Here is a list of those important things
you should know when getting to know
someone, you might not get to ask them
directly, but still find a way to know all
the answers to the 10 points listed
below:

1. Are you married / or do have a
girlfriend/boyfriend?

Any studdering, hesitation or giggling is
a MAJOR red flag. “Are you single” is a
very simple question that should have a
very simple answer… i remember this
man was trying to approach me, i asked
him if he was single… first he giggled
(nervous laughter) then he said “why
you ask me that”? then he said “yes i’m
single”, then he says “i have friends”,
translation… “no i’m not single, i have a
girl but i’m also a dog”. SMH!!! If a man/
woman is single he/she will answer that
question with a simple “YES” (with no
pause), anything other than that is
suspect.

2. What are his/her morals & values?

This one should be HIGH on everyone’s
list. If your morals & values are not in
alignment with each other, that could be
a big problem.

3. How does he/she speak to you?

I have learned that there is something to
be said about a man/woman who
constantly speaks with a foul mouth
around a person they just started
dating. It shows a lack of respect. I’m
not saying a man/woman can’t ever
curse… of course that’s not the case, but
if he/she’s saying things to you like
“wassup my nigga” or “wassup bitch”
or Muthaf*cka this Muthaf*cka that”…
he/she is not respecting you.

4. What is he saying about his / her ex?

Is he speaking negative about them?
It’s normal to some degree for a person
to say certain things about their EX,
however if the person you are
interested in is ranting with anger and
talking very negative about the person
whom they were once in love with…
that’s a sign they still have issues
regarding that situation, and just like
they talk bad about that EX, they will talk
bad about you.

5. Does he/she want marriage and
children?

If you are early 20′s you don’t have to
rush these type of questions, but if you
are in your 30′s or 40′s you NEED to ask
the tough questions early so you are not
wasting your time with someone who
doesn’t want the same things in life that
you want or maybe they want it and you
don’t… either way, marriage and
children need to be discussed at some
point, especially if that’s something you
have your heart set on.

6. Do they have anger issues or a quick
temper?

I once was out with a guy who
screamed at the top of his lungs at
someone for getting his order wrong….
being annoyed would be normal, but to
SCREAM bloody Mary in a public place is
insane… needless to say that was one
red flag that i should’ve took heed to.
pay attention to Public behavior and
quick temper signs, if they act psycho in
public, what do you think they will be
like behind closed doors?

7. What are their goals?

This is a good question to ask to see if
he/she may have a good head on his/
her shoulders. I met a man who lived at
home with his mom, yet he spent several
thousand dollars buying a new gold
chain when he should’ve been getting
his own place (SMH)! needless to say that
was a major turnoff to me and a huge
red flag that his priorities & goals were
not in sync with mines.

8. Do they have kids, how many? how
many mothers/fathers?

If meet a man with 5 kids and 4 or 5
different mothers. Realistically speaking,
if a man is spending time & money with
his kids like he’s suppose to, how is it
possible for him to have time or the
finances to date or start a family with
someone new? besides that, it could be
a red flag that he has commitment
issues if he hasn’t settled down with
none of the mother of his kids. I don’t
like to judge but… No Thanks!!

9. What type of people do they hang
around?

They say you are a reflection of the
people you choose to hang around. If
the man/woman you are interested in is
hanging around with people who have
no morals and bad character, you need
to pay attention to that.

10. How do they treat their Mother/
Father?

In most cases, If a person speaks to
their Mom/Dad in a disrespectful
manner… that’s a sign that they will
probably speak to you the same way
eventually.

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