bukatyne:


Permit me to laugh again... It is personal to you

Do what 5mins suggested.

Again, was he always like this? My question to IYADARA also stands...

Anyway, i have overlooked it. i do the one i can and, i did talked but he prefer i ask but am not wired like that. i hate to send an adult a message or remind him that something needs to be done.

IYADARA:
Dear men,

It is wrong if you help ur wife with house chores?

? Do u feel comfortable watching ur wife do all d works at home and all u could do is to ask for sex and food after?

Can't u help ur wife who works as well to cater for the family...? You both leave in d morning, you even most time get home before her, will it reduce ur ego if u at least try to fix the meal or something else before she comes back?

How do u feel when she comes back very tired and goes straight into d kitchen, sweeps, do d dishes, bath ur baby, nursed her to sleep, sometimes washes clothes while trying to fix ur meal and all you could do is to play games or read dead stories, waiting for ur food to be served while she riots..

Little wonder female tend to die faster than dear husband...

Men, I need ur honest contribution, to know if am over reacting

Lol, not every man will be like your husband, where he is lacking, he might be making up in another, you really cannot have it all when it comes to the opposite s£x. Take heart that is marriage for you. You can pretend to collapse due to the workload, we are all actors and actresses, in different ways, this may stir him to help out with house chores, it has worked for some women.

Mrs0J:


Anyway, i have overlooked it. i do the one i can and, i did talked but he prefer i ask but am not wired like that. i hate to send an adult a message or remind him that something needs to be done.

Ok then,

It is well.

LewsTherin:


Sieving the amala? SIEVING THE WHAAAT? Dem dey sieve amala? Wow!!!

They say you learn everyday. I'm not sure I've learnt this one yet oh! Still too stunned!!

yes, i sieve my amala to remove ants

Mrs0J:


yes, i sieve my amala to remove ants

Oh ok. Phew!!! This I understand.

These questions are what every couple should ask before marriage. Every couple should be able to discuss how their family would be run. They should decide if they want a traditional home, a modern home or a hybrid of the two.

bellong:
@Iyadara,

Why did you marry him to later come here and rant?

Wicked!!!

make sure you don't release another babadara in the form of Dara to the society. The change now begins with you. Pele.

Exactly.

Eya Pele iyadara.

Goodluck communicating with him.

@topic, dem no born any of my sons well to sit and laze around.
He must learn all there is to learn in home keeping.

Kimoni:




Wicked!!!

It is true now. Common on this forum, many a female married with two eyes opened yet will come here to rant about their husbands.

Last weekend, I was asking a lady some basic questions about her fiancé and she couldn't give me answers. I was forced to ask her what they talk about in the relationship. Courtship is not meant to be going to fast food joints, movies or night suyas, it is to get to know each other well if you could live together. Emotions and logic must be balanced.

If you erroneously married a lazy husband, please spare us the agony of your rant here.

Mrs0J:


Anyway, i have overlooked it. i do the one i can and, i did talked but he prefer i ask but am not wired like that. i hate to send an adult a message or remind him that something needs to be done.

I understand that an adult should know when to help but since he doesn't help till you ask, then continue asking him..
It doesn't mean you're sending him msg, he's your husband. . Honey, come and help me with this and that, et al.. no biggie....
Some husbands don't help even when asked so you should take advantage of yours instead of holding grudges and dying in silence...

MarvellousGod:
I understand that an adult should know when to help but since he doesn't help till you ask, then continue asking him..
It doesn't mean you're sending him msg, he's your husband. . Honey, come and help me with this and that, et al.. no biggie....
Some husbands don't help even when asked so you should take advantage of yours instead of holding grudges and dying in silence...

No grudges, way past that. i do ask when necessary. i do what i can and live the rest that's how i role.

LewsTherin, I must say a big THUMPS Up. 95% of the discription u gave about your self is exactly who my hubby is but in our case we have two luvly boys, the eldest is 6yrs While the younger is two. So in most cases while my hubby is helping me out in the kitchen,my older son is helping out with his kid brother ie he is either feeding him or he is controlling the remote while they watch the telly etc. We've thaught them how to call on our attention when the need arise, that not withstanding kids can be funny so we keep checking on them at interval. Now back to the main TOPIC, in my own case most cases he gets home before me and trust him, he will definately start up something before am back. The sweetest part of it is that (1)He picks up his fatherly and husbandly responsibilities to the fullest(2)If any body(including his parent) needs anything from any of us he will always say" let me discuss with my wife we will get back to u or you will get a fit back from my wife."(3)It strengthens the bond between both of us because while working together we gist, we fight, we play, its alot of fun.(4) Relations and friends especially our immediate families find it very, very difficult to interfer in our marriage because there is no room for that.We both have agreed that since we don't involve them wen making love, we should'nt even on other issues and it has been grate(God has been faithfull).The big assignment he has always left me with is that ;day in day out I keep feeling I want to respect him more, I want to luv him more infact because of all he does I am ever ready for him to make luv to me. Honestly marriage is fun, sweet, interesting, .............oh my God! name it.But remember am not saying we are perfect because we have our fighting period but it is always managed properly ie its mostly settled during or before our night devotion because the fight mostly happen wen carring out our daily activities.Afterall, this little fight is what adds up flavour to the marrige. My brother keep up the good work oh.

kashamyanat:
LewsTherin, I must say a big THUMPS Up. 95% of the discription u gave about your self is exactly who my hubby is but in our case we have two luvly boys, the eldest is 6yrs While the younger is two. So in most cases while my hubby is helping me out in the kitchen,my older son is helping out with his kid brother ie he is either feeding him or he is controlling the remote while they watch the telly etc. We've thaught them how to call on our attention when the need arise, that not withstanding kids can be funny so we keep checking on them at interval. Now back to the main TOPIC, in my own case most cases he gets home before me and trust him, he will definately start up something before am back. The sweetest part of it is that (1)He picks up his fatherly and husbandly responsibilities to the fullest(2)If any body(including his parent) needs anything from any of us he will always say" let me discuss with my wife we will get back to u or you will get a fit back from my wife."(3)It strengthens the bond between both of us because while working together we gist, we fight, we play, its alot of fun.(4) Relations and friends especially our immediate families find it very, very difficult to interfer in our marriage because there is no room for that.We both have agreed that since we don't involve them wen making love, we should'nt even on other issues and it has been grate(God has been faithfull).The big assignment he has always left me with is that ;day in day out I keep feeling I want to respect him more, I want to luv him more infact because of all he does I am ever ready for him to make luv to me. Honestly marriage is fun, sweet, interesting, .............oh my God! name it.But remember am not saying we are perfect because we have our fighting period but it is always managed properly ie its mostly settled during or before our night devotion because the fight mostly happen wen carring out our daily activities.Afterall, this little fight is what adds up flavour to the marrige. My brother keep up the good work oh.

Happy for you.

Went to my sis place to see my sick mum cos my sis is a medical doctor, while we were in the room gisting, my inlaw was in the kitchen washing dishes, filling water and cooking rice. was so astonished and felt was in her place, commended my inlaw and asked my sis to lease him for 2 yrs to me. my sis replied never not even for billions. can't go on to list out what the man does, how cool headed he is and overtly nice.

bellong:


It is true now. Common on this forum, many a female married with two eyes opened yet will come here to rant about their husbands.

Last weekend, I was asking a lady some basic questions about her fiancé and she couldn't give me answers. I was forced to ask her what they talk about in the relationship. Courtship is not meant to be going to fast food joints, movies or night suyas, it is to get to know each other well if you could live together. Emotions and logic must be balanced.

If you erroneously married a lazy husband, please spare us the agony of your rant here.

Lol...but you know misery loves company naa