ayobase:

That a gel is not asking for financial assistance from a guy doesnt mean that she can die for him.
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If not for anything...u could be her plan B.
If she is really into u, she should go ahead and tell her Mum what she wants....or is she being henpecked by her mother.
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And beside, u can take ur time to let her unleash, no one can tell....ladies could be confused sometimes!
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I didnt mean to insult u....tot u are easily deceived!

tnks for ur reply. I just spoke wt her nw concerning our plans and she told me that she's stil confused on taking that decision that she's praying over it. She said that five suitors are afta her including me bt she's tryn to choose btw me and one other. Is she doing d right thing?

Pls i wnt u guys to tel me frm experience d challenges that i might face if i eventually marries her wt regard to her family situation. I knw that in our society we married both d wife and her family and d greatest mistake to a mans life is making d wrong choice in marriage.

2fyn: As regards rent,i dnt hv problem wt that coz i hv a business that am investing on that wl support me financially wt d kids.
Asking me to keep marriage out of it wl nt be 2 good wt me coz am in my mid thirtees and d first son.,my parents and age mates are presurizing me and am not finding it easy.

I understand about the pressure from family, and since you are making arrangements for investment. Dont you think its better you find a lady that is equally working to assist you instead you trying to assist the lady and her family with your little income ? Love is not the major determinant of successful marriage, a lot of other pressing issues can tear love apart and lead to marriage crumble. Address those cardinal issues first.

Billyonaire: I understand about the pressure from family, and since you are making arrangements for investment. Dont you think its better you find a lady that is equally working to assist you instead you trying to assist the lady and her family with your little income ? Love is not the true determinant of successful marriage, a lot of other pressing issues can tear love about and lead to marriage crumble. Address those cardinal issues first.

right my brother,d ones i wnted to date earlier were all working class and one of them told me that she wnts a man who earns more than her,that am nt her kind. The other left and sent me a txt that she is nt interested after visiting me.

2fyn: right my brother,d ones i wnted to date earlier were all working class and one of them told me that she wnts a man who earns more than her,that am nt her kind. The other left and sent me a txt that she is nt interested after visiting me.

My brother, marriage is not a thing that you rush into.

2fyn: Pls i wnt u guys to tel me frm experience d challenges that i might face if i eventually marries her wt regard to her family situation. I knw that in our society we married both d wife and her family and d greatest mistake to a mans life is making d wrong choice in marriage.

My brother the issue is not her family per se but whether or not the mother wants you to marry her daughter and if she will give you peace after marriage.

Once again, marriage is not something that you rush into.

As u have said dat she said she have 5 suitors over are and she is contemplating b'tween u and another one. She even to u dat she is praying over d issue. I want u to knw dat as u don't want to make mistake, so also she doesn't want. It is nt dat she doesn't love u, but wen it comes to marriage, wise ladies don't rush to choose because they don't want to enter into wrong home. I wil suggest u give her time to pray, don't rush her to make decision. If she belongs to u, u can't miss her. I wil also advice u to also pray about it so dat u wil nt carry d wrong rib. Cöncerning ur finance, I wil advice u nt to trust ur finance as a key to having a happy home but trust God and sees Him as ur source. If u are waiting 4 d tym dat u wil b financially buoyant, u may never marry.

Timijo: As u have said dat she said she have 5 suitors over are and she is contemplating b'tween u and another one. She even to u dat she is praying over d issue. I want u to knw dat as u don't want to make mistake, so also she doesn't want. It is nt dat she doesn't love u, but wen it comes to marriage, wise ladies don't rush to choose because they don't want to enter into wrong home. I wil suggest u give her time to pray, don't rush her to make decision. If she belongs to u, u can't miss her. I wil also advice u to also pray about it so dat u wil nt carry d wrong rib. Cöncerning ur finance, I wil advice u nt to trust ur finance as a key to having a happy home but trust God and sees Him as ur source. If u are waiting 4 d tym dat u wil b financially buoyant, u may never marry.

God bless you.

i appreciates all ur replies.

2fyn: right my brother,d ones i wnted to date earlier were all working class and one of them told me that she wnts a man who earns more than her,that am nt her kind. The other left and sent me a txt that she is nt interested after visiting me.

haha haha. Ve u consider why she text u not interested after she left? Hum..? i see something here.. is it becos ur house nor try? No girl will do that on porposely. And again, the other one told u are not her class. Mr man or stone head better make money first and forget marraige. Upgrade ur house and life. Something tells me u are not sound to marry. I believe ur father know u better. Can u affored traditional marriage of 350k?

2fyn: tnks for ur reply. I just spoke wt her nw concerning our plans and she told me that she's stil confused on taking that decision that she's praying over it. She said that five suitors are afta her including me bt she's tryn to choose btw me and one other. Is she doing d right thing?

If she is praying indeed...then okay....everybody wants a perfect marriage...what seems good to one now, might not be the best eventually...she is INDEED taking her time!
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U also should pray....if she is the one, God should make it work out, and if not, let there be separation in any way....thats my spiritual piece of advice for u!

Abeg, some of us can't deal with poor men. . . . .nobody wan suffer.

What is 60k/year? Anywaz, some ppl have nothing, so give praise to God.

u have to wake up and undastand how life works,
why are dey playing around with u?
free de babe and move on or wait a little ...

2fyn: God bless you.

Amen

My broda, don't follow wrong advice.