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Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by udemzyudex(m): 11:02pm On May 23, 2020
seunlayi:


You nailed it. Let me add this
- hidden under the guise of the world love to carry out lust which fade away gradually.

In other words, love is overrated.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by edoairways: 11:06pm On May 23, 2020
2buffagain:
- They were lovers, but never friends
- had no shared interests
- No shared long term vision besides sex, swag and/or "I want to have children".
- Ignored the red flags.
- More focus on the wedding than on the life that follows (This one is huge for girls)
I agree with you
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by edoairways: 11:09pm On May 23, 2020
MelaninSkinGirl:
1. Lust/Infatuation disguised as Love.
2. Planning for the magnificent wedding but after the wedding they realise they have nothing in common and are not compatible.
3. Kids changes things and many parents cannot adapt to this change.
4. Both wife and husband lose their looks, the wife is able to adapt but the man is not.
5. Other factors like finances can affect the marriage.
When will ladies change this norm? Must they do gigantic wedding or involve crowd?
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Mercycity: 11:27pm On May 23, 2020
Stillthebest:


Very correct but there are still alot;
The wife stops Glowing, refuses to use fragrance thus smell bad, makes home to look tattered , series of corrections that are not adhered to, stop dressing well, always on stupid dresses at home rather than the bum shorts, adding Weight while losing shape because of excess eating, looking unkept in the names of motherhood.

Lack of vacations, lack of romance over time, body odours and mouth odours.
Constant unnecessary quarrels. Making the home to look tattered.

Note* this goes both ways!

Lack of respect from the woman(women who enjoy marriage see their husbands as role models and that husband will turn around to worship her) men are the most stupid sex if properly pampered.

Above all, no man that has gone out since morning and came back home with nothing would be loving, romantic or still have interest in himself let alone his wife.

Being 'broke' for long can cause it.

Disclaimer: Money isnt the main thing that keeps interest in marriage intact but true love. Where there's true love, money will find that place one way or the other.

hmmm

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Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Mercycity: 11:31pm On May 23, 2020
Sharmeenator:


The bolded is the real reason. A man can still cheat on the low without disrespecting you. But give a man a deserving respect and pampering, you will get the best out of him. He might still cheat, but you will be a jewel he would admire for the rest of his life. Women need to understand this. A man needs pampering and respect, not just sex or being a good home maker

Thanks for that piece OP
Not Not true here
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by meobizy(f): 11:31pm On May 23, 2020
If you read the thread till this page then you're completely jobless. I will give the question my two cents even though I know the query will appear here in a few months time:

People change: both physically, mentally and emotionally. If one partner doesn't change the other will. In most cases both of them change and want more out of life. Coupled to this a marriage eventually feels like a prison where you and your cellie are forced to live together for years on end. My conclusion is 'happily ever after' is a lot longer than many people imagine. If the change doesn't take place in a few years it will happen in ten, twenty or forty years.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Onlyonebuhari: 11:33pm On May 23, 2020
Cos u already have access to her before marriage and nothing special to you about her. That's called eye service marriage.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Nobody: 11:37pm On May 23, 2020
edoairways:

When will ladies change this norm? Must they do gigantic wedding or involve crowd?

No, quiet wedding with few friends band family will suffice. Usually the grander the wedding, the grander the divorce. Unfortunately Tiwa Savage/Tonto Dike are typical examples, they had spectacular weddings and then years later their marital troubles was on YouTube for everyone to see.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Legendguru: 11:56pm On May 23, 2020
kids bills stress
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by MOnkeyBabe(f): 12:00am On May 24, 2020
madgoat:


So u are divorced now... grin by their names we shall know them. Though i suspect you are ugly and hence hubby got disconnected from you emotionally
I am not Divorced. I am not UGly
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by DeAlphaMale(m): 12:17am On May 24, 2020
I'm sure if their wives weren't similar to a 250litres rubber drum the man's interest will still remain undented
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by phr33man(m): 12:50am On May 24, 2020
Natural441:
My fellow nairalander let us discuss the reason men lose interest in there women after few years in marriage.


Women also lose interest in their men o. The truth is that love thrill fades away within 6 and 3 years into marriage because both parties have seen it all on each other. Starting from the body shape, messy attitude(trust me, you can't fake it for life) and most is boredom ( you will definitely get bored of that. Quite unfortunate that only the females pays dearly when. This happens because they are most likely out of shape Wed wrinkles all-over faces from stress of pregnancy and child birth and stressful house chores. This period is where discipline and commitment which is the true love comes in not that infatuated love. I'm not married. I pray I get that person that will also understand this at the earlier stage before going to the alter. These understanding is beyond being God fearing o. You can be God fearing and your body do the otherwise...you just get pissed off by the sight of someone you once admired.


Marriage.... A university you can never graduate from
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Bemuda: 12:51am On May 24, 2020
Kramerr:
Don't think I'll ever get married

I easily lose interest in women, infact 24hrs is enough for me to lose interest no matter how attractive she is, she begins to disgust me
You need spiritual help my brother
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Happyguy201: 1:28am On May 24, 2020
idonhammer:
The reason is simple.

1.Money
2.more money
3.plenty plenty Money
4.enough Money.

When you have enough money and spend it on her, she will always look hot.


how much has she spend on her man ? or you think its all about the woman? this is the kind of mentally that makes you a typical African
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Simbrixton(m): 1:49am On May 24, 2020
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by enemyofprogress: 1:55am On May 24, 2020
Nothing in this world can make me to lose interest in dominique
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:18am On May 24, 2020
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Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:19am On May 24, 2020
gypsey:
Don't be ridiculous tryna compare breathing with picking up different women, are you for real? i tell you what, why not wear the same pant without washing it since you were born.
haba bros, why you wan kee me with laughter??
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by frozen70(f): 2:24am On May 24, 2020
Natural441:
My fellow nairalander let us discuss the reason men lose interest in there women after few years in marriage.

Every new thing gets less attention as time goes on

Men, because of their nature that made them to always want a fresh thing has affected them that they no longer appreciate what they had earlier when it was fresh

Child bearing and raising children is enough to take the time and attention of women away and before you know it she starts looking unkept

Then men with their taste for fresh things will start Loosing interest in that same person they met fresh

But a man who is committed to looking after his wife and appreviating her will always love her and never loose interest in her
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by sweetilicious(f): 3:51am On May 24, 2020
2buffagain:
- They were lovers, but never friends
- had no shared interests
- No shared long term vision besides sex, swag and/or "I want to have children".
- Ignored the red flags.
- More focus on the wedding than on the life that follows (This one is huge for girls)
You are right
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by sweetilicious(f): 4:01am On May 24, 2020
MXD5050:
CHEATING AND LIES ARE NOT THE REASON WHY MARRIAGES AND RELATIONSHIPS END BUT LACK OF LOVE, SEX AND MONEY

Marriage is supposed to be a union that should last until death do the both partners apart. And relationship should reach its set goals which often time happens to be marriage. But why do these unions break? There are three main reasons why these agreement within two adults doesn't reach its desired goal.

*Lack of love: This most times is the reason why marriages and relationships end. Because so many people do not understand what love really is. They feel it's just a feeling for an opposite sex not knowing love has nothing to do with feelings. Love is a choice and a drive that drives us to understand and respect someone for a life time. When people attach love to feelings or emotion they tend to use words like this in future " I don't feel anything for him or her again" love must be a career you must build it, it must have some set goals as one of its qualities. You cannot love someone and cheat on that person except you confuse feelings for love that is why people would say they love their wife or partner yet they cheat on them. Some have even gone as far as saying love is not a yardstick not to cheat, you can still love your partner and cheat. Well, such persons confuse love for feelings.

*Lack of good sex: When this is jettison in marriage, it tends to promote infidelity and can cause a misunderstanding. Sex is very important in marriage. Constant ignoring of sexual activities in marriage has led so many marriages to break up. Sex helps to relieve stress, it creates bond, it procreates and it is the zenith of fun among married couples. So many couples has suffered as a result of poor sexual activities. So many women has failed to apply some techniques to get orgasm because they have seen sex therapy as secondary in marriage building. So many can hardly explore their wives sexually. When sexual climax is not being achieved in marriage, a sex therapist should be involved immediately. Over looking it is synonymous to over looking your union.

*Lack of money: They say "money can't buy love" yes that is true but money can keep love. Have you heard that poor people are vulnerable? Husbands have been taken away from their wives and wives have been taken away from their husbands mainly because of lack of love, sex and money. The heart of a woman desires good things and a proud man is he that have provided for his wife. One must not steal to have money to keep a relationship or marriage but must learn the philosophy of how to make money. Balanced view of money in marriage or relationship is vital. Seeing a professional counselor to help you get a balance view of money would help strengthen your union. Poor financial mismanagement has ended so many marriages in court seeking for the termination of their marriage contract and have pushed other partner to seek for financial solution in someone else. Do not be quick to blame them because money in itself cannot buy love but can keep love.

Issues with finding love, having a healthy sex life and understanding the philosophy of money can be normal and proffering a solution to it is that which does not demand medical attention except when it has gotten out of behavioral approach but requires the person to be patient and complete a counseling process not from a pastor, lawyer or a medical doctor but a qualified counseling psychologist.
Consult a professional counselor via WhatsApp on 0806 472 9707, Instagram on @mrbigt2020 with a fee of two thousand naira or six dollars. It's a choice, you either talk to a counselor now or end up talking to a medical doctor when it becomes a 50/50 chance medically or a lawyer when you can no longer fix the issue or when it becomes life threatening. Or talk to a pastor when you have been brain washed to believes that your case is spiritual and you need deliverance.
Yeah
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by damesilver(m): 5:09am On May 24, 2020
judedwriter:
Naturally romantic love tends to wane in marriage as it gets older.

When a couple can't keep the romantic spark in their marriage, it becomes routine and boring. It takes a lot to keep the romance in marriage.

Marriages that last longer are often built around solid friendships than romantic love. Of course, it will take a lot of sacrifice and forgiveness, not just friendship for any marriage to last so long.

But when a spiritually mature couple love each other equally with God's love, with no conditions attached, it's going to be 100% successful.

This is good.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by Nobody: 6:16am On May 24, 2020
udemzyudex:


In other words, love is overrated.
It is not overrated but many people don't understand what love means. They mistake lust for love.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by udemzyudex(m): 6:30am On May 24, 2020
Ivyfisayo:

It is not overrated but many people don't understand what love means. They mistake lust for love.

I feel a lot of people concentrate more on the love part, forgetting that love is just like a burning fire, you need to put things that will keep it burning else the light will burn out.

There are other things they tend to over look, the allow their emotions to choose for them instead of being logical and we all know love is blind, it eliminate all flaws.

The main thing is keeping the fire burning, love is fade away if they don't do things to keep the love fire burning.

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Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by NomzyJust(m): 6:50am On May 24, 2020
It happens to both sexes and has a scientific explanation.

The reason couples are less interested after few years of marriage is because after about two years, their brain stop producing dopamine (known as the feel good chemical). After that, they produce oxytocin, which bonds you with someone else. Some couples in this period become less sexual and more committed.

And yes, it happens to attractive people too, not only married couples.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by squad03: 6:58am On May 24, 2020
bukatyne:


@Bold:

Honestly, there is a war against marriages.

How spouses would be more tender to bosses, subordinates, friends, random people, neighbors, colleagues, classmates than themselves is worrisome.

When it comes to their spouse, 'I won't take it, I can't do it, I can't compromise a little, it is my way or no way'...

'I, I, I, I' and yet will place on their CV as 'team players; ability to negotiate; ability to work under pressure' bla bla.

Practice these skills at home
.


Beats my imagination all the time
@your boldened is hilarious grin

The sooner we realize we're on the same side,the earlier we can enjoy this thing for long enough.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by banio: 7:23am On May 24, 2020
Bonatheripper:
Pusssyy no longer enticing.


Fallen breast

Get fat I'm married and don't need exercise mentality.

I'm generally.... If you see one particular woman... Everytime everyday.. every week every month every year for the rest of your existence.


The thought of that alone makes you get extremely tired.


No matter how you tend to look at it no man enjoys one puzzay for a long time.



Your always want new once.... Religion Sha tries to regulate this but nature will always take it cause....



In a nutshell.... Men needs new engine to service in their lives after a period of time....
Only religion and good upbringing makes one decipline enough to stick to one pusssy for life while those who don't give a fuckkkkk about all that love their wives but get tired of their bodies hence while the ashawo and runs girl business is Booming...

We should know the highest patronizers and highest payers or runs girls and ashawos are married people. �


Men are controlled by testosterone while women estrogen....



You nailed it. The Op asked of why the loss of interest in a wife.

My brother like You said, it's loss of interest in the puxxsy that leads to every other Wahala.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by icu4: 7:35am On May 24, 2020
It goes both ways you know. There comes a time she'll be open to try something different outside her marriage.
kiddkash:
you can't possibly eat rice for the rest of your life.
sometimes you have to try beans, yam , garri & egusi

women shouldn't take it personal
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by mohsinmehmood(m): 7:42am On May 24, 2020
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Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by 2loadedguy: 7:55am On May 24, 2020
Goalnaldo:
why are you breathing in only oxygen since you were born? Try other gas like ammonia, hydrogen sulphide.
Your biology teacher did a poor job. So u think it's only oxygen u breathe in when u breathe in air? Other gases like neon,carbon dioxide,water vapour etc are involved. Oxygen is only about 78%and u won't survive if u breathe in only oxygen for too long.
Re: Why Do Men Lose Interest In Their Wives After Few Years In Marriage? by TheStorier(m): 8:03am On May 24, 2020
kiddkash:
you can't possibly eat rice for the rest of your life.
sometimes you have to try beans, yam , garri & egusi

women shouldn't take it personal
Please do not take it personal if your wife also taste another man! grin grin grin grin grin

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