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Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 2:44pm On Nov 11, 2012 |
debrief08: Yes, life goals mattered, He was the oly man apart from my dad who really took interest in my dreams and aspirations, always encouraging me to say it out, most people especially men from the Orth particularly that I had met thought me to be too ambitious. He loved my ambition, loved to get me to talk about my goals, love to share with me on his too.You are lucky,you married someone who wants you to achieve your dreams. If i had married my ex,by now, I would probably be driving a RR Evoque, or sipping pinacoladas in Ibiza but the truth is that my heart would still want to achieve my dreams and I wouldn't be able to because I have given that up to be with him; but here I am a few days from achieving one of my very own dreams and I'll say this time and Time again, I've never made a better choice, call me ambitious or whatever, but I'm happy and that is all that matters 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by baldman: 4:54pm On Nov 12, 2012 |
Married brothers please keep this thread going. |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 5:10pm On Nov 12, 2012 |
Ours was very Nollywoodlike, Met in most unexpected places and recognized each other immediately. We were classmates in Uni and hadn't seen for half a decade. He had matured to be super-handsome(I Was already swooning) .:-D He said throughout Uni he had a crush on me and couldn't gather the courage to ask me out awww. Well 5yrs later, he is accomplished and confident. I also think realized that he as super attractive. Anyway, the 1st day he saw me again, he asked me to marry as he said he couldn't bear to loose moi. He went to see my family a week later and d rest is history. Crazy as it would sound, we had the same likes and dis-likes, the same talents, same goals in life, only son-only daughter, same religious blfs, same. Line of business. Our interests were just too similar. There was never anything to argue abt. He is always laffing and cracking jokes. He is the perfect gentleman and spoils me silly. Helps me with my business. He advices me and guides me.we are gossip mates and best friends. What more can I ask for? |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 7:23pm On Nov 12, 2012 |
kitty kat: Ours was very Nollywoodlike, Really pretty story, I agree Why'd you say yes? What sold you on "ever after" with him? |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 8:52pm On Nov 12, 2012 |
Ihedinobi: As much as everyone won't have d same experience this is mine. The reason that I said yes was cos he ticked all the boxes for me. I had been praying for months for the type of man that I want. I was serious about it and I got all and more. 1. I love handsome men. 2. He knew what he wanted from me and was sure about it from the first time. He didn't have to ask friends or relationshions to help him ascertain if I was the one. 3. He always anticipated my needs. Even to the extent of providing more than I need. 4. He wants me to be the best of everything and he puts his time and resources to make it happen. 5. He is faithful. 6. He can't stay 30mins without checking on me. 7. Explosive attraction. Some funny reasons We are both engineers We are both good artists ( draw and paint well, design clothes and even want to start a fashion house) We like the same books, movies We seem to say the same thing at the same time( take words out of each others mouth) He is a good man. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 10:45pm On Nov 12, 2012 |
kitty kat: How cool is that! Wow! It really is like something out of a movie. And reminds me a lot about debrief's story. Can you tell me how exactly your careers fit into the picture? Did it matter that you were both engineers? |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 10:54pm On Nov 12, 2012 |
Ihedinobi:We both anted to end up wih an engineer. One who wld understand d whole lingo. Its different strokes for different folks. I wanted a man that wld be part of my life 247. So having the same career meansa lot to talk abt. And we cld easily relate to wat the other was saying. Plannin our lives is easier. Our life is like fun and adventure for us. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 11:03pm On Nov 12, 2012 |
kitty kat: Interesting. I actually understand this. There were five years between school and him, I understand from your story, why, if you'll forgive my asking? |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 11:20pm On Nov 12, 2012 |
Ihedinobi:Yes. We lost touch after skul. Reconnected thru NLD. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 6:57am On Nov 13, 2012 |
kitty kat: But why'd you wait five whole years? You're a lady. I can hear a healthy self-respect in your words, but I think there must have been other men who tried for you in that time. Why did you wait five years to say yes to him? |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 7:22am On Nov 13, 2012 |
Ihedinobi:You don't quite seeem to undersand the story. He as in my class and aalays admired me from a distance. He never asked me out till after 5years.I said yes immediately. I had seen hat I was looking for why form. |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 8:24am On Nov 13, 2012 |
kitty kat: I'm sorry. I'm not trying to misunderstand you, I promise. I'm really not asking these questions for merely academic purposes. If I hadn't been talking with debrief in private I might have been asking you a lot more. I'm actually posing questions I would like your perspective on. Your self-respect wasn't exactly what I was questioning here. I'm trying to understand a woman staying unmarried five years after school. It seems to me to be the exception not the rule. There's a girl that I'm trying to understand. I might have to let her go in order to give her space to grow. I'm trying to see just how that can work out. How did it work out for you? Is it really possible that you turned down every opportunity that came your way because you wouldn't settle for less than your dream man? Or did you not get presented with opportunities? What did you do with those five years? Please try to forgive my impertinence, I really am not doing this for appearance purposes. What I can learn from you will be an enormous help to me in the decisions I make. I believe some other people viewing this thread could be helped and better advised for marital commitment. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 9:22am On Nov 13, 2012 |
I am not vexxed o but u cld just call my secretary for my acc details cos this is professional consultation and I bill in USD and EUROS. 1. I didn't want to settle for less. I had other relationships during he period but it didn't work out. I alays tried to mould the men into my ideal man but it didn't work. So I started prayingg to meet my ideal man. 2. I am very ambitious. I have had a great career in the short time and few men can handle a lady towin the part that I do. Infact one of my ex's sister told me that very succesful women never get married. Another toaster said female enterpreneurs do not have happy marriages. So it took time for me to find a man that wld be excited abt the person that I am. 2. One relationship and one weddin was called off cos my mum died of cancer. that's 9ja pips for u shaa. Today I am happy I didn't end up with them. I think that's basically it. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by safeLove(f): 9:29am On Nov 13, 2012 |
@ihedinobi There's really no hard and fast rule to knowing these things. No amount of research or counselling can guarantee a happy marital life. It all depends on the individuals involved. I met mine on my first day in uni. Dated exclusively for years even after he left the country for his masters,I still waited. Not because I didn't get other suitors or marriage proposals but because I wanted it to work. And it did. I might be wrong but feet dragging and extensive research just to know if he/she is the right person has a way of messing up our sense of judgement in the end. |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 9:32am On Nov 13, 2012 |
kitty kat: I am not vexxed o but u cld just call my secretary for my acc details cos this is professional consultation and I bill in USD and EUROS. Incredible. This pretty much answers everything. From the lady's side, that is. Can I ask about the bro? Why was he still free five years after? What was he doing meantime? |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 9:34am On Nov 13, 2012 |
^^^ @OP she is rite. The best approach is have a very positive mindset. Blv u will meet the one. Blv that all thinGs do indeed work out for ur good. Be the bestt u can be. Be clear on the type of person that u r looking for. Blv it without doubt and u will have it. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 9:50am On Nov 13, 2012 |
Ihedinobi:Bro said he as seacrhin for the ONe o. He Wanted a woman who still had the old values that our mothers had. He wanted a woman who wasn't materialistic and one who could support him to achieve his dreams. He wanted someone with the same vision. He also said he anted a case where he and his wife would run the same company. He told me a very funyy story. He said he took a lady out one day to one of this eateries. It was someone he felt was ok from the physical perspective. Head turning beauty. So he asked her to take whatever she wanted. This baordered her own food plus take-away made-up of every single item in d eatery. He paid for it and never picked her calls or ever called her again. |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 10:33am On Nov 13, 2012 |
safeLove: @ihedinobi You're probably right. But I'm not really trying to get anyone's approval for my choice. I'm trying to relate ideals to practical realities with my questions. That way, I can be guided in my decisions and will make choices I can live with. I respect that attitude of taking responsibility to make one's marriage work. I believe without reservations in it. It is because I do that I would make sure of why I want such a marriage in the first place. May I ask why he was so important to you? Why you chose him above every other man? 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 10:35am On Nov 13, 2012 |
kitty kat: ^^^ I agree. And I'm really grateful that you guys are bothering at all. |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 10:42am On Nov 13, 2012 |
kitty kat: Wow! That last part is pure gold! And his story is a lovely parallel. You guys might or might not understand, but people do not easily turn from their formative paths. These stories you're so graciously supplying are removing the weird from the principles governing my life. They're helping me understand the situation that surrounds me. I'm not looking for rules and I don't take kindly to restriction, I love freedom and I'm looking for signs of it in everyone responding to me. I love bro's steadfastness, I freely admit. It's not easier to refuse to settle for less than you want/need especially when that less is more readily and immediately available as well as powerfully attractive too. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by kittykat1(f): 11:00am On Nov 13, 2012 |
U r welcome dear. |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by safeLove(f): 11:22am On Nov 13, 2012 |
Ihedinobi: He was (and still is) my best friend. We shared a kind of connection I couldn't get from any other guy. He was one person I could tell anything in the world,he accomodated my excesses,he was (and still is) a big brother to my sibs,since I'm the first child. He believed in my dreams and aspirations. He was the only person who encouraged me when I decided not to take salary work but start my own catering bizness. Like kitty_kat said,its all about having a positive mindset. While he was away,I was prepared for the worst but prayed for the best. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by Nobody: 11:31am On Nov 13, 2012 |
safeLove: I get this. Around him you could be you, no feigning, no grandstanding, no inhibition, right? |
Re: How Do You Know He/she Was The One? by WAM1(f): 7:07pm On Nov 13, 2012 |
Totally love this thread- thanks guys :-) |
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