coogar:

your cousin is guilty of bigamy!
the dude needs to be manually castrated by an androgynist!

ronkebp: A lady did traditional wedding in absentia with my cousin there in Nigeria, my cousin wedded another......

chamotex:
@Tgirl

Please can you list reasons why people adopt this method?
I'm trying hard to think of any valid reason.

dayokanu:

Even people who do physical weddings do these same thing.

My friends dad was running 2 families in Lagos without his main family knowing. His first born with one wife was like 36yrs the first born with another woman was like 28yrs before the bubble burst

ronkebp:

Hmmmmmm!!!!!! what was his reason for living that way?

armyofone: @dayokanu

show me your friend and i'd tell you who you are

this kin marriage, agro dey catch me.

Let them suspend the marriage until both are conveniently ready. Why all the haste? If the guy hasn't gotten his footing yet in abroad...no papers, then why is he bent on getting a wife? Chill out YOUNG MAN...get your papers first. If you need a woman to sleep with they are a lot of them there. You an continue doing this until you get your papers and ready, then you can discuss life partner.

Deedee49: Dis is ridiculous!

Dubemkelly: Have seen such weddings conducted in my family,it happens if da guy aint in twn saddled wit da voluminous working conditions in disapora,I think its quite acceptable if pix r used in absentia or d groom's brother standing in 4 da groom,after which d bride goes 2 meet her hubby wherever he resides,it happns nd has worked 4 my relatives who dd dat....The one I hate wit passion is d wife staying behind after da whole thing

spyder880: Witnessed such marriage, groom was in London and the younger bro was representing.

floridam:
Oga abi baby TDC, you have made a point about marriage being an agreement or exchange of vows between 2 people wether by mail or telegraph but where I disagree with u is in the area of being married to a stick or carrot on the day of the event.
Marriage to an African man like me will be a thing of joy and happiness seeing my daughter standing with the groom receiving prayers from me and not a stick, carrot or a photograph instead.
It also is an act of respect for the other family seeing the better half of their child standing and not a stick.
Abi na the guy go first travel go abroad?

chaircover:

So why then must he marry a particular girl especially if they are not going to see each other for "n" number of years. Doesn't that alone defeat the whole purpose of marriage which is for companionship? Cant they both find someone else. Besides what kind of married life can you have with a virtual stranger? You dont even know if he leaves the toilet seat up after a pee, presses the toothpaste from the middle or he has smelly feet

JAkpayen: @ Tgirl4real: It's desparateness that is leading most of our ladies into such act.

Desparateness?? That's a new word for me.

Siena:

Desparateness?? That's a new word for me.

chaircover:

In which case, they both cant leave the country and so both families can get together and do it without either of them being there.

Even those that involved in that kind of marriage are pressed to do that because of their situations.

Who will not like to partake in person in his/her marriage thing?