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Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by myk2mic: 5:03pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
chaircover: i really enjoy reading your posts and have been waiting for your post on this topic, bt i have to agree wit maclatunji, you havent really said anything that will help the OP. bt am not givin up on u just yet, have my fingers crossed lol. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by anderson1994: 5:04pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Guy marry the girl or better still follow ur heart don't let ur frend make u make a mistake |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by bigheads(m): 5:11pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
You were too slow in proposing probably because you were afraid of her personality and her job. Nothing is actually permanent in life even our life. Marriage like religion is a person thing. What if it is the other way, that you are the banker and she is the teacher? and you loose your job, are you going to abandon her. You do not get the taste of suap before cooking it. She can get another job in the bank or get in her area of specialisation food tech. Graduates are hardly liabilities if they are not lazy. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by kukus01(m): 5:14pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
barnaby04: @ Poster, i guess what you shd do is to meet with your pastors to pray and seek the face of God on it and you urself shd as well seek the face of God on it if u both are spiritually compatible for marriage cos there is a spiritual compatibility to the issue of marriage wich has most of this present generation has ignored which leads to rise in divorce rate in our society.its quite unfortunate when people drag what does not concern God to him....so ordinarily the OP saw the hand writing on the wall that was why he brought it here. its obvious the babe needs him to be his backup now until she can get hersef back....how can she be giving the OP condition before marriage and desperately offering money for wedding! abeg OP free her joor. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 5:15pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
chaircover:Well said! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by achi4u(m): 5:22pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
dont b supprise Jude might conner dis chick and rip her off dat her 350k. op b sharp o! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by omosexy1: 5:24pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
I will advise you do a court wedding since you love her and to show you are serious. Court weddings are not expensive. Please don't collect her money, she needs it better than you. Encourage her to get a job, she can get a job. In the Labour market, nobody cares about your degree now, experience sells more. After the court wedding, bring to her notice her promise to get you a better job through her Uncle. However, you have to be certain about the job because people promise and fail. Also continue to monitor her because she seems to be a bossy type and you have to act the man. Before you go into the court marriage, inform her that if she fails on her part to fulfill her obligations, she would leave you with no option than to pull out of the marriage. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Tallest9(m): 5:27pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Mynd_44: This girl only see you as an opportunity and noting else. She might like you but the reason she wants to marry you is flawed. I will suggest that you offer her accommodation in your place for now and then you can talk about marriage lateroffer her accomodation at his place? Smh..dumbest advice |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 5:30pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
omosexy1: I will advise you do a court wedding since you love her and to show you are serious. Court weddings are not expensive. Please don't collect her money, she needs it better than you. Encourage her to get a job, she can get a job. In the Labour market, nobody cares about your degree now, experience sells more. After the court wedding, bring to her notice her promise to get you a better job through her Uncle. However, you have to be certain about the job because people promise and fail. Also continue to monitor her because she seems to be a bossy type and you have to act the man. Before you go into the court marriage, inform her that if she fails on her part to fulfill her obligations, she would leave you with no option than to pull out of the marriage.Inform ke? More like signing a prenuptial rite? D lady is smart, she wud definetly adhere to anything that provides accommodation at this very stage. Don't b gullible. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Nobody: 5:32pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
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Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 5:32pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Tallest9: offer her accomodation at his place?Well... Elaborate d dumbness den! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by charloski(m): 5:33pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Bross its a two thing .... Pls let's consider that she's d one who is really in nid of marriage, likewise after d marriage she might start being d man of d house all because she the big money for d wedding comes from her .....!! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by ginnyluv(f): 5:36pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
i wonder y she has not introduced u to her bro so he can hook u up, y after d marriage its as if she doesnt trust u. wen she had a job n where to lay her head she never talked of getting married my advice to is dis dont marry her yet since d whole marriage tin is centered on her bro moving away be sure she asked cuz she is in luv wit u , btw dont tink nairalanders will cum live wit u weda u marry her or not, so wat really matters is wat u feel not just with ur heart but all part of ur body |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Goldieluks: 5:38pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
bennyraz: Mr. Man! follow ur heart and make ur decision. I tire..jude says this jude says that. You should know whom you are dating, if she is good for you or not. Follow your heart, and stop basing your judgement on jude's imaginations. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by israelbenzion: 5:40pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Mynd_44: This girl only see you as an opportunity and noting else. She might like you but the reason she wants to marry you is flawed. I will suggest that you offer her accommodation in your place for now and then you can talk about marriage later No try am o! Lai-lai! Accommodate her for what? Our people hav a proverb that says: to giv monkey palmwine no dey hard; na to collect the cup back na him b trouble. Sumtimes if care isn't taken, d monkey might end up hurling the cup at u. Take wat eva decision u want. But if u hv not made up ya mind to marry her, den don't take her in. Be wise! |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 5:42pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Chaircover u won gold today o! To much alarm bells ringing, she owo royin sha? Seriously....d poster already knows d lady is an opportunist.But then! wen we learn all the answers, they change the questions. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Nobody: 5:44pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Idowuogbo: Chaircover u won gold today o! To much alarm bells ringing, she owo royin sha? Seriously....d poster already knows d lady is an opportunist.But then! wen we learn all the answers, they change the questions. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by 76Naira(m): 5:46pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
You are considering if she is a liability. How much is your "teacher-salary" by the way? First you felt insecure, then you swung to 'oo maybe she is a gold digger" although I wonder the gold she wants to dig. If she is looking for security, is that a crime? We all desire something in a relationship. Leave these petty talks and focus on the main issues. Are you both psychologically ready for marriage? Are you ready to MAKE IT WORK? By the way, what did Jude say about your teaching job? hasn't he seen you could do better with a higher paying job? Jude my nose. You are the gold digger in my opinion. What has her brother helping you got to do with you being a man and moving on with your affairs? Please stop painting us black. I am decently employed but I value the time my wife spends with our kids at home bringing them up the right way more than the money I make. the money is a means to an end. Nothing can ever replace quality time with kids in a family. For that alone, I accord my wife special respect. Next!!!!!!!! 2 Likes |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by myk2mic: 5:49pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
chaircover: you can see from ur current post that your previous post was rather inadequate for the op, this is much more elaborate nd straight to the heart of the matter.i knew i could count on you lol, nw that you have made your point i can nw go and sleep till another op in distress comes along. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by omosexy1: 5:49pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Idowuogbo: He can even put it in writing. Since it is a court marriage, he can dissolve it instantly on the basis that his wife failed to fulfill her own part of the contract. Hence there will be no marriage. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Nobody: 5:51pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 5:53pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
kunletiwoo: |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 5:57pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
omosexy1:Y go forth with such wen u already drenched wiv doubts,Blood cannot be washed away wiv blood bruda! It's too much of a risk. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Nobody: 5:58pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
@chaircover. Can i be Ūя̅ friend pls. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Nobody: 5:59pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
chaircover:Yes! Yes! Yes! OP, anything else is wrong. I advise you to read this two hundred times and then decide, and please give us feedback. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by iyanda146: 6:00pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
If you are waiting for the woman that you will see her heart and know the future, you are live your whole life as a bachelor. Marriage is a game change anytime. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Eldashab(m): 6:01pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
You are in the best position to make the best position! Not any Nairalander. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by myk2mic: 6:02pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
chaircover: i can imagine wat u went thru to type bt thats the price you sometimes have to pay to please ur teaming fans, supporters etc the op knws deep inside that somethings not right bt u knw hw it is wen the heart and the brain clash, it no easy battle thats y he came to this forum to sample opinions bt am sure he is getting a clearer picture now. you really shld consider starting ur own tv/radio show you knw, or hw u see am . |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Debeloved87(m): 6:06pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
acidtalk: Rarely respond to threads if I can't relate to the message 100%. As for this, I can relate to it 101%. guy, ur head correct die, keep it up...as for my guy...its your decision to make...follow advice and listen to your heart and it shall be well wit you..Amen |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Idowuogbo(f): 6:08pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
myk2mic:Bring d capital and see if cc no open studio. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by Ehikoyia: 6:08pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
Walk by faith not by sight. Pray and Let God directs u. Don't be sentimental. This is life-time relationship, till death do part. Marriage honourable and sacred. |
Re: My Girl Proposed To Me - Help by andyanders: 6:09pm On Jul 26, 2012 |
From your write up, I found out here that during the time she was with the bank, she expected much from you in terms of a good job as she never loved the job you were doing. Then, she was also answering calls from her toasters whom she trusted better than you and hoping that they will make a better husband with their cash. As a teacher, she ONLY expresses her likeness on your person but not love. Later, she lost her job and wants you to open up as to settle down with you and also, to help you secure a job with an oil company through her brother ONLY if you marry her. Listen, she is only after money and not love. Why didn't your lover girl propose to you so to say when she had job until she lost her job? Why didn't the so called lover girl help you secure a job through her brother when she had her bank job? And now also, why does she want to help you ONLY when you marry her. Listen to me my brother, I don't think that she is real as true love will not hate your job, rather help you stand when in need. Do not be surprised that if she helps you secure the job and you annoy her tomorrow, she might end up going through same process to see that you loose same job. The taste of friendship is not the taste of marriage. A true lover will stand by you no matter your job, so far you don't steal, since you are already a graduate but managing a teaching job and hoping that things might change for good at any time in the future. Never marry out of sympathy. |
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