FrancisTony:

Yeah. This thread is becoming dry with Ihedinobi and co' argument thingy. I prefer chit-chatting.

ATMC: I like it both ways...don't yhu learn a thing or two?

FrancisTony:

No.

ihedinobi2:

@the last paragraph, it's a bit of an oxymoron to say that one can be so heavenly minded that they're useless on earth. If you have the interests of Heaven at heart, you will be very productive on earth as well. That's because Heaven is focused on earth. The current activity of the Heavens is the re-creation of the earth so if any man is truly interested in heaven and focused on heaven, they will leave a powerful mark on earth as a result.

It is the half-and-half approach, the lukewarm, lifestyle-mixing approach that results in uselessness, vanity, the failure to leave an impression on earth.

Still, some people do appear to be so spiritual that they care only about being squeaky clean and making heaven and thus accomplish next to nothing on earth. About them, the Bible says that they have a form of godliness and deny the power thereof. Heaven manifests itself on earth in power - a distinct change of character, a distinct change of circumstances etc. Heaven is not indifferent to earth.

And Heaven does not compromise to accommodate earth. That's the whole point of the re-creation: to conform earth to heaven once again.

ATMC: yhu r high!

ihedinobi2: So there's this thing I'd like us to discuss. It may seem a little bit frivolous but it's a major paradigm considering that it affects the very foundation of human society - marriage itself.

At a meeting I attended last Sunday, I heard it described for the first time as closeting. That's another word for the perhaps more popular friendzoning.

Among us Christians, we do have a phenomenon that corresponds to the friendzoning thing. Back in the uni in those fellowship days, you'd find people pairing off in such a way that you assumed that there was something romantic in it. Sometimes there was, sometimes there wasn't. Whichever the case was, it resulted in any other potential mate deciding to keep their distance because, well, the brother or sister was considered taken which sometimes was not the case at all. This is often costly for some people. And perhaps sometimes a savior?

What do we think about it? How should relationship across genders be for us Christians? What do you think the Bible says about it? Is this one of those things that the Bible says nothing on?

FrancisTony:

LOL! I am seriously.

I hate reading epistles especially on my phone screen.

ihedinobi2: So there's this thing I'd like us to discuss. It may seem a little bit frivolous but it's a major paradigm considering that it affects the very foundation of human society - marriage itself.

At a meeting I attended last Sunday, I heard it described for the first time as closeting. That's another word for the perhaps more popular friendzoning.

Among us Christians, we do have a phenomenon that corresponds to the friendzoning thing. Back in the uni in those fellowship days, you'd find people pairing off in such a way that you assumed that there was something romantic in it. Sometimes there was, sometimes there wasn't. Whichever the case was, it resulted in any other potential mate deciding to keep their distance because, well, the brother or sister was considered taken which sometimes was not the case at all. This is often costly for some people. And perhaps sometimes a savior?

What do we think about it? How should relationship across genders be for us Christians? What do you think the Bible says about it? Is this one of those things that the Bible says nothing on?

ATMC: Are yhu for real? Me like it o...I get to learn a whole lot

netotse:

Why we even have a possible case of friendzoning is going on right on this thread sef: Brother dagr8 seems to currently be in the process of being preemptively friendzoned or something like that by Sister(?) salC (make una no mind me o...na joblessness cause am...lol)

lmao

SalC: Lol VickyO hail

Who is now playing around

netotse says you are in the process of friendzoning me, is it true?

ihedinobi2: So there's this thing I'd like us to discuss. It may seem a little bit frivolous but it's a major paradigm considering that it affects the very foundation of human society - marriage itself.

At a meeting I attended last Sunday, I heard it described for the first time as closeting. That's another word for the perhaps more popular friendzoning.

[/b]Among us Christians, we do have a phenomenon that corresponds to the friendzoning thing. Back in the uni in those fellowship days, you'd find people pairing off in such a way that you assumed that there was something romantic in it. Sometimes there was, sometimes there wasn't. Whichever the case was, it resulted in any other potential mate deciding to keep their distance because, well, the brother or sister was considered taken which sometimes was not the case at all. This is often costly for some people. And perhaps sometimes a savior?[b]

What do we think about it? How should relationship across genders be for us Christians? What do you think the Bible says about it? Is this one of those things that the Bible says nothing on?

yetseyi:


In sch days we used to call it canopy ministry
Some christain brothers are so fond of this you just see them around a lady almost every time
They wont do, they wont allow the person that wants to do do it
Some people dont fear God.

Its simple if a brother is coming around you and he is not showing forth any official interest abeg just avoid moving with him too much. He can call ooo but all those walking you to the hostel, Holding hands,Sitting with u in class, going to fellowship together has to stop.
It just gives an impression that theres something romantic between you two while there isnt and it is always detrimental to the females

kai...you sabi that minstry?
God forgive me o

dagr8:
kai...you sabi that minstry?
God forgive me o

maryini:

How did it become costly for some people?

As long as either parties have not declared or expressed romantic interest, treat all with brotherly love and respect.

netotse:

Personally I think as long as it doesn't affect your relationship with Christ, or distract you from your responsibilities then it's all right. Closeness to people of the opposite sex is inevitable, how people wan take marry na? We should strive to ensure we enjoy the experience and at the same time only do things we can be proud of as Christians(yep, that's a major caveat). It's good to be able to think back on your past relationships(official or otherwise) and have no regrets. If a guy likes a girl, it's up to him to walk up to her and enquire is she's taken or not(he can also ask around if liver no reach). I dont see any point in blaming some other guy for your lack of action/liver...lol.

Why we even have a possible case of friendzoning is going on right on this thread sef: Brother dagr8 seems to currently be in the process of being preemptively friendzoned or something like that by Sister(?) salC (make una no mind me o...na joblessness cause am...lol)

yetseyi:


In sch days we used to call it canopy ministry
Some christain brothers are so fond of this you just see them around a lady almost every time
They wont do, they wont allow the person that wants to do do it
Some people dont fear God.

Its simple if a brother is coming around you and he is not showing forth any official interest abeg just avoid moving with him too much. He can call ooo but all those walking you to the hostel, Holding hands,Sitting with u in class, going to fellowship together has to stop.
It just gives an impression that theres something romantic between you two while there isnt and it is always detrimental to the females

FrancisTony:

ihedinobi2:

I agree. If it does not mess with your spiritual equilibrium or distract you from your responsibilities, keeping friendships across genders can be beneficial. If it does, it's a very bad idea to get involved.

I don't think closeness is inevitable. And I don't think it is absolutely necessary in order to get married. I'm one of those people who believe that emotions are very poor leaders. I advocate being friendly and a gentleman but to take on close friendships is a very risky thing. The easier it is for you to open up to someone the more likely you will eventually start feeling things or you become a 'user'.

ATMC: ehe!

FrancisTony:
Up Germans

SalC: Sure!...I cherish you a lot dear

Btw where is ARareGem? It's been long....

dagr8: Ok...since those guys have refuse to score, let us come and pitch tent here.
Yetseyi mentioned something canopy ministry, is so common.
That stuff looks like one harmless "just friends" friendship...But I had to sit down and reflect on it when you hear people mistakenly refer to your friend as your fiancee or questions repeatedly come asking you if you are going out with that person.
Unless it is deliberate, I don't think is something to be encouraged among Christians.
If opposite sex have to be close, it should be well defined and limits set.
If people begin to assume that something romantic is happening between you then most likely you guys have cross the limit.
Unfortunately the ladies are at disadvantage...someone else may be eyeing her and at the same time he is feeling bad that she's taken not knowing she is "free" like freetown .
Although,ladies too can be funny when it comes to stuffs, I have a real experince like that.
Friendship can lead to solid relationships but if the brother is not saying anything for long..place him where he belongs(A brother in the Lord) and the limits be set as well





Theres nothing wrong with having a friend of the opposite sex just ensure he s nt covering you from other potential suitors




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ATMC:
@yetseyi lol...Omo yhu are 'hotting' tonight o No give room for canopy ministry...Its not ur calling! buh I shaa like the term canopy...mmmmhhh#sings Under the canopy...cano cano w.d.g hehehe

ihedinobi2:

True. I was guilty once upon a time although I plain didn't know it at the time. In fact, tonight was the first time it occured to me that that was what I was doing.

I think marriage is serious enough business for people to be a little more careful of these things.

yetseyi:




flee from every appearance of canopy ministry

ATMC: yeah up #thewinningteam

FrancisTony:

Stop porting jor.

Btw, tomorrow is my birthday.

ATMC: I'm really feeling yippee! argentina will win this match!