Emmy9ite: @op
Give the first girl a chance,looking at it from a microscopic view,from what u 've said i can conclude without unreasonable doubts that she(the one that invited u) is deeply in love with you. Assuming she didnt invite u,how would you know she had a flat mate.
When i look at this matter from an eagle's view am sure what u want to do will cause a big quarrel between the two girls and u will loose both.

#my opinion.

pato405: @
op,

firstly, you dont have to write in upper case all through. it makes your write up clumsy and difficult to read. it sometimes convey a weird meaning to some readers [like me]that you are shouting. bolding the fonts even makes it worse.

now, to your confusion question , sincerely i feel your quandry because i've once been there - during my NYSC, similar case occured. I met this lady and we clicked on camp we got chatting and guess what, we became so fond of each other [even at first sight] that we practically spent the whole day just talking. i was at camp clinic as a med corper and she'll always pop in beaming that youthful enchanting irresistible smile that i just find always difficult to give her any excuse of being busy. whenever she comes to camp clinic, we'll spend so much time talking that my colleagues at a time thought she was one of us . the friendship grew stronger until i met her friend ..gosh..she was a damsel. it's been ages but occasionally,i catch flashes of what strikes me like a glimpse of her [she's now married tho and the last time we spoke on phone, she told me she now has a child. anywa, back to my story]

wahala started the day clapped eyes on her. I felt like I was seeing an angel stand before me - i was completely held in awe that a beign could be created so perfectly..all the curves, her skin glittering, her dentition so perfect, ear to ear gorgeous smile, and to crown it all up, her english..mwaaaaah! impeccable [though both of them were OK but the latter was better from my assessment just the way you feel now] these things are entirely subjective though so i won't criticise you. but guess what? I knew i had to make a shift in interest immediately and how to go about it became a problem. I needed to detach from all emotional entanglements from the first one. my excuses were handy like yours i.e I hadn't declared anything yet to her so I thought that will make my cross-carpeting easy [gosh , i laugh even as i type these words cos i can still vividly remember e'rything] meanwhile, the first lady could sense i was having a crush [ladies are very sensitive. they know your next move - even your next 10 moves.. so don't be surprised if the first girl you are talking about has already sensed your sudden interest in her friend]

anyway, it may interest you to know that both ladies paid me a visit after camp because we kept in touch. i was ready to close-mark the later even more than the former but they were inseperable friends so that made it more difficult. they were deployed to the same establishment after camp and they shared the same flat. so see GBEGE!i still wouldn't give up. I approached a friend of mine whom i knew worn our spurs for being a sagacious player - infact an acknowledged playboy even from camp. he was a pharmacist from ABU and had this amazing sophistry girls usually feel for. anyway, i asked him [just as you are doing here on NL ] and he gave me advise he thought could help me break the covalent bond between both ladies. i was playing cool not wanting to rush the issue lest i split the remarkably tolerant and blissful relationship between both ladies.

to cut the long story short because i can't go on giving you full details. my post will be too long to read. . inspite of how carefully i threaded and being nice to both of them, at a time it became so glaring where my hrt really was i.e the second lady. i guess it really struck a nerve. the first lady was really pissed on realising this and it caused a little squabble between them. they both started ignoring me. i lost both. although we still continued as friends, the friendship was never the same again afterwards.

so, OP if you dont tread cautiously, you may lose both ladies! rather I'll advise from experience you keep it strictly as friends and nothing beyond friendship because the first girl is already anticipating you'll ask her out and if you DARE jilt her for her friend...haaaaa..you'll be here to tell another story o!

Onegai: Why are you advising him not to break up these girls' friendship, he has already made up his mind that h wants to. Everyone is saying, don't do it, chances are it won't work out. I have seen this situation several times, it never works out, even if it leads to marriage (infact, the 2 friends reconciled because after the 2nd girl had married the guy and couldn't give him a baby, and action started happening, she needed a place to stay). It is oju kokoro that is worrying him. I've said it before and I'll say it again: you cannot build your happiness on someone else's sorrow. You are happily saying "well I promised her nothing", trying to justify this. You've still not answered my question "if your friend follows you to visit a chick and does the proper duties of a wingman to be nice to her (in order to strengthen your case), and the girl opens a thread on NL "How do I move from this guy to his friend, we are not dating yet sha, but I flirted with him and intimated that maybe I'd like to date him", what would your answer be?

Or are you one of those who feel "True love doesn't respect any boundaries?" Are you determined to have your way at all costs? Then go ahead.

mekaboy: I GET YOU, I KNEW SHE HAD A FLATMATE FROM OUR TELEPHONE CONVERSATIONS. HOW CAN YOU TELL A GIRL IS DEEPLY INLOVE WITH YOU BECAUSE SHE INVITED YOU OVER TO EAT ?

FROM WHAT YOU ARE SAYING, IF YOU ARE PASSING A BOUTIQUE AND YOU SEE A NICE SHIRT HANGING OUTSIDE, AND YOU GO INTO THE BOUTIQUE AND FIND A BETTER ONE THAT FITS YOU MORE, WILL YOU BUY THE FIRST ONE BECAUSE ITS THE ONE THAT BROUGHT YOU THERE OR WILL YOU BUY THE OTHER THAT FITS BETTER?

I BELIEVE LIFE IS MYSTERIOUS AND I ALSO BELIEVE IN DESTINY, YOU CAN NEVER TELL HOW YOU MEET THE SPECIAL SOMEONE.

mekaboy:

what are the girls doning in terms of work?
ONE WORKS WITH UNITED NATIONS BLA BLA BLA TO AFRICA, THE OTHER ONE WORKS WITH ANOTHER INTERNATIONAL ORGANIZATION FOR BLA BLA BLA IN AFRICA. YOU KNOW ALL THESE ORGANIZATIONS THAT I DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT THEY DO IN AFRICA, BUT THEY HAVE OFFICES HERE. I DONT REALLY CARE, THEY ARE WELL PAID.

joycexz: I think U should go for what U want with wisdom. Why must you settle for less than what you want?

mekaboy:

what are the girls doning in terms of work?
ONE WORKS WITH UNITED NATIONS BLA BLA BLA TO AFRICA, THE OTHER ONE WORKS WITH ANOTHER INTERNATIONAL ORGANIZATION FOR BLA BLA BLA IN AFRICA. YOU the=KNOW ALL THESE ORGANIZATIONS THAT I DONT REALLY KNOW WHAT THEY DO IN AFRICA, BUT THEY HAVE OFFICES HERE. I DONT REALLY CARE, THEY ARE WELL PAID.

what plan do you really av before you went there?
I WENT THERE TO EAT AND CHAT.

do you think her flatemate feel the samething you feel?
WELL FROM OUR CONVERSATIONS WE SEEMED TO BE ON THE SAME SIDE IN MOST ARGUMENTS, AND FROM THE LOOK IN HER EYES, I THINK WITH THEM WE WILL BE ON THE SAME PAGE.

how did you get there(mode of transportation)?
I DROVE MYSELF THERE. DOES THE METHOD OF TRANSPORT COUNT ?


and who is more beautifull?
THEY ARE BOTH BEAUTIFUL, I AM NOT LOOKING FOR BEAUTY ALONE.



how serious u thing you will be with her flat mate?
FOR BETTER FOR WORSE SERIOUS, IF THINGS WORK OUT.


NOW ADVISE ME .