outrage: Would you listen yo your self?
I don't want to incert something in my uterus, but I want him to cut his b***s off! If na me be that man I'll slap the hel* out of you face. Rub.bish.

1920MaMa: I I am not interested in complicating my hormones at this stage by going on the pill, nor do I feel it is necessary for me to undergo surgery in order to have my tubes tied.

jmoore:

You don't feel it is necessary for you to get your tubes tied? And it is necessary for your husband to get a vasectomy smh.. Continue to tell him till next 20 years before he agrees

mrsoma: 0P echoed my tots on soo many levels.I don't know why it shld be up to the wife alone to supervise or worry about birth control!!.these men want everythin made easy for dem.as for me am not havin any artificial stuff stuck up on me.if withdrawl no do us then let's us continue muiltiplyin until nature takes its course.no be pesin go tell u make u go vasecto sharp sharp!!!!nonsense!!!

biolabee: The emotions she is expressing are very real and human. She is concerned about the security of her kids over any "unborn" offspring of the husband. Well her actions may be ok but her motive is less than pure. If financial security is a major issue to make you fearful I think you should get a job or tell your hubby to open a trust fund so that their future is secured at least education wise.
The truth is that disasters can happen and it is always good to have a backup. The tragedies that befell the sosoliso plane or the anyene family were unforseen but they did happen.You need to drop this issue and start mitigation measures.

1920MaMa: ------------[b]I am not interested in complicating my hormones at this stage by going on the pill, nor do I feel it is necessary for me to undergo surgery in order to have my tubes tied.
An IUD is not something I want to explore. I know everyone who has one loves it, but something about a piece of metal in my uterus creeps me out
--------- Every year I badger him about it, even threatening to withhold sex. But that doesn’t serve either of us very well. His younger brother’s gone through it, as have many of our friends, and still he resists. He even makes an annual New Year’s resolution – but fails to even call for an appointment, let alone show up.
He states we’ve been fine thus far. I know it hasn’t been a priority. He says he hasn’t had time. I say he’s petrified. He claims it’s me trying to control him. I claim it’s my way of keeping things under control. One thing I never say – ever – is the real reason I want him “fixed”: clearly I don’t want to have more children. But I don’t want him to have any. With me or anyone else.
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Tinkybabe:

Vasectomy is a much easier process than tubectomy.The former involves a minor surgery which isn't really life threatening as surgical complications are less..the op has a point in that regard

Tinkybabe:
I know right!don't know why every one is calling the woman selfish,hasn't she sacrificed enough already?pain of childbirth et al.If there's anyone who's selfish here,it's the husband!we need to cut the woman some slack.

Flytefalls: I agree with most of the posters here. You cannot impose your birth control preferences on his genitals. After I have my 2 children, I will be opting for a copper IUD; until medical technology presents another better option.