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nollywood20: 99% of Nigerian girls and women have failed in all the 10 MUST DOs. If there is a special Olympics for Liars, Nigerian girls and women would have been leading the gold medals table. What amazes me is that they can lie without blinking. The worst are the so called Christians among them. Only 1% of them can follow the rules and I thank God I found one of these one percent. The noble breed. The daughters of the Rose of Sharon. Every man should beware of any dishonest girl or woman. And do your best to know the family of your serious partner before you commit yourself.

segunsd: Magforwomen believes it is not difficult to have a healthy relationship. What is difficult is to remember always that you do not want the relationship to go haywire. So you tend to give in to certain situations, fight with your partner, argue over things that do not make much difference, allow your ego to get the better of you and eventually ruin the relationship which meant so much to you at the onset. It is, therefore, essential to always keep in mind that no matter what happens you should know whether the issue at hand is something more crucial than the relationship itself. Listed below are 10 rules for a healthy relationship you should know.

1. Be fair
Fairness is mandatory. You cannot expect to have an upper hand in a relationship nor should you allow him to be too demanding and give in to his expectations without thinking. If you allow him to mold you as per his whims, remember that the relationship is not a healthy one. The same holds true if you are unfair in your expectations, demands and arguments.

2. Be honest
Honesty is the best policy – if not everywhere, definitely in case of relationships. You cannot afford to lie to your partner because trust forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Being truthful also earns you respect in his eyes.

3. Curb over-expectations
Do not have too many expectations from your partner. Remember that he is a normal human being and even he has dreams and aspirations, and his sole purpose in life cannot be to fulfill every wish you have. Not that he can be lackadaisical about your needs, but you cannot have unrealistic expectations from him because that is not what a healthy relationship is all about.

4. Give space
One of the very important rules is to give him space and most definitely, not nag. When you are in a relationship, yours and his personal lives do not cease to exist. Spending quality time together is undoubtedly important, but sticking together all the while is a bad idea. You also have your friends and family who have not disappeared!

5. Forgive
To err is human. Your partner can make mistakes – it is very normal. Even you can make mistakes. But if you want to maintain a healthy relationship, you should be able to look over the little faults that your partner has because nobody is perfect. Learn to forgive and watch how beautiful your relationship becomes.

6. Have fun
Being in a relationship does not mean that you have to be very serious always. Have as much fun as you can together because these are the memories that will help you build a stronger and healthier relationship with the person you love.

7. Have a sense of responsibility
Always have a sense of responsibility. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that all your responsibilities now fall on him. No doubt that he should be responsible but it does not give you the excuse to act irresponsibly. At the end of the day, you are responsible for your life, health and well being.

8. Do not be over-dependent
Being dependent on a partner is nice, but being over-dependent kills the beauty in a relationship. It then becomes more of an obligation which no one likes to bear. Do not make yourself an obligation for your partner because in such a case, he will not want to be with you any longer. Be independent, stand on your own feet, and you will earn more love and respect in his eyes.

9. Listen
You should know how to listen. Avoid the tendency to talk relentlessly without giving your partner scope to talk. Listening is a quality that makes you earn more respect in his eyes and he knows that you will be there to listen when he talks.

10. Express your love
Last but not the least, you should express your love often. Say ‘I love you’ often. Expressing affection by kissing, hugging and holding hands will perk up your relationship and make it healthier with time.

http://naijapose.com/10-rules-for-a-healthy-relationship/

segunsd: Magforwomen believes it is not difficult to have a healthy relationship. What is difficult is to remember always that you do not want the relationship to go haywire. So you tend to give in to certain situations, fight with your partner, argue over things that do not make much difference, allow your ego to get the better of you and eventually ruin the relationship which meant so much to you at the onset. It is, therefore, essential to always keep in mind that no matter what happens you should know whether the issue at hand is something more crucial than the relationship itself. Listed below are 10 rules for a healthy relationship you should know.

1. Be fair
Fairness is mandatory. You cannot expect to have an upper hand in a relationship nor should you allow him to be too demanding and give in to his expectations without thinking. If you allow him to mold you as per his whims, remember that the relationship is not a healthy one. The same holds true if you are unfair in your expectations, demands and arguments.

2. Be honest
Honesty is the best policy – if not everywhere, definitely in case of relationships. You cannot afford to lie to your partner because trust forms the foundation of a healthy relationship. Being truthful also earns you respect in his eyes.

3. Curb over-expectations
Do not have too many expectations from your partner. Remember that he is a normal human being and even he has dreams and aspirations, and his sole purpose in life cannot be to fulfill every wish you have. Not that he can be lackadaisical about your needs, but you cannot have unrealistic expectations from him because that is not what a healthy relationship is all about.

4. Give space
One of the very important rules is to give him space and most definitely, not nag. When you are in a relationship, yours and his personal lives do not cease to exist. Spending quality time together is undoubtedly important, but sticking together all the while is a bad idea. You also have your friends and family who have not disappeared!

5. Forgive
To err is human. Your partner can make mistakes – it is very normal. Even you can make mistakes. But if you want to maintain a healthy relationship, you should be able to look over the little faults that your partner has because nobody is perfect. Learn to forgive and watch how beautiful your relationship becomes.

6. Have fun
Being in a relationship does not mean that you have to be very serious always. Have as much fun as you can together because these are the memories that will help you build a stronger and healthier relationship with the person you love.

7. Have a sense of responsibility
Always have a sense of responsibility. Just because you are in a relationship does not mean that all your responsibilities now fall on him. No doubt that he should be responsible but it does not give you the excuse to act irresponsibly. At the end of the day, you are responsible for your life, health and well being.

8. Do not be over-dependent
Being dependent on a partner is nice, but being over-dependent kills the beauty in a relationship. It then becomes more of an obligation which no one likes to bear. Do not make yourself an obligation for your partner because in such a case, he will not want to be with you any longer. Be independent, stand on your own feet, and you will earn more love and respect in his eyes.

9. Listen
You should know how to listen. Avoid the tendency to talk relentlessly without giving your partner scope to talk. Listening is a quality that makes you earn more respect in his eyes and he knows that you will be there to listen when he talks.

10. Express your love
Last but not the least, you should express your love often. Say ‘I love you’ often. Expressing affection by kissing, hugging and holding hands will perk up your relationship and make it healthier with time.

http://naijapose.com/10-rules-for-a-healthy-relationship/

chymystique: @ OP, Stop Feedin Us Dis Poo cos If et Works thr woulda B Ntn Lik Sepration and Divorce

Chamber10: Nice one Op and Binger

reach4it: Nice Post.

Communication is also very important

kpozite: it is easy to type and post such good info, but how many observe them? OP even you I'm doubt if you observe these rules you wrote here.

binger: Nice piece from OP...and i will add: 11.Communicate-Personally,i feel this quality(good communication) is not expendable in a good r/ship. You must be open enough to discuss any exigent matter with your partner. 12.Disagree with Reasons-Don't just give a 'yes' or 'no' answer to conflicting issues. Try and give a reason for your decision.By so doing,u might win your partner over to your 'thought-line' and definitely prevent quarrels that arise from disagreements. 13.Think with your head,not your heart-This can raise controversy,but i believe its important to let your brains do the thinking...when decisions are made 'using the heart',emotions tend to becloud common sense and u might end up hurting your partner and/or your r/ship unintentionally. #candidme.

joe4christ:

Actually, you made more sense even with your few point than the OP despite the entire sermon.
Keep it up.
I just love realist - and this poster has just demonstrated that. Please keep it up!

joe4christ:

Actually, you made more sense even with your few point than the OP despite the entire sermon.
Keep it up.
I just love realist - and this poster has just demonstrated that. Please keep it up!

segunsd:

LMAO. We are all here to learn. No one knows it all

Gift4all:
Like this theory, meet you in the real world.