LilMissFavvy:
Only a numbskulll would say that sex on a daily basis is a normal thing. I have read severally in write-ups from experts that 2-3, times sex in a week is is normal for healthy married people. it's a pity when a lady does the right thing by abstaining till marriage, then ends up with these kinds of issues. Anyman who has sex everyday has a serious issue and should seek medical help. I don't know why any male should say that a woman cannot experience pain due to daily sex, who told you, are you a woman to speak? The word nymphomaniac still exists in the dictionary, the OP should seek counselling and be hopeful for the lockdown to end so that her husband can get busy again, and life goes back to normal.

They were even telling her to yield to him and give him more of it so that he will not go out,none of them ever care to listen to the woman's pain.He should seek help

It's so pathetic that mature folks would give such advice. Even if you listen to couple talks most of them say 2-3 times weekly is okay for them, highest should not exceed 4times. Yet people cannot get a grasp of what OP is feeling, imargine having a daily friction on such a sensitive organ daily. It will be painful.

Rozz:
They were even telling her to yield to him and give him more of it so that he will not go out,none of them ever care to listen to the woman's pain.He should seek help

[quote author=LilMissFavvy post=88898188]It's so pathetic that mature folks would give such advice. Even if you listen to couple talks most of them say 2-3 times weekly is okay for them, highest should not exceed 4times. Yet people cannot get a grasp of what OP is feeling, imargine having a daily friction on such a sensitive organ daily. It will be painful.[/They don't want to hear anything when it comes to their erection,very insensitive

Get him a side chick...
Men think they like sex until they meet a woman who likes sex

Iamundisputed:


Well, it's a good thing that your husband finds you sexually attractive and doesn't hide his feelings.

If he wants sex everyday and you can't handle it, there are other freaky things you can do to spice up the relationship. Encourage him to kiss and handle you more instead of the main sex and with time, he'll get used to it. You can also tell him when you're too tired to have sex or you're uninterested. No big deal...

But make no mistake, a man with a high sex drive will demand for it most times, so you need to also get used to it. It's part of your marital rites.

You're a smart person

Am not married but i feel the sex is tiring because like most Nigerian ladies all they do is lie on their back and receive d deek. Most men just wants to ejackulate so the woman should take charge and do whatever is not stressful for her. She can go not too deep or rub around the cap n in no tym he'll bust and sleep off and you would have done your job.

LilMissFavvy:
Only a numbskulll would say that sex on a daily basis is a normal thing. I have read severally in write-ups from experts that 2-3, times sex in a week is is normal for healthy married people. it's a pity when a lady does the right thing by abstaining till marriage, then ends up with these kinds of issues. Anyman who has sex everyday has a serious issue and should seek medical help. I don't know why any male should say that a woman cannot experience pain due to daily sex, who told you, are you a woman to speak? The word nymphomaniac still exists in the dictionary, the OP should seek counselling and be hopeful for the lockdown to end so that her husband can get busy again, and life goes back to normal.

People are different.
So they shouldn't be called numbskull
This was why our forefathers married more than one women. Because one woman was not enough for them.

So maybe it's in his blood line.
Just that modernity especially as practiced by southern Nigeria has clouded many things.

There are men with very high libido naturally.

Sex no be food, why everyday?... I feel your pain but Communication is the best answer here. Sit him down and discuss about it.

Sex time don reach now everybody done turn marriage cancelor ☺....... orna fit preach the Bible like this �....... Just passing by

Aftermath of the "no sxxx before marriage" principle... Another vindication for polygamy also... If you do it right with him the satisfaction might last for days and weeks.. Are you sure you are not fuuucking your legally wedded husband like some short time prostitute... ... Lastly the marriage is less than 2 years old he will soon slow down probably when you start giving birth... Please low libido women should avoid me like ebola...Thank you

sassysure:

Well, she said her vaginal walls have no feelings and are constantly dry. I don't wear the shoe so I wouldn't know.

Her mother should talk to the man, yes. It's a woman to man talk and an elderly woman is needed to send the message home with its consequences.

My friend missed the opportunity when her mum came for the first òmùgwò and noticed what was happening. She begged this girl and she was busy doing my husband my affair.
Her biggest mistake. Six yrs down the line, she was giving me a frantic call. Shame wouldnt allow her to call her mum. All.the feelings she had for this guy were just melting away.
Worst is that if she is not with this guy for like 3 or 2 days, he will go out and do it.
Is that not madness?

Your comment no gel at all

Davash222:
Advice him to get a second wife, so you can be relieved of your DUTY!!

I think you should see a 'doctor'. You exhibit morbid symptoms of chronic sense. Please, make sure you go for constant check ups.

You've got too much wisdom. It's not good for you.

Not true. Our fore fathers did not marry many wives because one woman is not enough for them, rather they married many wives because ''plenty wives'' was seen as an achievement and prestige, likewise plenty kids. The mere fact that women of old gave birth to battalion kids, means they were always pregnant, nursing kids, nursing birth wounds, too busy, unhealthy, etc. One healthy woman is naturally enough for one healthy normal man. Or have we not heard how young wives in polygamous marriages go out because of their husbands inadequacies?

We all saw very sensible advice some people gave here, some suggested mouth action, pre-intimacy, etc, to keep the man okay. There is nothing like ''its in the bloodline'', it's mere superstition.

djon78:




People are different.
So they shouldn't be called numbskull
This was why our forefathers married more than one women. Because one woman was not enough for them.

So maybe it's in his blood line.
Just that modernity especially as practiced by southern Nigeria has clouded many things.

There are men with very high libido naturally.

You'd be surprised many married men go through torture just to have sex with their legally wedded wives... Some hide it while others resort to cheating... Monogamy remains the biggest scam/evil of modern Christianity targeted at the seed Carriers to subdue them and checkmate population growth...

LilMissFavvy:
Only a numbskulll would say that sex on a daily basis is a normal thing. I have read severally in write-ups from experts that 2-3, times sex in a week is is normal for healthy married people. it's a pity when a lady does the right thing by abstaining till marriage, then ends up with these kinds of issues. Anyman who has sex everyday has a serious issue and should seek medical help. I don't know why any male should say that a woman cannot experience pain due to daily sex, who told you, are you a woman to speak? The word nymphomaniac still exists in the dictionary, the OP should seek counselling and be hopeful for the lockdown to end so that her husband can get busy again, and life goes back to normal.

so u have to mention me sha?

Jesuisbelle:
Your husband is controlled by his bodily urges, it's a sex addiction and you have become his personal sperm disposal unit if you don't take a stand. His type will still cheat, watch pornography because it's always in his imagination. I can see some women think their only role is to service Oga just because he paid your bride price and made you a Mrs!!! You are a woman, someone's daughter with human dignity! If you like continue submitting because you want to please him to your own unhappiness. Sex is not everything in marriage. Nne don't kill yourself, dat everyday own is a very big No!!! To me, if u don't have strength explain to him if he gets angry allow him to get angry in peace he will be alright las las, no be today dem don begin dey get angry on matter like dat

Are you married??

sassysure:

It's not advisable to live with that. At first ladies see this as form of showing affection and continue to enable it so to pull out is now problem.

I don't know about others and I don't lack self esteem but I will never allow a man to pound me more than twice a week. We check out this before saying I do.
That's part of compatibility.
If we can't agree on that, all man go his way. Can't continue doing something I don't enjoy. men like that have high sexual hormones. They should learn how to masturbate, get fulfilment from mouth action or even bang sex doll and leave me alone. I didn't come to this world to rump everyday.

Getting it outside should be part of his options na.

Learn to share.

Rozz:
They were even telling her to yield to him and give him more of it so that he will not go out,none of them ever care to listen to the woman's pain.He should seek help

Hey u again. Please don't miss your shance to make free moiney . How much for 2 minute service with u..kiss including.
Will u accept 2k cash please?

Unik3030:
u didn't have sex b4 marriage,meaning d guy waited to own it rightfully n now u are complaining again....u are a confusionist

Very confused.. Typical of the type that thinks sex is a "duty" .. I can imagine how boring their sessions are.. Little wonder the man is never really satisfied... Thank goodness she accepted he is a good man..

MrCork17:




Hey u again. Please don't miss your shance to make free moiney . How much for 2 minute service with u..kiss including.
Will u accept 2k cash please?

you again too,take your offer to sexuality section.

Discuss with him and work out something more comfortable for both of you. I guess you may be equally stressed up with house chores added to his demands. In that case you can get a househelp to assist. The aim is for you to have adequate rest.

On the flip side, you can spice things up by playing board games, watching TV or films together and engaging in constructive discussions. By the time you do all these, you both not only increase the bonding, a chunk of the usual sex time would have been channeled into doing some other meaningful stuffs.

At the end, you'd love sex the more.

Julietsim:


U don't understand. Having sex everyday can be tiring. It also affect the Virgina. U think it is easy for women? It is not. I sometimes have pain because it is too much. We didn't have sex until we were married. I never knew he was like this.

Tiring uhhh, madam just up ur game mentally and physically and give him whenever he demand, time ll come that U ll be d one begging. Just endure what U sign.

James289:


gbam. some women ehh am disappointed, they think marriage is all about sex... Service oga my foot. Such men can even sleep with anything even if the wife gives him daily... He is so dangerous even to his children. I bet his jobless that's why it's always sex that is on his mind, Nonsense

It is better if the man marry a second wife tho

LilMissFavvy:
Welcome to Africa means what? A wife married to an uglyyy beefy Nigerian man is expected to be faithful and still find such a man attractive, yet men cannot stick to their wife. Is it a curse or something? Because I don't believe that it means Africn men have a higher libido, or special libido

This is largely off topic... The op is asking for advice from married women.. Don't forget that..

rtdCivilservant:
Too much sex is stupid, in fact doesn't even make sense, only an abnormal person would do that. Ur husband doesn't even need to be told at least he should know that u are not a machine, why would he always engage u in sex, he lacks respect for u. Please talk to him about it before he kills u with sex because if u die he will look for someone else to continue the rubbish with, u said he is faithful but I seriously doubt it perhaps all the rubbish he's been doing with other stupid girls out there before lockdown he is now giving u the overload due to this lockdown. I am sorry to say this that he is not a responsible man, what sort of rubbish is that?

'Lack respect for you'
Nairaland is funny

Imustsurvive:


you need to try a counter approach, engage him for 3 days non stop, like making him do it round the clock, 8 rounds daily, yes, give him overdose and finish him off, he will eventually ran and respect you as a champion in the game. Bae Thanks me later

What if he fortify himself for the 2nd leg match??
Can you stand it??

Julietsim:

I thought married women who have experienced this will advise me but it is clear that it is only unmarried guys who are talking. Maybe I wasted my time coming to ask here. I have discussed it with him severally. His reply is "would you prefer I get it outside?. I cannot allow my husband to cheat. Because it hurts alot

What about the unmarried ladies contributions??

sassysure:

A friend is in this shit. More than 10yrs of marriage.
She cried out after like 6yrs of bondage. The worst thing is that if a situation calls for them being separate for some time, he will find relief elsewhere. Once she comes back from hospital after delivery, he will continue pounding her without mercy. When her mum visited for the first òmùgwò, she noticed and approached her but she was being a good wife and denied. Her biggest mistake and regret.

Her vaginal walls don't have feelings anymore. She is constantly dry. She don't have sexual feelings anymore.
Nothing entices her again as far as making love is concerned.

The only exception is during menses but not always.

Babe, talk to your people probably your mum. She is in the best position to protect and fight for u.
I honestly don't have a clue except this.

Is Polygamy a taboo now?

Lizboh:



Its not about low self esteem..my husband is my best friend and am also his. We get well together. We've been together for 25yrs now and our fist child is 20yrs now. So its not moimoi. Giving in to his demands is tactical for me, I've developed strategies I use in dealing.

Please tell them

Ishilove:
She is asking for the input of married women especially but it is unmarried males dominating the comments

You are somehow right.. Most single and even married men are here to learn and have fun... Its the single ladies that have hijacked the "special adviser" role .. This should be a typical married women thread but for nairaland even jambites get mouth...

Rozz:
Why will he want to kill someone's daughter with sex everyday

She is someone's wife now!!!

Rozz:
you again too,take your offer to sexuality section.

My prick is still had & I need help. This is y i offering to pay u 2k cash. You sound like good Samaritan and has a woman, it's your job to help fellow man's. I will increase it to 3k cash if u want. Please don't miss this great shance to make money. Let's discuss price please. I really need that punnny. Be nice. So what's your digit?