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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Nobody: 3:20pm On May 03, 2017
Jahblessme:
Sorry for the betrayal.I know you are coming from a place of hurt and pain.


Hopefully,you understand that the other woman wasn't acting alone,your husband was also actively 'destroying' your marriage.

Can it be fixed?I don't know.many men and women are living with spouses who have cheated or are cheating,how successful they are ,I cannot say.Many live in total resentment,some forgive and go on to build a stronger marriage especially if the man is the cheat,I'm speaking of naija setting cos trust me all the responses here would be different if the case had been reversed and it was you that was planning se xcapade.

Punish him however you deem fit,you are the aggrieved.Dont let anyone tell you the way you feel is not valid or the extent of your pain,they cannot feel the same hurt you are feeling,neither should they tell you when it is enough.They will all be threatning you with losing the man bull shait.He is the one who has betrayed you and should be able to suffer the consequence and whatever you dish out till the marriage is fixed( aside torture and poison and any form of extremism)

They will try to find a way to twist it and blame you like you pushed him, meanwhile we know that a cheatwill cheat no matter what.Just listen to your heart and do what is best for you,If your marriage has been happy as you say I believe he will sacrifice all to fix things.If na one chance...

Remember to test for STDs ,you want to be alive for your kids.To rebuild trust may take forever or a few years but it is made easier when both of you are willing to work together to plug any gaps.If una nor fit..
Its up to.you two.

Good luck and sorry.


Thanks
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by byvan03: 5:06pm On May 03, 2017
So far ,i love the steps you have taken . Jahblessme is totally on point.

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by obicentlis: 6:04pm On May 03, 2017
jesusbabe00:
I have been happily married for 6 years now with beautiful kids. But recently my husband started being secretive with his phone. He passworded his phone and when I asked him what he was hiding, he will not give me any tangible reason. This attitude continued for some time, so I decided to hack his phone. I downloaded an Application that enabled me have access to his WhatsApp account from my own phone. From this application, I observed that he was chatting with his ex-girlfriend who is now married too. They were expressing love for each other and how they wished they got married and all that. On this same day they were chatting, my husband was suppose to travel outside the country, so I noticed that the two of them have scheduled to meet at the airport where they planned to have sex with each other before he finally flies out. When I saw this chat, my husband was already on his way to airport, I screeshot all their chats and sent it to him, expressing my disappointment. I also sent the screeshot to the lady so that she will know I know what is happening. I also warned her to stop destroying my marriage, if not I will disgrace her. I later got in contact with the lady's husband through Facebook friend request and I started chatting with him. In the process I told him that his wife is trying to destroy my marriage. I also sent the screeshot to him. He promised me that he will make sure his wife does not destroy my marriage. Right now my husband has been calling but I have refused to pick him calls. I feel so betrayed that a man I trusted so much could do this to me. I don't want to easily forgive him and I am looking for a way to really punish him for betraying my love for him. Please help me because am so demoralised right now. Sorry for the long story.
What is the name of the hack app?

I need it seriously.

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by lilytender: 7:42pm On May 03, 2017
Dear aggrieved wife,

Please forgive us, once in a while, men strayed and it takes the grace of God not to get totally lost. Punish your husband anyway you will feel that you will have a little relieve of your hurt. But, please don't push him totally away if he is not running away himself because if you push him away, he will still come back several years after to beg for your love. Once again, please pardon your husband by minimizing his punishment.

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by greatgod2012(f): 8:02pm On May 03, 2017
I'm just wondering the type of responses/posts I would have been reading here if the table is turned around!


Madam, please go and do STD tests first!


My advice......... Do whatever you think will hep you get better, but don't include poison o!

More wisdom to handle this I pray for you!

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by bethyz(m): 9:01pm On May 03, 2017
Abeg which app did you use to Access his WhatsApp with your phone.

If a man that doesn't lock his phone decided to start doing it something is wrong . What of the one who has always kept the phone locked.

Madam just give him silent treatment . All those demand you having made in years make it now .

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Nobody: 9:39pm On May 03, 2017
obicentlis:

What is the name of the hack app?

I need it seriously.
it is called Whatscan for Whatsweb. It can be downloaded from Google playstore. After downloading it in your phone. Go to the WhatsApp account of the person who want to spy, open the WhatsApp Web and scan the QR code of this application in your phone. That way you monitor all his chats.

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by benzion72(m): 9:41pm On May 03, 2017
Punishing him, or forgiving him. When you punish him you are punishing yourself cause the Bible say the two are one flesh. Also you have succeeded in destroying the other ladies home
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by bigcp(m): 10:22pm On May 03, 2017
Jahblessme:
Sorry for the betrayal.I know you are coming from a place of hurt and pain.


Hopefully,you understand that the other woman wasn't acting alone,your husband was also actively 'destroying' your marriage.

Can it be fixed?I don't know.many men and women are living with spouses who have cheated or are cheating,how successful they are ,I cannot say.Many live in total resentment,some forgive and go on to build a stronger marriage especially if the man is the cheat,I'm speaking of naija setting cos trust me all the responses here would be different if the case had been reversed and it was you that was planning se xcapade.

Punish him however you deem fit,you are the aggrieved.Dont let anyone tell you the way you feel is not valid or the extent of your pain,they cannot feel the same hurt you are feeling,neither should they tell you when it is enough.They will all be threatning you with losing the man bull shait.He is the one who has betrayed you and should be able to suffer the consequence and whatever you dish out till the marriage is fixed( aside torture and poison and any form of extremism)

They will try to find a way to twist it and blame you like you pushed him, meanwhile we know that a cheatwill cheat no matter what.Just listen to your heart and do what is best for you,If your marriage has been happy as you say I believe he will sacrifice all to fix things.If na one chance...

Remember to test for STDs ,you want to be alive for your kids.To rebuild trust may take forever or a few years but it is made easier when both of you are willing to work together to plug any gaps.If una nor fit..
Its up to.you two.

Good luck and sorry.


nice advice...but how else do u wnt her to punish him...there's no other way...she's done it already...d man conscience go de judge am now....tell me...how else can she punish him...na small pikin wen she go de flog?...or will she deprive him frm having sex with her...we all knw that will push him to d oda lady...if d lady's husband decides to divorce that lady....hmnn wahala go de because she go definitely begin drag ur husband with u...so my dear i don't think there's anything u can do than to gv him d silent treatment...if u decide to divorce him...he'll move on within d space of 2 months 2 d arms of d other shameless lady...i believe something must have prompted d man to do this...since he's been a good husband to u...
i think u should handle him with maturity...but if u still wnt to punish him...then DIVORCE HIM...d man 4ked up though...n u r lucky he's still got conscience...if not he'll turn d stuff around n start askin u what gave u d right to hack his fone...na that one go come b d case....women de try oo..if it were u now...there's 90% possibility that u r going back 2 ur father's house...
may God strengthen ur marriage...

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Rukkydelta(f): 11:11pm On May 03, 2017
forreelinc:
Tell him to kneel down raise up his hands and close his eyes
Nice. He should do this for at least 5hours
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by forreelinc(m): 12:21am On May 04, 2017
Rukkydelta:

Nice. He should do this for at least 5hours
Or till his arms get numb
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by warrah(m): 4:50am On May 04, 2017
Forgive him, then look into how you can give him that he is seeking outside, because I believe if a man is getting the whole deal at home, what's the essence of going outside......just saying
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by abescom: 6:35am On May 04, 2017
lalanice:
show him love like never before, let him know you know, then pretend nothing happened. cheesy
This is evil. When my wife did this to me ( I did not cheat but I was meandering near it shadow) I felt like dying. Silence treatment is bad. Kuku kill the man.

As for jesusbabe you just have to forgive him and look inwardly what it is you have done wrong. There must be something that you have done wrong too or not enough. In my own case it was my woman constantly denying me access to her body.

No excuse for cheating, yes, I, someone who was close to cheating is saying that, but the men are not always ONLY the ones at fault. Check yourself too.

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Rukkydelta(f): 7:04am On May 04, 2017
forreelinc:

Or till his arms get numb
That will be perfect
Good morning kiss
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by forreelinc(m): 7:49am On May 04, 2017
Rukkydelta:

That will be perfect
Good morning kiss
cool you're welcome
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by patani(m): 7:50am On May 04, 2017
jesusbabe00:
it is called Whatscan for Whatsweb. It can be downloaded from Google playstore. After downloading it in your phone. Go to the WhatsApp account of the person who want to spy, open the WhatsApp Web and scan the QR code of this application in your phone. That way you monitor all his chats.

Choi! Madam, are you an FBI agent? Anyway I know how you feel.. the truth is, punish him but don't push him away... Men are babies and believe me too much purnishment may be the breaking factor in your family. Not the infidelity. Most men attach no emotion to sex and you should not in anyway think he loves the lady. 99.999% of men misbehave at all one point or the other. But trust me, the love and tenderness from wives bring them back home. And the truth is, most men will fall for a chit chat With an ex which may necessarily not lead to sex anyway.. I wish you well

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Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by OLAJADON: 9:06am On May 04, 2017
jesusbabe00:
I have been happily married for 6 years now with beautiful kids. But recently my husband started being secretive with his phone. He passworded his phone and when I asked him what he was hiding, he will not give me any tangible reason. This attitude continued for some time, so I decided to hack his phone. I downloaded an Application that enabled me have access to his WhatsApp account from my own phone. From this application, I observed that he was chatting with his ex-girlfriend who is now married too. They were expressing love for each other and how they wished they got married and all that. On this same day they were chatting, my husband was suppose to travel outside the country, so I noticed that the two of them have scheduled to meet at the airport where they planned to have sex with each other before he finally flies out. When I saw this chat, my husband was already on his way to airport, I screeshot all their chats and sent it to him, expressing my disappointment. I also sent the screeshot to the lady so that she will know I know what is happening. I also warned her to stop destroying my marriage, if not I will disgrace her. I later got in contact with the lady's husband through Facebook friend request and I started chatting with him. In the process I told him that his wife is trying to destroy my marriage. I also sent the screeshot to him. He promised me that he will make sure his wife does not destroy my marriage. Right now my husband has been calling but I have refused to pick him calls. I feel so betrayed that a man I trusted so much could do this to me. I don't want to easily forgive him and I am looking for a way to really punish him for betraying my love for him. Please help me because am so demoralised right now. Sorry for the long story.
there is no how you will punish your husband that it won't boomerang to you. there are lot of single ladies out there,the best you can do is to forgive and let go your bitter pills.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Benbisco(f): 9:44am On May 04, 2017
youngest85:
Just pour him Nacl

The man na earthworm?
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by freshbear(m): 11:15am On May 04, 2017
jesusbabe00:
it is called Whatscan for Whatsweb. It can be downloaded from Google playstore. After downloading it in your phone. Go to the WhatsApp account of the person who want to spy, open the WhatsApp Web and scan the QR code of this application in your phone. That way you monitor all his chats.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by adecares(f): 8:48pm On May 04, 2017
i will do to him what he did to me which is, look for my ex and start dating
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Rosarie(f): 10:00pm On May 04, 2017
when u allow strife anger and pain u are allowing devil on your home. marriage has challenges. one of the ways he comes to you to apologize communicate how you felt while typing this.it will relief you
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Fredoh(m): 10:09pm On May 04, 2017
All have been said please choose your actions wisely
By the way can you please tell me how you hacked his whatsapp account and which app you downloaded?
Thanks
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Nobody: 10:22pm On May 04, 2017
jesusbabe00:
it is called Whatscan for Whatsweb. It can be downloaded from Google playstore. After downloading it in your phone. Go to the WhatsApp account of the person who want to spy, open the WhatsApp Web and scan the QR code of this application in your phone. That way you monitor all his chats.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Tundepegba: 1:09am On May 05, 2017
jesusbabe00:
I have been happily married for 6 years now with beautiful kids. But recently my husband started being secretive with his phone. He passworded his phone and when I asked him what he was hiding, he will not give me any tangible reason. This attitude continued for some time, so I decided to hack his phone. I downloaded an Application that enabled me have access to his WhatsApp account from my own phone. From this application, I observed that he was chatting with his ex-girlfriend who is now married too. They were expressing love for each other and how they wished they got married and all that. On this same day they were chatting, my husband was suppose to travel outside the country, so I noticed that the two of them have scheduled to meet at the airport where they planned to have sex with each other before he finally flies out. When I saw this chat, my husband was already on his way to airport, I screeshot all their chats and sent it to him, expressing my disappointment. I also sent the screeshot to the lady so that she will know I know what is happening. I also warned her to stop destroying my marriage, if not I will disgrace her. I later got in contact with the lady's husband through Facebook friend request and I started chatting with him. In the process I told him that his wife is trying to destroy my marriage. I also sent the screeshot to him. He promised me that he will make sure his wife does not destroy my marriage. Right now my husband has been calling but I have refused to pick him calls. I feel so betrayed that a man I trusted so much could do this to me. I don't want to easily forgive him and I am looking for a way to really punish him for betraying my love for him. Please help me because am so demoralised right now. Sorry for the long story.

I think you have done enough. Just take ur time, let him reassure u he wont be unfaithful to u anymore. Move on as you become assured.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Nobody: 3:13am On May 05, 2017
I say give him a taste of his own medicine without the cheating. Put a pin on your phone first. Then get a female friend to play along without telling her why, save her number under a male name on some random number. Now start messaging her back and forth. Laugh, have fun and go out and about as you please. Take his position as the head of your home and challenge it. Come home at odd hours and basically drive him mad. Give him a job to do in monitoring your movements since he had enough time on his hands to cheat give him something to do. Before all this I would advice you separate. Leave his home and get him to work for this relationship. Get him to feel your absence so he can decide where his heart lays. Please don't forgive him to soon! He has to feel his world shatter like you felt yours. Believe nothing he says to you until he earns his trust back. Ignore these people talking about forgiveness, what he did is a sin against you and God and it should not be forgiven so lightly. Just imagine how he would disgrace you if the tables had turned! He would throw you out of your home and take your child! He would tell everyone that would listen.

1. Leave the house/ if you can't then leave the bed.
2. Trick him into thinking that you are seeing another man without doing it (be on your phone, act suspicious, and don't pick up his calls when you're outside - make excuses if asked why)
3. Make him do the work of winning you and your trust back. Do not forgive this lightly or he will think this is the new norm.
4. Tell your family and his family, don't cover his shame for him.
5. Go for marriage counselling.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by greatcrown: 7:00am On May 05, 2017
You are Jesusbabe!
I am not here to lecture or tutor you for you are well informed about forgiveness!

One thing I've realized in marriage is there is hardly any way you could punish your partner without​ the punishment getting to you or the children.

You are still hurting and pained.
The best and quickest way to get back on yourself and ease the pain is to forgive.

However, as some people had advised. Let your husband and yourself check for STDs before final settlement.

May God continue to keep your home.

I'm sorry for your pain.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by eyinjuege: 8:21am On May 05, 2017
Anyway OP, such is life.
No one is to be trusted.
I can't fault anything you've done so far.
However, this issue of punishment is what I don't understand. If you decide to cheat on him, or pretend as though you're cheating or pack out of the house or separate is what I'm not so sure about.

Its either you can move on past the betrayal or you can't.
If you feel you can't move on from the betrayal, better you separate from him and the end result is a divorce.

But give yourself some time to heal, and maybe you can still move on from his indiscretions as a couple.

That's where marriage counselling comes in. If you're still interested in the union, then try your best to sort out the cracks in your relationship together.

Let's not forget your husband may also be tired of the marriage, and his secret coming out may be what he also needs to put things in perspective. Meaning he may also not want to continue being married to you.

However, if he's also still interested and truly sorry and takes responsibility for his actions, and you're also still interested, there's no point stressing yourself out with punishments but rather on the way forward to build back the trust and respect in your relationship.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Dyt(f): 8:43am On May 05, 2017
jesusbabe00:
it is called Whatscan for Whatsweb. It can be downloaded from Google playstore. After downloading it in your phone. Go to the WhatsApp account of the person who want to spy, open the WhatsApp Web and scan the QR code of this application in your phone. That way you monitor all his chats.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by sisisioge: 8:58am On May 05, 2017
Dyt:



Watcha saying? You wanna scatter people's relationships abi kini? Tuck that thing somewhere ojare grin grin grin Igboro ma to daru ju grin
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Dyt(f): 9:22am On May 05, 2017
sisisioge:


Watcha saying? You wanna scatter people's relationships abi kini? Tuck that thing somewhere ojare grin grin grin Igboro ma to daru ju grin

I am keeping it
I must use it
angry angry angry
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by sisisioge: 9:38am On May 05, 2017
Dyt:


I am keeping it
I must use it
angry angry angry

Haba! What you don't know won't kill you. Abi, shall we just pray the dude stays in your lane only, that way no need to police. See her now, she's gotten the info and still at a cross end on what to do with it..may God help us o jare. It is well.
Re: How Do I Punish My Husband For Betraying My Love by Nobody: 9:40am On May 05, 2017
space007:
I think you should be careful while planning on how to punish him, so you don't end up pushing him away forever

my dear,don't answer his call,when he returns, treat him well,avoid discussing the issue with him,just kip being good to him,smile at all time, make it look like you don't care. The after effect?? na him go run ,go report himself to your people

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