hupo:
Proverb 4: 23 makes it clear - Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it proceeds the issues of life. What one feeds his heart with constantly whether consciously or unconsciously is what one gradually becomes.

In essence, I am what I think. Before one engages in masturbation, it comes as a thought, if not countered at that instance, the mind natures it and if there is no further resistance. it materializes into the act.

The best way is to have the word of God handy at heart such that as the thought comes in, the wordplay of God is there to resist it.

I encourage you to take refuge in God's word whenever such thought comes up, make a commitment to always overcome and before long it will become a thing of the past.

That said, the bulk lies with you. Do you have that resolve to turn a new leaf, if yes, then God has got your back covered.

Stay Blessed. Happy Resurrection Sunday!

There is a difference between pornography and masturbation.

My brother locate any mfm around you very early on monday,under 3 days fasting and deliverance that demon of masturbation wll flee away i .bet you,you wll thank me for this advice.

KyleXYZ:
Religion is practical.
When you're hungry, you eat.
When you're thirsty you drink.
When you're sleepy, you sleep.
When you turn it the other way round, it simply doesn't work.
It's natural to have a longing for the opposite sex.
The problem is we don't have a solution to it.
A boy/girls starts seeing changes in himself/herself from as early as 12-14.
The urge for sex comes in.
There's no solution to it.
Why is it impossible for the girl/boy to marry and have sex as frequently as possible even without pregnancy setting in?
Sounds crazy, right?
That's why we're where we are.

Now compounding the problem.

Nudity and explicit sexual content is everywhere. Too readily available.

If you're caught in the masturbation web, though it's wrong, but the solution is NEVER applied.

So try to be strong for yourself while you struggle with it. Pray, pray. Pray. Avoid sexual content as much as possible.

Keep your eyes away from those nude girls littering everywhere. BE DISCIPLINED.

Above all, marry as soon as you can, a wife who can give it to you very well.

The world can only quote for you, they don't have the solution for you.

So just look inwards and 'fight' it the right way - discipline and marriage.

You lack understand of human anatomy and economic importance of masturbation.

stanliwise:
You didn’t read that verse very well because if you did you would have notice God punished him for his disobedience.

that is not my business all I know that it was after d act that God punished him

judedwriter:


1 Thessalonians 5:23

The ONLY WAY to overcome masturbation and other sins is spiritual maturity.

You have to keep growing spiritually by feeding on God's Word, fasting and praying in tongues.

We all consists of spirit, soul and body. The body is sinful and craves sin. The spirit is holy and is in the semblance of God. The soul is the emotional part of man.

The more you feed the spirit with God's Word, the weaker the sinful body becomes with all its sinful cravings.

1 Thessalonians 5:23 And the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Pls how can open a new thread. I want to publish my True Life Story

osazsky:
that is not my business all I know that it was after d act that God punished him

Good, so in conclusion....

stanliwise:
Good, so in conclusion....

do not kill a seed by pouring it up and down.....that's y as a married man u must know ur wifes ovulation period and back it up with pills it's a sin for ur sperm to touch d ground.i have said my own...if u are not married..hold urself...sex is overrated and sacred.no pastor will tell u this

This friend of ours should makeup his mind never to masturbate again, I think only his internal self dedication can help him figure out how to stop.

Nothing can satisfy a man's soul only Jesus. No one can save a man's soul but only Jesus

osazsky:
do not kill a seed by pouring it up and down.....that's y as a married man u must know ur wifes ovulation period and back it up with pills it's a sin for u sperm to touch d ground.i have said my own...if u are not married..hold urself...sex is overrated and sacred.no pastor will tell u this

why was the Song of Solomon written?

You are just plain dogmatic and naive with your over simplistic analysis of the Bible. You know very well you can’t get anything from the verse so you try to imply.

Let me ask you, Have you ever gone for Sperm count?

davidinchrist:


The only way to overcome sexual sins and other sins is to be surrendered to Jesus.

Jesus who now! What was his relationship with Mary Magdalene?

BlackShit:
So what are you doing now as a solution, fornicating?

And was that the 'cure' you suggested to him?


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The Bible condemns uncleanness and impurities, which masturbation is, and other sexual sins also fall under.

EXACTLY!!! The Bible is against masturbation.

stanliwise:
why was the Song of Solomon written?

You are just plain dogmatic and naive with your over simplistic analysis of the Bible. You know very well you can’t get anything from the verse so you try to imply.

Let me ask you, Have you ever gone for Sperm count?

I love pastors and Christian which I am..they love to select the verses that suit them and disregard d rest...
Anything in d bible is binding my dear ..no matter how u try to modernise it...I see women in the house of God praying without covering their hair....yes it's now acceptable...like I said every single word in the bible is binding

stanliwise:
why was the Song of Solomon written?

You are just plain dogmatic and naive with your over simplistic analysis of the Bible. You know very well you can’t get anything from the verse so you try to imply.

Let me ask you, Have you ever gone for Sperm count?

what has the number of sperm someone has and preventing it from touching d ground got to do with this

Thank you, Jesus.

One of the major reasons for masturbation is Loneliness and low self esteem. When you are lonely you are vulnerable. At this point, get yourself busy with something. You could read your Bible and other makes that can build your spiritual life, you could exercise to get rid of this bad thought and last always try as much possible to be in the mist of people. Hope this will help your friend and every other person struggling with masturbation.

osazsky:
Most Christians don't know this and pastors always ignore this....its been hidden for ages

Don't read Bible like a story book, God was angry with him because he's disobedient. God wanted him to get her pregnant, so she can have offspring but onan doesn't want that to happen as against what God wanted, he only enjoy having sex with her (Tamar) and waste his semen to dislowed pregnancy which was the main purpose.

Mind you, sperm can't stay for long in a man's body, it's always replaced with new ones if you don't have sex for maximum of six month you will bed wet, it would find it's way out while sleeping, I think the semen is also wasted that way, does that makes you a sinner because you system is functioning well

gemini35:
My brother locate any mfm around you very early on monday,under 3 days fasting and deliverance that demon of masturbation wll flee away i .bet you,you wll thank me for this advice.

Speaking from experience?

stanliwise:
There is a difference between pornography and masturbation.

Suffix to say that a fine line cannot be drawn between the two because there is not difference in their end results.

osazsky:
what has the number of sperm someone has and preventing it from touching d ground got to do with this

you simply don’t understand that story.

Genesis 38:8-10 New International Version (NIV)

8 Then Judah said to Onan, “Sleep with your brother’s wife and fulfill your duty to her as a brother-in-law to raise up offspring for your brother.”

9 But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother.

10 What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death also.

Onan slept with his brothers wife more than once and he was always spilling his semen.
God didn’t kill him the first time

Verse 9 told us what Onan thought in his heart and how he planned not to fulfill God promises but was instead just using his brothers wife for mere pleasure and not wanting to fulfill Gods will.

If after this you still claim refusal then so be it

BlackShit:
So what are you doing now as a solution, fornicating?

And was that the 'cure' you suggested to him?


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The Bible condemns uncleanness and impurities, which masturbation is, and other sexual sins also fall under.

I'm interested in knowing how you know masturbation is a sexual sin. Can you elucidate with scriptural reference?

hupo:

Suffix to say that a fine line cannot be drawn between the two because there is not difference in their end results.

Let me draw some differences

Have you ever done sperm count?

stanliwise:
There is a difference between pornography and masturbation.

You can't masturbate without thinking lustfully.

SmartyPants:


I'm interested in knowing how you know masturbation is a sexual sin. Can you elucidate with scriptural reference?

He would plainly mention Onan which has no relationship with masturbation.

If he believes in God and holds him dear, one short trick is to hold things he seems sacred close to him when he is alone or in bed

Heard of a guy that couldn't masturbate with his medal or rosary he wears around his neck......he always removes it because he feels/ know he can't do it with those sacramentals on.......that alone shows it's evil right....

Even if it's a Bible, Rosary, scapula or anything that would help him feel God's presence...he should keep close to him

And night prayers...,.........very necessary

tonapuck:


You can't masturbate without thinking lustfully.

Don’t dogde the question.
Do you know how sperm count is done?

BlackShit:


We're all struggling bro. I don't judge or condemn anyone. Just encourage and advise.

A man's body is literally a 24/7 running high-powered living sex machine. All that energy be released one way or the other, voluntarily or involuntarily.

Say this in Spanish abeg

stanliwise:
please where exactly did the Bible condemn masturbation? Or are you trying to add something to it?

What is evil is evil, it is like asking where "Rapture" is written in the bible. Masturbation is a sexual act.
Sexuality should be exercise within the confines of marriage otherwise it is sinful.

There may be an exception, perhaps under medical condition(if necessary) for the unmarried

MY STORY (ITAN AYE MI)
I am 32years old (born in 1988) but reduced my age to 28years (born 1992) due to the situation of things in Nigeria. I started the race of this life with the hope that I have no enemy and that everything will be okay since I hate no one my believes was that everyone are like me.
I finished Secondary School in the year 2006. I did Computer Training in that same year. I registered for my First JAMB in the year 2007 and I scored 166, then the cutoff mark was 160, so I applied for University of Calabar Post UME but I was denied admission and I started working in a mini computer centre in that year (2007), but before that, I first worked as a Sales Boy where I sell recharge cards and engaged in renting of Video CDs, my salary was N2,500 in the year 2006 before I went for Computer Training (I did the work for few months before I registered for three months Computer Training). But with this token amount of salary, I was realizing little commission and had access to video CDs.
But after my computer training in 2006, I worked for a month in one Computer Business Centre, and my Boss said, she couldn’t coped with the ongoing ASUU internal strike then and that my typing speed was very low, that I should quit for a while. After I quit the job, I went back to my Boss where I learnt computer and he said, there is another woman beside her that need an operator very urgent and he immediately called her, I started the following week. Then my salary was around 5k to 7k but I cannot remember the actual payment again. In this my new office, I was the one in charge because my boss was doing her HND. I served my new employer very well. I was making money for my Boss and also for myself but I never cheated my boss. I was keeping little token for myself, but later I decided to seek a better offer and probably a cyber café. On this faithful day, as I was going home, I saw the advertisement on the wall seeking a Café Attendant in the year 2008. Immediately I saw this, I applied and I was called for interview, we were like eight that applied for this same position. When the result of the interview was out, I was the only one employed for the position. This is where I started my career as an internet guru and I was very happy.
I started my career as a Café Attendant in the year 2008 and at the same time, I obtained 2008 JAMB Form again and I chose Obafemi Awolowo University to studied Electrical and Electronics Engineering, and my JAMB score was 226, so I sat for OAU Post UME but Post UME Score was very low (111), and in OAU for to be consider for admission, you must at least score 200 and above in Post UME. But I never allowed that to weigh me down, I started my work and was very happy, though my salary was 8k but there are lots of opportunities. And during this period, there was nothing like Blackberry, Android, so most people depends on Cyber Café to get their things done and the café is located near the University environment whereby all the school registration are done online. Our cyber café was very popular that before opening the café in the morning, people would be queuing in the gate to secure a computer. I was very active and humble, so I was loved by girls but I had no time for them at that time and am the types that do shy.
During this period, Yahoo business was still pure without going to herbalist for anything, we have a dedicated room for personal laptop users and mostly based on subscription (10k per month), so those guys do subscribe because our IP address was okay and ISP is located in Canada (Ontario). I have access to all this guys and I was exposed to many things online. Then, one of those guys opened a paid dating site for me (lexa.nl, meetic.com) that I should bombing the site with the format he gave me, but I hate taking much time to chat then. I decided to quit the dating stuff. So I learn shopping stuff, using Amazon and Alibaba. I was using Amazon then whereby prepared a format for the seller and he/she shipped item(s) to you in Nigeria, and after shipping the item, you also prepared another formats to extort money from the seller to send to you via Western Union or Moneygram. This period, I was using latest phone and had money but I never invest the money on anything tangible just spent it extravagantly. I used the latest Apple Laptop then and other things. My brain was very wide then, and I ventured into Alibaba where I posted computers for sale at cheaper price. I got a serious buyer on Alibaba that want to buy computers, so he inquired about the computers and I convinced him but he insisted that he need to speak with someone on phone, during this period, I have a client in USA, so immediately I chatted him up that I want him to be my Sales Representative and that I got a customer, so I would like him to prepared an invoice and supply his phone number so that the customer can call him and verify. The customer name is Ramzi and he called my client. My client feed me back and sent the invoice to me if it is okay and I said it was okay. My client supplied his account number and routing number, and Ramzi wired the money into my clients account.
When the transaction was successful, I told my client to send some amount to another client (which is me) in Nigeria for a project, though I could not remember the exact amount but it is between 1.5m to 1.8m in Nigeria currency that was sent to Nigeria. My client asked me when will Ramzi computers be shipped and I said soon, so I told my client to pay his bills and keep the rest money that I will advise on the rest money and I also told him to prepared for Italy to survey Italy for a fast growing business and my client told me that he cannot go alone but had to go with his wife and I agreed. I paid for the tickets. My client spent the rest money which is more than the one he sent to Nigeria. I had no computers to shipped to Ramzi and he kept disturbing me, Ramzi informed the Police, my client messaged me that Police came to his house and said they will charged him to court. (To be continued)

Ramzi was very mad that he was scammed. In 2009, I also obtained another JAMB but I was denied admission at the University, and because of this and being the fact that I had N1.5M, I decided to travel out for my education, so I proceeded to meet an agent in their office and they gave me their packages for Ukraine, Russia and Poland, I chose Poland and I paid a total cash of 1.5M Naira and I was told my journey will July, 2010. Because of this my journey, I failed to obtained 2010 JAMB form. Time passed by, it was July 2010 when I supposed to be in Poland, I called the office of the Agent, I was told they had delay from the school that I should wait for October batch. October knocked and go, nothing, this made me to back to their and asked for refund and I was told to write a letter which I did immediately, I collected all my documents and was told I will be contacted regarding my money, so I left went to search online for schools abroad, I saw one school West London College in UK and I applied to that school, they gave conditional offer for admission, I travelled down to Lagos to register for IELTS as it is needed, I passed the IELTS and sent it to the school, what left was to pay my tuition fee which was around 4950 Pounds and it was equivalent to 1.4M Naira. I was waiting on this company to get my money refunded, until they issued a check of N598,000 out of 1.5M Naira. Since after the issuance of this check, I kept parading their office and they told me that the school has not refunded them, up till now, failed to pay my balance of N902,000 and the office is no more existing, I kept trying their Boss number but to no avail. This affected me that I failed to register for 2010 and 2011 JAMB. The N598,000 they paid was squandered on no record. In 2012, I was using blackberry phone, and I have made up my mind that I would never sit for JAMB again, so I decided to obtain FUTA Diploma form, I did the exam and passed, the fee was N100,000 but someone now advised me that instead of Diploma, I should try to do JAMB which I yielded to and I obtained the JAMB at the exact date the portal was to be shut down for registration. So, there was no centre again except a place in Kogi State known as Egbe, a day to the examination, one of my cousin used his bike to conveyed and I bought fuel in the bike, after the examination, on our way back home, the block of the bike broken, I asked him what should we do and he said he was not having any money on him and neither me had any money on me, but I told him, I wanted to sell my blackberry, and I don’t know if he would wait and I wanted to sell the phone then for 23k, so he said, I should give him the phone and I handed over the phone, the carton accessories and issue a receipt to him. Which means I did that 2012 JAMB with my blackberry phone and I told God that He should let use the JAMB for admission in that year. When the JAMB result was out, my score was 238, that was my highest score, and I registered for Post UME in of the University to study Computer Science, and I also passed the Post UME, I was very happy that so I could still gained admission after spending 6years seeking admission.
During this period, I have quit bombing Amazon and Alibaba, and all my accounts and email has been suspended and deactivated, so apologized to most of the people I contacted on Amazon to please forgive me, and a lady with the username funnygirl247 said, she has forgiven me a couple of minutes ago that she knew I will not be contented. So I advised them to always verify payments before shipping out any items, but I couldn’t get in touch with Ramzi and my client in USA. I have one Laptop Hp Pavilion Dv4 then in 2012, and when I gained admission at the University, I setup a Computer Centre, I was having 70k then, my business was fruitful and it helps so much financially. In 2013, I had a girlfriend and with the hope to marry her, though she has not gained admission at the university, she loves me so much. We were dating each other, and she was pregnant, so she asked what to do and I said I don’t know because I have vowed in my not abort any pregnancy. She said her Dad would be mad at her and even disown her, I told her, they can’t killed her and I asked maybe I should informed her mum but she said I should wait first, many time she will called me that she was vomiting, and I would have to go and checked her. On this faithful day, she came to my shop and presented a doctor report to me but I couldn’t understand because am not in medical line, so she said the doctor said we should come together. I had no option than to follow her to the hospital, the doctor said she missed abortion, and I was inquisitive what might led to that but the doctor said series of things can lead to it. The doctor said she would have to undergone surgery but she said she was scared, so we had to leave the hospital and we proceeded to one pharmacy, I explained to the pharmacist and she directed us to one doctor that he will do it perfectly. And during this period, I was not having much money with me, the doctor billed us but I pleaded and I transferred the money in my account to the doctor (around 10k), they carried out the surgery, after the surgery, I was allowed to see her, I saw her unconscious and bleeding, I wept and was scared because no one know were going to the hospital and I don’t want to spend my entire life in jail. When it was night, she regained her conscious and I had to get her milk, she called her mum and lied. On the following day, in the morning, we left the hospital for her house, she even lied to her mum that she was sick and I carried her to the hospital, and her mum thanked me. Few days after, I pleaded with her to tell me the truth what happened to the pregnancy, and she said she pitied my condition, that was why she used traditional medicine, and I was mad at her why she had to embarked on such deadly stuff, and before all this, she has done many things that made me not marry her, she add all my female friends on Facebook and accused them as husband snatcher, that she even did it to my younger girlfriend. Also, she asked one of cousin if my shop belongs to me or my elder brother, because my elder do help me to stay at the shop because of my school activities and this infuriated my brother to withdrawn from the shop without even telling me what transpired until when I got to know this mess. So, I started ignoring her and I told her, I cannot marry her due to all the lapses, so she started sending series of messages to me abusing me, thank God, later she got admission into a Polytechnic and I still do call her once so as to show care until I stopped calling her. In 2015, I met another lady, and I talked to her, we started dating each other, I love her so much and she never told me she was dating someone. Later, I got to know she was dating someone and I cannot quit my love again, I asked her but you never told you were dating someone else, she said she never knew what the person was doing. I tried to persuade her because I love her and she never told the ex to live but she said her attitude would tell him what to do. The guy met us several time in her room and he would walked away. We were carrying on and I started disturbing her for marriage but she always told me to be patient, she seems not serious and it is like she was playing pranks with me. Even the way she do receive calls and movements scared me but I was in deep love to the extent that if this girl forsake me, it would affect me mentally. I was enduring that she will change if am able to win her soul.
Back to school, I had carry-over in school, so it made me spilled for first semester and immediately I registered for the courses, when it was time for the examination, I missed one examination and I pleaded with the lecturer but to no avail, I had to re-register the course in the next session which made it Spillover II. In short, I spent 6years at the University after spending 6years seeking admission.
Back to marital life, let me named the girl as Rita, just as I have said, I love Rita so much and always tried to pleased her. I told someone about Rita and he told me it was because it was the girl I was dating, but I cannot date two girls at a time. So, I also told a female friend who now advised and said I shouldn’t be one that are supposed to married a wrong lady, so she linked me with her sister. I talked to her sister and she agreed, I visited her in Lagos and she also visited me. I now started dating the two of them together, let me named the second girl Lara. Lara love me so much that she do call me but Rita often calls me unlike Lara. Lara do help me financially but I never asked anything from Rita, instead I was the one given her everything. Lara said we should picked a date for introduction, but I told her, I was not buoyant and she cater for everything, so we did introduction. On that introduction day, Rita was in my house, so I decided not allow Lara to come into my house that day but the following day. Without even knowing someone has called Rita to informed that I was doing introduction with another lady. But when I met Lara, I told her about Rita and she said, I should discharged her to go but I insisted that, she has wasted my time and I always wanted to treat her fuckup. Though I promised to leave her after our introduction.
After the introduction, Lara went back to Lagos, and we started calling constantly, she asked me that we should picked a date for wedding but I was reluctant that we need to wait for a while, but she was not happy with me and I picked a date for the wedding. We made a budget and she said she will contribute 300k and I should contribute 500k which we agreed on. So we started preparing but I have not started telling people except her, and I even told her not to start telling people yet. Later, when it was like four months, I asked her to quit her job and come home, so that she can be assisting me in my office. She quit and came home. My mind was still with Rita but I was just trying to get rid off her my heart, I and Lara was living together and I said in my mind if it is God’s will she would be pregnant for me. During this period, I ventured into virtual football gambling, that I gambled with high stake, the money I kept for Wedding programme and other items were wasted on virtual gambling, and the loss started accumulating. Lara was advising me not gambled but I harden my heart and failed to listen. Within few months, I ran into debts of 500k which includes my money and customers money. I started regretting my deeds and Wedding is getting near, customers started chasing me here and there. I was like, when I was with Rita, things were okay unlike when I am with Lara. I went to a church and I was told Rita was okay compared to Lara, but others say Lara was okay compared to Rita. And in my own heart, I love Rita more than Lara. I now decided that I cannot get married to Lara but Rita, so I told Lara, we had to canceled the wedding and I cannot get married to her because we are not compatible but if peradventure she is pregnant for, it means it is the will of God that we should marry each other. Lara was very angry; I apologized to her and promised that I will refund all the money she has spent. On a faithful day, I and Lara went for a crusade, and the Apostle said it publicly to Lara, that the way she is pursuing is not her way, and this is our first time attending the crusade. Without much ado, Lara prepared her luggage and went back to Lagos but she tried so much for me because when I was suffering, she stood by me and she was even arrested by one of the people I was owing, she slept in a Cell because I was not around, but the following day, I went to the Police Station and they bailed her, so I was detained at the Cell but I didn’t slept at the Cell. After she left for Lagos, I do still call her and pray for her and also do apologized that It was not my fault but just to avoid evil that might arise later.
Later, I went back to Rita and apologized, but she was not happy, with much pleads, she agreed and promised to be faithful with me. Rita now changed totally and I told her everything that had happened to me, how my business collapsed and that I am into debt but I never disclosed the actual amount I was owing to her. It was during her period that my result was released which has been held by the lecturer for so long and it made me to missed about three batches of NYSC. I was mobilized for NYSC Batch B 2019, but I never stopped gambling because I don’t know to repay my debts. I lied to Rita that I want to do that Betting Business that it is profiting, she helped me last year December to secured LAPO of 100k and we will be repaying it every month at 16k for the period of 11 months. She helped me financially coming to the NYSC Camp during and after the Camp. I have apologized to the first lady I met and also to Lara and we are now friends but I am still wallowing in debts and now I have nothing, no clothe nor any food to eat. I have only be able to sent money once to Rita to cleared the 1st month for the LAPO loan, I am having two months outstanding which I believed she must have borrowed money to paid because those are useless that they don’t care anything, they will embarrass the person and the guarantor. Now, I have used my two months allawee to gamble all for the purpose that ‘e go better say make I get money clear my debts’. Rita is mad at me currently and even declared that she don’t need my money but I should just covered the debts. I cannot call her because I don’t have card and she didn’t called me again closed to a month except month end to ask for the LAPO money.
And the purpose while I still decided to play the virtual was to be able to balance LAPO and pay my previous outstanding debts so that I can have my allawee for me and Rita. I love Rita so much and I cannot afford to loose her because where would I start again and I am into serious debts. Do you think Rita can still consider me with all this situations? She hate gambling. What can I do at this detriment stage. I even had the taught that if it is possible that I can get a gang, if na to rub bank once, if I get 1M, all this debts is solved and I will still have enough money left.