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Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by huninaija(f): 12:12pm On Dec 23, 2012
As we all know a young lady who goes to ask a guy out whether on a date or for other reasons tends to be frowned upon especially in naija, there tends to be a certain stigma associated with this which tends to prevent most ladies who really like a guy from asking him out,mainly from fear of being labelled "desperate" or an "ashi" but what if he's the shy type? or stalling?? and you know that he's feeling you, you're into him as well but for some reason he just won't take the next step and ask you out! So ladies what would you do in this situation? Act like he doesn't exist and move on to the next potential suitor? Or boldly and confidently ask him out on a date?? And men in previous posts you've advocated for ladies to be the one to ask a guy out sometimes, since its now associated with the "modern lady". Personally, i don't think i have the guts to do this, but i have friends who have asked a man they liked out and they're doing great as friends or in their relationships. So would you? Remember christmas is around the corner, its a new year in a couple of weeks, it could be now or never. The choice is all yours, merry christmas in advance smiley

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Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by Xflint(m): 12:26pm On Dec 23, 2012
Actually, I don't think is possible for a girl to ask a guy out. I have never heard of it or experienced such thing.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by huninaija(f): 12:32pm On Dec 23, 2012
Xflint: Actually, I don't think is possible for a girl to ask a guy out. I have never heard of it or experienced such thing.

It is possible sir, and where i come from i see this being done on almost a daily basis.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by Xflint(m): 1:26pm On Dec 23, 2012
huni_naija:

It is possible sir, and where i come from i see this being done on almost a daily basis.

If you say so. But for me I would quickly be the first to cast the die if I notice it on time. I will quickly ask her out first before she. I think there's a respect for me if I do that.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by chikeorji123(m): 2:05pm On Dec 23, 2012
Xflint: Actually, I don't think is possible for a girl to ask a guy out. I have never heard of it or experienced such thing.

l had it, to me there's noting wrong for a lady asking a guy out this impression was only setup by our culture,which if you screen the bible hardly will you see any were in the bible boldly stated that a Man must take you out!..rather it's only said a Man will live his mother & father to marry his wife not taking her out.. Which mean a lady have the goddame right to take a man out while the guy will use it to access the lady if things goes positive then he can upgrade it to the next level that's were his role comes in.. daalu nu o!.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by Xflint(m): 3:17pm On Dec 23, 2012
chikeorji123:

l had it, to me there's noting wrong for a lady asking a guy out this impression was only setup by our culture,which if you screen the bible hardly will you see any were in the bible boldly stated that a Man must take you out!..rather it's only said a Man will live his mother & father to marry his wife not taking her out.. Which mean a lady have the goddame right to take a man out while the guy will use it to access the lady if things goes positive then he can upgrade it to the next level that's were his role comes in.. daalu nu o!.
I didn't say there was something wrong with it. I said "I have never seen or experienced". read my words ok
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by Andrew3(m): 3:31pm On Dec 23, 2012
Am patiently waiting for a babe to ask me out. cool cool cool cool
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by huninaija(f): 3:41pm On Dec 23, 2012
::Andrew:::
Am patiently waiting for a babe to ask me out. cool cool cool cool

Lol what happened to your mouth? Keep waiting you hear! tongue
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by KateSpade(f): 5:38pm On Dec 23, 2012
there are subtle ways to do this, such as if you two share a hobby you can suggest partaking in it together. But that can be done with friends as well.

I don't recommend asking a guy out boldly unless you know him and have an idea how he will receive it.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by Charliemorgano(m): 7:16pm On Dec 23, 2012
U ask me out dis xmas and ur dark and plumpy with a nyz shape am yours....enjoy while it lasts
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by Nobody: 8:05am On Dec 24, 2012
Lol. Not in Nigeria tho!
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by Nobody: 9:18am On Dec 24, 2012
like i said earlier, if i was to be a girl, i'd never ask a guy out not that it's bad or that those that do it are stupid but cos' the cons outweighs the pros.guys are naturally the chasers.we are the hunters.in foreign countries, this ish is a normal day routine but over here in naija, i've seen most cases where the some of the guys soils the name of the said lady that wooed them.they end painting a bad pic of the gurl.telling their friends that such a gurl is cheap et al.

so i'll advice every girl to carefully weigh the pros and cons of such actions before letting the guy know how you feel.and most improtantly, do such with a matured guy that not silly guys that can't wait to drum it to everyone's ears that a gurl asked her out

with that being said, i think a gurl can give subtle signs to a guy that she is into him.like being there for him, making him laugh, bringing up romantic topics whenever they are together, playfully hitting on him and many other stuffs that shows a guy that this gurl is really digging him.if such a guy doesn't seen these signs, they you can openly tell him how you feel but if it was me, i won't.i'll move on

the first gurl i dated used to have pillow fights with me.asks me about my girlfriend all the time and stylishly tell me that she is single and whenever she is about to leave, she will playfully peck me on the cheek.i saw the signs and then made me my move shikena.

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Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by Nobody: 9:20am On Dec 24, 2012
but wait o.ask him out this XMAS?..guys please shine una eyes o.hmmmm.i no talk too much o.this one xmas is involved, dey carefull before you get dumped in new year and re-wooed by next xmas...#just saying
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Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by ifyeky(m): 11:57am On Dec 24, 2012
There is notin wrong wid dat as for, but d truth is dat most Nigerian girls r afraid of asking a guy out even if d like d guy
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by treasureboy09(m): 2:31pm On Dec 24, 2012
lalaosky: like i said earlier, if i was to be a girl, i'd never ask a guy out not that it's bad or that those that do it are stupid but cos' the cons outweighs the pros.guys are naturally the chasers.we are the hunters.in foreign countries, this ish is a normal day routine but over here in naija, i've seen most cases where the some of the guys soils the name of the said lady that wooed them.they end painting a bad pic of the gurl.telling their friends that such a gurl is cheap et al.

so i'll advice every girl to carefully weigh the pros and cons of such actions before letting the guy know how you feel.and most improtantly, do such with a matured guy that not silly guys that can't wait to drum it to everyone's ears that a gurl asked her out

with that being said, i think a gurl can give subtle signs to a guy that she is into him.like being there for him, making him laugh, bringing up romantic topics whenever they are together, playfully hitting on him and many other stuffs that shows a guy that this gurl is really digging him.if such a guy doesn't seen these signs, they you can openly tell him how you feel but if it was me, i won't.i'll move on

Lo! Bro sorry to say all these in NIGERIA stuff are now beginning to sound some how """the question is ladies when you where kids don't you approach guys and also had some as your friends? Ladies if you want the guy watch his character for sometime after that do what your HEART says, over here ladies do ask guys out it's no big a deal, am in NIGERIA FOR RECORD SAKE.

the first gurl i dated used to have pillow fights with me.asks me about my girlfriend all the time and stylishly tell me that she is single and whenever she is about to leave, she will playfully peck me on the cheek.i saw the signs and then made me my move shikena.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by usermane(m): 4:06pm On Dec 24, 2012
This is it for me. Girls Should Ask Guys Out But Not Any Guy.
Most of d nice guys i know seldom get asked out, only the 'not so nice guys(jerks)' do.
Often times u girls ask out the wrong (bad)guy who end up breaking their heart, meanwhile there is a nice guy starring from the corner,pinning in vain 4 your attention evn 4 a moment.
It hurt to see a girl asking out a guy with rare confidence driven by love 4 him only to b underappreciated and shoved out through the door.
Ask him out if
U know he
-is d nice,polite, respectful,responsible and trustworthy type
-interested or cares for u(perhaps he may b shy).
Dont ask out a guy you barely know or trust,a jerk or just someone u met on d streets.
It doesn't hurt your esteem if u ask out the right guy especially in a presentable manner.... not every guy want to chase.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by slumbee(m): 11:06pm On Dec 24, 2012
Wow! This is the first time i will be commenting on any thread. Well their are certain ladies who are bold and can ask a guy out. This is Nigeria though, there are a number of things which our society and culture will frown at if practised. One of them is definately a lady asking a guy out. I should start commenting a lot, i see so many cool peeps. Shout out to the OP...i got that right yeah?
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by slumbee(m): 11:53pm On Dec 24, 2012
*there
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by huninaija(f): 12:31am On Dec 25, 2012
slumbee: Wow! This is the first time i will be commenting on any thread. Well their are certain ladies who are bold and can ask a guy out. This is Nigeria though, there are a number of things which our society and culture will frown at if practised. One of them is definately a lady asking a guy out. I should start commenting a lot, i see so many cool peeps. Shout out to the OP...i got that right yeah?

Hehee please don't make my head swell this early christmas morring... grin

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Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by dmcdad: 1:21am On Dec 25, 2012
Personally, like I always say,there is nothing wrong if a lady walks up to me and do the wooing or whatever.. I ain't shy, neither am I timid. I am not just enthusiastic sometimes to approach a lady... So, if a lady would save me that stress, I think that would be great
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by ik121: 2:13am On Dec 25, 2012
Loads of babes hav askd me out 4 frenship in d past, even pestering my lyf bt i subtly declined cos they wer not jus my type.
They ddnt even care weda v got a gf or not.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by dlight1(m): 5:15am On Dec 25, 2012
As for me there no big deal about it, though it seems most proper that it happens the other way. Our society hasn't been fair enough to the ladies and so this has to a large extent being suppressing the wishes and emotions of ladies even in other issues and in a case like this such a lady can be assumed to be dissolute and this in turn makes such a lady less respected by such a guy
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by slumbee(m): 5:52am On Dec 25, 2012
huni_naija:

Hehee please don't make my head swell this early christmas morring... grin

Merry Christmas!!!
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by huninaija(f): 11:37am On Dec 25, 2012
slumbee:

Merry Christmas!!!

Merry christmas
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by chronique(m): 12:46pm On Dec 25, 2012
Xflint: Actually, I don't think is possible for a girl to ask a guy out. I have never heard of it or experienced such thing.

very very possible. I've been asked out several times(most especiallynwen I was much younger nd looked really cute). It's nothing new.
Re: Ladies, Ask Him Out This Christmas? by tashanja(m): 3:39am On Dec 26, 2012
^^^^Yep, nothing new, was asked out by a former fiancee, it never affected my respect for her nor the relationship; broke up years later due to some other reasons, sadly she is now deceased.
Currently, also being actively pursued by a co-worker (hunting for husband) who is relentless and wouldn't take the hint that I am not interested - some ppl already noticing and gossipping about it sad.

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