lexiconkabir:
personally, i don't find it easy practicing Islam (with strict sunnah) here in Nigeria, due to some reason, the way ladies move around naked, audhubillaah i ALWAYS have body contact with them every single day no matter how hard i try, mostly inpin public vehicles, i can't freely buy something in a restaurant (if i get hungry and I'm far from home) without doubting if the thing is halal for me to eat, and some other things sha(these things are not trivial by the way), things i heard about NYSC is why i want kano.

snapscore:


Jazakallahu Khiran for your contribution.

Regarding the body contact with the ladies, you can try avoiding crowded places.

lexiconkabir:


i can't avoid vehicles when going to school.

lexiconkabir:
personally, i don't find it easy practicing Islam (with strict sunnah) here in Nigeria, due to some reason, the way ladies move around naked, audhubillaah i ALWAYS have body contact with them every single day no matter how hard i try, mostly inpin public vehicles, i can't freely buy something in a restaurant (if i get hungry and I'm far from home) without doubting if the thing is halal for me to eat, and some other things sha(these things are not trivial by the way), things i heard about NYSC is why i want kano.

snapscore:


How about going with friends, so you guys can occupy the entire seat.

FriendChoice:


I don't get it. Like what do you doubt it halal nature in restaurant? Apart from meat. (Do they sell pig meat or dog meat in that side?)

On vehicle issue, you can take a bike Or tricycle

snapscore:
Tricycles aren't allowed in Illorin?

lexiconkabir:



yoy can't be sure of the meat being sold, it might even be a meat prepared from animals that died on their own

that's not allowed here.

FriendChoice:


OK if you have not seen that situation happens in that area. Then you have to clear your mind from D doubt and stop assuming.

OK here also commercial bike is not allowed. But tricycle ah. Its everywhere. I cannot remember when last a take a bus. Perhaps since 2013.

lexiconkabir:


its actually better to be skeptical if you can, sa'ad ibn waqqas was.

tricycle is not easy to get over here.

stranger26:
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.

Interesting topic. It has been on my mind for a while as I am most likely moving back to Nigeria some time into the future. In any case, whenever I am in Nigeria it is quite a struggle to maintain my lifestyle without stepping on people's toes. The Yoruba culture has inculcated too much intermingling among opposite genders, too much music, etc. Personally, I am aghast at the typical yoruba wedding where you've got men and women dancing together! They are not related to each other; essentially the women are dancing in public and shaking parts of their bodies in front of an audience of men ogling at them. I find the scene repulsive. I shudder to think of the men disrespecting those ladies by staring at every part of her, sizing her up, comparing, etc. It is just too lewd.
As such, I find it extremely unpleasant to attend such mixed parties. Alhamdulillah I don't have to encounter that often. But when I do move back to Nigeria, inshaAllah, my plan is to set my boundaries from the start. Let people know what I don't feel comfortable with. And lead a comfortable life in a comfortable environment. When I have an occasion to celebrate, I will have it segregated inshaAllah.

There is also the NYSC issue and wearing hijab wahala. I don't think there should be too much of a problem in the workplace though but do correct me if I'm wrong.
Anyway whoever has more info about it, let us know.

sino:
As a muslim in nigeria, you can live and enjoy your practice of the religion very well. There are few obstacles though, but a ready solution if you want to take things to a very strict level.
My principle is basically Allah's statement, fear Allah as much as you can(Q64:16), the hadith of the prophet(saw) whiich states: verily, the religion is easy, and no one should try make it difficult unless it overburdens the person... Then i work mostly on my circle of influence, looking inward and try to be a better muslim everyday.

sino:
As a muslim in nigeria, you can live and enjoy your practice of the religion very well. There are few obstacles though, but a ready solution if you want to take things to a very strict level.
My principle is basically Allah's statement, fear Allah as much as you can(Q64:16), the hadith of the prophet(saw) whiich states: verily, the religion is easy, and no one should try make it difficult unless it overburdens the person... Then i work mostly on my circle of influence, looking inward and try to be a better muslim everyday.

snapscore:
Are people still willing to contribute to this thread? *I know it has been so long*

cc: lexiconkabir, Demmzy15, Friendchoice, rabiushile04

@ rabiushile04 can you tell me about how camp was during your NYSC (in terms of fitnah, free mixing). How are Muslim women expected to dress? Are there exceptions?

RABIUSHILE04:


i av beem unPHONED since Thursday jare. I will gist u all about camp when i stand wella by the morrow or next

lexiconkabir:

robbers?

RABIUSHILE04:

robbers bawo... Na spoilage... Who wan rob mekunu like me....hehehehe

RABIUSHILE04:

robbers bawo... Na spoilage... Who wan rob mekunu like me....hehehehe

lexiconkabir:


lol, i said so because two of my friends were robbed this week, was almost robbed too, but a little cleverness saved me.

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Oh good!
Alhamdulliah you are okay!!
what does mekunu mean?

stranger26:
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullah.

Interesting topic. It has been on my mind for a while as I am most likely moving back to Nigeria some time into the future. In any case, whenever I am in Nigeria it is quite a struggle to maintain my lifestyle without stepping on people's toes. The Yoruba culture has inculcated too much intermingling among opposite genders, too much music, etc. Personally, I am aghast at the typical yoruba wedding where you've got men and women dancing together! They are not related to each other; essentially the women are dancing in public and shaking parts of their bodies in front of an audience of men ogling at them. I find the scene repulsive. I shudder to think of the men disrespecting those ladies by staring at every part of her, sizing her up, comparing, etc. It is just too lewd.
As such, I find it extremely unpleasant to attend such mixed parties. Alhamdulillah I don't have to encounter that often. But when I do move back to Nigeria, inshaAllah, my plan is to set my boundaries from the start. Let people know what I don't feel comfortable with. And lead a comfortable life in a comfortable environment. When I have an occasion to celebrate, I will have it segregated inshaAllah.

There is also the NYSC issue and wearing hijab wahala. I don't think there should be too much of a problem in the workplace though but do correct me if I'm wrong.
Anyway whoever has more info about it, let us know.

snapscore:
Are people still willing to contribute to this thread? *I know it has been so long*

cc: lexiconkabir, Demmzy15, Friendchoice, rabiushile04

@ rabiushile04 can you tell me about how camp was during your NYSC (in terms of fitnah, free mixing). How are Muslim women expected to dress? Are there exceptions?

RABIUSHILE04:




My 20 something days in camp was campy actually. Our blessed sisters are usually harassed stylishly as usual. This is a common practice, especially from the womenfolk amongst the authority, they always tel dem not to wear full hijab and so on, but biizinillaah, our serious minded sisters try to be modest by putting on hijab that at least gets to the, or close to the knee, and their boxers shorts and usually below d knee(they brought it from home sha, bcuz the ones dey gv thr r like d one ozybosco abi Emmanuela suppose dey wear..lol hehehehe) like three-quarter, I admire sisters who go against all odds and protect their dignity...dis is from my own experience o.


Even I read once sef, even in a northern camp, a hijabi was harassed for putting on full hijab..imagine, even in d north, and I'm sure it is those filthy old women who are nakedly dressed, and are jealous of our beautiful sisters.



Though, it is usually toughest the first week of camp, by 2nd week, ppl don settle, maybe na to dey dodge parade ni thus dey dey MOSQUE, and all sorts, until d 3rd week wen we go disperse.


Where hypocrisy dey be say, dey say dat our women shouldn't use hijab, but during the Mr Macho, Miss Camp, these FILTHY ppl allow, dirty, good-for-nothing girls go on stage and parade dem selves for some clumsy award for mr macho/miss camp like some CATTLE one wants to buy for party... They prefer girls in dat stupid white fowl t-shirt and bumpy shorts exposing the UNExPosable..causing fitnah for MeN, what really vexes me is, u see most muslimahs who wear dos skimpy cloths and still put on their skimpy hijab on top...dat can vex meeeeeeee!!! What's d essence of it gan na.


If no be my platoon football wey I play, and d morning parade exercise wey I like wella, as per say, I like be military person, but for the Unsharialistic Nigeria. I'm categorically telling u, I didn't participate(even going to watch) in dos, camp fire, Mr Macho, Miss Nysc, I be quiet stubborn, shy person.


One thing be say, as a group, MuslimCorpersAssociation of Nigeria(MCAN), dem dey fear us wella, esp if our northern alagidi/stubborn brothers dey dey...u go dey hear, ' kai kai kaaaaai, ya zai ana mu zuwa masalaci, bura uban guard commander/kai kai kai, aw he go take stop us from goin to d masjid, *curses* guard commander' bcuz it is our ryt, esp for zuhr salat, no problem wif oda salawat, subhi(b4 parade), asr( free time b4 evening parade, dinning), magribh and isha(free time, dinning)

But some muslims too behave unsunnatic, by always lying, mosque this, mosque dat, salat dis salat dat..wanting to go to d masjid, even wen d tym has approached, we shud do it collectively, but whr go sha see some Judas sha, dy spoil Islaam for us.


Ni pa ri, been ur sef, has you dey b4 camp, naso make u dey during, afta camp, on the path of SALAF, just bcuz other muslims are doing a wrong thing, doesn't make it right. I hope I try Umm..what Me na AbU Sulaim be my Kunya, inshaaAllaah...LOL


LOL......*phew*, J.R.R Tolkien think say na only she sabi write story(Hobbit and co) ni, make she come learn from MOI!!

Wassalam alaykum warahmatullah

AbuHammaad:
Besides countries with maybe 80% + muslim population, there are no countries where it's easy to practise Islam especially as a Muslim striving hard to follow the Sunnah. You'll always get those funny looks and funny questions. But with time, they all get used to it once they realize you're hardcore and their mockery isn't changing anything. The only sad thing about this is that fellow muslims also participate in this act.

That said, It's good to just keep doing your thing without paying attention to them. Try to be as cordial as you can.

As for those harassing our women, they do that only when they know the men are not around. That's why it's good to have a Mahram
wherever you are

Oh you dare not try that around me. I don't care about your status and wherever we are. Ko ni rogbo fun e rara. Since we dealt with
one yeye principal at Clegg in Surulere, I heard she has been playing safe since then

Also, I think another reason why this harassment happens a lot is because most of our Muslim folks at the top are very weak in
faith and are very timid. You can hardly tell some of them are Muslims. It's like they feel ashamed being Muslims. It's a sad trend
unfortunately

Allaahu musta'aan

Demmzy15:
Following, will contribute soon.

lexiconkabir:


yeah its true! i don't think anyone could mess around with an hijab sister and I'm there without me trying to shield her, that was how a sister wanted to enter a vehicle but saw that its aalmost all male bus, she didnt enter again, then the Christians there wanted to say things that will hurt her like "holy holy, and we know type how you sleep around with people", when i heard that my head exploded, lol, that was how i started talking and talking, till they all stopped talking.

this is why women are adviced to be with their mahram like you said, that way they get safe, but its a pity some women don't like being followed around.