I am mad for talking to her that way, and you will be right. First time in her office, I showed up dressed the way I was, and naturally, I don't look like much, so imagine a guy like that dressed so casually you'd think he isn't serious showing in the office of all these Abuja women?
She could have thrown me out if I wasn't recommended by someone. The way she talked to me and all was like I have a disease or something. Well, I gave my quotation, and she asked me why it was more expensive than the others. I gave her another one that was in the same price range as others, and a third one was just the first one without the prices, except for my workmanship.
She, of course, wanted to know why, and I explained to her that the first one is the one I recommend because all the materials are of the best quality, the second is cheap because others will use just okay or good enough for some time materials, and the third is just my charge. She will get whatever materials she chooses, and I will use them to work for her. Something for everyone.
She promised to get back; the next morning, she texted me the address to her house and told me to see her in the afternoon. I did. In her house, I searched for a chair that is "within or a little above my level," but she didn't have one, so I chose to stand. She kuku didn't offer me one.
We went over the whole thing again. Finally, she chose option A but asked me to reduce my workmanship. I told her, "NO" and told her that my charge is not negotiable. When she asked why, I told her, "I don't use price to attract or keep customers; I rely on good work."
I learned that as a phone/laptop repairer. Poorly charged work is usually the most difficult to execute. Customers will be like, "Please, help me," and if you mistakenly accept, you will end up spending the whole day on that particular work and may not finish it.
If you charge low, you may get the deal and more deals but there is a problem, you will be working with nothing to show for it because the money usually finish before you even complete your work or you will abandon work because the money has finished or you will look for another work to use the mobilization fee to complete the current one or you will start giving excuses and avoiding the owner. It is a terrible endless loop from hell.
Always remember that. Don't, no matter how much you need the money, accept a crappy deal because you hope to get another one from the client. It usually doesn't happen because they know that what they are giving you is crap money, so you accepting it gives them a poor opinion about you and puts a question mark on your ability to handle bigger jobs.
The lady in my story can wait for me for a few days even though I will charge her more. Her husband said I used Nsukka charm.
If you know your worth, then settle for it or more; settling for less makes you less.
Good luck, bro. This is one of the best things I have read this year. Thanks for taking the time to write this. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by biographyinsigh: 2:02pm On Feb 11 |
Parents don't regret training their children, you shouldn't regret training your siblings. It may be hard and they may not even care about you yet, just be happy and look unto a brighter day.
A bigger job will come knocking, just a matter of few weeks. Be strong |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by vikgreen01(m): 4:30pm On Feb 11 |
aysnoopy:
Can you see you're not alone. At least u have 16k to your name while I've 85k loan debt, 37k debt for my son sch fee, 66k balance for house rent, and 10k palmpay debt. With less than 5k in my acct. So, tell me, are u d one to end it or me?
Be strong bro Fairmoney 375k to pay 581k Carbon 100k to pay 153k Aella 84k to pay 104k Palmcredit 34 to pay 100k. They keep adding i don tired. All loan since April last year. Na to trace me and arrest me remain. I'm heavy... |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by vikgreen01(m): 4:30pm On Feb 11 |
englishmart:
I'm owning stanbic over 500k. Let's not even go there. Fairmoney 375k to pay 581k Carbon 100k to pay 153k Aella 84k to pay 104k Palmcredit 34 to pay 100k. They keep adding i don tired. All loan since April last year. Na to trace me and arrest me remain. I'm heavy... |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by vikgreen01(m): 4:35pm On Feb 11 |
superintendents:
boss man make we stay strong,we plenty oo,am owning almost 70k I swear..I don't even know where to start from..
Fairmoney 375k to pay 581k Carbon 100k to pay 153k Aella 84k to pay 104k Palmcredit 34 to pay 100k. They keep adding i don tired. All loan since April last year. Na to trace me and arrest me remain. I'm heavy... 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by superintendents(m): 5:35pm On Feb 11 |
vikgreen01:
Fairmoney 375k to pay 581k
Carbon 100k to pay 153k
Aella 84k to pay 104k
Palmcredit 34 to pay 100k. They keep adding i don tired.
All loan since April last year. Na to trace me and arrest me remain. I'm heavy... boss, serious.. Omo make I rest,be strong don't think of ending it because of them.. They are criminals and scammer too.. |
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| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by vikgreen01(m): 10:06am On Feb 12 |
superintendents:
boss, serious..
Omo make I rest,be strong don't think of ending it because of them..
They are criminals and scammer too.. 🙏🙏 |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by descarado: 11:29am On Feb 13 |
Wonder why most men don't see anything to do with women hari as lucrative.
Nigerian women are the world's biggest spender on anything hair and male hair dresser is a bomb.
Or,is the skill emasculating? 1 Like |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by descarado: 11:31am On Feb 13 |
englishmart:
It's fine, sir. It is not fine. What is wrong with you people? |
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| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by englishmart(m): 4:17pm On Feb 14 |
descarado:
It is not fine.
What is wrong with you people? What should I have said to someone who said he wished he could help? |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by Tahira01: 3:09am On Apr 05 |
Has anyone being a victim of nutloan crediting them without requesting for it before. 1 Like |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by englishmart(m): 12:32pm On Apr 06 |
Tahira01:
Has anyone being a victim of nutloan crediting them without requesting for it before. No. Tell me about it |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by winko17(m): 1:34pm On Apr 19 |
How can we sue them abeg. Am a victim. I told this lady I don't want before I know it I was credited a particular amount |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by noble2faith(m): 10:30pm On Apr 20 |
Ejanlaa:
Mr Seun pls I want to beg your official assistance, I want to apply for the post of a moderator , I’ll be pleased I look into my request HOW MUCH IS THE SALARY OF MODERATOR? |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by noble2faith(m): 10:45pm On Apr 20 |
So the OP na women basher!😂
The way misogyny is being taken on this platform is so alarming! As in, the hate is just too much!
Something tragic involving two lovers or couple would happen and it would be so obvious that the male was at fault, yet the misogynists on this platform would be blaming the female. Maka why? Any man that treats his wife well will be tagged a SIMP.
If thorough research is conducted about that Jennyclay girl, misogyny on this platform made her to be like that. She is acting like that as response to the misogynists or alpha males. Well, I see them as a pack of misguided folks! |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by Johnwrite(m): 10:19am On Apr 21 |
This time around in Nigeria job will just keep you stagnant, the best option is having your self business oo, but most times in depends on the kind of job you are doing sha 1 Like |
| Re: I Just Lost My Job. I Feel devastated by lavylilly: 12:33pm On Apr 21 |
descarado:
Wonder why most men don't see anything to do with women hari as lucrative.
Nigerian women are the world's biggest spender on anything hair and male hair dresser is a bomb.
Or,is the skill emasculating? True but you have to learn to differentiate between business and pleasure because it will come a time they would tell you they don't have money 🤑 and you request for anything because they want free stuff, if you get my drift |
