i am of ibo extraction and by God's grace wuld marry a yoruba lady.I heard that inter-tribal marriage has challenges,but i have always loved it and wuld definitely go into it. Are u for or against inter-tribal marriage? Let's talk about it.

Do u tink marriage is joke? Its a lifelong stuff.
Especially in the igbo culture, marriage is too sacred. The igbo pips haver the lowest divorce rate in the country thats y guys these days dey mak sure their chics get belle befor they marry them

Had a yoruba i dated for like 2yrs and had plans to marry her but lo and behold my folks said a big NO. even afetr all my plea and threats, my dad said he will not go with me and i should go hire a father, so amy reasons were given, culture, divorce rate, cooking, issue of yoruba ladies having inheritance, yoruba marrige not total thats Y they dont collect bride price etc so mani bla, bla, bla. Just trying to get back on my feet and start all over again.

Just be ready just incase, so ur story will not be "Did I not tell U"

But in the real sense of it all issues of tribalism were handed over to us by our parent. Until we in our generation put an end to it, we might find ourselves repeatinfg the same stuff.

For me, just go with what works for U

I'm all for inter-tribal relationships / marriages.

I've never understood why parents threaten to disown / disinherit their children, because they choose to marry someone they love, who happens to be from a different tribe! It makes very little sense, and as far as I'm concerned, fosters tribalism. It's one of the reasons Africans don't unite as one, and it's a shame, really.

I'm Urhobo / Itsekiri, but I'm not marrying a girl from my "tribe". I'm marrying my choice, and woe betide anyone from my family who tries to get in my way! If my parents were alive today, and wanted to disown / disinherit me, then so would it be. I refuse to be blackmailed into marrying what they deem as the "right choice". Pretty much like allowing your parents to choose your bride / groom, with me, a definite no-no.

@ Allcorrect: It's a shame you gave in to your father, when he put his foot down, but you know best, all the best in your new relationship.

@ Ckc: You're Igbo, and you want to marry a Yoruba lady, good for you! Whatever tribes you both are, you're Nigerians and human, the tribal thing is secondary. Do what you feel is right, if you find the right lady for you, go for her! Disregard what others may tell you, they won't be living with your wife, you will!

Marrying from the same tribe does NOT guarantee both parties will stay together.

Allcorrect:

Had a yoruba i dated for like 2yrs and had plans to marry her but lo and behold my folks said a big NO. even afetr all my plea and threats, my dad said he will not go with me and i should go hire a father, so amy reasons were given, culture, divorce rate, cooking, issue of yoruba ladies having inheritance,

Rofl I didnt know you people were this jealous of us sha. Why the hell wouldnt we have inheritance when we are indeed daughters of our fathers or are women not children too? We thank God sha that we don't bathe in ignorance nor are we caged like christmas fowl.

Siena dear, can you speak your tongue?

d reloaded give the Igbo men a try.
a trial may convince you

once you go Ibo
you'll never go oyinbo

Osisi you don mad. 

I refuse to be part of a family that hates me because I get inheritance from my family. Why wouldnt I when I'm not a bastard?

I really don't have a problem with 'em as I know quite a number of Igbo guys whom I'm actually quite attracted to HOWEVER I've noticed that some have this controlling thing about them, very sexist in their thinking which I for one can NOT stand. Of course there's uber controlling Yoruba guy here and there who'll probably expect you to call their 3 yr old sister with the title "auntie" like some demented idiot but they are mostly the ones with Muslim ties and since I don't intend on marrying a Muslim ever, I'm sure I'll be fine

Seriously if the some of the males on Nairaland are any indiction of how they reason while they are in relationships, I'll definitely pass on the trial. No offence to the ones that are sane though  

There are good men and bad men everywhere.
A friend in California married to a Yoruba man gets into fist fights with her hubby,does it mean Yoruba men fight their wives?
Men generally are controlling.
That is just their nature,period
The mildly controlling ones have been tutored by someone

If you like go find a man from Timbuctoo
I bet you he'll be just the same
It takes wisdom to know how to handle them
And make them eat off your palms.

Which one be inheritance as stated by the earlier poster ?
people can make a big deal of nothing.

Allcorrect:

, issue of yoruba ladies having inheritance,

Explain this one to me o, Osisi.

I never knew women having inheritance is seen as a bad thing in the eyes of other tribes

The mildly controlling ones have been tutored by someone

Send me those ones for trial and we shall see

The inheritance one I never hear before that a man would dislike a woman based on that.
Inheritance of whose property?
The mans?

Is it a bad thing for a woman to claim what is rightfully hers?
Infact I would run away from any man Igbo or Itsekiri with that type of mentality.

I think he was implying that his dad felt Yoruba women were "bad" for him cos they are allowed to inherit property.

Creepy

@Topic

What a question.  I doubt if anyone scouting around Nigeria would designate majority of Nigerians as pure Igbos, Hausas, Yorubas or any other ethnic group as (thoroughbreds) in this day and age. Most often intermarry and usually we all are a mixture of something not just where our paternity lies.


Gosh!  Nigerians are wonderful.

Call yourself whatever you want, but the reality is that you are a hybrid of different ethnic groups from your ancestral heritage anyway.

women from a particular tribe in nigeria are more likely to cheat in marriage. .
most i hear about are from there.

i'm all for Inter-tribal marriage. . But me stays away from that side of naija sha.

I am 100% in support for Inter Tribal Marriage, i no fit shout e` fit b me o`!

I have been married for 54 months to a loving wife who is not from my tribe. Our families get on great together ( her parents call my folks more than I do).

Love, maturity, exposure trump tribe any day.

I am for it. Without it I wouldn't be here

issue of yoruba ladies having inheritance

what does this mean?

Topic.

For it o

Black meat ALL THE WAY, NOTHING ELSE!

I am 100% for it! I am from the North by God's grace marrying an Igbo girl although my dad and hers are sceptical about it, but we love each other and going ahead with it.

I have no problem with inter-tribal marriages. I used to be involved in an Ashanti girl, when I was living in Ghana. She was so beautiful, and her family had no problem that I was Nigerian. Too bad I had to go back to the states. That woman was too beautiful and hopefully I see her again next year in Accra or Kumasi.

I am for it! Nothing wrong for two people truly in love

Intertribal marriage is bad

It is bound to fail, and I wouldnt advise anyone to do it; especially with Ibos, very backward and money making ritualistic people!

strangerf:

Intertribal marriage is bad

It is bound to fail, and I wouldnt advise anyone to do it; especially with Ibos, very backward and money making ritualistic people!

I think your types ceased to exist 5 decades ago. You are just an ethnic bigot and you can as well keep your advice to yourself.

ignore stranger. he is just like mr. cork (an unfunny version ), he says things JUST to outrage ppl. it is a matter of time before he begins with the name calling. 

Mz Dark,

Almost EVERYTIME, mr cock don't be saying poo funny, I be looking at yall like crazy, I am like these niggas crazy,

But you RIGHT strangerf is uhmm (SILENCE)

Why the hate?

Intertribal marriage is fine between, say, Yoruba and Hausa, Edo and Yoruba, Fulani and Tiv, but with Ibos? Hell No.

First they have a very unique primitive culture that makes intertribal marriage with them unworkable.

I have nothing against Ibos. After travelling the breadth and lenght of Nigeria, I think I am in a very good position to express my mind as frank as possible

Ibos are also very angry and tribalistic people. It is either their way or nothing, and since marriage is based on mutual respect, trust and good communication, it beats my imagination how anyone could think that they could reason with a group of people who, over the years, have shown deep contempt fro people different from them

I cant force my views on anyone; one thing though, marry them at your own risk.

As they say in the SE ( about foreigners) : Come to Iboland, leave a dead woman!

Hmmm StrangerF, I don't know what IBGOS YOU BEEN DEALING WITH, but whatever,

I am against it!! chai!!

Hellz no. It works for some, but it doesnt work for many.

My heart goes out to those naive Yoruba girls carrying Igbo man-purse. Reality will soon slap una awake.

The cultural difference is too mind boggling. And their mama is another story.

But they're sexy tho But give it 10 yrs for the inherited potbelly and engine eyes to start kicking in.

Ileke-IdI:

I am against it!! chai!!

Hellz no. It works for some, but it doesnt work for many.

My heart goes out to those naive Yoruba girls carrying Igbo man-purse. Reality will soon slap una awake. [b]The cultural difference is too mind boggling. And their mama is another story.[/b]But they're sexy tho But give it 10 yrs for the inherited potbelly and engine eyes to start kicking in.

Aunty mi , Gbam for you

You definitely hit the head on its nail, abi na de other way?

[size=3pt]Didnt realize you are closet tribalist, I fear you oo my sister[/size]