If you were in her shoes, what would you do?

I went to a male friend's office and was introduced to one of his friends. In less than 5 minutes, we were at each other's throat! My male friend could not fathom what caused the rift, and even after changing topics a few times, we still ended up arguing.

I am a strong willed woman and cannot be easily intimidated. He probably sensed this and our arguements intensified. We were not exchanging words or what have you. It was just a battle of wits and intellect. My male friend decided not to get involve and left us at each others mercy.

A couple of weeks later, he showed up at my working place. He explained that my friend told him where to find me. Why was he looking for me? Our first meeting was a total disaster. At the end of the day, we exchanged numbers and decided to keep in touch. Our friendship grew and we planned to visit each other.

I went to his place one Saturday afternoon. He was sooo uncomfortable. He couldn't sit still for a minute. At first, I wondered what was wrong with him, but I later discovered that he was reacting to the chemistry between us. To cut the long story short, we got physically intimate (but no sex). I was a bit ashamed of myself because I was intimate with someone I was not dating. When I asked him what he wanted from me, his silence made me feel worse. I avoided him and he came to see me in the office. He apologized and told me that he wasn't ready to date for now.

Some months later, our friendship routine commenced. We were still physically attracted to each other and we got physically intimate a few times (no sex involved), at some point, I pulled out. The situation was beginning to look like 'friends with benefits' scenerio and I wasn't cut out for that. I wanted to date and get married, I didn't want to play games. I started avoiding him again and he kept coming back. What should I do?

He doesn't love u enough to be his woman, but wants the act...

He want to eat his cake and have it!

serahsadeiyare: If you were in her shoes, what would you do?

I went to a male friend's office and was introduced to one of his friends. In less than 5 minutes, we were at each other's throat! My male friend could not fathom what caused the rift, and even after changing topics a few times, we still ended up arguing. I am a strong willed woman and cannot be easily intimidated. He probably sensed this and our arguements intensified. We were not exchanging words or what have you. It was just a battle of wits and intellect. My male friend decided not to get involve and left us at each others mercy. A couple of weeks later, he showed up at my working place. He explained that my friend told him where to find me. Why was he looking for me? Our first meeting was a total disaster. At the end of the day, we exchanged numbers and decided to keep in touch. Our friendship grew and we planned to visit each other. I went to his place one Saturday afternoon. He was sooo uncomfortable. He couldn't sit still for a minute. At first, I wondered what was wrong with him, but I later discovered that he was reacting to the chemistry between us. To cut the long story short, we got physically intimate (but no sex). I was a bit ashamed of myself because I was intimate with someone I was not dating. When I asked him what he wanted from me, his silence made me feel worse. I avoided him and he came to see me in the office. He apologized and told me that he wasn't ready to date for now. Some months later, our friendship routine commenced. We were still physically attracted to each other and we got physically intimate a few times (no sex involved), at some point, I pulled out. The situation was beginning to look like 'friends with benefits' scenerio and I wasn't cut out for that. I wanted to date and get married, I didn't want to play games. I started avoiding him again and he kept coming back. What should I do?

I wonder what this means .

claremont:
I wonder what this means .

me too o..... Maybe kiss n touch, touch.

[size=13pt]your story reminded me of a girl i was attracted to.. she knew i wanted sex but she said if i wanted sex, i must woo her and date her. I was like, WTF! i wasn't even going to try and use my lines to woo her we were friends! she stated the condition and I opted out though i was still attracted to her but in no time she stop paying attention to me and the whole thing just diffused. Each time i have a flash back at it just like I'm narrating now, i can't help but laugh WTFF![/size]

k2039: He obviously just want to get inside that hole between your legs.He is only coming back because his joystick has not entered that hole.
So if you dont want him to use you and dump you(because I know at the rate at which both of you are going he will definately enter that hole).
So let him know their is nothing between both of you,you are just friends.
My2cent avoid him at all cost

Ok ... I hear you

JB789: He doesn't love u enough to be his woman, but wants the act...

Hmmmmmmmmm

Sijo01: He want to eat his cake and have it!

Seriously...

bennyraz: [size=13pt]your story reminded me of a girl i was attracted to.. she knew i wanted sex but she said if i wanted sex, i must woo her and date her. I was like, WTF! i wasn't even going to try and use my lines to woo her we were friends! she stated the condition and I opted out though i was still attracted to her but in no time she stop paying attention to me and the whole thing just diffused. Each time i have a flash back at it just like I'm narrating now, i can't help but laugh WTFF![/size]

Really? It's a small world

Sijo01:

me too o..... Maybe kiss n touch, touch.

Lol... Yea... You are on point

claremont:
I wonder what this means .

She swallowed his anaconda and he licked her dinner plate.

serahsadeiyare:


Really? It's a small world

yea.. its a small world

Op,r u a post-graduate student?

gree-die:
Op,r u a post-graduate student?

Nope... Y do u ask?

serahsadeiyare:


Lol... Yea... You are on point

From the OP, it appear that you have already have sex with him. The definition of sex that limits it to penetration is myopic if you will ask me.

Sex is any act of touching intimately with stimulation, giving excitement to a partner, male or female

Read more: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_sex#ixzz28dHLgcjv

So if the act you described above involved him touching you and you touching him and you both gave each other some type of excitement, you have already have sex with him.

It is obvious from what you have posted that he does not want anything from you than sex and after that, more sex. It is okay if that's what you also want but you dont want that so you should avoid hi, or just tell him to stop coming around you.

serahsadeiyare:


Nope... Y do u ask?

cz on ur other thread abt ur friends uncle, u were a student, now u r working

we all know u can't allow a goat near a tuber of yam and expect the goat not to eat. A word is enough 4 d wise..

gree-die:


cz on ur other thread abt ur friends uncle, u were a student, now u r working

Oh ok... I see. I wasn't writing about me.
In all the threads, I wrote about different ladies with different situations.

serahsadeiyare:


Oh ok... I see. I wasn't writing about me.
In all the threads, I wrote about different ladies with different situations.

oh. Ok....dat explains it