NL has been kinda dry and the holiday is adding to it.

Letz discuss this:

Someone once told me that if his wife cheated on him, he would be convinced, deep in his heart, that he had failed her. Because if she was getting his attention at home, she wouldn't find any reason to step out.

What do you guys think?

Hmmm, I can't think right now sha.

But "sharing in the blame" like the man above did is quite a difficult thing to do.

Lol @ HQ. Why not comment instead?

Tgirl4real: Lol @ HQ. Why not comment instead?

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Tgirl4real: NL has been kinda dry and the holiday is adding to it.

Letz discuss this:

Someone once told me that if his wife cheated on him, he would be convinced, deep in his heart, that he had failed her. Because if she was getting his attention at home, she wouldn't find any reason to step out.

What do you guys think?

that someone should be tied to a stake and set ablaze.
if my spouse ever cheats on me then the blame is on her - i am not responsible for her raging hormones or her inability to keep her legs together like a mermaid!

Every adult is responsible for their actions, nobody's gonna dump any trash on me saying I made him do it.... nah... you lay your bed you lie on it and you gonna live with the regrets for the rest of your life....period!

How's your Christmas going Tee?

When One Partner Cheats, Who Should We Blame?

The answer is simple - DEVIL.


Now I'm not referring to the devil in hell but the devil involved in the act.

Every sane adult is responsible for his/her actions, irrespective of reasons behind such acts.

When you lead ur brother to sin, who is punishd in hel?

The tempter for leadin a brother to sin

d sinner for not resisting the temptation

op,both are guilty. Two wrong cant make a right

He who cheats, remains d cheat and should be blamed, how can someone's else be blamed for another person's lewdness?...noooo, mba, even, God knows dt a cheater cheats because he want to cheat, not because his/her partner deserved to be cheated on.
Besides, if a partner errs, two wrongs can never make a right, it is still not right or acceptable to cheat, doing that means d person has been hiding d devil in him/her and looking for an opportunity to bring it out.
Therefore, he who cheats should be blamed.

engrtee: When you lead ur brother to sin, who is punishd in hel?

The tempter for leadin a brother to sin

d sinner for not resisting the temptation

op,both are guilty. Two wrong cant make a right

How can both be guilty...so if your partner shags another person, we should blame you?
Wake up!

[color=soyouquotedme]If I don't deprive her of her birthright(se.x) then she takes the total blame.

But if I deprive her, we both take the blame [/color]

jidegirl12: Every adult is responsible for their actions, nobody's gonna dump any trash on me saying I made him do it.... nah... you lay your bed you lie on it and you gonna live with the regrets for the rest of your life....period!

How's your Christmas going Tee?

My Christmas was excellento. I had fun.

I'm sure urs went well as well.

@ topic, what if you denied him of some things, like not being available when needed chasing after money or not giving him peace of mind - nagging him out of his mind? Lol

k2039: [color=soyouquotedme]If I don't deprive her of her birthright(se.x) then she takes the total blame.

But if I deprive her, we both take the blame [/color]

How can that be a birth right? More like conjugal or marital right.

coogar:

that someone should be tied to a stake and set ablaze.
if my spouse ever cheats on me then the blame is on her - i am not responsible for her raging hormones or her inability to keep her legs together like a mermaid!

Haba! Set ablaze kwanu?

Kilo le to yen?

Tgirl4real:

How can that be a birth right? More like conjugal or marital right.

Don't tell me you take my all my words literally.

k2039:
Don't tell me you take my all my words literally.

I dey wonder o. Na so u talk say Pope is infallible.

I should be blamed for my patner cheating, na wa o, no be she carry her legs go there, anyway to look at it properly, for a man, whether u give am regularly well o, or u fine well, men go still cheat, sex for a man is like to piss, that is why men can sleep wit maids, harlots etc. For women, u guys attach emotions to it, u just dont cheat 4 no reasons, except some chronis ones.A friend says that if his wife cheats, he will go after d man b'cos he believes u can always sweep a woman off her feet

Tgirl4real:

I dey wonder o. Na so u talk say Pope is infallible.

That was because you didn't get the joke. [url]en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Papal_infallibility[/url]

Seun is the pope of nairaland, he showed he was fallible in presiding over the affairs of nairaland but the pope isn't fallible when it comes to dictating doctrines etc so and I had to put some sarcasm into my post.

and in as much as one is responsible for his\her actions, some men ve driven their wives into such acts due to neglects. U women are so emotional & if u dnt get it from home, u can be tempted to look 4 it outside. I ran into a lady recently, d hubby is being living in SA 4 some yrs now, when we became friends, i cud feel dat d lady was really missing something, but 4 me i no want such, so i had 2 relax our closeness. Why wil a man leave his wife here & be leaving in london, body na firewood.

I agree with that husband. . . He shares a blame in it. . . I blame myself too for my failed relationship

kpolli: I agree with that husband. . . He shares a blame in it. . . I blame myself too for my failed relationship

How if I may ask?

Tgirl4real: NL has been kinda dry and the holiday is adding to it.

Letz discuss this:

Someone once told me that if his wife cheated on him, he would be convinced, deep in his heart, that he had failed her. Because if she was getting his attention at home, she wouldn't find any reason to step out.

What do you guys think?

This is true to an extent. The husband may have ripened the situation for her to step out but every individual is still responsible for his or her actions.

Although circumstances leading to the lack of attention could be because of a variety of issues not within his control. What if the husband is working 2 or 3 jobs just to maintain a roof over their heads. Should he feel that he failed her then?

Some women are callous enough to believe it's his fault in this scenario. I've seen it plenty of times with some of my wife's friends.

I can never take blame for a partners cheating,every man is responsible for his own actions.

Tgirl4real:

How if I may ask?

Cos if he had done his duty, she won't have needed to cheat

kpolli:

Cos if he had done his duty, she won't have needed to cheat

But that don't apply in all cases. We see where one partner does all to please his/her spouse and this spouse still ends up cheating.

kpolli:

Cos if he had done his duty, she won't have needed to cheat

Are you for real?
So we should assume all cheating is caused by the other half not performing his/her duties.
I see...

Well this is a tough one oh but let's break it down based of on the stories we have heard.

If a man Cheats, it's the woman's fault because she is missing whatever it is he saw in the other person.

If a woman's cheat, it's the woman's fault because she is not content with what she has.

If a man Cheats, it's the devil's fault since the devil is the woman, it is the woman's fault.

If a woman cheats, it is the devil's fault, since the devil is the woman, it is the woman's fault.

If a man's cheats, it was in a moment of weakness, since it is a wife's duty to pray for her husband's shortcomings therefore it is her fault.

If a man cheats, he was lured into it by the person he cheats with, since more often than not, it is a woman he cheats with then the woman is at fault.

Yeah, it think it is safe to say it is the woman. . .the omnipresence, omniscient, all powerful being who is to blame.

Sisi o ! my eyeballs hurts from reading your post!

Tgirl4real:

But that don't apply in all cases. We see where one partner does all to please his/her spouse and this spouse still ends up cheating.

Then it is obvious he/she wasn't doing the rite thing. . . . I did all my best in my past relationship but she still left, was obvious my game wasn't "tight"

chamotex:

Are you for real?
So we should assume all cheating is caused by the other half not performing his/her duties.
I see...

It's not caused by the other half, it's caused by the cheater but the cheated too has a blame in this. . . Simple

When a relationship is great, it's cause of both of them. . . When a relationship fails is caused by only one No I beg to defer, no matter how minute, the cheated has his/her share of the blame. . .