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He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by mamaxxx: 6:45pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
So this is my first topic on NL!!! I have been seeing a certain man for the past couple of months, he is amazing and has a lot of the qualities I look for in a future husband. The problem however is that he was a player before he met me, (he is 32 yrs old while I'm 26).. He says he's been with over 100 girls in the past... But he wants to settled down and get married to me..our relationshitp has been wonderful, he Even introduced me to his parents a few weeks back. I am however unsure if he is rushing into marriage with me because he truly wants to be with me or bcause all his friends are happily married and he feels like he is being left out. They are all fathers too. He says he gets disrespected by them cus he isn't married yet It was barely one month after we started dating that he started talking about marriage. What do you guys think? Does he really want to marry me cus he feels left out? Cus I'm not sure he is done with his 'player ways' though I have never had reason to think he is seeing anyone else, inshort I don't think I've ever seen him speak or another or ladies or even receive calls from them. Thanks guys, and pls pardon and grammatical errors! |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Nobody: 6:55pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
[size=26pt]What are you waiting for? Marry him![/size] |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by k2039: 7:08pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
If you have certain doubt about him,then dont marry him |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by bknight: 8:15pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
Smooth criminal |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by omega25red(m): 8:28pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
whatever decision you make on this should be your own. a guy who tells you has bedded at least a 100 girls must be lying you might want to subtract about 98 from that number. If he is actually telling the truth you better make sure you see blood work results before any unprotected hanky panky.. Makes you wonder how many of the 100 has met his parents |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Nobody: 10:17pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
the guy don kolobi 1h okokomaiko. Anyway, since you have doubts about the guy being completely honest about his marriage intentions, then you should stall the marriage. It's just less than 2 months, there's still enough time to know him better, to see if he's changed for real. a good guy who loves you will always give you time and be patient and if he doesn't, then your problem has been solved |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by mamaxxx: 10:19pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
Thanks guys! |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by ArQueBusieR(m): 11:07pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
That dude is lying: 100*1/3 = 33.3. He has only slept with 33.3 girls..lol..Anyways, you can be the nought point seven he needs to take the count to 34 - barring approximations. Or are you actually the nought point three? |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Mynd44: 11:39pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
Is this the same guy that you lied to that you have only slept with 5 guys as against the truth (15)? I suggest you first trust him enough to no lie to him and then truth that he has left those days behind him |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by mamaxxx: 11:54pm On Oct 11, 2012 |
Mynd_44: Is this the same guy that you lied to that you have only slept with 5 guys as against the truth (15)? I suggest you first trust him enough to no lie to him and then truth that he has left those days behind himThanks for your advice sir! |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Mynd44: 12:04am On Oct 12, 2012 |
mamaxxx:You are welcome ma! |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by ITbomb(m): 1:40am On Oct 12, 2012 |
OMG , I pray let not any of my children come near the offspring of this 2 drunkards conspiring to populate the world with dickheads form by 16spermz source 1 Like |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by GoldenLady1: 1:42am On Oct 12, 2012 |
I don't see the problem. Judging from your other thread both of you really enjoy s*ex so you have something in common there. Again, I would advise you to make sure there's some substance to the relationship also (for longevity). Did you experience some type of emotional trauma? |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by greedie1(f): 8:45am On Oct 12, 2012 |
Golden Lady: Is it cz she has slept wit over 15 guys or is it cz of the lack of trust? I don't get |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by divinelove(m): 12:35pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
100 different girls @ 32 gosh dts alot, he must b randy n make sure he has no std ooo. If this record doesnt disturb u relative to urs then marry d ex player |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Mynd44: 1:01pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
gree-die:its about the facte that she lied to her boyfriend that she hasonly slept with 5 guys instead of 15 |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by gunners160(m): 1:13pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
mamaxx ur name sounds like dat of a porn star.(xx)u slept wit more dan 15guys ur bf slept wit 100gals u are d 101 on his list hw mani wuld ur children sleep wit if d both of u shuld get married?hw wuld u tel u kids 2 stay away 4rm sex wen d both of u are a sex 2 slave.u beta find a beta guy.if nt d both of u are just wastin ur time |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Mynd44: 1:16pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
^^^ how does that relate to this matter? |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Nobody: 1:17pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
na wa sha. it was barely one month you met someone he is already talking about marriage? I smell a rat! dont rush too much |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Nobody: 1:19pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
AmBeautiful: na wa sha. Pu/s/s/y cat. |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Nobody: 1:20pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
mamaxxx: So this is my first topic on NL!!! so far i did'nt see i love him and he loves me just as much, Na wah sha! Just don't rush then regret later! |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Nobody: 1:22pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
Legit1: |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by greedie1(f): 3:40pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
Mynd_44: how could that be because of emotional trauma? |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by Mynd44: 3:45pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
gree-die:I have no idea |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by GoldenLady1: 4:09pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
gree-die: Pardon me, some people become more promiscuous after an emotional trauma. Sorry you didn't know that. The question was directed to the op anyways. |
Re: He Was A Player, Now He Wants To Settle Down, Pls Advice!! by greedie1(f): 4:47pm On Oct 12, 2012 |
Golden Lady: Pardon me, ofcz I knw some ple become more promiscuous after an emotional trauma, but the op isn't promiscuous IMO. I just needed a lol clarification is all |
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