My girlfriend told me she had sex with a guy in school got pregnant and did an abortion. What do I do. Chase her away or we should continue our relationship yet i still love her,

why would u chase her away? quit acting like a child.
except u don't love her and need an excuse outta the relationship.
at least she's being sincere bout wat happened in her past.

imagine u got someone pregnant, then aborted back in skool, u told her and she chased u away cos of that?

The more you look the less you see.
if she hadnt told you would you have known? cool down oh. at least you snagged an honest one.

What is the problem? At least she was honest with you, right. She could have hidden it, but she felt comfortable enough to tell you her secret. It could not have been easy for her. Leave her alone, continue with her if you Love her.

I dont know many women that have not had an abortion, it is just that they are clever enough to hide it.

@tngtech

erm. . . . . . . . i fail to see what the issue is.

did she sleep and commit abortion while you knew her?

Even Jesus forgave the thief on the cross. So you are going to crucify her for the sins of her past.

Nna na wa oooooooooo nka sike no be small !!!!!!!!

kai,

1) she fucc person
2) she come kill the pikin in the name of abortion

damn it man, she's getting her marching orders.

she will be forgiven but she go still get her marching orders

@poster
Chase her away just b/c she told you the truth about her past?
When you dey pursue her, did you seek Nairalanders' advice?
All such flimsy excuse to start a topic.

chase her for what?
my friend we all know that men sleep around a lot.Where do you think they find the women to sleep with?
she is a honest woman which is rare.Most girls will deny ever sleeping with more then 1 person or having a abortion.
so calm down my friend.
we all like to marry saint but there is no saint left .a honest woman is the next best thing!

@Poster
There's no point chasing her.
Don't make her regret ever confiding in you by spilling out the truth about her past.

thanks Nairalanders, i really appreciates your reply. I really don't know if you love me like i do. Well for now, i will keep my fingers crossed.

tngtech:

thanks Nairalanders, i really appreciates your reply. I really don't know if you love me like i do. Well for now, i will keep my fingers crossed.

smart reply
you only can decide for yourself; it is easy to sit and judge if you are not the one involved, i can say for myself that if my girl friend tells me that, we MIGHT survive the relationship, but it is still a death blow to any relationship to learn that your partner cheated on you, confession or not, the trust is gone and once doubt comes into a relationship, it takes the grace of God, , how are you so sure she wont do it again? how are you so sure that her confession is borne out of the fact that the abortion might cause complications in the future and she is trying to avert any possible repercussions. ol boy really as afr as any decision is to be taken you are OYO. ON Your Own.

Ask yourself if its possible for u to chase her away from ur heart,

According to u, u still love her.

Time heals wounds, with time hopefully u would get over it.

what d u want me to do?

Forgive her.
Forgive Yourself.

tngtech:

My girlfriend told me she had sex with a guy in school got pregnant and did an abortion. What do I do. Chase her away or we should continue our relationship yet i still love her,

I fail to see what her abortion in the past, with someone else, before you two were dating has to do with you.

As far as I'm concerned, she's done nothing wrong, and doesn't need your forgiveness. However, she does need your understanding. She could have kept quiet about it, and to be honest, she didn't need to tell you, but she chose to, because she feels comfortable with you.

It's all in a past, a past you weren't part of, so let it drop. Unless, you're looking for a way out of the relationship, and you don't love her as much as you claim to?

yes, she does need my forgiveness cuz we were going out before it happen.

tngtech:

yes, she does need my forgiveness because we were going out before it happen.

Well, you were not specific in your post.

Still, she's confessed to you, of her own free will. I don't know the finer details, but don't make her feel you're wielding power over her, by letting her sweat, whether you're going to forgive her or not. If you can't let it go, then please, let her know, so she can move on, don't leave her hanging indefinitely.

i still love her no matter what, but yet have the feelings of her cheating on me.