Misscongenialit:


Because friends like you will always tell them how boring it can get eating one type of food

Because some of those men are irresponsible, not matured and dont really deserve to be married

A mature responsible married man doea not lose interest in his wife,the bond they share grows with them

haven't u heard of balanced diet

Liposure:
u 4got 2 add tying of wrapper

oh! yes!!

Because some women after marriage becomes too relaxed and refused to do anything for themselves, they automatically stopped looking nice and smell good, and also added more weight than usual, shows less interest in pre-intimacy. if na you too u go tire. it happens to both couples

See finish.

Weight gain.

Thirst for adventure.

Stolen apple is always the sweetest.

Conditioned by upbringing.

Influence and peer pressure.

Wide vagina after numerous childbirths.

Change of attitude from the wife.

Financial issues.

Sexy secretary.

Need for male offspring.

Truth is, most men that marry when they are broke, end up marrying someone they are managing and would probably never marry if they were rich.

So, when they become rich, they meet the kind of lady they couldn't speak to before cos of complex, who probably is sexier and slimmer and doesn't look like a housewife.

Men, make money first, then get married.

The ONLY reason is that ₹₹₹¶¥>>₹₹ and uuhnawert huert are frtyu in bedartgh circle.

gypsey:
Well.. make of it how ever it suits you.

I was just hating on you for that, and you came up with “tongue out”. And my anger lost its steam, lol.
Anyway, @ topic, many people found a way to make it all about the “horrible ones”, the women. Not nice, but more importantly, not true.

This reminds me of a line in Lil Wayne's song titled "Paradise".


says: "I say love don't love foreverrrrrrr, and everything that's new gets old"




that's why it is advisable for a man to marry a woman who is sexy in appearance.
at least, if the love reduces, you'll always find her sexiness irresistible.

merahki:



Is the bolded after the marital vows have been made or before? Would your best- friend the wife know you will be getting sex anywhere and from anyone else? She has to agree for this plan to be a good one.

What I meant there was people should look beyond sex when dating or married cos sex is very cheap and easy to get..

Greed...they want to sleep with everything in skirt

Absent communication wrecks a lot of marriages.
Husband thinks wife should know what he'll like to eat
Wife thinks husband should know what she wants for her birthday......una mouth na for decoration?

Husband is shouting 'respect'
Wife is shouting 'love'...no one is listening to the other.

No spontaneity!That date night keeps getting postponed till there's enough money in the bank,we all know that date will pend for 7 years if you wait for 'the right amount of hammer to nack ya account'...whenever you promise a woman an outing,even if you can't meet up with what you had initially planned,just take your woman on a stroll to buy boli and epa 3 streets away...

Call and check on their spouse,MBA but they'll be writing 'dear' after every sentence with a random person.

We put 1&1 together and we decide not to waste our talent, save your 'interest' for when you have hypertension,diabetes or an enlarged prostate and a gulley in your funds and you require devoted attention ,then we will check how far you've come on 'balanced diet'.

The grass is greener on the other side because it's constantly watered.

I think nairalanders has crossed this phase. The issue we should be looking at is why should I get married.

Using nairaland as a case study Nigerian men are tired of Nigerian women. So why should someone with his right senses settle down after reading everything on nairaland. Let's start from here

The unnecessary bashing is

Kdon2:


Their wives become toxic in the course of the marriage. And whats more, they are too arrogant to examine themselves. Simple

its always the wives that becomes toxic. Lol

MXD5050:
CHEATING AND LIES ARE NOT THE REASON WHY MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS END BUT LACK OF LOVE, SEX AND MONEY

Marriage is supposed to be a union that should last until death do the both partners apart. And relationship should reach its set goals which often time happens to be marriage. But why do these unions break? There are three main reasons why these agreement within two adults doesn't reach its desired goal.

*Lack of love: This most times is the reason why marriages and relationships end. Because so many people do not understand what love really is. They feel it's just a feeling for an opposite sex not knowing love has nothing to do with feelings. Love is a choice and a drive that drives us to understand and respect someone for a life time. When people attach love to feelings or emotion they tend to use words like this in future " I don't feel anything for him or her again" love must be a career you must build it, it must have some set goals as one of its qualities. You cannot love someone and cheat on that person except you confuse feelings for love that is why people would say they love their wife or partner yet they cheat on them. Some have even gone as far as saying love is not a yardstick not to cheat, you can still love your partner and cheat. Well, such persons confuse love for feelings.

*Lack of good sex: When this is jettison in marriage, it tends to promote infidelity and can cause a misunderstanding. Sex is very important in marriage. Constant ignoring of sexual activities in marriage has led so many marriages to break up. Sex helps to relieve stress, it creates bond, it procreates and it is the zenith of fun among married couples. So many couples has suffered as a result of poor sexual activities. So many women has failed to apply some techniques to get orgasm because they have seen sex therapy as secondary in marriage building. So many can hardly explore their wives sexually. When sexual climax is not being achieved in marriage, a sex therapist should be involved immediately. Over looking it is synonymous to over looking your union.

*Lack of money: They say "money can't buy love" yes that is true but money can keep love. Have you heard that poor people are vulnerable? Husbands have been taken away from their wives and wives have been taken away from their husbands mainly because of lack of love, sex and money. The heart of a woman desires good things and a proud man is he that have provided for his wife. One must not steal to have money to keep a relationship or marriage but must learn the philosophy of how to make money. Balanced view of money in marriage or relationship is vital. Seeing a professional counselor to help you get a balance view of money would help strengthen your union. Poor financial mismanagement has ended so many marriages in court seeking for the termination of their marriage contract and have pushed other partner to seek for financial solution in someone else. Do not be quick to blame them because money in itself cannot buy love but can keep love.

Issues with finding love, having a healthy sex life and understanding the philosophy of money can be normal and proffering a solution to it is that which does not demand medical attention except when it has gotten out of behavioral approach but requires the person to be patient and complete a counseling process not from a pastor, lawyer or a medical doctor but a qualified counseling psychologist.
Consult a professional counselor via WhatsApp on 0806 472 9707, Instagram on @mrbigt2020 with a fee of two thousand naira or six dollars. It's a choice, you either talk to a counselor now or end up talking to a medical doctor when it becomes a 50/50 chance medically or a lawyer when you can no longer fix the issue or when it becomes life threatening. Or talk to a pastor when you have been brain washed to believes that your case is spiritual and you need deliverance.

Good points...

Law of marginal utility at work

ezanafe:
It's very simple @op.
Can you be eating one soup forever, even if it's your favourite soup? Won't you get tired.

why are you breathing in only oxygen since you were born? Try other gas like ammonia, hydrogen sulphide.

squad03:
Absent communication wrecks a lot of marriages.
Husband thinks wife should know what he'll like to eat
Wife thinks husband should know what she wants for her birthday......una mouth na for decoration?

Husband is shouting 'respect'
Wife is shouting 'love'...no one is listening to the other.

No spontaneity!That date night keeps getting postponed till there's enough money in the bank,we all know that date will pend for 7 years if you wait for 'the right amount of hammer to nack ya account'...whenever you promise a woman an outing,even if you can't meet up with what you had initially planned,just take your woman on a stroll to buy boli and epa 3 streets away...

Call and check on their spouse,MBA but they'll be writing 'dear' after every sentence with a random person.

We put 1&1 together and we decide not to waste our talent, save your 'interest' for when you have hypertension,diabetes or an enlarged prostate and a gulley in your funds and you require devoted attention ,then we will check how far you've come on 'balanced diet'.

The grass is greener on the other side because it's constantly watered.

@Bold:

Honestly, there is a war against marriages.

How spouses would be more tender to bosses, subordinates, friends, random people, neighbors, colleagues, classmates than themselves is worrisome.

When it comes to their spouse, 'I won't take it, I can't do it, I can't compromise a little, it is my way or no way'...

'I, I, I, I' and yet will place on their CV as 'team players; ability to negotiate; ability to work under pressure' bla bla.

Practice these skills at home.

lightangel65i:


Cause they get booring.

The same reason you can't eat the same food for 1yr

The same reason why too much familiarity causes dusrespect

why are you breathing in only oxygen since you were born? Try other gas like ammonia, hydrogen sulphide.

kiddkash:
you can't possibly eat rice for the rest of your life.
sometimes you have to try beans, yam , garri & egusi

women shouldn't take it personal

why are you breathing in only oxygen since you were born? Try other gas like ammonia, hydrogen sulphide.

kiddkash:
you can't possibly eat rice for the rest of your life.
sometimes you have to try beans, yam , garri & egusi

women shouldn't take it personal

That's how you men think you are wise.Its you guys that actually make some women rugged .Las Las wives de chop different soup as well.E go continue to shock una

Goalnaldo:
why are you breathing in only oxygen since you were born? Try other gas like ammonia, hydrogen sulphide.

Another idi0t ignored

Liposure:
aint no time 4 babysitting in marriage

I think its high time I left Nairaland cos everyday one keeps seeing what will discourage one from getting married on here.
So before you guys corrupt my soul, I'll leave. Dang!

Kramerr:
Don't think I'll ever get married

I easily lose interest in women, infact 24hrs is enough for me to lose interest no matter how attractive she is, she begins to disgust me

Perhaps you're gay. However, since you reside in a country like Nigeria where being gay is against the law, you have no choice but to keep dating women even though you know deep down that you're not attracted to them. I feel sorry for the unfortunate woman that will marry you thinking she has found a husband, lol. Marital domestic violence loading.

Marriage need correct work. If you think say the pesin wey you marry go be the same pesin 5 years later you don lie for yourself. The truth be say both parties go de change. Always. And both of them must adapt to the changes. Failure to adpat na im de cause marriage to fail.

Love is blind but marriage opens it........

see unmarried ones giving reasons for something they have no idea of

When you come into marriage and what you see is not what you thought you would see.
When the man or woman runs into another man or woman that takes their attention from their spouse

MrNipplesLover:
This reminds me of a line in Lil Wayne's song titled "Paradise".


says: "I say love don't love foreverrrrrrr, and everything that's new gets old"




that's why it is advisable for a man to marry a woman who is sexy in appearance.
at least, if the love reduces, you'll always find her sexiness irresistible.

You do know that women age right? So you want a woman to retain her sexiness forever but the man is allowed to loose his handsomeness - that's if he ever was handsome - grow a pot belly like he is 9 months pregnant and start balding. Not to talk of failing health due to poor eating habits and overall unhealthy lifestyle.

With this mindset of yours, it is no wonder that most Nigerian marriages are nothing but scam. No wonder a day cannot go by on Nairaland and a topic on a problematic marriage does not hit front-page.

itzdeejay:


Excuses and wrong portray of married couple and women have eatten deep into men's head.

okay, if you say so, you obviously thinks all marriages are the same and every married woman is perfect.

Besides, marriage is an ancient, outdated and achaic institution, anyone who gets married thesedays is a big fool.

chlowi:
going theough some comments here ......Nigerian women this , Nigerian women that, coming from people who have sisters at home and daugters or wd soon beget daughters ....... the bashing of women (Nigerian) in this forum is out of this world .........we all would be alright

thank you for this!

atimes, I believe all these (Nigerian) guys didn't have a sister/niece /aunty or won't have a daughter in the future.



las las...some still got married today. Are they from heaven or the underworld? I am really confused!

Bonatheripper:
Pusssyy no longer enticing.


Fallen breast

you get oil for head bro

fadah68:


Marrying the wrong person

When you're young, check your motives for marrying. Don't marry to copy your peers, or for social standing or out of pressure. Marry for love and companionship, marry the right person, marry your best friend. For if you marry the wrong person or for the wrong reasons, you will have to put up with that person the rest of your life. Things might get worse between you two; then depression, physical abuse, affairs, pain, shame, court cases, bitterness will define your mid-life years all because you chose the wrong one. Things will get worse when children are involved. Make the right choice of a spouse when you are young.

Nailed it!

To add to the above:

- Low self-esteem on both sides
- Extreme introvert

ayanbaba2:


thank you for this!

atimes, I believe all these (Nigerian) guys didn't have a sister/niece /aunty or won't have a daughter in the future.



las las...some still got married today. Are they from heaven or the underworld? I am really confused!

i wonder