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Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by namiji2598: 9:28am On Feb 13, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:u ar absolutely right, he was raised by a single mum, his father died when he was young of age, his father was rich in d olden days, all of my sister's husband siblings are educated and are doing good, he is the only male child and the only uneducated among them all |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by GHoJes: 10:19am On Feb 13, 2020 |
It is not ego at all but a kind of laziness. I saw this type of laziness clearly with a man who has two cars, he uses non for business except to run errands for his wife who does food business. He assist her truly with the business but y'all know how better their finances would be if he gave someone one of the cars or at least uses it for uber. Then I payed attention to the way he assist the wife and I saw even though he is helping, most of his work in the kitchen is mere busy body because he can't handle the kitchen work efficiently like the wife plus there is this limit to what a man can do in the kitchen before the public as far as our society is concerned. At the end of the day bulk burden is on the woman who is now looking way older than the man from too much stress. Some people are naturally laid back, if you don't push them to get on the road they don't seem to know how to pull themselves up when they lie flat on the ground but can do very well when they are helped up. I can bet someone helped him with his first job. What your sister need to do now is to expand the grinding business for him and let him man it with the way someone already suggested on managing the finance. Because if he is left alone he won't just pick himself up. More importantly now, your sister should watch out for which of her kids is laid back like the dad because that is where his mum failed. He can do chores because he was assisting his mum and she was comfortable with just that, today that is all he can offer because his hustling spirit doesn't switch on its own. She would have pushed him to do those chores and hustling young boys starts with especially outside the home. So this is what your sister should look for and start doing early else history will repeat itself. Early traits to look out for in these set of lazy People is that they like doing things at their own time which is usually late, they stay indoors too much, they rise up late etc let your sister maximize the little he can do because there exist the ones that are altogether useless. 4 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by Nobody: 10:36am On Feb 13, 2020 |
namiji2598:he grew up without a father figure and saw his mum doing everything. It only makes sense that he would expect the same from his wife. That is the thing about single parent households. It messes the psyche of growing children, especially the boys. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by Nobody: 10:37am On Feb 13, 2020 |
namiji2598:he grew up without a father figure and saw his mum doing everything. It only makes sense that he would expect the same from his wife. That is the thing about single parent households. It messes the psyche of growing children, especially the boys. The thing with these kind of marriages is that the woman will snap one day. They always do. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by Originalsly: 11:28am On Feb 13, 2020 |
namiji2598: The more you write the more you're stuffing your foot in your mouth. The man is too big to do Uber..... that painted him to be a man full of pride.... and here you are saying the opposite. All that you said above is different from the picture you first painted that he is lazy. What exactly is your problem with him? Is it because he has no regular job to go to everyday?... as in a 9to5 or UBer? Is it you are the one suffering from pride because if asked... you cannot say your brother in law is employed in a field on the same level as you and your successful educated family members?.. that his unemployed status is hurting the family pride? That's what I'm reading between the lines. Your sister is going through financial hardships.... are you not contributing to it? How much do you contribute to the family?.... is that more than the amount you would pay if you are on your own? If not... breaking news... you are part of the problem. The husband was working.... they could've afforded you then ... but not after he lost his job. The house is big enough for all of you.... really?... so why should you leave is what you're implying? Three years you've been staying there... with no end in sight. Did it ever occur to you that your sister is hinting that you move on? On your own.... you should be looking to move on. Where is your bf?... where is your fiance? ... you are pretty much a refugee.... humbly accept their willingness to harbor you and stop trying to meddle in their domestic affair. The time spent on trying to undermine their marriage can be better spent trying to upgrade your English to that expected of a teacher. Let your sister and her husband be. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by LadySarah: 10:28pm On Feb 13, 2020 |
He needs a push via encouragement. He needs to be motivated ecpecially by someone he respects a lot. His mum and his wife can do this together and see him Hu gry to provide for his family. Also your sis should step back a bit in the area of providing things especially the ones that Will embarrass him sort of. Eg delay paying the rent or school fees late while directing them to the husband to see his rxn. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by ruzell86: 8:53pm On Feb 15, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2:You sound so mean though, but you get sense! |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by Theyoungmatron: 7:13am On Feb 16, 2020 |
funmisticqueen2: GHoJes:Well put. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by Goodgod213: 10:49am On Feb 16, 2020 |
namiji2598: Boy you have been in that house for 3 years or more sef. Are you not going to go hustle for yourself and get a apartment. Leave their marriage and go hustle your own. You are actually the problem as you are a extra mouth to feed. You just sit down day analyze another man marriage when you cannot even boast of 10k on your own. You could as well join Boko Haram if you are that jobless 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by namiji2598: 1:38pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Goodgod213:some people self sha, oya u wey get the 10k dash me na. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by Goodgod213: 2:09pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
namiji2598: Why will I give a northerner 10k when your brother is the president of the country and you are sitting down with your Android discussing your sister marriage to the WORLD |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by namiji2598: 3:58pm On Feb 16, 2020 |
Goodgod213:Bros I have almost a million naira in my account, me staying in their house is because the husband and kids asked me to. I am a gambler, I was into forex among others during my service year. I am not saying I have achieved anything, or I am better than u in anyway but biko STFU 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by shege45: 3:29am On Feb 17, 2020 |
NeoWanZaeed:lol i thought this was the family section? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by NeoWanZaeed(m): 7:55am On Feb 17, 2020 |
shege45: And does that mean to be divulging about stuffs that doesn't concern you. Wetin concern you with wetin no concern you |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by nahzyla: 8:32am On Feb 17, 2020 |
Why are people saying OP should mind his business? Nairaland is free for all, if you don't like the topic then jump am pass You people are just angry that a man is being criticized and woman getting praise. |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by shege45: 9:33am On Feb 17, 2020 |
NeoWanZaeed:bro this is a faceless forum, no one knows anyone facial unless you want to be know . Calm down, na wetin they make this page go on. If you do not like it, check another story |
Re: My Sister's Husband Is Lazy But He Helps Her With House Chores by frozen70(f): 2:49pm On Feb 18, 2020 |
namiji2598: To me, he is a domestic man which women loves If only he can drop his ego and help at home That car will still cause trouble at home Your sister should start using the car for her own self if he will allow it Better still, sell the car and buy a land with the proceed |
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