CHM11:

Thank you...
Anybody who have served in the east or even rivers state(where east based igbos are the majority) know what I'm saying... Its very very hard to understand them... To them its right if they spit on you, but when you spit on them they want to start fighting....
Anyway, its better for them to live amongst themselves.
Whoever likes should hate my comment but I just spoke the truth.

EAST BASED IGBOS ARE A WEIRD...someone shoot me!!!!!!

Blitz888:
Anambrarians can't do without their mums... Don't blame us.

squaddy:


FYI, my elder bro got married to fulani(believe it or not). I myself do not have an issue with marrying from any ethnic group and I know I speak for majority of the Igbos when I say so.
So for you to come here and agree with this hate filled assumption means you are either the myopic one here or you are j
ust another hate filled I.d.iat.z

A friend of mine has being dating a guy for some years now. She's not an Anambrarian. She's a very lovely lady,beautiful, kind, down to earth and she loves the guy so much.

I'm worried because the guy hasn't proposed and he is from Anambra state . I don't know if he'll eventually marry her because I've heard and I've seen a lot of people from Anambra state marrying from their tribe.

I need to know why they do that even when most times it's against their wish. What's your advice for her? Don't you think that the guy may eventually leave her for an Anambra Lady?

Thanks

bigfrancis21:


You've kept on mentioning this particular thing again and again and I've asked you, what exactly is weird about them? What exactly don't you understand about them? And what was your experience?

CHM11:

Its not worth deliberating on nairaland bro, it will only create more hate by other tribes on the igbos.
My comments about my experience with the east based igbos I encountered was to help others reading so that they can change and learn to understand that in the next 100 years other tribes will still exist and everybody deserves respect.

whatx:



N#gger grow up. If you be dangote you nor go deynairaland9 on a Sunday. So shut up.

Hhn hnn hnn (Pete edochie laugh)

maestroferddi:
Stop the cheap lies.

When it comes to tribalism, Yorubas have no match in Nigeria.

Just see what they are doing in Nigerian banking industry...

SkinnyDude:

and this is my problem with you anti-igbos. na generalization go kill all of una. i have to point out where they came from, since the Op is mad and doesn't know she shouldn't judge a whole tribe with her cousin's BF or wharever!

kayciano:
The next SHAMELESS THREAD WILL BE...
Y do IGBOS give birth to IGBOS...?

Y did COCA COLA decide to show IGBOS, so much RESPECT....?

Mrbigman1:


Must every relationship lead to marriage?

Samson in the bible, do u remember him?
He left the Hebrew for a philistine and that was the beginning of his end.
It's always good to know the family background of who u wanna marry, not every body u see in church or on the street is worth keeping at home.
Some re just not even good enough to see ur home, a short time in a hotel would do.
Phew!!!

kayciano:
The next SHAMELESS THREAD WILL BE...
Y do IGBOS give birth to IGBOS...?

Y did COCA COLA decide to show IGBOS, so much RESPECT....?
Just on hearing IGBO, some people start having TREMOR and ORGASM..

OUR daughters are beautiful and enchanting.
Our children will always remain at the HELM of beauty in NIGERIA..
When it is time for dating and Marriage, every TRIBE associates with US....

Very soon DOCTORS will start making DIAGNOSIS of IGBO APPREHENSION DEPRESSIVE DISORDERS

OUR sons are NEAT and ROMANTIC..

Ishilove:

Simple. Wisdom will save them a lot of heart ache in the long run.

bigfrancis21:


If it is not worth deliberating on, why mentioning it in the first place? Do you know you are only being unnecessarily tribalistic and incoherent by what you are doing? If you have an accusation in mind, why not be specific about your actual charges? Why bring up an accusation when you barely don't have any charges in the first place? That is not how the court of law works.

onila:
most of the Nigerian men that treat me badly are Igbo men

remember one time in highschool
some igbo boys read my diary

and told me to commit suicide

how mean

CHM11:
Dear OP, please leave igbos alone if you are not igbo. Let them keep marrying themselves, its better for them.

I just pity peeps who date igbos!!,..especially igbos who live or have lived in the east...how do you cope with them??

Had to live amongst some east-based igbo guys and ladies during my NYSC..... Worst experience of my life....
Its worse that when they are told they are hard to understand, they all fall back to insulting in their local dialect.. You will hear things like ewu, anuofia etc...proving my point again....

igbo ndị karịsịa ndị na-dabeere nọ n'ebe ọwụwa anyanwụ dị
nnọọ na-akpa ọchị ndị mmadụ. Ha anaghị akpa àgwà ka
nkịtị mmadụ. Ndị njem dị anya ma obosara ịmụta na-akpa
àgwà dị mma ma ndị na-ahụ n'ebe ọwụwa anyanwụ bụ nanị
larịị na ụmụ anụmanụ. Onye ọ bụla na-anaghị amasị nwere
ike iji kacha nso eriri ka kpọgidere ya onwe ya. na-akpa ọchị
ndị mmadụ.

Plenty tongue out!!!!

CHM11:

Best post I've read here on nairaland in a long time.
I didn't condemn the entire igbo race brother. Just saying what I've noticed with the lot of them that I have lived with in the past.
Thanks for your mature story and take my depest sympathy for your loss. May God give you the grace and energy to continue in the line of duty safely.
Regards.

squaddy:


Hahahahhaha...what phucking life story? The nigga is a blatant liar. I dare him to tell me what part of anioma he hails from.

CHM11:

Why insult because I wouldn't want to marry or associate myself intimately with an east based igbo... I never said igbos are bad people, just that I find it hard to understand their character and behavior and here you are insulting and talking like someone who can't control his mouth.

Smart igbo people here know what I am talking about because they too find it hard to understand yoruba's and hausa's. Please think before you comment.

chillingbabe:
Most caring my A.ss, you can't change the fact that an Anambra guy Will NEVER marry a gal dats not from his state..Was Lola accepted easily into the okoye's family? Go and google wat transpired before she was finally accepted,MumuMugu like you..
The only igbo guys that can marry outside there state are guys from IMO,ABIA,ENUGU and DELTA(ibo) ..Stop being pained niccur!

CHM11:

Oh so sorry we are not in the court of law and I am entitled to keep my experiences locked up or exposed, which in this instance I choose the latter. Hope you will respect that?
You yourself said tribalism, racism and religion is a thing that is a global issue. So why is my being tribalistic an issue?
So its now ok that an igbo can be tribalistic and choosy but another tribe cannot be tribalistic...

I've never said tribalism is bad, neither did I condemn the igbos for marrying amongst themselves more (I said its better for them, because they tend to have more favourable homes when they marry from their tribe because other tribes find it hard to understand them except the really exposed ones).

Igbos marry your beautiful adamma's and give birth to many beautiful kids that will marry igbos..it favours you more!!!!!!......

As for me and my house, if you are not from Edo, Delta, Bayelsa, Rivers, Akwaibom, Cross rivers..... It will take the love of God before I even develop feelings for you.... This is me...don't hate my orientation, respect my choice because there is a reason for it....

Blitz888:
I personally don't find it hard understanding other tribes.
I am an Anambrarian... I speak Hausa, Yoruba and Igala fluently. So you will be in error to assume that we find it difficult to understand Hausas and Yorubas. Some of my grt friends are non-igbos.

laudate:


Moses married an Ethiopian woman in the Bible, yet he still spoke to God one on one, and received the 10 commandments from His hand.

Bros, a little knowledge is a dangerous thing oh...

bigfrancis21:


Igbo bashing has become quite a common thing in Nigeria such that it has become normal to bash Igbo on every single thing, even on things that are meaningless.

You created this thread to ask why Igbo prefer to marry from their tribe. Are you really serious? This is a question you opened this thread for looking for 'answers'? Would you have opened this very thread in the first place had a Yoruba or Hausa guy been the one who preferred to marry from their tribe? Yes or No? Why would a Yoruba parent reject a non-yoruba suitor, and that will not be an issue. In fact, such action is justified. A Hausa parent will do the same and no dust will be raised about it. But when an Igbo parent does the same, then its a big deal. It is a serious issue that calls for serious attention and criticism, then you begin to get tags like ''Igbos are 'tribalistic'', 'they are 'selfish'', it is an 'Igbo problem' e.t.c. Minor issues that aren't issues when done by other tribes become a serious issue when Igbo is involved.

I look around me, majority Ibibios marry within the Ibibio tribe, majority Hausas marry within Hausa, Yoruba within Yoruba, why should the Igbo marrying within themselves even be a question in the first place? Despite the level of inter marriage between whites and blacks here in the US, majority whites marry within whites, chinese within chinese, blacks within blacks, and you're going to sit there and tell me that it is a problem when Igbos prefer to marry Igbos?? Like seriously??

I get your point about love being the most important factor between 2 people from different tribes and there are marriages between Igbo men and non-Igbo women however majority Igbos don't need to look outside for love when they can find it within themselves. The same love you mentioned as important, Igbo men get it from within the tribe. Why look outside? What about culture preservation and values? Why should Igbo preferring to marry from within even be an issue in the first place when other tribes are doing the same? Is the creation of this thread even justified in the first place?

Tomorrow you're going to open another thread asking 'Why do Igbo people speak Igbo?' Like seriously??

CHM11:

Oh so sorry we are not in the court of law and I am entitled to keep my experiences locked up or exposed, which in this instance I choose the latter. Hope you will respect that?
You yourself said tribalism, racism and religion is a thing that is a global issue. So why is my being tribalistic an issue?
So its now ok that an igbo can be tribalistic and choosy but another tribe cannot be tribalistic...

I've never said tribalism is bad, neither did I condemn the igbos for marrying amongst themselves more (I said its better for them, because they tend to have more favourable homes when they marry from their tribe because other tribes find it hard to understand them except the really exposed ones).

Igbos marry your beautiful adamma's and give birth to many beautiful kids that will marry igbos..it favours you more!!!!!!......

As for me and my house, if you are not from Edo, Delta, Bayelsa, Rivers, Akwaibom, Cross rivers..... It will take the love of God before I even develop feelings for you.... This is me...don't hate my orientation, respect my choice because there is a reason for it....

bigfrancis21:


I beginning to see that you're merely obsessed with Igbo and anything Igbo just like one non-Igbo nairalander I met last year here in US who is deeply consumed with Igbo issues. One minute he spews incoherent statements against Igbo yet the next minute he speaks Igbo to me, knows deep details about Igboland that an Igbo person would know and obsesses over Igbo females. This guy would spend all day on his laptop browsing on Igbo this, Igbo that and what have you. That was when I began to believe that some people are deeply obsessed with Igbo issue. I won't mention his tribe to avoid a tribal war.

Logicalmind:
I'm from urhobo Delta state but I know Anambrarians that married outside their state.

Chimamanda Adichie and Ivara Esege
Adaeze Igwe and Joseph Yobo
Peter Okoye and Lola Omotoya
Paul Okoye and Anita Isama etc