Am not talking again... Make una leave me hand... I don't have energy talking or typing for long...it's stressful for me....anyway u see, or believe in it , or accept it or wish it , to happen no wahala.... No hassles...make I relax with my tea, it's meditation time ... Someother time.

That's even better.... Fa fa foul Next?!!!

Lol.... U dey vex .... Abeg go hug transformer..smh...shift jor!..

Victoria, Any man who really is interested in you will definately help out but when a lady starts making silly demands it takes a lot not to loose respect for her.

victorian: Lol.... U dey vex .... Abeg go hug transformer..smh...shift jor!..

You're the one with insecurities that needs to bribe your MIL rather than make boundaries for your own Territory

You are the one that begs for money from your boyfriend/fiancée for 5/$25 gstrings from VS

NOT ME!!!

I'm financially satisfied before and after courting and I don't wait for NOBODY before I buy anything! I carry my gold cards ( preferred customer ) anywhere I go .

I car shop whenever I want with just a phone call for approval from hubby.... what baby wants she gets..... Who knows if there's really an afterlife?

In conclusion Hugging Bumblebee is not an option for ME but you can give it a try

jidegirl12:

You're the one with insecurities that needs to bribe your MIL rather than make boundaries for your own Territory

You are the one that begs for money from your boyfriend/fiancée for 5/$25 gstrings from VS

NOT ME!!!

I'm financially satisfied before and after courting and I don't wait for NOBODY before I buy anything! I carry my gold cards ( preferred customer ) anywhere I go .

I car shop whenever I want with just a phone call for approval from hubby.... what baby wants she gets..... Who knows if there's really an afterlife?

In conclusion Hugging Bumblebee is not an option for ME but you can give it a try

Bravo! Agu iyi (means lion)


We all know you are financially satisfied, all fingers are not equal so you don't expect every body to accept your opinion on this matter. She has stated hers, let her be it shouldn't result to " I
get pass you levels."

OP, let her try and live to her standard and forget about this guy.

Even if she decides to play his game, he is gonna dump her after everything. She needs to fix herself

I think this issue is about individual.......each to his/her own......this shouldnt cause chaos.
Thanks!house.

Jide all that insults and personalisation because she shares a different veiw? Haba, You said you don't go snooping on peoples posts to use it to attack them.
Don't do what you accuse others of.
She disagrees, its her right, why all this?

Vikin:

Bravo! Agu iyi (means lion)


We all know you are financially satisfied, all fingers are not equal so you don't expect every body to accept your opinion on this matter. She has stated hers, let her be it shouldn't result to " I
get pass you levels."

OP, let her try and live to her standard and forget about this guy.

Even if she decides to play his game, he is gonna dump her after everything. She needs to fix herself

Whatever your name is .... I believe I'm not the only one here that opposed Vicky's opinion.... Oh I forgot my handle draws attention right ? and you just caaaaan't do without low blows

.... I don't need your hail ( lion whatever)

... Like I always say if you can't deal with my embellishments SHUT Y'ALL FACES!!!

debrief08: Jide all that insults and personalisation because she shares a different veiw? Haba, You said you don't go snooping on peoples posts to use it to attack them.
Don't do what you accuse others of.
She disagrees, its her right, why all this?

I don't Debrief and never will so you know.... She knows what I'm talking about.

You and your conclusions..... 'Insults and personalization ' eh?... umm... lemme talk Abeg!

jidegirl12:

Whatever your name is .... I believe I'm not the only one here that opposed Vicky's opinion.... Oh I forgot my handle draws attention right ? and you just caaaaan't do without low blows

.... I don't need your hail ( lion whatever)

... Like I always say if you can't deal with my embellishments SHUT Y'ALL FACES!!!

******Back to topic' no time!****

Vikin:



******Back to topic' no time!****

So much has been said..
It is these kinda ladies in the op's story that's making it difficult for one to defend/argue for women/Naija girls when the men come on here to generalize and rubbish them.
The man and woman obviously do not share the same ideals so its best to let each other go.
You are a secondary virgin so find someone who understands and relates to your choice to stay celibate till marriage.
Nobody wants to be anyone's mugun and i'm almost sure that's one reason for the man's outburst.
...and i also doubt the lady has so much to offer if not the man won't be this blunt in his letter.
Water should find its level!!

victorian: They should simply drop each other .....
My husband still gives me money for upkeep, even though I own a company... And we help each other, if anyone is down... Cos not everyday is Christmas..

Well this is another perspective to the issue, somehow a useful insight. It also shows that environment & orientation go a long way to shape one's life. Nigerian men must be blamed for whatever naija girls have become! Back in schl I was a poor girl, but I had pride. To be honest with you all, i was traumatized when men & 'sugar daddies' showered their 'campus girls', with expensive gifts, BB phones, laptops, cameras, dresses, sometime cash gifts of N50k, N100k, N250k, and my own boyfriend was a poor school boy like me. I almost joined the rest but thank God for His grace...Nigerian men are called 'Keziahs' (free givers) on campus...they sabi give, they sabi boast to impress even when the girl did not ask. Majority of our girls back home have this hard-wired in their brains that a 'good boyfriend' is equal to a 'Cheerful giver'. The part they don't get is how these 'gifts' sell their respect to men, when we call same men abusers, womanizers who don't respect women etc. Moreover, most of the sugar daddies in Nigeria did not work hard for the money they give out..politicians steal from govt, while abroad,people toil for what they have and can't part with it freely.

We can't blaim my friend totally. She is a product of Nigerian environment, where men use money to impress girls. I think she just hit a rock.. ! She forgot she's now in US and not Nigeria. But honestly the begging culture of some of our naija sistas taya me too o! even when they're working, they still beg for alms.

@wogged2005
lol @ "begging for alms"






Real atorobaras

Of course when you are dating someone you guys exchange gifts.Birthdays,Vals(abed help me educate that my over calcu hubby who says its not a proper holiday .Na only flower,choc and card year in year out ).Anyway back to topic,the issue is not asking for frivolities as a matter of necessity.Heck i had friends who broke up with their boyfriends back then when GSM just came out for not buying them phones.To them not buying them certain stuff=Not Caring.Even my father when i got to a certain age i asked for necessities,schl fees,books(though that one used to be inflated) and if i wanted extras cos my frienda had them na to psyche mummy and help her in the shop or with her coporate gifts for a commission.

As was treated in one thread like that,we should teach our girls yes have your principles i commend said girl for choosing to abstain till marriage she and this bobo sef dont have common values.But pls dont beg men for stuff.I keep using the word beg cos thats what it is.Coporate begging.

I have schooled myself to the level that even when i ask.hubby for non essential stuff and he sayd no its not necessary, i dont get upset.Its his money(i know thats not PC or romantic) and he should choose how well to spend it.As long as he discharges his responsiblities am.happy.The LV bag is my desire so i can buy it from my own money.

P.S I am not saying husbands should not buy wives stuff o.My most expensive material possesions were actually gifts from hubby.He is one of those people who can buy 1coat and use for 7yrs at £400 while me i keep buying £80 every year in purple,green, But i wont measure his care on those stuff.

Just to add teach our kids nothing is handed to you on a plate.I had been helping in my mums shop since i was like 12.When i traveled on holidays i would buy stuff to sell and i was always selling throughout my Uni days.My profit was then used for extras and my own clothes.I had serious Aristo girls always wanting to be my friend because of the way i dressed not knowing that all na film trick
Me i kuku used to sell them stuff in short they were my best customers .I am talking girls who men bought cars for,got apartment for,took on holidays abroad and all those things that trip the typical naija girl.I could have been tempted to do their runs if me too i wanted car and first class things(jenifa )but i was content with what i had.Contentment
Very big word that needs to be taught to girls.

everyone on NL is the son/daughter of Dangote ,but on facebook their parents are teachers .thanks to seun

jidegirl12:

You're the one with insecurities that needs to bribe your MIL rather than make boundaries for your own Territory

You are the one that begs for money from your boyfriend/fiancée for 5/$25 gstrings from VS

NOT ME!!!

I'm financially satisfied before and after courting and I don't wait for NOBODY before I buy anything! I carry my gold cards ( preferred customer ) anywhere I go .

I car shop whenever I want with just a phone call for approval from hubby.... what baby wants she gets..... Who knows if there's really an afterlife?

In conclusion Hugging Bumblebee is not an option for ME but you can give it a try

Babe,u r taking this tooo far.haba!she's sayin d truth sorta. I support d school of tot dt says WOMEN SHOULD BE INDEPENDENT! I would love 2 ask u a question. Would u v married ur hubby if he didnt buy u gifts no matter how small?no,i guess! Buh,wen a woman sees a bf as ATM machine,dts wer i'll call d lady a gold digger.. .

jidegirl12:

You're the one with insecurities that needs to bribe your MIL rather than make boundaries for your own Territory

You are the one that begs for money from your boyfriend/fiancée for 5/$25 gstrings from VS

NOT ME!!!

I'm financially satisfied before and after courting and I don't wait for NOBODY before I buy anything! I carry my gold cards ( preferred customer ) anywhere I go .

I car shop whenever I want with just a phone call for approval from hubby.... what baby wants she gets..... Who knows if there's really an afterlife?

In conclusion Hugging Bumblebee is not an option for ME but you can give it a try

Babe,u r taking this tooo far.haba!she's sayin d truth sorta. I support d school of tot dt says WOMEN SHOULD BE INDEPENDENT! I would love 2 ask u a question. Would u v married ur hubby if he didnt buy u gifts no matter how small?no,i guess! Buh,wen a woman sees a bf as ATM machine,dts wer i'll call d lady a gold digger.. .

sassy angel:
Babe,u r taking this tooo far.haba!she's sayin d truth sorta. I support d school of tot dt says WOMEN SHOULD BE INDEPENDENT! I would love 2 ask u a question. [b]Would u v married ur hubby if he didnt buy u gifts no matter how small?[/b]no,i guess! Buh,wen a woman sees a bf as ATM machine,dts wer i'll call d lady a gold digger.. .

I'm not taking it too far angel.... 'don't dish it if you can't take same'

......^^^^ bolded? Yes now..... there's more to relationship than gift , I really love him so I doubt not giving me gifts will change my mind ....the ATM expectation is what I don't like either.

I guess Facebook has a spot for parents occupation now? ......and Speaking of Dangote .... Is that his real last name, first name or just a company name?

Woged2005:

Well this is another perspective to the issue, somehow a useful insight. It also shows that environment & orientation go a long way to shape one's life. Nigerian men must be blamed for whatever naija girls have become! Back in schl I was a poor girl, but I had pride. To be honest with you all, i was traumatized when men & 'sugar daddies' showered their 'campus girls', with expensive gifts, BB phones, laptops, cameras, dresses, sometime cash gifts of N50k, N100k, N250k, and my own boyfriend was a poor school boy like me. I almost joined the rest but thank God for His grace...Nigerian men are called 'Keziahs' (free givers) on campus...they sabi give, they sabi boast to impress even when the girl did not ask. Majority of our girls back home have this hard-wired in their brains that a 'good boyfriend' is equal to a 'Cheerful giver'. The part they don't get is how these 'gifts' sell their respect to men, when we call same men abusers, womanizers who don't respect women etc. Moreover, most of the sugar daddies in Nigeria did not work hard for the money they give out..politicians steal from govt, while abroad,people toil for what they have and can't part with it freely.

We can't blaim my friend totally. She is a product of Nigerian environment, where men use money to impress girls. I think she just hit a rock.. ! She forgot she's now in US and not Nigeria. But honestly the begging culture of some of our naija sistas taya me too o! even when they're working, they still beg for alms.

AM NOT IN US O.....! AM STILL IN NAIJA.
And guess what? Am happy so happy, my husband can still fulfil his responsibilities financially, without me, begging... Like most girls like you do... ... I will say he simply knows my worth.

And you, Jidegirl.... Gosh... Yur so frustrated... Only you and God knows why... .... Whether u like my view or not, I will say it...small fries like you, ain't stopping me... U feel, u have mouth , abi?...smhh...your own story is for another day? With your empty and crayfish words... ... Fish brain is even enlightened than this one.... Ohhhhh, why am I wasting my bandwidth on tis jidegirl again!... Am off to prepare lunch... No time for yur stupid, brainless bickering....duh...!

Hehehehehe! Someone should calm me down o! I am about to type my own angry email to someone now...hehehehe! See the text I just got from someone in Nigeria today:

"..guess u've bn bizzy. dont understand u diz days. anyway sha my rent will xpire in March, & I fink I'v outgrown dis one rm. need somthing mor spacious. Will appreciate ur help anyhow. lagos is tof now..."

My people Should I send my own angry email? help me word it same thing here too. she is born-again, and refuses to roll over in bed. I probably have sent a shipload of gifts and Indian weave to lagos since we started dating.. LoLoL!!! but I in my case I'll like to marry her. But sometimes i feel like why would a sweet born-again girl like my girlfriend ask for all this expensive, worldly material things? hehehehe! I am typing the email o..LoLolol!

bigheart2013: Hehehehehe! Someone should calm me down o! I am about to type my own angry email to someone now...hehehehe! See the text I just got from someone in Nigeria today:

"..guess u've bn bizzy. dont understand u diz days. anyway sha my rent will xpire in March, & I fink I'v outgrown dis one rm. need somthing mor spacious. Will appreciate ur help anyhow. lagos is tof now..."

My people Should I send my own angry email? help me word it same thing here too. she is born-again, and refuses to roll over in bed. I probably have sent a shipload of gifts and Indian weave to lagos since we started dating.. LoLoL!!! but I in my case I'll like to marry her. But sometimes i feel like why would a sweet born-again girl like my girlfriend ask for all this expensive, worldly material things? hehehehe! I am typing the email o..LoLolol!

The koko is that, most born Again in Naija now are very materialistic. They want the best in life, comfort etc. so you know who you are dating and know if she is worth staying with.

Wish you luck

Madam CC me self no get oh.
However we mustnt say this on Nairaland oh before it becomes that we wan holy pass.

Apparently good vitrues cannot be pomoted of spoken off

@CC You are not the only one who's yet to experience Brazilian.

I'd rather use that money to watch Daniel Craig perform some bond moves on stage. sorry I have graduated from van vicker.

chaircover:

LOL you have a bigheart now!

Seriously, instead of buying her shiploads of gifts, why dont you empower her. Let her make her own money and lets her spend it anyway she thinks wise. If she likes she can spend all her profit on Brazilian or if she wants she can spend it on re investing.

On a lighter note, I must be the only Naija lady who doesn't have Brazilian . . . Mr CC is really enjoying

No o CC ur not.My hair is quite long and i tend to have it out,in braids or short weave(soo lily livered keep wanting to cut my hair but i cant).So as my birthday is this month i said let me treat myself to this brazilian,mongolian,peruvian(e remain egyptian ).So i called a friend who has been pestering me like forever ok come and sell me one.As she started reeling out £270,£230 virgin hair bla bla.I just said babes you know am a novice i just want to je small gbese on Oga's neck which one is the cheapest?She just started laughing ahn dami u cant change walahi. .Am like its not a bag now its weave.And no matter how you say i can use it for 100 yrs,knowing myself i will chuck after the second use.So which is the cheapest

Oh well!

You can't be choping a man's money and expect not to give him something in return especially in naija.

She even get job sef so why ask him for money? Na wa o.