HEseesall:



When he told me he wants to use his share for his parents, we agreed my share would be used for get a property then we start to build from there and that's what i did, i expected he knows i would use my name cos i keep the documents, now he is saying he wants his own name only not jointly, who says that pls, at least i compromised for jointly,

emelda86:


Imagine otoro gbabuo ya...

keeenee:
Madam you haven't told us the full story. No man asks his wife&kids to leave after just one fight.
Has their been serial fights, misunderstandings,trust issues and an unhappy home.
Who's the cause of so.
It's not just the house I guess, I believe the problem is deeper than what you ve painted. So get proper counselling and sure not from nairaland only o.

CrazeMan69:


Shut your mouth �,
Did he throw her bags outside? Did he beat her?
Do you know what really went down?

You heard a sob story and you are condemning the man
Your type will be jumping from one church to another because of broken homes when you are the cause of your misfortune

CSTR1005:
I don't want to go tribal, but if your husband is Yoruba, then you need to be more careful.


Yoruba men don't even hesitate to move on. They move on very quickly.


Igbo men still wait a little while longer.

Sterope:
HEseesall

You and your husband had an agreement but somthing came up. His dad was sick and he could not go ahead with what you have agreed on. Your husband did not spend the money on parties, he spent it on father's sickness. Your story and action make it seem like you are more concerned about him not keeping to the agreement than the reason he broke it off.

Lucky for him, he didn't spend all the money on his father's sickness. He added the remainder to the building of the house which means he should have a share of the property. However you chose not to amend the title documents even though he also contributed.Why? Well, you were wrong to do that.You would have hated him if it were you.

It is sad your husband has appeared to be very selfish, arrogant, illogical and immature. His subsequent reactions have trumped yours. A husband who is comfortable to ask his family to pack put because he can do so or because his name is on the title document is wicked. You are fortunate that your name was on the title document. That action appears to justify and nullify your bad behaviour. With a man like that, you are very lucky.

You have done well to want to amend the title document to reflect his contribution. Don't let him use seperation and divorce to blackmail you into using his sole name. It is a wicked and selfish idea. His actions have proved that you will regret it if it is in his name only. I wish you the best. I hope it works out between you two.

eyinjuege:


I also stand to tell you that the cause.of the argument was deliberate- an attempt by her husband to send his family out and bring another woman in.
He probably has another woman anyway, which may have caused their quarrel in the first place.
It was his grand plan all along which backfired

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


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HEseesall:



You dont understand, we have kids, i am working but i cant do everything on my own, how will i tell them we are no more together because of property

CSTR1005:
I don't want to go tribal, but if your husband is Yoruba, then you need to be more careful.


Yoruba men don't even hesitate to move on. They move on very quickly.


Igbo men still wait a little while longer.

HEseesall:



When he told me he wants to use his share for his parents, we agreed my share would be used for get a property then we start to build from there and that's what i did, i expected he knows i would use my name cos i keep the documents, now he is saying he wants his own name only not jointly, who says that pls, at least i compromised for jointly,

BestDude:


Oga shut up. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh. You cant give what you don't have.

Personally I have a strong hatred for people who use the word "pack out of my house" I don't forgive such people.

Helju:
Congratulations my dear. You listened to the ministering of your guardian angel at the beginning and bought the property in your name. At this time, you should be thanking your God and ask for his will to be done in your life. One rarely wins the battle against her husband & his family, so prayerfully hand the battle over to your God & watch what happens.

CrazeMan69:


You are making an empty argument based on assumptions.
If he had another woman I bet you the OP won’t be asking wether to add his name she will be asking wether she should apologize for cutting of his joystick

Amberon11:
Careful about what exactly? Didn't he already leave her? Stop acting like someone is dying. Losing a useless man should be a testimony, not something to be sorrowful about.

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


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Orgym:


You have only heard one side of the story and start vomiting all that you never swallowed. Don't use you predicament to judge this guy. Do you think it is possible for a woman to build house without the financial contribution of her husband! I don't think so. Women will always look for a point of negotiation when issue arise in the family.
I believe this man felt very bad that her wife could name a document after her name even when he is the head of the family. He moved out of the house because his wife betrayed his trust and not because of the house issue in particular.
What belong to a man also belong to a woman in a Family. All properties are supposed to me named after the name of the couple. The ideal name should be Mr and Mrs ABCD. Its an issue that can be resolve within the family. Humble yourself before your husband and stop playing to be smart.

JoannaSedley:
You can deduce that from my submission you quoted, eei?
Nay, marriage have always been a business in Africa where the man needs a glorified maid and the woman needs to escape from either poverty or something. It has always been a business of convenience... Nothing else. No matter the love we tend to profess we always go back to the traditional archaic mindsets of our forefathers who knows nothing about love.

sholatech:
Change it to Mr & Mrs ABC. It is allowed. That way, it is now for both of you.

oloyede252:

very irritating. many people can't logically comprehend and analyze issues properly.. especially women on this thread.

Amberon11:
Shut up, mumu. Please save such rubbish advice for your sisters, sane people don't need it.

CrazeMan69:


I agree that phrase “pack out of my house” should never be used but if not acted upon the case is different.

Oya now she has the house shey baba don dey plan move to another state without complaining?
Is she not the one still pained now?
Please don’t use your think through your anus, a broken home is very bad.
You can try it if you want

HEseesall:



When he told me he wants to use his share for his parents, we agreed my share would be used for get a property then we start to build from there and that's what i did, i expected he knows i would use my name cos i keep the documents, now he is saying he wants his own name only not jointly, who says that pls, at least i compromised for jointly,

cococandy:
Go and sit down.