The above-mentioned title may look funny but I tell you, it tears home apart like nothing else.
A man was told by his unhappy wife that she wasn't in the mood. The next thing that happened was that the man picked his car key and went out. He returned at 4am the next morning.
My questions now are:
Should the sentence be used in marriage?
If yes, when, how, and why (and maybe where)?
And should the asking be solely reserved for the Man/Woman?
And how should the statement be handled to save one's home?

SMH...........!

In a good marriage, partners understand and respect each other. Whenever, the man or woman are not in the mood they should say it. If your partner respects you, he or she will accept it without leaving the house for the night. If, however, one of the partners refuses sex too often then you have issues to work on.

carefreewannabe: In a good marriage, partners understand and respect each other. Whenever, the man or woman are not in the mood they should say it. If your partner respects you, he or she will accept it without leaving the house for the night. If, however, one of the partners refuses sex too often then you have issues to work on.

Well said.
A popular scripture says
"the full soul loathes the honeycomb, but to the hungry soul every bitter thing is sweet"
What that means is that the ground absorbs no water when saturated. Where is trust that someone is not cheating?

carefreewannabe: In a good marriage, partners understand and respect each other. Whenever, the man or woman are not in the mood they should say it. If your partner respects you, he or she will accept it without leaving the house for the night. If, however, one of the partners refuses sex too often then you have issues to work on.

True. Immature people who are not ready for marriage will use thst as an excuse to cheat....i dont u derstand how people can expect a partner to respect someone who would contaminate themselves and bring it home and possibly comtaminating their partners? I am for partners to request std and hiv test every three months because marriage doesnt prevenr cheating nor hiv infection. You have the right to protect yourself damn what anyone say. It is funny how the leading hiv infection reported by MARRIED BLACK WOMEN. strange huh?

Mrs.Chima:


True. Immature people who are not ready for marriage will use thst as an excuse to cheat....i dont u derstand how people can expect a partner to respect someone who would contaminate themselves and bring it home and possibly comtaminating their partners? I am for partners to request std and hiv test every three months because marriage doesnt prevenr cheating nor hiv infection. You have the right to protect yourself damn what anyone say. It is funny how the leading hiv infection reported by MARRIED BLACK WOMEN. strange huh?

I can't respect a man who is controlled by his peni.s.
The ideal case would be, you can trust your partner that much that you are not worried about him contaminating you with STDs. A man with dignity.
Unfortunately, this is not an ideal world.

STD? I think this is going a whole new dimension. Could that be a reason based just on suspicion?

Married couples should be able to respect the other parties views and opinion as it is not every time someone will be in the mood for sex. Sometimes, you won't just be in the mood cos you have other things on your mind but when this becomes regularly, they need to talk. And why should the guy get angry and walk out? He should have asked her what's wrong with her as she might be bothered about things he don't know about

carefreewannabe:

I can't respect a man who is controlled by his peni.s.
The ideal case would be, you can trust your partner that much that you are not worried about him contaminating you with STDs. A man with dignity.
Unfortunately, this is not an ideal world.

very true. many men say u shld be able to trust ur man whn dey know quite well dt d man cld be cheating. a friend of mine working in an HIV clinic in Nigeria said the percentage of married women with hiv is alarmimgly high.

Mynd_44: Married couples should be able to respect the other parties views and opinion as it is not every time someone will be in the mood for sex. Sometimes, you won't just be in the mood cos you have other things on your mind but when this becomes regularly, they need to talk. And why should the guy get angry and walk out? He should have asked her what's wrong with her as she might be bothered about things he don't know about

As much as I try to agree with you, a wife may tend to frame up 'absential' as a fall out of an earlier argument, or a turned down request and the likes.
This kind of "turn-down" may be unhealthy to marriages in the long run don't you think?

Nuezha: STD? I think this is going a whole new dimension. Could that be a reason based just on suspicion?

When someone creep outside the home...the likely of catching HIV/AIDS and STDs are higher. I wouldn't say it is suspicion but I would say that common sense would tell someone not to creep outside of their home without protection and common sense that revenge is a double edged sword.

Mrs.Chima:


When someone creep outside the home...the likely of catching HIV/AIDS and STDs are higher. I wouldn't say it is suspicion but I would say that common sense would tell someone not to creep outside of their home without protection and common sense that revenge is a double edged sword.

"revenge is a double edged sword"
Hmmmm...!