I do w0nder if the
destinati0n of the j0urney 2
motherhood of s0me ladies makes
them 2 f0rget the r0ute of which
the j0urney began! What d0 I mean? I have seen
many married ladies here with the
complaint that their husbands is
cheating on them despite having
one or tw0 kid(s) f0r him!
S0me c0mplain of their husbands n0t spending time with them at
h0me or taking them out, s0me
that their marriage is still fresh but
their husband are n0 l0nger
sh0wing the l0ve he pr0mised
them! Now lets go d0wn t0 business, I
believe that bef0re b0th of y0u
g0t married s0mething in y0u
attracted him by dating y0u and
also motivated him in getting
married t0 y0u but unf0rtunately y0u all0wed that weap0n of l0ve
y0u had on him t0 die! Ok, when
you both were still dating, y0u
were fixin and keeping your nails
so clean and attractive, y0u
changes y0ur haird0 and even have a style which he cherishes s0
much that whenever he sees it on
y0u, 0h God, he can't resist y0u,
y0u wear a nice perfume that he
feels like eating y0u up whenever
he is ar0und y0u, y0u do sents him lovely text msgs every night
bef0re he g0es t0 bed which
made him to find y0u irresistable
and ended up making y0u his
wife because he believes it will
c0ntinue like that as l0ng as y0u b0th are together! But
immediately after marriage y0u
all0wed these things to die in y0u,
so tell me, why w0n't he cheat on
y0u by g0ing after those girls that
still p0ssess these things! Husbands cheat on their wieves
because they are n0 l0nger the
person they use to be bef0re they
g0t married! How can he n0t cheat 0n y0u
when y0u have bec0me a liability
to him that he even feels ashame
t0 bring his friends/c0lleagues
h0me! T0 make y0ur marriage a heaven
made 0n earth y0u have to play
your part as a g00d wife and n0t
leaving everytin to him al0ne (a
tree cann0t make a f0rest) be that
l0vely, seductive, attractive, hard- working and caring girlfriend he
use t0 kn0w bef0re! *Its alarming h0w s0me ladies
after getting married and having
0ne or tw0 kid(s), they turn
themselves int0 0ld grannys! They
leave their hair unkept like a
w0man wh0se husband died, ties wrapper from m0rning till night,
leaves their breast with n0 bra,
leaves their nails unkept and
w0rst still, breast-feed their babies
all day with0ut taking a single
bath and sleeps afterwards! Tell me why would your husband
spends time with y0u or why
w0n't he cheat on you by having
an affair outside since y0u have
made y0urself unattractive t0 him!
These are ladies wh0 husbands takes their secretary t0 dinner
parties instead of them! *Its als0 the fault of a lady wh0
lays 0n a bed like a gh0st in the
m0rning and f0rg0t that her
husband will eat bef0re g0ing t0
w0rk! C'm0n, take y0ur ass outta
that bed and go fix s0mething f0r breakfast f0r him, 0nce y0ur
husband is up preparing himself
f0r w0rk, y0u have to be awake
also and even help him in dressing
up, if he d0esn't like eating bef0re
g0ing to w0rk, just prepare him a cup of h0t tea or c0ffee! *If y0u are n0t a w0rking class
lady, beg him t0 set up a lucrative
business f0r y0u s0 that y0u can
be supp0rt t00, d0n't just stay at
h0me to eat and sleep because the
result might be 0besity and a l0t of men hates such! *If y0u have a maid/h0use help,
d0n't turn her int0 y0ur husband's
sec0nd wife by all0wing her do all
y0ur husband's meal, men are
easily turn off by the attitude of
such ladies because it 0nly sh0w h0w lazy y0u are! *D0 remember h0w y0u sends
him r0mantic text msgs when y0u
b0th were still dating! S0,
whenever he is out t0 w0rk, just
send him one or two l0ve msgs
telling him h0w much he means t0 y0u and make sure it c0mes fr0m
the depth of y0ur heart! *D0n't be a nagging wife, always
appreciate him, dress in a way he
can't resist y0u, keep the h0use
clean, play with him, always make
his f00d ready bef0re he c0mes
back fr0m w0rk and also do welc0me his family with open
arms! *S0me ladies immediately after
marriage they call their husband
by their names or the name of any
of their kids! Oh N0, its n0t so!
Thats n0t romantic, he is still the
guy y0u dated so c0ntinue with the pet names! *D0n't compare y0ur husband
with other men, be c0ntented with
what he has g0t and d0n't wish 2
be Mrs J0hn c0s her husband g0t
her a new car, be y0urself! *Ladies, once in a while take y0ur
husband and kid(s) out! D0n't
wait untill he d0es that, like
saturdays take them out to a
l0vely and quiet place and have
fun! Y0u can even drive the car y0urself, let him be your wife that
day while y0u being the husband!
Make it more romantic! Spend
y0ur m0ney on y0ur husband ! Make all these and m0re y0ur
weap0n of love and y0ur
husband will never think of
cheating on y0u! *Ladies make
y0urselves Presentable s0 that
y0u can be Ad0rable in the eyes of y0ur husbands*

so ladies, what's ur says to this!

I don't understand!

Caracta: I don't understand!

don't say that again. What didt u understand?

Paragraphs, punctuations,etc. Is it a poem or something?

Your posting is dis-discom-discombu something. Infact, you posted trash! Is there no MsWord on your phone?

Castos: I do w0nder if the
destinati0n of the j0urney 2
motherhood of s0me ladies makes
them 2 f0rget the r0ute of which
the j0urney began! What d0 I mean? I have seen
many married ladies here with the
complaint that their husbands is
cheating on them despite having
one or tw0 kid(s) f0r him!
S0me c0mplain of their husbands n0t spending time with them at
h0me or taking them out, s0me
that their marriage is still fresh but
their husband are n0 l0nger
sh0wing the l0ve he pr0mised
them! Now lets go d0wn t0 business, I
believe that bef0re b0th of y0u
g0t married s0mething in y0u
attracted him by dating y0u and
also motivated him in getting
married t0 y0u but unf0rtunately y0u all0wed that weap0n of l0ve
y0u had on him t0 die! Ok, when
you both were still dating, y0u
were fixin and keeping your nails
so clean and attractive, y0u
changes y0ur haird0 and even have a style which he cherishes s0
much that whenever he sees it on
y0u, 0h God, he can't resist y0u,
y0u wear a nice perfume that he
feels like eating y0u up whenever
he is ar0und y0u, y0u do sents him lovely text msgs every night
bef0re he g0es t0 bed which
made him to find y0u irresistable
and ended up making y0u his
wife because he believes it will
c0ntinue like that as l0ng as y0u b0th are together! But
immediately after marriage y0u
all0wed these things to die in y0u,
so tell me, why w0n't he cheat on
y0u by g0ing after those girls that
still p0ssess these things! Husbands cheat on their wieves
because they are n0 l0nger the
person they use to be bef0re they
g0t married! How can he n0t cheat 0n y0u
when y0u have bec0me a liability
to him that he even feels ashame
t0 bring his friends/c0lleagues
h0me! T0 make y0ur marriage a heaven
made 0n earth y0u have to play
your part as a g00d wife and n0t
leaving everytin to him al0ne (a
tree cann0t make a f0rest) be that
l0vely, seductive, attractive, hard- working and caring girlfriend he
use t0 kn0w bef0re! *Its alarming h0w s0me ladies
after getting married and having
0ne or tw0 kid(s), they turn
themselves int0 0ld grannys! They
leave their hair unkept like a
w0man wh0se husband died, ties wrapper from m0rning till night,
leaves their breast with n0 bra,
leaves their nails unkept and
w0rst still, breast-feed their babies
all day with0ut taking a single
bath and sleeps afterwards! Tell me why would your husband
spends time with y0u or why
w0n't he cheat on you by having
an affair outside since y0u have
made y0urself unattractive t0 him!
These are ladies wh0 husbands takes their secretary t0 dinner
parties instead of them! *Its als0 the fault of a lady wh0
lays 0n a bed like a gh0st in the
m0rning and f0rg0t that her
husband will eat bef0re g0ing t0
w0rk! C'm0n, take y0ur ass outta
that bed and go fix s0mething f0r breakfast f0r him, 0nce y0ur
husband is up preparing himself
f0r w0rk, y0u have to be awake
also and even help him in dressing
up, if he d0esn't like eating bef0re
g0ing to w0rk, just prepare him a cup of h0t tea or c0ffee! *If y0u are n0t a w0rking class
lady, beg him t0 set up a lucrative
business f0r y0u s0 that y0u can
be supp0rt t00, d0n't just stay at
h0me to eat and sleep because the
result might be 0besity and a l0t of men hates such! *If y0u have a maid/h0use help,
d0n't turn her int0 y0ur husband's
sec0nd wife by all0wing her do all
y0ur husband's meal, men are
easily turn off by the attitude of
such ladies because it 0nly sh0w h0w lazy y0u are! *D0 remember h0w y0u sends
him r0mantic text msgs when y0u
b0th were still dating! S0,
whenever he is out t0 w0rk, just
send him one or two l0ve msgs
telling him h0w much he means t0 y0u and make sure it c0mes fr0m
the depth of y0ur heart! *D0n't be a nagging wife, always
appreciate him, dress in a way he
can't resist y0u, keep the h0use
clean, play with him, always make
his f00d ready bef0re he c0mes
back fr0m w0rk and also do welc0me his family with open
arms! *S0me ladies immediately after
marriage they call their husband
by their names or the name of any
of their kids! Oh N0, its n0t so!
Thats n0t romantic, he is still the
guy y0u dated so c0ntinue with the pet names! *D0n't compare y0ur husband
with other men, be c0ntented with
what he has g0t and d0n't wish 2
be Mrs J0hn c0s her husband g0t
her a new car, be y0urself! *Ladies, once in a while take y0ur
husband and kid(s) out! D0n't
wait untill he d0es that, like
saturdays take them out to a
l0vely and quiet place and have
fun! Y0u can even drive the car y0urself, let him be your wife that
day while y0u being the husband!
Make it more romantic! Spend
y0ur m0ney on y0ur husband ! Make all these and m0re y0ur
weap0n of love and y0ur
husband will never think of
cheating on y0u! *Ladies make
y0urselves Presentable s0 that
y0u can be Ad0rable in the eyes of y0ur husbands*

I read the first sentence and the rest was a blur. Do you know how to be a good husband

Castos: so ladies, what's ur says to this!

Honestly perfect!!! You are right on point, I couldn't find a fault, yeah a bit harsh but such advice produce great results.

Now please where is part2 on how to be a good husband today?

Like you said, a tree can not make a forest....a good wife + a bad husband can not make a good home.

The unfortunate thing is that even if you do all this and add yours, infact if you worship your husband like he is a god, men unfortunately are still human hence, they are subject to the flaw associated with being human like greed(wanting another woman), a massive ego (i am the man of this house, my word is law) and a host of others.
There is no manual on marriage as not two human(in this case, man) is the same you just have to make the laws on your marriage as you go along

Mrs..Chima:


I read the first sentence and the rest was a blur. Do you know how to be a good husband

Mrs. Chima, i think u should read all and very well before saying ur selfish opinion.

Castos: Mrs. Chima, i think u should read all and very well before saying ur selfish opinion.

A question isn't an opinion dumb app.

Mynd_44: The unfortunate thing is that even if you do all this and add yours, infact if you worship your husband like he is a god, men unfortunately are still human hence, they are subject to the flaw associated with being human like greed(wanting another woman), a massive ego (i am the man of this house, my word is law) and a host of others.
There is no manual on marriage as not two human(in this case, man) is the same you just have to make the laws on your marriage as you go along

That's true. I know women who did everything what dummy posted and many of them are divorced!

A woman can drink her husband's bath water...it is not going to stop him from taking a bath with another chick.
A woman can suck the skin off her husband's toes....it is not going to stop another woman from sucking his toes better.
A woman can look like a Goddess with perfect nyansh and teeth...it is not going to keep him from cheating.
A woman can clean her house and cook meals expertly...it is not going to stop him from going to another woman's house.
A woman can say honey, sweety, darling, baby, and king every five seconds...it is not going to stop him from calling a phone line ho.

Bottom line...there is no such thing as perfect marriage and two people aren't willing to [size=44pt]WORK TOGETHER.[/size]...the marriage is doomed.

[size=22pt]Nothing you can do to push a man/woman away if they really love you and nothing you can do to keep a man/woman if they don't want you. [/size]

Simple.

Thank you

OP, good lecture but believe me there are so many men out there that can't just do without cheating on their wife. There are women out there that gives their husbands the whole world and even go extra mile just to make him stay faithful, but at the end, The man still cheats. Cheating is inherent in most Men.

@ op

You made good points.

Some men would always be terrible regardless of what a woman does,but I believe its only one who does not fear God that would cheat on a loving& faithful wife.

That said, you failed to buttress the main point.

Se X.

In my own opinion I think this is one of the key issues in husband& wife matter, which should be addressed as to me this is the primary reason for unfaithfulness.

Seriously some partners usually develop a lackadaisical attitute to se X, which is uncalled for.
Some become lukewarm and cold towards it which is wrong.

Infact, developing a cold,lackadaisical or nonchalant attitude towards se X when married is as good as commiting a crime.Imagine a wife or husband having the temerity to draw Se X timetable? Like its only twice a week oh! Or like twice a month! Seriously? No marriage can function in that circumstance without cheating,with respect to the sex drive of both partners.

Or imagine when Se X becomes a routine& not something you derive pleasure from,like an ARt ! Everyday just rice,.what about creativity? If I serve you just white rice for a month, how would you feel?A year?Seriously? This leads to boredom& uninterest.

How about this issue of people lying about intimacy issues before marriage?
A guy with a small organ, would lie then after marriage, Se X issues begins.One party aint satisfied, then you can just imagine what happens next.
Or a lady who has a very wide punny lies, after marriage the man finds the truth, Se X issue begins, then you know what happens.

What of distance, immediately people get married,.even with the distance, they hug their careers close to their chests and forget that sometimes for some people out of sight is out of mind. Person na firewood? Making out time like weekends is not too much for your missing ribs.

Communicating is equally a serios issue, why can't We Nigerians especially men drop their pride and ask your wife her preferences and delight her with it? If your wife wants head, can't you give your WIFE, abi will you die if you do?
And if your husband says he wants Bj, if you give am HYPERTENSION, go hook you?
Seriously? Its not biblically wrong.
So? What's the big deal about this?

Many couples even here on Nairaland, have partners who are willing to give head and BJ that their spouse would never agree to do.

Bottom line, people should seriously consider Se X matters too and seriously before marriage as well.

Forgetting the place of romantic getaways without the kids for strictly intimacy issues should not be overlooked.

My opinion though

Even with great sex, some men will still cheat

Mynd_44: Even with great sex, some men will still cheat

That's why I made that statement in the beginning, please re-read again& this time with understanding.
@ mynd

Thanks 4 those that did read to see meanings and on the other hand made positive comments, not for those who came to view the write up only to show how saucey they are, both on the net, home, workplace, infact everywhere! The likes of Mrs. chima and co.

Mrs..Chima:


That's true. I know women who did everything what dummy posted and many of them are divorced!

A woman can drink her husband's bath water...it is not going to stop him from taking a bath with another chick.
A woman can suck the skin off her husband's toes....it is not going to stop another woman from sucking his toes better.
A woman can look like a Goddess with perfect nyansh and teeth...it is not going to keep him from cheating.
A woman can clean her house and cook meals expertly...it is not going to stop him from going to another woman's house.
A woman can say honey, sweety, darling, baby, and king every five seconds...it is not going to stop him from calling a phone line ho.

Bottom line...there is no such thing as perfect marriage and two people aren't willing to [size=44pt]WORK TOGETHER.[/size]...the marriage is doomed.

[size=22pt]Nothing you can do to push a man/woman away if they really love you and nothing you can do to keep a man/woman if they don't want you. [/size]

Simple.

Now I know how upside down u are. There is a perfect marriage which u seem not to understand, i believe if u wanna know u can ask me. woman, the way u talk shows that ur married is in torns believe me, no man can ever dream for ur kind or maybe he is so unlucky

Castos: Now I know saucey and bad u are and can be. Ur comment clearly show upside down u are, clearly irrespectfull. No man can ever dream for ur kind or maybe he is so unlucky

LMAO@me being saucy and bad because I spoke the truth and common sense.

No dummies would ever be lucky.

Castos: Thanks 4 those that did read to see meanings and on the other hand made positive comments, not for those who came to view the write up only to show how saucey they are, both on the net, home, workplace, infact everywhere! The likes of Mrs. chima and co.

Dummy majority of the people stated similar thing I stated. You just contradicted yourself vapid trick.

And the likes of me are people who keep it real, enjoys common sense, do not live in denial, and accept that the world continues. Too bad I can't say you possess those traits.

Truth and reality will prevail.

Mrs..Chima:


Dummy majority of the people stated similar thing I stated. You just contradicted yourself vapid trick.

And the likes of me are people who keep it real, enjoys common sense, do not live in denial, and accept that the world continues. Too bad I can't say you possess those traits.

Truth and reality will prevail.

Whenever i read ur comments I smile, how little brained are u? Common sense indeed!what do u know girl? Nothing! Absolutely nothing!!

look woman, stay out of this thread and don't come back. Derailer!

Castos: look woman, stay out of this thread and don't come back. Derailer!

Castos: Whenever i read ur comments I smile, how little brained are u? Common sense indeed!what do u know girl? Nothing! Absolutely nothing!!

Weak comeback! It pains you so.

Mrs..Chima:




Weak comeback! It pains you so.

the internet is the only thing that allows peeps like u to dare on me.

Castos: the internet is the only thing that allows peeps like u to dare on me.

Oooooooooh I am scared.....[size=44pt]..NOT![/size]

Mrs..Chima:



Oooooooooh I am scared.....[size=44pt]..NOT![/size]

lol...chima the NL terror!

Can someone bring some pop-corn

Mrs..Chima:



Oooooooooh I am scared.....[size=44pt]..NOT![/size]

Woman, I don't have ur time and u know it bitc***h

E-fight!!!!!!!

Castos: Woman, I don't have ur time and u know it bitc***h

Look like your mammy didn't have time for you biatch.

It is soooo easy making these dead dick manbitches mad.