Love At First:
Many of us, married or unmarried, young or
old, might have experienced a situation
where we claim we have fallen in love with
somebody the first time we set our eyes on
him/her. The big question is, did we really
fall in love that first time?
Now read this; a scientific research
conducted in 2007, in Britain on this issue,
shows that ‘love at first sight’ has all to do
with ego and sex, nothing more. ‘Google’ it
if you choose to.
People are drawn towards others who are
attracted to them. Let me rephrase what Ben
Jones of the Face Research Laboratory at the
University of Aberdeen UK said in his article:
"It’s really a normal thing, an integral part of
human nature that, if you smile and/or
maintain an eye contact with another
person, the person gets attracted to you or
you to him/her."
Suffice to say therefore, that when we meet
someone, especially of the opposite sex and
maintain an eye contact or even put up a
little smile, there’s often this kind of feeling
we experience or initiate. A feeling of
attraction. And do we have to claim that that
is love?
Does love exist at first sight? That initial
feeling of attraction we feel or initiate when
we meet an attracted person, is it love? I
rather say it isn’t.
Love as we know it, is forbearing. It is
considerate. It is full of courage. It is
passionate. It is mature. It can tolerate. It
stands a test of time. It listens more than it
speaks. It understands the personality
differences between the persons involved. It
seeks to understand the other person
before seeking to understand. It is patient. It
is selfless in service.
Now dear friends, answer this question
yourself? How do you say you’ve fallen in
love at that first meeting when at that point
there’s absolutely nothing to tolerate,
nothing to understand, nothing to be
patient for, nothing to forbear, nothing to
consider. In fact, you don’t even know the
person, you’ve never even engaged in a little
conversation with the person before. And
you say you’re in love with the person?
My dear, what you feel at such a point is
what I term ‘chemistry’. A human chemistry.
This ‘chemistry’ often serves as bedrock or
foundation up on which we could decide to
lay our blocks of love. This ‘chemistry’ is not
love in itself. You choose to act on this
‘chemistry’. That is where the journey of love
begins.
Excuse me, any sincere married man will tell
you that he has often been attracted to
another beautiful woman other than his
wife. Now, that is not wrong. It is
‘chemistry’. It becomes wrong when he
chooses to build on that ‘chemistry’, that
attraction he feels for this other beautiful
lady and making plans to ‘love’ her. And
that’s the same for the married women.
For the people like me, the single youths, we
attract and feel attracted to someone every
day. It’s normal. It happens. And there’s
absolutely nothing wrong, at least to my
understanding, with it if we decide to
explore the field of ‘love’ based on the
feeling of attraction. But wrong it becomes
when we now make it a habit to ‘love’
everyone we feel attracted to at the same
time. Now, that is promiscuity.
And truly, love is faithful.
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I do not quite agree with the OP's post, cos i know that love at first sight exist. Love is not tolerate, it is love that makes u tolerate, love is not courage, it is love that gives u courage. My lovely angel in my life today was as a result of love at first sight, and i have always loved her from day 1 till 2day (10-yrs now)

lrguru: I do not quite agree with the OP's post, cos i know that love at first sight exist.

Don't gt it wrong love at first sight exists, bt more when u ar desperate.
Wat comes 2 mind for most pple claiming it was wat d original author called 'chemistry' i guess he meant "infatuation".
Yeah, it might be d chemistry bt wt more closeness, intimacy n learning from each other lead 2 real love.
Bt infatuation or desperation makes pple believe it was luv. Though some true Luv At 1st Sight must surely exist.

I totally agree.

Love at 1st sight is lust.

Interesting... There is absolutely nothing as love at first sight. What exist and is being mistaken for love at first sight is attraction at first sight. Like I'll always say, in choosing a partner, one should focus more on the contents of the container, rather than the container itself. At first sight, one is attracted to the container (that is, the physical attributes of the person). The contents of the container is what brings about real love. In other words, the inner attributes of the person (God fearing, hardworking, homely, down to earth, understanding, honest, caring... Just to mention a few) are what propels love..

Attraction at first sight is necessary to bring two people together and pave the way for them to get acquainted with eachother and learn the things latent in the other person. As they further their acquaintances, alot of things begin to unravel. These things (the inner self of the other person) will determine if love would exist or not...

I'd love to elucidate my point more buh, I don tire to type jare

i dont believe in love at first sight

Without a sensible answer to 'how long have you known each other?'. it is not Love.