I have been living with my wife for over 10 years, there is no week she does not give me every reason to regret my life..regret the word marriage.....She picks up quarrel every day, she suspects me of cheating every seconds, she can just wake up one morning and start nagging over the house that i am cheating on her..At time she says i want to kill her....

jeff_oja: I have been living with my wife for over 10 years, there is no week she does not give me every reason to regret my life..regret the word marriage.....She picks up quarrel every day, she suspects me of cheating every seconds, she can just wake up one morning and start nagging over the house that i am cheating on her..At time she says i want to kill her....

when exactly did this start? Before or after the marriage?

Guy,ask her if she made mistake making u as her choice huby she should amend it...but i want you to know that the woman is the one cheating on you,they are like that they use hostile approach to keep you from mornitoring her,watch closely you will agree with me

Toktee: the woman is the one cheating on you,they are like that they use hostile approach to keep you from mornitoring her,watch closely you will agree with me

What do you know about marriage? . Stop giving him bad advice.

xynerise:
when exactly did this start? Before or after the marriage?

After the marriage

Toktee: Guy,ask her if she made mistake making u as her choice huby she should amend it...but i want you to know that the woman is the one cheating on you,they are like that they use hostile approach to keep you from mornitoring her,watch closely you will agree with me

She keeps saying it is me or nobody will have me

jeff_oja:
After the marriage

sorry I meant before or during marriage. There is nothing like after marriage
Anyways, its a clear sign that you guys didnt date for a long time before marriage.

xynerise:
sorry I meant before or during marriage. There is nothing like after marriage
Anyways, its a clear sign that you guys didnt date for a long time before marriage.

we dated right from secondary school though out university, we dated for over, she changed after i said i do....

jeff_oja:
we dated right from secondary school though out university, we dated for over, she changed after i said i do....

wow! Maybe you should talk to her and let her know you are not cheating on her. But if she keeps misbehaving, then use plan B.

xynerise:
wow! Maybe you should talk to her and let her know you are not cheating on her. But if she keeps misbehaving, then use plan B.

Thanks

jeff_oja:
Thanks

you are welcome.

poster

most of the time people wont just start accusing you without having a reason. So answer this in all honesty, have you given her a reason to doubt your loyalty to her? doesn't even have to be that you slept with someone else.

could be that you come home everyday at 7 and today you came home at 10 smelling of perfume
or could be that you used to let her see your phone and recently you started hiding it from her
or could be that she caught you undressing another woman with your eyes

you should sit down with her the next time she starts yelling and nagging and calmly ask questions as to where her anger is coming from and what you both can do to get over it. I know this is hard especially when it comes to someone just waking up and yelling at you, but you have to be patient and be brave.

if you can figure out why she suddenly changed maybe you can work it out assuming you didn't cheat and you came to NL to make yourself feel better.

Plan b is not actually the best solution, bro, pray and talk to her, make her feel secured abt your love. Carry her along. In my place, its sAid 'one person is the key to a good friendship' you can be the KEY to your union. Work on it and you will not regret. Peace to You!

Maybe things are not the way it was. Maybe things are just like the same old, same old thing. So dry, very boring, what you are used to, no change, nothing.
Why not try to spice things up a bit, give her a treat for a change. Take her out for a change, surprise her with gifts, make her feel special on her birthday, just give her a surprise. I bet you if u do all these right,there will be a change. Even if finances aint too good, just try!
Try it! Plus prayers though!

omega25red: poster

most of the time people wont just start accusing you without having a reason. So answer this in all honesty, have you given her a reason to doubt your loyalty to her? doesn't even have to be that you slept with someone else.

could be that you come home everyday at 7 and today you came home at 10 smelling of perfume
or could be that you used to let her see your phone and recently you started hiding it from her
or could be that she caught you undressing another woman with your eyes

you should sit down with her the next time she starts yelling and nagging and calmly ask questions as to where her anger is coming from and what you both can do to get over it. I know this is hard especially when it comes to someone just waking up and yelling at you, but you have to be patient and be brave.

if you can figure out why she suddenly changed maybe you can work it out assuming you didn't cheat and you came to NL to make yourself feel better.

I have done every thing, i will keep to your advice and be brave

AmBeautiful: Maybe things are not the way it was. Maybe things are just like the same old, same old thing. So dry, very boring, what you are used to, no change, nothing.
Why not try to spice things up a bit, give her a treat for a change. Take her out for a change, surprise her with gifts, make her feel special on her birthday, just give her a surprise. I bet you if u do all these right,there will be a change. Even if finances aint too good, just try!
Try it! Plus prayers though!

Thank you, I will keep trying new things, Thank you once again

there is more to this

otokx: there is more to this

Cant figure anything

Serious matter *exit thread for antelope to handle*

Sijo01: Serious matter *exit thread for antelope to handle*

I don't understand you