Mynd_44: Well each country has it's negative an positive side and I can see that neither of you wants to just leave his/her home. But it is also wise that you realise that at some point, one person will have to move and find accomodation where the other stays.

You said you have been to Nigeria yes? How about asking him to come to where you are and you can also show him around and see if that will help you two make a decision.

The truth is no one here can help you make this decision. It is a personal one and you can only make it yourself. I suggest you both have more talks and talks again and both of you should keep an opened mind.

Cheers

Mynd_44: Well each country has it's negative an positive side and I can see that neither of you wants to just leave his/her home. But it is also wise that you realise that at some point, one person will have to move and find accomodation where the other stays.

You said you have been to Nigeria yes? How about asking him to come to where you are and you can also show him around and see if that will help you two make a decision.

The truth is no one here can help you make this decision. It is a personal one and you can only make it yourself. I suggest you both have more talks and talks again and both of you should keep an opened mind. Thank you!

Cheers

seedord247: Since you cant go nigeria... I'm here in the south (lil wayne home).. Holla at ya boy.

Princess1982: I think I got him convinced to move to the US!

Princess1982: I think I got him convinced to move to the US!

Decryptor: I hope u won't kick him out one day for one flimsy reason...a trait common with women residing in the US. I see a brother regretting this move in future

Princess1982: I think I got him convinced to move to the US!

Princess1982: Besides I saw the numbers in his bank account and even if I did boot him out its not like he would be walking around the US homeless.

Princess1982: I am dating a man from Nigeria and our relationship is starting to get serious so sometime here in the near future one of us is going to have to relocate. I am gainfully employed here in the US and I make enough to take care of both of us until he can find employment. In Nigeria he owns a business and his business is doing well and he too could support both of us. He as no desire to move to the US and he insists that things would be better for us in Nigeria.When I think of Nigeria I think of a country stricken by extreme poverty and corruption but he insist that they things I hear are only partly true. I was on a brief visit to Nigeria last year but I got the feeling he was only showing me the best Nigeria had to offer. So anybody who has lived in both the US and Nigeria or even just Nigeria why or why isn't Nigeria a great place to live?

Princess1982: We met on FB he was so annoying but he wouldn't go away. I was almost at the point of blocking him because, I told him I don't hook up with strangers off the net then I finally gave in and its been almost 2 years strong now.

2sexy: How did you guys meet? Just curious!

seedord247:

You self won meet akata abi?

Princess1982: Long as hes not a cheater or a woman beater then he won't regret it.

Decryptor:
And what about seeing another guy more cuter than he is in the future?

Princess1982: I am dating a man from Nigeria and our relationship is starting to get serious so sometime here in the near future one of us is going to have to relocate. I am gainfully employed here in the US and I make enough to take care of both of us until he can find employment. In Nigeria he owns a business and his business is doing well and he too could support both of us. He as no desire to move to the US and he insists that things would be better for us in Nigeria.When I think of Nigeria I think of a country stricken by extreme poverty and corruption but he insist that they things I hear are only partly true. I was on a brief visit to Nigeria last year but I got the feeling he was only showing me the best Nigeria had to offer. So anybody who has lived in both the US and Nigeria or even just Nigeria why or why isn't Nigeria a great place to live?

Yvete:

Girl, I was once in your shoes. Met my fiancé on FB (secret - Lied to everyone that we used to be friends way back). I did the trips to Naija thing but Obudu cattle ranch, Radisson blu et al is blahh. I psyched him to come over for a Masters to see how it works for us because I'm willing to move back to Nigeria later, in the future NOT NOW! Honestly, Id move if there's a need to. I refuse to leave my job just like that and ive started working towards my masters too. He finally obliged (whew), applied for study leave, got a students visa ... the rest is history. Yankee living! Looool.

I understand that your BF has more responsibilities as a business owner so he can't leave just like that unlike mine. Well, nothing in life is guaranteed so you might just take a shot at it though I wouldn't until I've applied for jobs and received offers in Nigeria. Let him visit before you relocate. If there's a dire need for you to move, consider all options and make a wise decision. Everyone's situation is different.

I must confess - I kept my options open though nobody clicked like this man.