madridsta007:


“You sound so certain”. Thanks, there’s a reason why I am “so certain”. Can’t state it here.

There are successful and well mannered black ladies in the West. However, being “well-mannered” as defined by the West is different from being “well-mannered” as defined by a “homegrown Nigerian man”.

Those adjectives that I’ve put in quotations are important.

A homegrown Nigerian man expects his black lady to love him and their kids, cook in the home, be homely to his friends and family, etc. A well-mannered Nigerian lady brought up in Nigeria is likely to provide this. However, the “well-mannered” black lady whose growth has been in the West does not think like this. Hardly. Divorce, disrespect, “alone time”, etc, are norms you have to deal with. Unless you want to deceive yourself, that’s just how it is.

And no one should blame them. They are only blacks by skin colour. Anything else, they are not blacks.

It’s up to you. But these are the risks. Well-mannered Nigerian brought up ladies have their own risks too; but the risks on their side are less.
Other nationalities and races are good too; but we are talking about the “homegrown Nigerian man”, who wants to probably eat Eba and egusi and not salad and tomatoes for lunch. The “homegrown Nigerian man” will want to scold his child for misbehaving; the woman will want to “tell the child off”.

Can you deal with these?
Homegrown Nigerian men, can’t deal. Unless they want to lie to themselves. They will pretend and wish they married differently.

msmon:
The advantage of entering as a single is that you can date a white girl, impregnate her and get a green passport. All will be history

msmon:
The advantage of entering as a single is that you can date a white girl, impregnate her and get a green passport. All will be history

cococandy:
The questions is unclear:

You’re married wanting to pretend you’re a single person?

Or you’re single wondering if you should get married before leaving?

In any case, it’s relative .

XaintJoel20:
Happy New year House.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of entering the USA as a married man as against entering as a single?

What are the opportunities for being a married person and being single in the USA?

Which is better?

Thanks.

womenareapes:
all I can said to you, don't carry your Nigeria wife to America! I repeat!

Dont try carrying your Nigeria wife to America!

XaintJoel20:
Happy New year House.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of entering the USA as a married man as against entering as a single?

What are the opportunities for being a married person and being single in the USA? ....single....

Which is better?

Thanks.

bukkysam:
No be US embassy website be this o. This is nairaland full of funny and crazy people. May God send sensible people to comment here


I wish you all the best baba mi

payperpost:



please use my own case for instance , please advice me base of this.

I'm babydaddy still considering if I should marry my baby mama or not because

1. My baby mama is a bag or trouble , always hot headed , I have waited to see if she's going to change but now there is no sign in sight that this lady will ever change , she wasnt like this before, she became wild after I brought her to Asokoro Mansion, Abuja from Aba

2. we have a son together and I will love to bring my son to Canada or America in the future if I'm able to travel now, I want a situation where I wont be accused of lying on my passport, I want to make things plain

3 . this is why I'm yet to apply for a passport because I'm confused at this junction on either if he should apply for my Nigerian passport as a married man or as a single man because I have taken the baby mama from Aba to Abuja thinking it's better we live together as one but the baby mama is causing me a lot of trouble arguing over petty stuffs , causing me headache , she feel less consign about the house and would never take advice , so I'm thinking of dumping her and no longer continue with her in the future because she keep slowing me down , I dont need bad energy but I want a better life my son

chigoizie7:
Unless you are going with your wife. Otherwise go as a single guy. Even when you are going with your wife , make sure that she can work as well:


At the end of the day, it all boils down to what you are going to America or Europe to do.

As for me, I am only out here to make money with my youthful strength, no amount of money is ever enough, but we can make enough to invest at home based on exchange rates. That is my own aim of leaving naija. I can decide to eat once or twice a day, I can decide to be sharing a room with someone so that I can save more In terms of rent and other things. Just to save some change, but you can’t do all that when you have your family with you.

It is a lot easier as you do not also have much responsibilities as a single guy. You also know that in those who years when you are struggling to get your papers, that you are also working, invest, build something in naija. Maybe some houses for rents. By the time you get your papers fully ready to return to marry, you will have something to show for it. Even when you still want to remain in the abroad with your family, you can easily call money from your investments in naija and live at least a good life. As a married man, except that your wife is working also in naija while you travel. You can’t make much. That money you will be sending for their upkeep would be useful as it will be going to investments instead of consumptions.

But if your plan is to relocate and live abroad forever, then you can go with your family, but it still makes sense for you to atleast stand a little on your own in a foreign land before bringing a second or third party.

Isoduwa:
Stay in your country and build your state

Better days are coming


All the bad leaders will die before 2023

Then Nigerian will be great again

fairfora:
Entering as single is farrrrr better. I entered as a single guy in my late 20s, almost 15 years ago. I benefited a lot as a single guy whole schooling and working because I did not have any responsibilities...no wife or children to cater for and I was able to think straight without a divided attention.

A few years later, my close friend also entered though as a non immigrant visa holder and also as a single guy. He claimed asylum which was later granted. He enrolled in a nursing school and later qualified as a nurse. He then came to Nigeria to marry his long term friend.

If you enter as a married man, things wouldn't be as easy as you think especially if you're not entering as an immigrant. Your kids would be enrolled in school to enjoy free education yes! But there are side payments too which you must bear. Remember you do not have a resident permit so odd jobs are inevitable. Eating from hands to mouth too would be the norm.

If you want to relocate, it's better you do as an immigrant if you hold an H-1B , entering with an NIV wouldn't be a good move bro

mrsirdam:

From experience, it's easier moving as a single guy but if both of you have the travel documents, you don't need to wait, you should both leave together

Beautyaddy:


Hmmm...If you're entering the US or Europe with an immigrant visa(green card) or in the case of Europe(resident permit) it'll be more advisable to go as a married man but if you're going to the US or Europe on a visiting visa(temporary visa) then it will be more advisable to enter either Countries as a single man.

At least it will give you more opportunities to get your permanent status easily by getting married to a Citizen to get your green card or legal status very fast.

lordally:


Help a brother move in as a single Guy...if na money that one no be problem...na to get d visa be the ish!! Can u help out?

cydophobia:
PM me for Shengen visa.

cydophobia:
PM me for Shengen visa.

Edusouls:
No go find work or something to make your life useful in Nigeria, guy travelling to USA nowadays is a total waste of time and resources ask people wey dey there for donkey years..

madridsta007:


There are successful and well mannered black ladies in the West. However, being “well-mannered” as defined by the West is different from being “well-mannered” as defined by a “homegrown Nigerian man”.

A homegrown Nigerian man expects his black lady to love him and their kids, cook in the home, be homely to his friends and family, etc. A well-mannered Nigerian lady brought up in Nigeria is likely to provide this. However, the “well-mannered” black lady whose growth has been in the West does not think like this. Hardly. Divorce, disrespect, “alone time”, etc, are norms you have to deal with. Unless you want to deceive yourself, that’s just how it is.

It’s up to you. But these are the risks. Well-mannered Nigerian brought up ladies have their own risks too; but the risks on their side are less.
Other nationalities and races are good too; but we are talking about the “homegrown Nigerian man”, who wants to probably eat Eba and egusi and not salad and tomatoes for lunch. The “homegrown Nigerian man” will want to scold his child for misbehaving; the woman will want to “tell the child off”.

Can you deal with these?
Homegrown Nigerian men, can’t deal. Unless they want to lie to themselves. They will pretend and wish they married differently.

XaintJoel20:
Happy New year House.
What are the advantages and disadvantages of entering the USA as a married man as against entering as a single?

What are the opportunities for being a married person and being single in the USA?

Which is better?

Thanks.

Jestin:
Oga you should go as single and after you settle down, come and take ur wife. It is not easy to travel as couple except ur owo long

payperpost:



please use my own case for instance , please advice me base of this.

I'm babydaddy still considering if I should marry my baby mama or not because

1. My baby mama is a bag or trouble , always hot headed , I have waited to see if she's going to change but now there is no sign in sight that this lady will ever change , she wasnt like this before, she became wild after I brought her to Asokoro Mansion, Abuja from Aba

2. we have a son together and I will love to bring my son to Canada or America in the future if I'm able to travel now, I want a situation where I wont be accused of lying on my passport, I want to make things plain

3 . this is why I'm yet to apply for a passport because I'm confused at this junction on either if he should apply for my Nigerian passport as a married man or as a single man because I have taken the baby mama from Aba to Abuja thinking it's better we live together as one but the baby mama is causing me a lot of trouble arguing over petty stuffs , causing me headache , she feel less consign about the house and would never take advice , so I'm thinking of dumping her and no longer continue with her in the future because she keep slowing me down , I dont need bad energy but I want a better life my son