Tosinex:
unhnmnn! Being a Pastor was not even part of my life ambition not even the least of it, and yet the roll call, I can't dodge it any longer! Arrghh! Lolz! But Rather give myself to it! And am still learning! Line by line, precept by precept, a little here, a little there and the LORD through the power of the Holy Spirit, has been faithful. Are you an American!

No dear

KingEbukasBlog:


I think you should hold unto your virginity , good men like us are searching for your type . Keep it , guard it , treasure it . Its a thing of pride for any woman - I agree totally with this . And who said that being a virgin scares men away ? Ever heard of the Virgin Queen , Queen Elizabeth I . Men desired her as a woman and as a virgin . She was even an object of worship . Men wrote erotic poems about her and fantasized about disvirgining her in marriage . Kings , Dukes desired her as a wife while they kept w.hores (courtesans ) as mistresses . Sadly , she died a virgin but for a cause and for the good of her people . The point is : never for a moment think of losing your virginity as a woman . Once you've done that , you've decreased your desirability . Men like me won't care about you or even desire you because we see no future with you .

But not all men who seek virgins or are willing to wait are good men like the example you gave . But people change for various reasons . People can be taught to change , people can learn to change . Some people look for people who are their exact opposite so they can learn from them and subdue the destructive behaviors they have . And there are some who are willing to change , who have the desire to change but change isn't forthcoming . That's why its important to seek the face of the one who knows the end from the beginning . Keep praying . The delay apparently is to draw you closer to the type of man you desire . Remain single but don't discourage suitors from being interested in you even if you don't like them . Attention brings more attention . Your man could be drawn to you just because other men seek your hand in marriage .

I've heard being a Virgin scare men away. I've even heard it's old school. Some threads on nairaland about the issue also worsen the case. Like where some made comments like they can't stand the blood and some like ladies use the virginity to tie them down and a whole lot of other reasons why they don't like virgins. Maybe truly, just like you said, the Godly ones may prefer them or the other guys are just pretending because they've destroyed souls themselves.

The Virgin issues doesn't seem like a thing of gold anymore. I'm saying this because if someone can tell you're a Virgin they can say things to bring you down and make you believe you're the only one still living in 'the days of Elijah' .

The bitter truth is inspite of all those pretentious talks, they respect such persons and really hold them in high esteem except for ritualists and other evil men from the little I've heard. God help us.

analice107:

You are not only fallen but dead and lost at the same time.

'You are important to me, I need you to survive'.

bennyann:

Then who will come for my type

Anyone can come for anyone . You are brilliant woman , stop being modest .

You realized all that from those who do not deserve it and that might make you err in delaying the one who deserves it. But you're right, 'the first sight' aba!
But it works for some you know.

Its better you be yourself and flow naturally, anyone who falls for that will sweep you off your feet

Personally I don't think so and I don't want mine to be so. Though it's worked for some but do you know some Godly guys get turned off when the lady takes his position in that?

So it depends on the lady if it wouldn't affect her later and the guy if he wouldn't be turned off by her and would still treat her as though he did he proposed.

My then school mother proposed to a guy and after a while she felt so bad and embarrassed because she got to find out the guy has been telling some people she was the one who did the proposing and this is someone who accepted the proposal.

So whatever rock our boats but I believe one thing, a matured and a wise man, when he's seen that special one, he will make sure he wouldn't allow her go through all the stress and torture of proposing. He will know she's too important and special to force her indirectly to that point. And again it's a woman's honour when she tells it out that her man proposed to her because she would feel so blessed and special than when she will tell just one confidant that she did the proposing.

Great points . I'd feel uneasy if a woman should propose to me . I think women love the idea because it shows that the man has offered to make you part of his responsibility - to love , care and be part of your life . He is willing to take charge and be in control - his manly duties and all . Plus its a traditional thing too .

I'm sure the Godly guys out there want to make their partner happy and make her proud, so they know what to do.

Sometimes the thought of marrying the wrong woman can put a man off you know . Other reasons like finances . But what do I know ? I've not even dated before so my comments are mostly what I think and deductions made from a medley of romance stories that I read in books ( not romance books , I hate those) . But I believe mine would be a romantic adventure that my lady to be and I would be proud of .

analice107:

Bros, i no be virgin oo. Ah, and me i no want marry virgin man oo.

The man go don spoil before but is now born again and loves Jesus. The day i knew Christ, i stopped every nonsense and become a virgin again, let any man who is looking for virgin look somewhere else, because even if i were, immediately i hear that that's the reason he is coming, i wont marry him.

Men run around misbehaving, but want a woman no man has touched before.

To me you are, because of what you carry within. Your presence alone surpasses that of many virgins. And to God you're much more than a Virgin.

But please don't let kingebukasblog cry because you don't want his type.

I concor with the bolded. Can you imagine a man coming just because of that? Something that will vanish within how many minutes? We want men who love us for us.

hahn:


And your friend that wrote this is what?

You're the one that's my concern and I'm sure you're so used to her by now but then she will do the needed.

But me, I'm sure you're so beautiful on the inside so please stop disguising cos you're trying too hard at that.

bennyann:


I've heard being a Virgin scare men away.

If you heard that from a guy , he wants to get down with you ; if you heard that from a lady , she is very much likely guilty she lost hers and wants to feel less guilty when her virgin friend eventually loses hers while still unmarried .

I've even heard it's old school. Some threads on nairaland about the issue also worsen the case. Like where some made comments like they can't stand the blood and some like ladies use the virginity to tie them down and a whole lot of other reasons why they don't like virgins. Maybe truly, just like you said, the Godly ones may prefer them or the other guys are just pretending because they've destroyed souls themselves.

I don't see anything wrong in marrying a virgin and learning the art of love making with her . Its an experience that you both should be part of from the very beginning ; make mistakes , learn from your mistakes . Marrying a non virgin has its perils . Like there are previous sexual experiences that would be used as a yardstick to evaluate the performance or sexual prowess of one's partner . And if this partner does not meet the standard , the other one goes outside in search of it . If your mind is used to multiple sex partners before marriage , you wouldn't feel guilty while having extra-marital affairs ; no scruples at all because you are already used to it . Very less likely would 2 virgin couple seek sexual satisfaction outside their marriage .

The Virgin issues doesn't seem like a thing of gold anymore. I'm saying this because if someone can tell you're a Virgin they can say things to bring you down and make you believe you're the only one still living in 'the days of Elijah' . The bitter truth is inspite of all those pretentious talks, they respect such persons and really hold them in high esteem except for ritualists and other evil men from the little I've heard. God help us.

My friends still can't believe I'm a virgin . I just turned 24 the other day , never been a relationship or had sex . I've got coevals who have body counts of 10 , 15 , 20 sometimes with prostitutes . No matter how they ridicule me , it never gets to me because I'm principled . The whole thing is all in your head . The way you interpret something will determine how you'll react to it . I interpret it as foolish talk and just guffaw at their idea of me being old fashioned .

And one more thing : the ladies of my generation are very cheap . And the girls don't seem to care , they are now open about their sexuality . That's ok if they feel they are being held back by the society . But they not the guys will pay the price later . There two ways to circumvent that is if the guy who wants to marry you haven't heard your gist or the mercy of God . No one wants to marry a whoree

bennyann:


To me you are, because of what you carry within. Your presence alone surpasses that of many virgins. And to God you're much more than a Virgin.

But please don't let kingebukasblog cry because you don't want his type.

I concor with the bolded. Can you imagine a man coming just because of that? Something that will vanish within how many minutes? We want men who love us for us.

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha. I don't want a virgin biko. were we go start?

bennyann:


To me you are, because of what you carry within. Your presence alone surpasses that of many virgins. And to God you're much more than a Virgin.

But please don't let kingebukasblog cry because you don't want his type.

I concor with the bolded. Can you imagine a man coming just because of that? Something that will vanish within how many minutes? We want men who love us for us.

Don't get me wrong . I'm saying that for me , being a virgin is a prerequisite before anything else happens . You just dont whoore about with other men and I they will leave the left over for me . Wtf is that ?? If its for love , respect and being faithful to the lady , that's so easy . I will love , cherish , respect and support her - but she has to be a virgin first . Being a uxorious man is not difficult at all .

KingEbukasBlog:







Maka why?



Well ... its a male ego thing . Some men get appalled just at the idea that they'll marry a woman whose virginity has been taken by another man or different men (that's worse and unacceptable ) . To me , its emasculating .

But the men who feel emasculated by the thought of another man having access to what they now own virgins themselves?

They have penetrated holes of different sizes and depths,yet wants a preserved well kept field. iyooo.

Virginity is to God, not to my husband. It's God who said, "Thou shall not", not man.
Am even glad am not a virgin.

Any man who can't keep his own, shd not demand it from another.

analice107:

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha. I don't want a virgin biko. were we go start?

That's the thing . Una no dey sexually compatible at all . Na wahala from the beginning of marriage if you should marry a virgin .

analice107:

But the men who feel emasculated by the thought of another man having access to what they now own virgins themselves?

They have penetrated holes of different sizes and depths,yet wants a preserved well kept field. iyooo.

Men and women think differently ; we all have distinct psychological traits . How you see things isn't we men see things


@ emboldened text :

Virginity is to God, not to my husband. It's God who said, "Thou shall not", not man.

But the virginity is for your husband . And your husband reports to God . Virginity is significant because it means you are entering the marriage pure and innocent .

Am even glad am not a virgin.

Analice , Analice ... hehe ... but why ?

Any man who can't keep his own, shd not demand it from another.

Again , men and women think so differently . But I get what you mean sha

KingEbukasBlog:







Maka why?



Well ... its a male ego thing . Some men get appalled just at the idea that they'll marry a woman whose virginity has been taken by another man or different men (that's worse and unacceptable ) . To me , its emasculating .

so you're a Virgin
At your age
Lmao

Sarassin:
Every man loves two women; the one is the creation of his imagination, and the other is not yet born.

Then he loves no one.. The word 'love' is justified where there's no perfection.

hahn:


Jesus will be proud

Preach on! I like it when you're on that mode

Melsan:
Where are the good,godly single guys sef?

They know themselves than we know them
But are you not one?

Melsan:
We don see as una plenty.

RighteousI:
The dangerous issue with this topic is not the fate of the good, godly girls but the fact that some people may tend to believe that a woman is good and godly just because she tells us so. What if she is lying in order to poach herself a true christian man? So don't get carried away easily, anyone can be anybody.

I laughed and laughed and laughed out everything within. You're so funny. But please next time mention me now

You said 'dangerous issue'. What's dangerous here? Is there something you're not saying? You better start talking now.

My my! The bolded is so funny.. Analice107, MZlady39, Muafrika2, please come laugh with me.

Besides, I was in a confused state when I created this thread. It's very unlike me to voice out my personal thoughts but it was coming to a time I felt I should forget looking out for a fellow believer but I knew it wasn't the right way to go, so I came here to voice all out and surprisingly I got my answers and I also got my thoughts cleared. Thanks to the ladies in the house first, then to the guys. If only they knew how they've helped.

Let me put all my jokes aside. You get to know if one is good not by what she tells you but by what you've seen her do and by words she speaks from her heart. Yes, people pretend but if you're really a true Christian man, you should be able to discern. No one can claim goodness for long. Character smells and if you're watchful, you would notice.

People who are good don't really say so, but their words and works speak for them.

KingEbukasBlog:


That's the thing . Una no dey sexually compatible at all . Na wahala from the beginning of marriage if you should marry a virgin .

Heiiiiiiiiii. Ebuka, what if you find no virgin to marry? what then will you do? Become a reverend father?

This earth is in dire need of your seeds.

bennyann:




I laughed and laughed and laughed out everything within. You're so funny. But please next time mention me now

You said 'dangerous issue'. What's dangerous here? Is there something you're not saying? You better start talking now.

My my! The bolded is so funny... Muafrika2, please come laugh with me.

....

Nice thread bennyann,

KingEbukasBlog:



Don't get me wrong . I'm saying that for me , being a virgin is a prerequisite before anything else happens . You just dont whoore about with other men and I they will leave the left over for me . Wtf is that ?? If its for love , respect and being faithful to the lady , that's so easy . I will love , cherish , respect and support her - but she has to be a virgin first . Being a uxorious man is not difficult at all .

I Can't say that for me. Any man who is a Christian and a virgin should know how to love his partner, because sometimes, he tend to feel like, after all they both met each other virgins so there shouldn't be any special treatment. It sometimes create ego in a man that isn't matured enough. Those are some of the consequences of two celibates coming together.

I prefer a man who loves me whether he is celibate or not, as long as the feeling is mutual and he is also God fearing.

jonbellion:
so you're a Virgin
At your age
Lmao

So you that you're younger, you're not a virgin? eeeeeeewwoooooooo. Please don't destroy your manhood before you decide to settle down OK?

And I hope you're doing good?

RighteousI:
The dangerous issue with this topic is not the fate of the good, godly girls but the fact that some people may tend to believe that a woman is good and godly just because she tells us so. What is she is lying in order to poach herself a true christian man? So don't get carried away easily, anyone can be anybody.

word!!

anyone can be anybody online

bennyann:


By the special grace of God, I will be the last person to do that if we aren't married. I think I've been misunderstood.

Besides, I said the man who is worthy of it.

For example, I carry on my natural hair, meaning it isn't relaxed. I wouldn't want someone from nowhere to just tell me he wants it relaxed. I will only listen to the man who is worthy of it. The man I know who has earned me sacrificing those little things that aren't against God.

For now I wouldn't want to do those things but for that particular person's sake I can decide to change because he deserves it. Mind you, this person I'm talking about will be someone who fears God.

I've seen those who are Godly asking me to relax my hair but I felt they aren't qualified to ask that of me so I ignore. When I tell them I'm waiting for my man to tell me that before I do it, they laugh at me.

So you see, these are the little things I can do for the one for me as long as they're not unpleasant to God.

Not the hair, do you know how perms damage hair? Don't even mention the chemicals that will seep into your system during the process? Just hide it in weave or a wig if you have to and you'll be good.

KingEbukasBlog:


Anyone can come for anyone . You are brilliant woman , stop being modest

Aaaaawwww. Thank you

Sometimes the thought of marrying the wrong woman can put a man off you know . Other reasons like finances . But what do I know ? I've not even dated before so my comments are mostly what I think and deductions made from a medley of romance stories that I read in books ( not romance books , I hate those) . But I believe mine would be a romantic adventure that my lady to be and I would be proud of .

The thought of marrying the wrong man puts me off too

Hmmm, talking about finances. It's been a major issue and it's also been like a litmus test of true love. I've seen and believe that those who are ready to stand for each other and are determined to make each other happy scale through easily and that's when one is not leaving the entire work for the other.

It would be nice to have someone who is financially buoyant but I prefer to start and to go through it all with the person. You have no idea the blessings that follow when two people who have the interest of each other at heart join forces. It works like magic because the fire is there, the motivation, the love you need to move ahead and the determination to make sure your partner get the best you can offer. I love that kind of start and I believe in it a lot.

So, Were you ever seduced? How did you arrive this stage with your hairs still intact? Any form of challenges you went through?

And what books did you read the romance stories from?

hopefulLandlord:


word!!

anyone can be anybody online

Like seriously? He seem to be talking about me

It's true though, anyone can be anybody online.

Muafrika2:


Nice thread bennyann,

Thank you dear and I thought I mentioned you all along. I'm sorry about that.

I was never expecting the thread to be nice, I posted it in my weak moment. At a point, I felt like deleting it if I could.

bennyann:


No dear

unhnmnn, the name bennyann sounds like a cousin of benny hinn

bennyann:


Thank you dear and I thought I mentioned you all along. I'm sorry about that.

I was never expecting the thread to be nice, I posted it in my weak moment. At a point, I felt like deleting it if I could.

lolz.. His strength is made perfect in our weakness

analice107:

But the men who feel emasculated by the thought of another man having access to what they now own virgins themselves?

They have penetrated holes of different sizes and depths,yet wants a preserved well kept field. iyooo.

Virginity is to God, not to my husband. It's God who said, "Thou shall not", not man.
Am even glad am not a virgin.

Any man who can't keep his own, shd not demand it from another.

Muafrika2:

Not the hair, do you know how perms damage hair? Don't even mention the chemicals that will seep into your system during the process? Just hide it in weave or a wig if you have to and you'll be good.

Don't tell me you go natural too do you?

Thanks for the advice because I'm fund of just packing my hair in a bonny form. Thanks dear