I want this thread to be a sort of poll, my observation in some news report and from what I have witnessed in court during divorce cases to extent, large percentage of men complained of sex denial from their spouse, stemming from a lot of excuses, I made my hair, I worked so hard in the office today, I am tired, they children gave a lot tough time etc
Most married women now see sex as to be had when they want to be pregnant, I have read and heard from married men who said they haven't had intimacy for upward of between three to six month with their wife.
Has this been your experience?

Replies please, wanna know why married men chase after young girls.

A lot of married people dont get as much sex in their house

They have to look outside for it

OP with multiple monikers ..... una well done oh ! Maybe you and your likes should get your acts together and stop chasing & flashing those useless married men for money.

Face your studies for starters yes? I pity the bastards y'all will end up with and you know what? Karma's is a REAL BIATCH the cycle will continue with y'all kids too.

indigene: I want this thread to be a sort of poll, my observation in some news report and from what I have witnessed in court during divorce cases to extent, large percentage of men complained of sex denial from their spouse, stemming from a lot of excuses, I made my hair, I worked so hard in the office today, I am tired, they children gave a lot tough time etc
Most married women now see sex as to be had when they want to be pregnant, I have read and heard from married men who said they haven't had intimacy for upward of between three to six month with their wife.
Has this been your experience?

blame the moral code and the religious houses.
their intransigent view about pre-marital sex is destroying marriages. people get married to discover they are not sëxually compatible with their partners!

some work hard at making it work and sail through while others couldn't make it work no matter how hard they tried. marriage is a lifetime contract. it's imperative both parties get a taste of what is to come. there's a reason born again christians have the highest divorce rate...

maybe if they did their homework before marriage, things wouldn't be so bad for them!

C qeshion! U can start by gettin married if u r not,then ask ur husband.I think experience is d best teacher here.

coogar:

blame the moral code and the religious houses.
their intransigent view about pre-marital sex is destroying marriages. people get married to discover they are not sëxually compatible with their partners!

some work hard at making it work and sail through while others couldn't make it work no matter how hard they tried. marriage is a lifetime contract. it's imperative both parties get a taste of what is to come. there's a reason born again christians have the highest divorce rate...

maybe if they did their homework before marriage, things wouldn't be so bad for them!

Well said.

Yes,i think so.The way they run around singles and young girls like crazed beasts without any form of shame is enough to tell.

Eyes opening streaming

There's no denials that this can be true, from the grapevine, these women who are now claiming to be anointed women and pastor's of god seems to be the worst culprit.Their husbands are teeth grinding all night and day. Could you imagine, one of them when her husband wants to make a move, it will be the holy spirit do not approve, this goes on and on until the marriage crashed with a thud

Well every marriage is different then. I'm usually the one chasing Mr Oga up and down. I might go and meet the driver if he keeps rejecting me

Daresh: Well every marriage is different then. I'm usually the one chasing Mr Oga up and down. I might go and meet the driver if he keeps rejecting me

i wouldn't be more pleased if you can carry out this thought....

The typical marriage goes like this, stage by stage:

Early in the marriage before kids - your careers are blooming, money seems to be enough so no worries, the sex is regular/frequent

The baby/growing years of your kids - Money worries as you have more mouths to care for, kids take a lot of your attention so you are both easily fatigued as you try to balance everything

Kids are relatively grown up - your finances have gotten better so less money worries, your kids don't need as much attention as before, kids can help with chores and you are both less fatigued = more sex

MMotimo: The typical marriage goes like this, stage by stage:

Early in the marriage before kids - your careers are blooming, money seems to be enough so no worries, the sex is regular/frequent

The baby/growing years of your kids - Money worries as you have more mouths to care for, kids take a lot of your attention so you are both easily fatigued as you try to balance everything

Kids are relatively grown up - your finances have gotten better so less money worries, your kids don't need as much attention as before, kids can help with chores and you are both less fatigued = more sex

A disconnection can ensue in the course of the second bridge if both parties aren't in synchronising conformity to accepting the distress of sex deprivation. Compromising on that aspect is really going to be some kind of herculean task except offcourse on medical grounds.

miredia: A disconnection can ensue in the course of the second bridge if both parties aren't in synchronising conformity to accepting the distress of sex deprivation. Compromising on that aspect is really going to be some kind of herculean task except offcourse on medical grounds.

Too much grammar just to say the man may be sexually deprived
Well, that may be true so I should have added that it's not like no sex at all, just that **gasp** there really are more pressing priorities than sex. This will probably be the phase when you can count how often you do it. Those would be the days of once in two weeks, once a month, etc, the days when sleep carry a higher premium than sex

MMotimo:


Too much grammar just to say the man may be sexually deprived
Well, that may be true so I should have added that it's not like no sex at all, just that **gasp** there really are more pressing priorities than sex. This will probably be the phase when you can count how often you do it. Those would be the days of once in two weeks, once a month, etc, the days when sleep carry a higher premium than sex

u ehnnn....so true at sleep carrying a higher premium

No matter how busy you are, you MUST make time for your partner. No excuses.

coogar:

blame the moral code and the religious houses.
their intransigent view about pre-marital sex is destroying marriages. people get married to discover they are not sëxually compatible with their partners!

some work hard at making it work and sail through while others couldn't make it work no matter how hard they tried. marriage is a lifetime contract. it's imperative both parties get a taste of what is to come. there's a reason born again christians have the highest divorce rate...

maybe if they did their homework before marriage, things wouldn't be so bad for them!

Blame morality and religion? May be we should all just become immoral abi? The poster is suggesting some women do not make enough time for their husbands and you think the best way to stop this is to encourage immorality before marriage? How many people will you sample before marriage? ehn? And I am sure you would encourage people to marry the person that gave them the best sex. Sorry sex is not everything in marriage, while I agree it is important, it is certainly not the most important.

Back to the topic, woman should just understand the role of sex in marriage, and not just sex, the importance of spending time together and enjoying the marriage. Marriage is not the destination, it is just the beginning of a very long journey. It needs to be worked on and nurtured. Making excuses like I just made my hair is silly, but there is nothing love and communication cannot solve. I never encourage cheating, but both parties need to understand their roles in marriage.

Op why are you guys so interested in why they are sex starved? Really forget the born again people, what about those that get quality sex and styles from their wife's and they still go about chasing girls in skirts. And what about the Monikas that can't allow married men be. Always chasing after them likes Bees. Remember Karma is sure a bitch, You can never run away from it at all. If you can't pity yourself at least pity your generation. Don't transfer curses to your children. Hmmm, i tire for some people sef. Is it by force to get married if you know you can't stick with one person why did you marry na? You should have remained single and sleep with as many girls as you like.

Nashville:
Blame morality and religion? May be we should all just become immoral abi? The poster is suggesting some women do not make enough time for their husbands and you think the best way to stop this is to encourage immorality before marriage?

so what is immoral in 2 people in love making love before marriage. it's this same hypocrisy that has turned nigeria into a shïthole. ever since the church has been demanding people to refrain from pre-marital sëx, how has it helped christian marriages in nigeria? why do christians have more divorce rate than the pagans? keep deluding yourself that the present method works.....

How many people will you sample before marriage? ehn? And I am sure you would encourage people to marry the person that gave them the best sex. Sorry sex is not everything in marriage, while I agree it is important, it is certainly not the most important.

sex is everything in marriage.
without sex, people would not marry. that i support pre-marital sex does not mean people should do it indiscriminately. the same men women shun off go to whörehouses later to satisfy their urges. maybe if their partners are responsive, pröstitution wouldn't thrive as much in nigeria.

Some are and Some are not.

CAPITAL YES! No wonder there is high rate of infidelity amongst men. This is one of the major reasons why you see married men running after young ladies, because their wives starve them of sex. As a matter of fact, i am a living witness.
Immediately they get married with their husband, everything will just change. Wives! you are one of the major reasons wife married men philander.

No they are not. They are only bored!
Or try to hide their BISEXUALITY by running after poohsies. . . ALL TO POSE!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IuV_ewXWbB0

coogar:

so what is immoral in 2 people in love making love before marriage. it's this same hypocrisy that has turned nigeria into a shïthole. ever since the church has been demanding people to refrain from pre-marital sëx, how has it helped christian marriages in nigeria? why do christians have more divorce rate than the pagans? keep deluding yourself that the present method works.....



sex is everything in marriage.
without sex, people would not marry. that i support pre-marital sex does not mean people should do it indiscriminately. the same men women shun off go to whörehouses later to satisfy their urges. maybe if their partners are responsive, pröstitution wouldn't thrive as much in nigeria.

SMH.
Using wrong to justify wrong.

indigene: There's no denials that this can be true, from the grapevine, these women who are now claiming to be anointed women and pastor's of god seems to be the worst culprit.There husbands are teeth grinder all night and day. Could you imagine, one of them when her husband wants to make a move, it will be the holy spirit do not approve, these goes on and on until the marriage crashed with a thud

hahahahahahaha! U made my day with ur humoUr dear! By d way,tell me what u wrote here was merely a joke out of your rich imagination and was never real? By d way,looooooool@crashed with a loud thud! Good evening!

A lot of married men are; unless they are getting extra from outside the home. The average male has a higher drive than his wife. She does all the housework, deals with the kids and is exhausted.. He is Hot, she is not. Teeth gnashing begins. He can manage and become a very sad married man or do what most men do

coogar:

blame the moral code and the religious houses.
their intransigent view about pre-marital sex is destroying marriages. people get married to discover they are not sëxually compatible with their partners!

some work hard at making it work and sail through while others couldn't make it work no matter how hard they tried. marriage is a lifetime contract. it's imperative both parties get a taste of what is to come. there's a reason born again christians have the highest divorce rate...

maybe if they did their homework before marriage, things wouldn't be so bad for them!

Countries where arranged marriages are common, is divorce common there? I can't believe you decided to blame christainity for high divorce rates. So pre-marital sex should now be accepted? If a young girl you know sleeps with over 20 men , trying to find out if she is compatible with any of them, you will be part of the people that label her Promiscuous,you know?

slimyem: Yes,i think so.The way they run around singles and young girls like crazed beasts without any form of shame is enough to tell.

Seems you have had an experience from the tone of your writing. Can you please share?

Yes, married men are sex starved. It is the butt of most British, American, Yugoslavian, Chechnya, Australian, African and Chinese jokes. Except maybe Arabs. Arabs don't have this problem. Maybe because they are polygamous, who knows.

Women have never considered sex as important as men do. It gets worse when they marry. A friend complained that before the wedding his babe was a sexual gymnast, pulling off stunts that would make porn stars green with envy. After wedding she started telling him 'sex was not food'. When she got her first kid he stayed 5months without sex. Nothing at all. He started masturbating and watching porn. He started greeting the office girls a little more nicely. He tried to make things better by helping madam at home, cooking, cleaning , washing clothes, all so she could rest and be more willing to be intimate. For where, nothing happened.
The sexual wilderness was finally broken after a bout of quarreling and threats.

Guy still hangs out with us at boys round table and from his talks you know he misses the good old days, but he's claiming 'born again' type so he keeps himself to himself.

I give him a couple more years before he 'falls to temptation'

That's why a man shouldn't let his wife get exhausted.
He can help out with house work and other things as the need arises. So that they can both be stress free and have the energy to consume each other at night

ayinba1: A lot of married men are; unless they are getting extra from outside the home. The average male has a higher drive than his wife. She does all the housework, deals with the kids and is exhausted.. He is Hot, she is not. Teeth gnashing begins. He can manage and become a very sad married man or do what most men do

coogar:

i wouldn't be more pleased if you can carry out this thought....

Are you the driver in question?