hey ya'll?!! it's so sad this friend of mine had a boyfriend who she expected to marry later in life,they had been together for 3years, just last night she called crying that her guy had left the country without even saying bye and he won't be back for another 4years,she didn't know nything till his mom told her last night then he called and said he was sorry he had to cause he didn't want her to feel bad or cry or anything but he promised to come back she asked for advice and i don't know hat to do but i am sure i can count on you my Nairaland friends!should she wait for him or just move on

U said I, then u said ur friend.

Anyways i think ur friend should move on, the guy left without saying bye, and all he could say was "he didn't want her to cry". He's not worth it.

dont mind the i and friend thing ijustkept myself in her position

When people in relationships talking about travelling out, I always wonder what will happen to their partners. Their desperate desire for a better life abroad makes them blind and heartless. If you know you want to travel out, you should remain single. So many relationships are not worth the time wasted on them.

Lets see, shey she was expecting mariage, not that its been discussed n probably planned. I dnt think he thot much of her, for him to leave without saying a word! after 3 yrs! Spare me pls. She had better not wait for him. Let her continue her life

If I am so in love with someone

Then Bleep americas or whatever

i will stay with her

Please ,

Is it not the same land ?

The guy bleeped up for real

Why do guys always have to hurts gals

Shame

I don;t even know what to say again

The guy bleeped up sha

Uhm.

it's quite understandable why da guy had to leave without tellin da gal bt then again i thk tough times must be faced together, it's must be very hurting for da gal, bt i suggest she moves on wit her life da guys will probably be dating other chics n will forget bout her

Hmmm. . . D guy 4kd up. My own girl leaves in another state.Which takes about 15hrs to reach.If i am to travel outa the country2dey,instead of calling her on phone,i will go over there and tell her.Assuring her that i'll neva disappoint her.That's because i love her 4real.
So may be that guy no really love the girl.At d time he was travelling, may be he even 4got about her totally until he got there. And u know he cant just mention to her that he 4got.MaY be his mum even has hand in it.Am sure wat he "had" 4ha was not true love

My friend,it does happen 2 both sex sometimes,but never mind,try & furge ahead.

damn so painful, shes not the 1st its happenin to, guess she should just move on.

na waa 2 d guy oh,
Girls dont have the whole time like guyz, if it was the girl dat left for US, the guy could take the risk and wait, but since it'z the guy that left hmmm.
The girl shuld take him as a spare tyre and at same to keep her door open for another incase someone comes knocking,
Once she gets to 30yrs, na im b say her time don dey expire so she should MOVE ON,
U know husband is scarce, I wonder y a man would keep a girl in bondage and leave her?
Baby abeg forge ahead

i got my mind on my money, money on my mind.

the girl should move on and stop thinking of his ass. he's got his mind on his money and dats it.

If he had the heart to travel without telling you, he will also get married without telling you while you be there waiting. Better forget him and move on with your life. He doesn't love you.

Gurl itz kinda bitter to say dis bt u gotta move on.i dunno ow yu'd stay Four years faithfully to him, except of cos u hav sumone else on the lyn nd u kip it unserious in anticipation for either a hurt or otherwise.dat way,no one's hurt,

You should have a fair idea of what the guy's like now. Afterall, 3 years would open your eyes to the guy's world. You now have a way to communicate (you've spoken to him at least once, I infer). Choose what you want. Careful, what people say may sway you in the wrong direction - my words here inclusive.

Take time off. Use insight. If you believe in God, ask him for guidance; divine help isn't t be overlooked or taken for granted.

God be with you.

Saipro:

You should have a fair idea of what the guy's like now. Afterall, 3 years would open your eyes to the guy's world. You now have a way to communicate (you've spoken to him at least once, I infer). Choose what you want. Careful, what people say may sway you in the wrong direction - my words here inclusive.

Take time off. Use insight. If you believe in God, ask him for guidance; divine help isn't t be overlooked or taken for granted.

God be with you[i][/i].

i totally agree with saipro,relationship of 3yrs is not easy to hold on to without knowing d person to some extent.nevertheless for the guy to leave without leavin a note means he doesnt love her.well dats using common sense.

3 years! wat a waste jus move on

This topic is 2 years old, back 2006!

TELL HER 2 KEEP CALM COS HE MITE JUST B TRING 2 TEST HER FAITH,OR BETTERSTILL ADVICE HER 2 FGOLLOW HER,SO THAT SHE WON"T HAVE 2 BLAME HERSELF@ D VERY END

Hmmmmmmmmmmm!

Very Sad!

Life goes on.  Every disappointment is a blessing in disguise.

In every relationship, there is a 50/50 chance of success or failure.  Everyone should have a back up plan!  Maturity demands it. 

My kind of person?  I would definitely move on. I NEVER go where my services are not needed. Don't have that kind of time and emotion to waste at all! I will wish him well.

TRUST NO ONE!

Classic Nollywood storyline(part 1 and 2)
If she was my sister, i will advice her to move on to the next chapter of her life. communication is key in any relationship and him not telling her about his travel plans is a breach of communication and tust to an extent. Move on with your life.Afterall, there are many fishes in the sea,

Well, thread may be old. . .but people are still being jilted every second around the world. . .the can read and take solace on threads like this. . .especially jilted YIM lovers and spouses on Nairaland like ma very humble self!

Honestly i think your friend should not count on it lol.
the boy is gone

I'II advice ur friend to move on with her life jare. a better man who is truly worthy of her trust would come.

honey girl sorry for your friend hey. Maybe it might happen that he comes back for her in the future or he meets someone there and marry them. Let her move on hey. She waited for 3 years and he just left as if she was a stranger. Tell her to get on with the program of her life

cheekee: dont mind the i and friend thing ijustkept myself in her position

Well honey! I think it's you, but it's ok if you say otherwise,alright?

Tell your friend not to jump into conclusions,she should go about her daily activities like normal even though I know she will be feeling like somethings not right, all the same she should leave everything to God.

Everything happens for a reason and believe me when I tell you no body knows what that reason is but God.

the guy is not worth d tears, y on earth would a guy mke a lady wait for so long only to leave without saying goodbye... My dear, 4 years is a long time to wait for smbdy who doesn't regard you so, pick up d pieces of the broken hrt and move on... It is well

SERVES THE GAL RIGHT...it feels good seeing a guy dump a gal ...it sure do feel good...the gal should just go find a rope and a squeaky chair and end it...she was rejected,abandoned and dumped like hot coal..nobody wants her..let her just end her misery...rubbish s1lly naija gals...ph00lish ph00ls...let her end her life jor...


@op...abeg buzz me the guy email..i wanna thank him jor..he sure is a good man...may God bless his hussle in the foreign land...

I pity any prospective wife that heer prospective husband travels abroad and hopes to come back and marry her. You go wait tire. Have you seen the skin and figure of girls in America? Omo na die.

deshclones: SERVES THE GAL RIGHT...it feels good seeing a guy dump a gal ...it sure do feel good...the gal should just go find a rope and a squeaky chair and end it...she was rejected,abandoned and dumped like hot coal..nobody wants her..let her just end her misery...rubbish s1lly naija gals...ph00lish ph00ls...let her end her life jor...


@op...abeg buzz me the guy email..i wanna thank him jor..he sure is a good man...may God bless his hussle in the foreign land...

Nwanna, i know what you've gone through in the hands of Nigerian girls but you don't have to take it out on others. There are good and bad people in all societies.