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|His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by evilspirit: 3:38pm On Apr 24, 2011
This story isnt mine but for a worried soul
I married my wife eight years ago and we are blessed with two children. We have enjoyed peace in our home and never had any serious problems apart from one or two challenges which aren’t too much for our marriage to cope with.
I love my wife so much and I believe she loves me too; though we did not date before we got married.
Now there is one thing she does regularly which irritates me, she is fond of keeping male friends to the extent that she is still in touch with her old boyfriends. She takes their calls any day and any time. If I ask for the identity of the person she is talking to, she would say a friend she recently met on her way to either the market or any place.
She would add that the person knows she is married but doesn’t mind being her friend.
What has pushed me to seek your help is what happened recently. We were in bed around 10:30 p.m. as husband and wife trying to make love when she received a call.
After about 10minutes on the phone, she told me that it was her old boyfriend who called.
At that point, I didn’t say or attempt to do anything again with her. I simply turned my back on her and slept off. Though she has tried to explain to me that there is nothing going on between her and these men, I have advised her many times to stop keeping them but all fell on deaf ears. I am a kind of person that hates to talk too much and my decision now is to divorce her so she can have time to try those her so-called ‘just friends’.
fellow Niaralander pls help Him
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Odunnu: 3:45pm On Apr 24, 2011
You want to divorce her because she has male friends?choi!
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by harakiri(m): 4:45pm On Apr 24, 2011
This is sad but not new. Women love lots of attention. Even if they have the most adoring,caring and attentive husband in the world,its never enough 4 them. What you should do is let her understand you did not bargain 4 this. Ask her 2 put herself in ur shoes. How would she feel if old time gfs and ladies you "met on the way" kept calling repeatedly. Let her know that u cannot continue pretending "all is well". If she flares up while u are telling her this,something fishy is definitely going on that she aims to defend. If she continues recieving her calls,you have every moral right to end the marriage. Its things like these that send men to their early graves. Women MOST TIMES dont appreciate what they've got till they lose it. Personally, i cannot tolerate such nonsense in a serious relationship and this is a "marriage" we are talking about.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Nobody: 5:54pm On Apr 24, 2011
I think she keeps doing this because she already knows what U are capable of, I mean how active U are and also what U r upto. Ladies/women takes inactive guys/men for granted.
This doesn't really need divorcing, but your active, sensible, and action response towards her unacceptable behavior.
Though there is nothing wrong with being a gentlemen, but if it's too much, there are certain things your wife would be doing of which U won't be able to be in control of that situation or of her.
One just really need to be smart with women and handle them the way they required.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by iv4real(f): 8:25pm On Apr 24, 2011
There is nothing wrong if your wife has male friends. But she has to be able to know were to draw the line. She should have at least some respect for you and your marriage. No sensible guy should call a married woman at that time of the night when he knows the woman will be with her husband , if he has anything 2 talk about he has morning, afternoon and evening not late in the night. And your wife should respect you enough not to have such a long conversation with the guy when you guys are together, even if she is talking with her female friends. You should let her know how you feel about the phone calls.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by simpleseyi: 7:40pm On Nov 21, 2011
My wife does not have a single male friend. What has light and darkness got in common. Married woman should never ever again keep male friends. Male colleagues, Yes with restrictions. Male Friends, ABOMINATION. If you think I am outdated that is your problems. Your wife even mingle with her ex-boyfriends. Did she pay your dowry?
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Metalgoong(m): 2:01am On Nov 22, 2011
Chairman take it easy oooo. Anyway, I concur with ya.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Nobody: 3:16pm On Nov 23, 2011
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by 2shuz: 12:11pm On Nov 28, 2011
oooopppsss , you wife and i have something in common. I dated a guy who dumped me like hot coal because he couldnt stand the fact that i had male friends, a lot of male friends . thankfully i am married to a lovely man who doesnt seem to mind. when we started dating, i was afraid of picking their calls when im with him and this actually upsets him. later he told me that he though i was double-dating. my husband knows all my male friends especially the ones i keep constant touch with, this includes my ex-es; some have even forged good relationship with him and have helped each other. some cases, they have even sidelined me o , some even call him when they cant reach me, my own bad reach like that . we had a serious talk, where he told me that he doesnt mind at all but made me understand that i will be at the losing end if he suspects anything, which is the simple truth
which would you prefer? that you know about this men and what they are in her life or she keeps them secretly. I think you should talk to her seriously, dont shout o! let her know that even though you are not the talking type, you simply dont like this, and let her know how you feel. as for the picking a call in the night from her ex-boyfriend when you are about to be intimate with her, THAT IS A NO-NO
you need speak up. for me, after my talk with my husband, ol boy, i respect myself o! i still have my male friends o! but i respect my husband.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Xavier1976(m): 4:27pm On Nov 28, 2011
Some women are such hypocrites!!!! imagine some of their response, sooooooooooooo, if you see or find or hear your husband or boyfriend with strings of juicy looking girls including his Exs, mingling and jingling with them, you would hug him and shout hurray ? haba !!!!! you girls are the most insecured, jealous and extra suspicious creature on this planet earth !!!!!!
Word of 9ice - "What kind of friendship can be between a dog and a lion" , correct her and if she doesn't change, she can as well have all the freedom she wants without the marriage !!!!! shikena !!!! total rubbish !!!!! can you imagine the excuses women give ? " I like lots of male friends my foot!!!!!!"
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by dayokanu(m): 7:15pm On Nov 28, 2011
You too should start keeping a bevy of female friends and let them even call you at night sext with them and do it in her face.
Even call some of them darling, Honey etc
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by 2shuz: 7:36pm On Nov 28, 2011
Kai!!! This no go bad o! I think picking calls late at night and chatting with them is a No no!!! The ex that called late at night or any man that calls a married woman late at night does not have respect for that marriage or the husband. There shoukd be boundaries in every freedom
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Nobody: 8:37pm On Nov 28, 2011
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Ninapha(f): 4:51pm On Dec 01, 2011
Hmm Evilspirit! Evilspirit!! evilspirit!!! how many times did i call u. Leave that woman alone. U are the reason she is behaving like that.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by TRACK: 4:57pm On Dec 01, 2011
is she from west or? God will help.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Nobody: 4:57pm On Dec 01, 2011
Divorce her jooooor, she must be a Nigerian am sure, Nigerian babes home or abroad smh.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by OAM4J: 5:02pm On Dec 01, 2011
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by mimima(f): 5:07pm On Dec 01, 2011
are we talking of lover or just friend?
can we differentiate between the two pls
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Princesspee(f): 5:22pm On Dec 01, 2011
The man should also be querried for not listening to the truth or is he cheating too,
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by rhamzus(m): 5:22pm On Dec 01, 2011
evilspirit:There is noting wrong in a lady having lots of male friends, probably she flows easily with males.
but what i think is she does nt know when to draw the line, that is where respect [/b]comes in.
what is to b shared with another male friends that can not b shared wth your spouse [b](thats d communication link).
I am not saying u shld b suspicious, she may mean no harm. Talk to her and try to share your opinion on the problem. Ask if you can likewise contribute to what she talks to others abt ( cos this is a relationship, no longer abt u but us).
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by bigdoo: 5:37pm On Dec 01, 2011
If you know that you have not cheated on her and that you have been faithful to her all the time of your marriage, then it is left for you to decide if you can put up with her behaviour or not. I don't know who is the bread winner in the family. Women tend to take their husbands for granted when they start to earn substantial income. It gets into their head so much and sometimes some of them forget that they came into the marriage with absolutely nothing.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by pawa4ul: 5:38pm On Dec 01, 2011
No don't do anything! Abi you said she took the call by 10:30pm while you were trying to arrange for love making. The next one will be by 11pm when you are already inside, and she will push you away to take the important calls that matter to her.
She knows that you can tolerate such rubbish that is why she is doing it anyway.
My friend, open your eyes. If they are open and you still seem blind, then use onions to wash them fast.
Guys, can you imagine your wives taking a call by 10:30pm and proudly/boldly telling you to your face that it was their ex-guy that called. I hate to imagine the action that will follow.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by solex05(f): 5:43pm On Dec 01, 2011
it doesn't mean
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by Ndkings1(m): 5:47pm On Dec 01, 2011
Na now i dey come ooo, wetin una dey discos?
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by kl2020: 5:47pm On Dec 01, 2011
just slap her anything she takes any of thier calls, then she will know how serious you are, don't just sit there like mugu and act as if everything is ok. something maybe going on,
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by ritux: 5:48pm On Dec 01, 2011
I understand what you going through. Give her the threat that u want a divorce if it continues and see her reaction. If she argues with you and insist on keeping male friends then there is a problem. I don't see any reason why a married woman will make male friends on her way to market etc. if it was at work place, it is understood. No reasonable man will call a married woman for 10mins at night if there is no hidden agenda.
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by 9icelag: 5:48pm On Dec 01, 2011
pawa4ul:You need to be firm when dealing with a woman lest she take you for granted. She probably told the guy that he can call her anytime. She ll will tell him my Hubby is understanding. @ POSTER WAKE UP B4 THEY NACK U APACKO
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by ritux: 5:52pm On Dec 01, 2011
On point. If i were in your shoes, though i wont slap her but take the phone from her and talk sense into her head. After all you married her
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by lily0231: 5:52pm On Dec 01, 2011
Continue to replace her sim card until she repent. if she raised any eye brow,sit her down and talk to her on how u feel. Do u let her know how deeply u love her ? Do u show her love? Do u call her regularly when u are not with her ? All what she need is extra attention , love , care, Not divorce. "ORI BIBE KO NI OGUN ORI FIFO".
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by 9icelag: 6:01pm On Dec 01, 2011
lily0231:He should not go to work again ? @ OP READ THE RIOT ACT. LEST U RE NOT MAN ENOUGH
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by BCuZiMBlaCk(m): 6:05pm On Dec 01, 2011
9icelag:true, once a married woman keeps too many male friends, know that it is a problem
|Re: His Wife Has Too Many Male Friends by 2shuz: 6:31pm On Dec 01, 2011
I am loving these last comments
yes o! even tennagers dey do smal shakara sef. I think there is more to the story that will make the man not to say anything even at the point of going to his promise land. I still talk with my ex o! but the guy or any guy knows better than to call me at night up to action time. i know my husband wont mind but because i respect him , i will not pick that call.
kai!!! truth is always bitter sha. Enough said. be the head of your family, be firm in setting boundaries and respect is very key. I dont think she knows that you really dont like it maybe you dey tell her with a smile on your face. dont beat her sha but be very stern.
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