truthsayer009:


This is a lie abeg, infact a very big one at that. These signs always show when you are dating.

You will notice people who are Proud, Cheats, gets angry at the slightest provocation etc

Nobody should come with this crap that they never knew when they were courting. Please.

Chiefochiefo:

[s]I won't mind you, just because you are a woman. Women are always happy seeing their fellow woman suffer marriage. You're of them[/s]

kennygee:


I'm just saying she should give it her best shot, if it still doesn't work, then hope she has a job or business that can sustain her and her child?

Jentle244:




I feel ur pain really

First of all what I would say is this: He body shames u at any given opportunity. I would say say u work on ur body, do some exercise, avoid fatty foods, watch your diet. and be discipled about it. I guess ur husband married u a slim lady? go back to that ur former shape.

If u ask me I don't like women who are fat unnecessarily. thruth be told.

So work on ur weight and body size.




Secondly, are u a spiritual woman?

A woman who kneels before God will stand before men.

I use to know an aunt whose husband cheats on her. Every time she complains to my mum until my mum told her what to do. She prayed a prayer that no man who cheats on his wife to pray


"O Lord my his penis never stand if he meets a strange woman" an it worked like fire cause God has said whatever God has joined together let no man put asunder, that girl is trying to put asunder(divide) in your marriage.


So what am trying to say is that u must be a prayer woman if u want a peaceful home.





Thirdly, Know how to cook, especially his favorite. it is said that the way to a man's heart is through the stomach which invariably means food, good food as at that. if u don't know learn from ur friends.

Fourthly, Be romantic, my sister know how to dob it in bed, like the above saying, another way to a Man's heart is through sex. This is the 21st century where the internet is at our finger tips. learn how to seduce him, learn how to u know moan, wriggle your body etc. Am not saying u should watch porn.



And Lastly, Be supportive: supportive in the sense that u are supportive emotionally, money wise and prayer wise.


In terms of money if u don't have something doing, men tend to get irritated especially when he has a girl outside. Learn a handwork such as decoration, pastry, confectioneries, catering etc



The ball is in your Court



I rest my case

Biglittlelois:



Your stupid advise is null and void when you typed @bolded, who fvcking raised you

Chiefochiefo:
The only problem am seeing here is you. Yes YOU!
It is you because you are porknosing, it is you because you are not minding your business, it is you because you left a four month old baby looking for a proof that is worthless, it is you because you have left your former life as a beautiful woman to a full time mama, and it is you because you fail to understand that a man whose wife just gave birth will have to leave her for sex for sometimes.
My advise is this, since he has told you your faults, try and make up, pretend like you don't mind his mess again, give yourself time, build up your morales, be jovial, focus on making yourself beautiful like when he first met you. Remember, women has the gift of beauty. Do this, your hubby will come back to you magically. It's an advise.

Glorylynn:
That keep praying for him dey always vex me,damn!! I am a man but I feel women deserves peace of mind,someone is doing something wrong and he is even bold about it and you are saying she should be praying for him,assuming it was a woman that did this you will all be here shouting divorce up and down,do we have 2heads as a man?women deserves to be happy too in a marriage and stop carrying emotional burden..
it’s so horrible in this our part of the world,most times I feel the reason why women stay in an abusive marriage is just because of lack of money and I pray the lord bless every female on earth abundantly and make them breadwinners too.

TheNaijanBlog:
Hahaha you do know ‘War Room’ is fiction right? I am sorry no amount of prayers can change a cheating man. If not we won’t have many pastors with prayer warriors as wife still cheating on their wives.

CHoccolaTE:
I have even heard of worse cases than OPs.
There was one married man that told his wife to call his side chic and apologise to her after the wife warned the side chic to leave her husband.

My former neighbour beat his wife till her nose broke and was bleeding all over her dress because the stupid man wanted to invite the girlfriend to the house and his wife locked the door and hid the key.


These are just few, I know many other horrifying cases of married men acting like beasts to their wives because in Africa nobody cautions them.
Funny thing is that the baby you bore is for his family and bears his name and will carry on his lineage. But he is body shaming you for losing your beauty after having the child.

Madam OP, if you are open to using diabolical means against him please do so. Or get people to severely beat him up and wound him seriously.
Or just ignore him and bear. If na me I will put little quantities of me and my babies piss and shit in his every meal I prepare for him along with using diabolical means against him.
I love revenge, I don't joke with it.

Chiefochiefo:

Which favour will you do her when she separates? Marry her or accommodate her?

kennygee:
Dear woman, I can imagine the emotional and psychological pain you're going thru, however, making a decision right now might not be wise cause it will be an emotional one.

Just keep praying for him and ask God for strength to overcome. It is only when there's a crack in the wall that a lizard can enter.

Start working out the little way you can, start dressing really nice, so nice you'll get compliments outside. It will improve your self esteem, wear make up, smell nice. It might not stop him from cheating but it will build up your self esteem and confidence so much that you'll see you're not the problem.

You'll be in a better place to decide if you want to stay with him or leave.

All the best.

I hope you have a job or a business sha?

Cause the best security a woman can have is her own money.

sisisioge:
4ks!

He did that! 4kssss! Blowdyfellow!

What do you want to do without getting in trouble? Chai! Can you arrange to travel out of the country while liquidating all his assets while at it? As in, you will sell his properties at ridiculous rates, spoil all the unsellable, send a picture of him and the girl to his work place, then call his family to tell them on your way out. Remember not to tell him where u are going o.


Pele...pull yourself together though. Do not let them see your anger.

Chiefochiefo:

Husbands of people like you are worst. Just watch it, you will come asking for my advise someday

tintingz:
The bolded is the most useless advice! The rest are ok.

Frankiss44:


And how exactly is that advice useless... Most of u lot just underestimate the role of prayers and it is very funny.. 90 percent of martial issues have spiritual undertone, I don't expect you to believe it anyway.. But the institution of marriage is one area the devil will always fight with all his might... But we just focus on the physical forgetting that most battles have spiritual roots

spongeisback:
I hope when a woman cheats on her husband it also has a spiritual undertone.
PS prayer doesn't work. If it did Nigeria will be paradise.

Frankiss44:


And how exactly is that advice useless... Most of u lot just underestimate the role of prayers and it is very funny.. 90 percent of martial issues have spiritual undertone, I don't expect you to believe it anyway.. But the institution of marriage is one area the devil will always fight with all his might... But we just focus on the physical forgetting that most battles have spiritual roots

Needtolove:
Hi nairalanders this post is going to be quite disorganized, as I am not such a good writer. Just need an avenue to let our some steam. No advise needed too. The only way forward for me is to quit my marriage.

The reason for this write up is to ease the pain of betrayal that comes from my husband cheating on me with a our neighbor,what really hurts is that after I investigated and found out her identity, I presented him with hard evidence ,instead of an apology he said he is an African man o and polygamy is allowed. He says I should better mind my business as the said girl is not disturbing me. He further stated that the girl is crazy o, so I should not even think of confronting her

Just this morning she had the nerve to come to my apartment with her room mate to clarify some house issues. The nerve of all of them. Really want to make them pay. Really want to make my husband suffer.
This guy body shames me at any chance he gets. (I have a four month old baby) he says am ugly and shapless, and my breast are flat

I want African men to know that women have feelings too, am expected to bottle up my pain and be a woman. When I react violently he calls me mad woman. He is still with her and I am still expected to mind my business.
I will though, but they will both get it.

kennygee:
Dear woman, I can imagine the emotional and psychological pain you're going thru, however, making a decision right now might not be wise cause it will be an emotional one.

Just keep praying for him and ask God for strength to overcome. It is only when there's a crack in the wall that a lizard can enter.

Start working out the little way you can, start dressing really nice, so nice you'll get compliments outside. It will improve your self esteem, wear make up, smell nice. It might not stop him from cheating but it will build up your self esteem and confidence so much that you'll see you're not the problem.

You'll be in a better place to decide if you want to stay with him or leave.

All the best.

I hope you have a job or a business sha?

Cause the best security a woman can have is her own money.

tintingz:
Fairytales! prayers don't do anything and there is no God doing anything, humans are just struggling to survive on their own.

The lady praying for her husband is like wasting her time, until something harmful happens to her then maybe she will realize how prayers are useless, I wonder why it didn't work for pastor Oyakhilome, Pastor Okotie and co.

There is no spiritual destroying any marriage, you don't even have evidence to your claims, there are irreligious people living happily married. What they need now is counselling and if it doesn't work out, I will advice the lady to divorce before something worse happen.

I hate seeing people suffering emotionally and depressed for no reason, it's very bad.

kennygee:
Dear woman, I can imagine the emotional and psychological pain you're going thru, however, making a decision right now might not be wise cause it will be an emotional one.

Just keep praying for him and ask God for strength to overcome. It is only when there's a crack in the wall that a lizard can enter.

Start working out the little way you can, start dressing really nice, so nice you'll get compliments outside. It will improve your self esteem, wear make up, smell nice. It might not stop him from cheating but it will build up your self esteem and confidence so much that you'll see you're not the problem.

You'll be in a better place to decide if you want to stay with him or leave.

All the best.

I hope you have a job or a business sha?

Cause the best security a woman can have is her own money.

Biglittlelois:



You out of all sane humans? when I'm not insane

P.S my husband will be a GLORY to behold, you can wish evil to your sisters or daughters I care less.

Frankiss44:


LOL at fairytales.. I don't even know where to start from with you so I won't even try because I believe you are entitled to your opinion.. I am not against divorce, but I believe somethings are still worth fighting for before giving up and the only weapon I use I fighting is prayers, and trust me, it has never let me down...

CHoccolaTE:
I have even heard of worse cases than OPs.
There was one married man that told his wife to call his side chic and apologise to her after the wife warned the side chic to leave her husband.

My former neighbour beat his wife till her nose broke and was bleeding all over her dress because the stupid man wanted to invite the girlfriend to the house and his wife locked the door and hid the key.


These are just few, I know many other horrifying cases of married men acting like beasts to their wives because in Africa nobody cautions them.
Funny thing is that the baby you bore is for his family and bears his name and will carry on his lineage. But he is body shaming you for losing your beauty after having the child.

Madam OP, if you are open to using diabolical means against him please do so. Or get people to severely beat him up and wound him seriously.
Or just ignore him and bear. If na me I will put little quantities of me and my babies piss and shit in his every meal I prepare for him along with using diabolical means against him.
I love revenge, I don't joke with it.