I formerly created a thread asking if anyone has ever been single for more than a year and the comments proved that most people have been single all their lives.

This got me perplexed and incredulous wondering if they have a heart made of stone or something. Whether it's a conscious deliberate attempt or principles that I do not know.

tpacalipse: Whenever I think about how much it will cost me to date Naija girl financially, I quickly restrain myself frm falling in love

cshall1120: I think some people remain single for a long time not because they restraining themselves from falling in love but other circumstances. Sometimes people get their heart broken and are afraid to open up to someone again which prevent this from occurring. In some cases, like you said "sometimes you cant help who you fall in love with" perhaps, one can not help if the people they date, they do not fall in love with. So in some cases maybe these people just may not have met that special someone. In many cases from a woman's perspective alot of the times we have these standards of what we look for in a partner or this ideal of what that special someone should be like and when we come across of date people of the opposite sex if they don't fit into that ideal image or have the potential to meet ours standard. We automatically write them off never giving ourselves the chance to fall in love. Now I do agree that some people just never have been loved and don't know how to love, so they never fall in love. Another point, is that for some people being in a relationship has nothing to do with falling in love with someone; For example, some just have fear of commitment, so they remain single. People can fall in love with someone that does not fit into their culture, religion, social status, etc.., so they don't openly enter into a relationship with someone.

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Saintsquare: Some restrain cause of financial status and others mite be past experience.

cshall1120: I think some people remain single for a long time not because they restraining themselves from falling in love but other circumstances. Sometimes people get their heart broken and are afraid to open up to someone again which prevent this from occurring. In some cases, like you said "sometimes you cant help who you fall in love with" perhaps, one can not help if the people they date, they do not fall in love with. So in some cases maybe these people just may not have met that special someone. In many cases from a woman's perspective alot of the times we have these standards of what we look for in a partner or this ideal of what that special someone should be like and when we come across of date people of the opposite sex if they don't fit into that ideal image or have the potential to meet ours standard. We automatically write them off never giving ourselves the chance to fall in love. Now I do agree that some people just never have been loved and don't know how to love, so they never fall in love. Another point, is that for some people being in a relationship has nothing to do with falling in love with someone; For example, some just have fear of commitment, so they remain single. People can fall in love with someone that does not fit into their culture, religion, social status, etc.., so they don't openly enter into a relationship with someone.

BodyKiss: One proven method that has worked for me is not idealize the person. The human brain can't differentiate between reality and imagination, when you idealize about somebody, for example, by always sharing good moments with them together, or even getting married to them in your imagination, you will get fond of them, hence falling in love. The human brain can't tell apart reality and imagination.

djeezy: i wonder how hard it must have been for them, restraining themselves from what they truly want. Everybody wants to love and be loved.

cr8v: By falling in love with something else while keeping an open mind. You may fall in love with your books, movies, the Bible etc until the right person A-ZeD comes

BodyKiss: One proven method that has worked for me is not idealize the person. The human brain can't differentiate between reality and imagination, when you idealize about somebody, for example, by always sharing good moments with them together, or even getting married to them in your imagination, you will get fond of them, hence falling in love. The human brain can't tell apart reality and imagination.