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Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by Nobody: 8:42am On Nov 13, 2012 |
maclatunji: Life is not always preactical . . . but that doesn't mean you get to ship off your responsibilities to some fancy new age facility. Taking care of the elderly is NOT easy, but it's our RESPONSIBILITY! Now if the OP decided to to that by sending her to a home, that's cool . . . but we all know she's heaving a sigh of relief and thanking her stars her grandmum refused to live with her. That's why I agree with tpia that this thread is pointless! |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by maclatunji: 8:45am On Nov 13, 2012 |
Ujujoan: Where did you get all this from? You are misinterpreting OP's posts. Remember, this is her grandmother not her mother. |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by Nobody: 9:00am On Nov 13, 2012 |
maclatunji: Excatly! She doesn't really feel responsible. She's feels like she's obliged to offer . . . I bet her granny sensed this hence her refusal! Actions speak louder thatn words. |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by MissIfe(f): 5:28pm On Nov 13, 2012 |
Ujujoan: In a way, you are not wrong. I would take responsibility for her in my home if I had her agreement, and possibly her children's support. I am not even sure some of my uncles or aunties would agree with her staying with me. I offered, because I wanted to know if she was refusing to stay with my mom only or if she was refusing to stay with any family member. She has a complicated relationship with my mom, though she's the only one who offered to take her home. Til today, I never even thought she could stay with me because my situation wouldn't allow such. It is the first time I actually consider it myself, and that's quite a new idea to me. I know I will be responsible for my parents when they grow old, and we've started talking about it, but as for my grandma I've always thought her children would do it and I've just started to realize that I might have a say in the matter. As for the fact that I emphasized how "nice" is the home, it was to emphasize the dilemma : nice home but far away from family vs. staying with family probably in a less comfortable environment. I honestly don't mind people having an opinion about my own situation, but I don't see how that could keep those who want to talk about their own to do so. IMO talking about your personal situation/experience helps understand where your opinions are coming from. |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by Nobody: 5:42pm On Nov 13, 2012 |
maclatunji: Mac when I contribute on NL is either I'm very very sure of what I'm saying or I presumed which I always include in my posts. I've lost all my grandparents and to Allah be the glory they stayed home and abroad ( mostly summer) until they are called to Aljana. I have all the guts to do 10 aso ebi with their pictures on it cos I know they are well taken care of and they are smiling upon me and my entire family for a life well lived. Coupled with the fact that this is part of my livelihood ( geriatrics) . And I am advocate for seniors to live in their homes with homecare provided and family involved 24/7. So this is not a practical situation/ discussion for me, I lived it. Thank you sir! |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by maclatunji: 8:18pm On Nov 13, 2012 |
^Beautiful, but have you thought that your reality could be different from that of others? We are not on different sides on this issue. You have just decided to be inflexible about it, I am willing to be. |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by Nobody: 9:24pm On Nov 13, 2012 |
maclatunji: ^Beautiful, but have you thought that your reality could be different from that of others? I honestly don't see how , money wise ? or how pls educate me. maclatunji: You have just decided to be inflexible about it, I am willing to be. I'm obviously inflexible ( esp for Nigerians) but the fact that the OP is not the next of kin and really didn't have a say per sè made me supportive of her otherwise I wouldn't. It's your choice right? |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by maclatunji: 1:59am On Nov 14, 2012 |
jidegirl12:. Look, some elderly people require 24-hour supervision and the reasons for this can be diverse such as illness, outright stubbornness etc. Tell me which family member will put their life totally on hold to fulfill this requirement? Who will fund you 100 per cent to put your life on hold for an elderly person? Even a well-paid nurse/care-giver may fail because they are afterall human and may need to do something else outside 24-hour exclusive care of an elderly person. jidegirl12: That is why I talked about "experience". You chose to narrow it down to yours. I say if you go through the experiences of others you may become understanding. |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by Nobody: 3:47am On Nov 14, 2012 |
maclatunji: . All elderly ( not some) persons need a 24/7 care no matter what. Also, outright stubbornness I already compared to terrible 2s is the most frustrating part of being old, you have no idea , also the illness part is commonly when the end is near. I'm not trying to make you agree with me but make you understand that taking care of seniors ( which is what this thread is about) is not as extreme as people are trying to make it, my point is if you are prepared for the worse , it's not bad after all , a decade out of our lives is not that much to dedicate to care for them ( if you have a good memories with them). I am prepared for my parents and my inlaws and hopefully my kids will do the same for me& my hubby if we all take care of their grandparents together ( I can't wait for that time to come, I'm actually excited) |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by MissIfe(f): 7:43am On Nov 14, 2012 |
jidegirl12 : are you based in nigeria or abroad ? |
Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by Nobody: 8:29am On Nov 14, 2012 |
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Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by maclatunji: 9:07am On Nov 14, 2012 |
jidegirl12: You simply ignored my last point. By the way, not all elderly people require 24-hour monitoring and supervision. Like Chaircover said, some are amazingly independent or at least try to be. It is getting to a point that you are just arguing for arguing sake- let me ask you, are you willing to resign from work to take care of your elderly parent 24/7? |
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Re: Taking Care Of The Elderly In Your Family by wealthtrak: 5:15pm On Aug 12, 2021 |
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